How bad is childbirth.. really?

Oka - posted on 11/01/2012 ( 641 moms have responded )

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How bad is childbirth... really?



MEDICATED childbirth.



I have ZERO interest in natural childbirth. ZERO. None. I will not do that.



I want all the medication and epidurals possible.



How awful is a first time MEDICATED childbirth?



Is it an absolute nightmare, even with meds and epidural?



Do you feel like you're being hit by a semi truck? A terrible flu level of pain? Or is it not as awful with epidural and pain meds?



I know everyone says "one you see the baby, it's worth it." Sure, but just how PAINFUL is a medicated childbirth during the process? Is it so painful it's traumatic? Is it unbearable and so painful you feel like you won't make it? Is it somehow not so bad?



Does the medication help enough that it's not the worst pain of your life?

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Lorraine - posted on 11/01/2012

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I was 18 hours in labour and 2 hours pushing with my first. I had an epidural that only worked down one side and had worn off when it was time to push and they wouldn't top me up any more. I won't go into to much detail as to how they tried to get her out with no pain relief but it was the most horrific experience of my life and I was left with Post traumatic stress, panick attacks and a severe phobia of any kind of pain. I spent the next six years on Prozac. Seven years later after I thought I could take it again I tried for a second. As soon as I saw that blue line it all came flooding back and I was in bits to the point where I asked my midwife for a termination. She bundle me off the registrar and it was agreed it would be best all round that I had a C-section. I was still scared to death but it was a much better birthing experience and I bonded straight away (took 6 months with the first :o( ) Whilst performing the section they agreed to sterilise me so I would never have to do it again lol

This may be the worst experience you have heard but you did ask ;o) I look at them now and was glad I did it though. Good luck x

Sarah - posted on 11/01/2012

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I have had four children. With my first one I was induced and had an epidural. It was an aweful experience being completly confined to the bed, with IV, and unable to move from the waste down was a miserable experience. Even with the epidural I had significant back labor pain due to not being able to get up and move around freely. I think that the drugs they gave me to induce in combination with the epidural made me a mess and made my baby groggy which complicated things when I tried nursing. With my second child I decided to try it completely natural without any meds. I found walking around and showering during labor very helpful in dealing with my pain and discomfort. I will admit that it was painful toward the end (last 10 minutes), but without the drugs my labor was able to progress quickly and the overall experience WAS NOT as bad as many make it out to be. I think that it is fear of the unknown that primarily drives many women away from natural childbirth. I also had a completely natural birth with my third, and I decided to have a home birth with my fourth. Going natural was by far the best experiences I had. And to be honest, if I could do it all over again I would have had natural homebirths with all of them.

Rachel - posted on 11/01/2012

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I've had three kids.

My oldest I had the epidural and that works great for the contractions but you still feel everything when the baby comes out. It feels like your pushing a watermelon covered in razor blades out of your vagina. I was in labor for 10 hours with him.

With my middle son, I didn't have time for anything and he came 1 hour and 36 minutes from the start of my contractions. Those hurt like a bitch. Again, pushing him out felt like I stated above.

With my youngest. I got the shot to dull the pain and then wanted the epidural. It only numbed half my body. I decided to get another shot which worked great. Same feeling with pushing him out. He was born in 7 hours.

If I could go back to my oldest and youngest, I would only get the shot. It dulls the pain enough so it's bearable.

You really do forget the pain when the baby comes out.

Tracey - posted on 11/01/2012

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I should also mention that with the last one, the one that was completely natural, the pain wasn't exactly pain. It was more like intensity, like my whole world was condensing down to one small point that was taking all my concentration and effort, but the "pain" wasn't what I'd call pain. It wasn't like when I fell through an old boat dock this fall and hurt my leg. Part of what makes pain feel so bad is the fear of damage, and I wasn't afraid of damage, but I was concentrating so hard I couldn't even raise my arm or turn my head. Was definitely not a pleasant thing, but it wasn't pain. With the pitocin, it was most definitely pain, because I'd skipped all the building up part.

Kim - posted on 11/01/2012

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Every labor is different so you really won't know until you are in the process of labor and delivery. I waited to have an epidural until the last moment (I was just past 5 cm when starting it). Because I was dilating so quickly, I was glad I got it when I did! The contractions were so strong, even after the epidural. (By the time they had completed the epidural procedure, I was already dilated past 8 cm) I remember telling my husband I was so glad I got the epidural at that time because for me, it really only took the edge off the pain and made it more bearable. I could still feel every contraction and could even move my legs throughout the entire labor and delivery. After the baby was born and it was time to go to my room, I couldn't walk alone.



I have known women who got an epidural right away because they were afraid of the pain and regretted it, because for them, the labor process took many hours, and then they couldn't tell if they were pushing or not. For what it's worth, my advice is to go into the hospital with an open mind educated about your options. (For example, some hospitals won't give you an epidural if you are dilated past 7 cm.) Ask your doctor questions and learn about the birth process.



Some women find natural childbirth is very bearable, and others do not. One thing I learned from my experience giving birth, I could be as prepared as possible (with a bag full of items I might need during labor) and never used one thing I learned in childbirth class! (I did use the breathing techniques some) Just allow yourself to be in the moment and listen to your body. You WILL give birth, one way or the other! I know it's scary because you don't know what to expect, but you'll survive it and be astonished by what your body can accomplish and how strong you really are! Best of luck!

Nancy - posted on 11/01/2012

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Epidurals don't always work and can wear off or stop being effective no matter how much more medicine they give you. I have 3 kids - all 3 were induced. Baby 1 was fast and quick with no epidural, just Demerol and a local freezing (needle) in the peritineum. Tore wide open. Hurt like a bitch! Baby 2 took a little longer, had a little Demerol but wasn't too bad. Minor tearing. Baby 3 took 26 hours with epidural (at 4 hours) and after 12 hours, the epidural didn't help even though they kept putting in more medicine. Worst pain of my life. Wanted to die. Begged for more drugs. Puked all over my husband. Baby was 10.6lbs, and got stuck. Dr had both hands wrist deep up me to dislodge him. He is my whole world and I love him fiercely, but I Will never have another child. Ever. Good luck.

Molly - posted on 11/01/2012

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My first epidural worked on only half my body worst pain ever. Second epidural worked very well. I could feel my legs but just enough pain to know when to push. The third epidural i could not move anything or feel anything. the fouth baby i discovered that pain is mostly caused by laying down. Lying down also cauese a longer labor. for example my first lying down baby with crappy epidural was 17 hours. the 4th baby i sat on a ball walked around or sat up and that was 5 hours and i thinl would have been lots less painful if they had not had to pump me full of pitocin. what i have learned is that pitocin is not good stuff it cause a more painful birth and more women give into the epidural because it is so awful. I am pregnent with number 5 and i don't like pain. I give into drugs when i cant take it. But I am not deciding to get or not to get an epidural until after i get to the hospital. Avoiding a bed while laboring is the best choice to avoid pain and shorten labor time. A Doula to help you breath is money well spent. Avoid inducing labor it increases C sections from 9 % to a staggering 20% when givin before 40 weeks along with the use of epidurals which bring it up to about 23% or more. Your body is amazing let it do what it must try to walk and breath and if you just cant take it anymore after 4-6 cm than get an epidural and pat yourself on the back that you were patient went into labor on your own without pitocin and hung in their til you could not take the pain. Good luck you make a choice and feel good about it. Patience is your friend and epidurals are great when they work. Natural is also wonderful i have tried it all.

Katy - posted on 11/01/2012

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I was medicated and had an epidural with my first and just an epidural with my second. The epidural helped a lot!!!!! I am already planning for having an epidural with this baby. (Due in April). I knew I would not tolerate pain very well and so did my hubby. I would definately not have whatever mess they gave me with my first again. Just the epidural was enough for me. Good luck.

Sheri - posted on 11/01/2012

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I was exactly like you! I wanted all the meds I could get and I was scared of the stories I had heard. But honestlythe worst part was the contractions before I got to the hospital and the couple of hours before the epidural. Once I got that it was a breeze for me. I felt NO PAIN. And I was totally alert for the birth and it was a great experience. Idid have a bit of discomfort the week after but it was bearable. Good luck in your delivery and dont worry too much. It is TOTALLY worth it!!

Tracey - posted on 11/01/2012

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I had epidurals with my first two, but went natural (with a midwife at home) for the last, doing it that way so I wouldn't be tempted to have an epidural.



Both times, they got the epidural wrong. In the first one, they put it in too low so it wasn't numbing where it needed to, but it *did* knock out having use of my legs! And they kept adding more and more anesthesia to it as I wasn't getting numb, with the result that it took *12 hours* to clear my system. My nurses thought I was "just too lazy" to get up and go to the bathroom, wouldn't answer the buzzer and just let me lay in bed and soil myself because I couldn't get up (and later, in the middle of the floor because I was trying to get to the bathroom on legs I couldn't control). It wasn't until the doc stopped by the next morning that he told the nurses that if I said my legs were numb, they were numb, after checking my back and finding that they'd stuck the epidural in too low!



Given the nurses' crappy attitudes even after that, I switched hospitals for the next baby.



Both times, they misjudged the amount of pitocin. I found out that pitocin gives you end-stage contractions, the kind you get right before the baby is born. Your body needs to work up to these. The muscles actually move differently during early and mid-stage contractions, saving these powerful ones for late in the process, right before the baby emerges. The muscles and tendons get primed by the early and mid-stage ones, stretching out, and also your own endorphins do kick in so they aren't as painful.



But when you jump straight to the end stage because of pitocin, that's when problems happen, especially if your epidural isn't working quite right (which mine wasn't either time). Unstretched tissues can be injured, and the pain hasn't been diminished by endorphins. So it both causes more damage, meaning you'll be more sore afterwards, and it hurts more at the time (although if they get the epidural placed right it won't).



And people who say that pushing doesn't hurt as much as the contractions are right. Once you get past the "ring of fire" stage (crowning) it's not bad at all.

Rebecca - posted on 11/01/2012

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For me, labor really isn't that bad. I had heard nightmare stories about spinal headaches from the epidural and decided that I would not ask for an epidural unless labor became worse than the worst migraine I ever had. I am now expecting my sixth child and still haven't had an epidural. Labor was simply never painful enough for me to ask for one. I do tend to labor quickly, though. Most of mine have been born within 4 hours of the beginning of hard labor, and with my first 2, there simply wasn't time for an epidural anyway.

Kim - posted on 11/01/2012

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My first was an epidural baby, I'm small framed and he was almost 9 pounds, and I was 40 weeks exactly. It was a quick labor, in with contractions 2 minutes apart, epidural in 20 minutes later, baby out and on the breast 2.5 hours after. No complications, no sleepy baby syndrome. 2nd baby, I was induced with pitocin at 42 weeks, they gave me an epidural but it simply didn't work in time. He was 9.5lbs, and it didn't hurt too much. He was stuck, they had to give me an emergency episiotomy, and that hurt worse than anything else. My third, i was in labor, with contractions every 5 minutes, for 4 days. They finally gave me pitocin again, and I had her no epidural. She was much smaller, 7.12, and it really didn't hurt much either. But, my body had been priming itself for days leading up to her delivery, and, I am a survivor of a3rd degree burn over 15% of my body, i have an extremely high pain tolerance. And it is true what they say, thanks to oxytocin, you quickly forget the pain.

Angela - posted on 11/01/2012

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Meds all the way. I had 2 narural 1 medicated and 1 c-section. Natural birth was way to painful. The first i didnt know what to expect and 2 came too fast. Congrats BTW..

Michele - posted on 11/01/2012

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I've had 2 babies both with epidurals. With my first, i wanted to "play it by ear" whether to have an epidural. after 24 hours of labor, i was so exhausted that the only way to get rest was to have one and boy was i happy i did. The contractions before the meds were like the worst cramps ever, but after I didn't feel a thing. Remember that the cramps only last for a minute or two then go away so it's not like you're in constant pain for hours before an epidural. If you're still feeling major pain after they put the epi in, just push the button for more meds. I was fully aware of what was going on, a part if the birth, was able to hold and nurse my baby right after. In my opinion, birth without an epidural is insane. Also, it's the first 2 weeks after the birth is the worst part of it. The sleep deprivation is FAR worse than any contraction. Good luck. You'll be just fine.

Barbie - posted on 11/01/2012

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I had both of mine naturally & plan to do it with the third as well... that is not to say I wasn't open to the epidural, but I wanted to try my best to do without drugs. Both times when the pain got to the point that I asked for an epidural, I was actually ready to push. If you try the lamaze technique, it really helps: just the long, slow deep breathing went a long way to helping focus on something other than pain. And I think it went quickly. 7 hours for each labor. The second was even induced & I was told with an induction the pain would be too hard to bear so I would need an epidural, but I didn't... And I feel proud to say that I have given birth naturally, twice! in this day when drugs are pushed.

Jennifer - posted on 11/01/2012

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My first was with an epidural. I felt nothing and I was so comfortable. My second was with an epidural also, but they gave me something to "take the edge off" before the epidural and it made me too loopy to remember anything. My third was so quick that there wasn't time for the epidural to kick in and it was, by far, the worst pain I've ever felt. But, the pain was over once she was out.

Esther - posted on 11/01/2012

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Well it's like the worse back pain in your life. I had meds with my first and I would so not do it naturally. I did wait till the last possible minute to get the epi. Because I didn't want it wearing off in the middle of pushing. Get the meds!

Lynn - posted on 11/01/2012

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When I had my son, I had every intention of having an epidural, or whatever else I could get! I went to the hospital, and was told since I wasn't far enough along, to go home. Several hours later, the pain was getting worse, so we went to the hospital. We walked in the door, and I was already pushing. When they checked me in Triage, I was fully dilated. They quickly found an intern, and my son was born about 15 minutes later. I was brought up to Maternity, holding my son in my arms. The pain was not anywhere near as bad as I thought it was going to be! When I got to the hospital, I did ask for pain meds, but I was already pushing, so it was too late! Luckily, we didn't hit more traffic, or my son would have been born in my car!



When I had my daughter, my water broke (not a lot, just used a pad) but I had no pain at all, for several hours. When I got to the hospital, they put me on Pitocin, since I wasn't having contractions. That made the pain really bad, but still, nothing was happening, so they did give me the epidural. They discovered that my daughter was breech, and I had to have an emergency c-section.



After doing both, I would much rather have a baby naturally, if I had the choice. I was feeling fine and ready to leave the hospital three hours after my son was born, but I had to stay until the next day. I only took one day off work, the day after I was released from the hospital. We took my son to the mall for his first pictures, and I was walking around with no problems. I have a home preschool, and had kids again the very next day. I took one day off work when I had my daughter, too, but I was in a lot of pain for over a week. I took pain meds, had trouble getting in and out of bed, and couldn't sit on the floor for a few weeks.



After how easy my pregnancies and labors were, I would have had more kids, if it wasn't for the huge amounts of child support my DH was paying to his ex.

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The pain is present but not all encompassing. I had my first with an epidural administered once I hit a 4. I really did not feel much at all. On my second, I held out for as long as I could to get the epidural, until I basically wanted them to just get the baby OUT! It ended up being too late for the epidural by the time they got the delivery room to administer it. I actually prefer the second delivery experience over the first. Our bodies have been doing this for years, they have a method for coping. The natural high was much greater for delivery number two than with delivery number one. Also, my milk came in much quicker on the second one too... Not sure but maybe has something to do with that? Good luck, You will do great!

Vicky - posted on 11/01/2012

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I have had 4 children. everyone of them I had the epidural. isnt wasnt untiil my 2nd that i ask why it hurt so much when they put it in and I was told it was the pre-freezing that hurt the actual epidural was painless. now each anestiologist is different. every epi I had the delivery was painless. My 4th the epi was excellently put in because I got to feel some of the pressure and the need to push. The only complaint I have is my own fault. when the meds wore off and I thought I was fine I got up to go to the washroom getting there was fine but on the way back My legs gave out. If you have a low tolerance for pain like me. get the epi. go to some prenatal classes and get the info as to what to expect during labour and delivery. if you are wel informed it akes the whole process alot easier. so in conlusion yes labor is very painful before any drugs

and if you ge a good anestiologist you will be fine. please read up on what to expect for the epi so you are well informd.

Holly - posted on 11/01/2012

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it all boils down to, you are going to have the baby, it's GOING TO COME OUT.... women have done it for YEARS, and you are going to do it.... don't worry about the pain, you will be in pain for a few hours... then it will be done.

Amber - posted on 11/01/2012

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I think it depends on your body type. I have wide hips and I didn't use an epidural for either of my children. They both came out quickly, my daughter in 20 minutes and my son in 45.



BUT I think you should look at all the positives and negatives of both situations and talk to you doctor and family about it.



If you are petite definitely that changes things. GOOD LUCK

Tracie - posted on 11/01/2012

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It's impossible to say definitively because every mother and birth are unique. However, the pain comes from your cervix dialating, so think of the worst cramps you've ever had and magnify that by about 10. That's basically what you're dealing with.



The epidural will definitely take away the "pain" part of contractions, but you will still feel a lot of pressure and your body will still react to what it is accomplishing. It is very tiring work.



I had a c-section with my first and a vbac with my second. Vaginal birth is easier overall because the recovery time is days, not weeks, but any process that results in a healthy mom and baby is a win!



Women are the strongest creatures on the planet. We have been doing this for millennia. You can do it, too.



Good luck!!

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I had all three of my girls naturally - with the option of working up towards a C-section (should have I needed it).



Have you considered working your way up the pain killer scale and seeing how you go. You also have to weigh the pain relief against how much longer it will take you to recover. When I was expecting my daughters I said that I would like to work up the relief with C-section as a last option (should it prove that the delivery was going badly/life-death situation).



There is nothing wrong with having pain relief, especially if you really need it, but it is worth working your way up the pain relief scale. You may find that you do fine with minimal intervention.



Going back to - how bad is childbirth, really?. With three children - had air and gas with my eldest and nothing with my two youngest. With my two youngest had paramedics attending (home births). Found that being mobile, walking round helped, along with good breathing techniques.



Everyone is different. With me, I said to the midwife, even with the third - want to see how I go, and then work up the pain relief scale. Epidural - will have as a last resource, with C-section as the very last resort, or if it was deemed really needed (life/death situation, baby was distressed).

Tracey - posted on 11/01/2012

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Where I live you don't get an epidural unless you absolutely need it... And by that I mean if your labour is not progressing very well and/or you are distressing the baby... I have 5 children, all natural including twins and not an epidural amongst them... Although I asked for one each time cos it hurt so much,,,.. The thing with childbirth is its just a means to an end... Take whatever drugs are offered to you I say!!!!

Denikka - posted on 11/01/2012

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I had 2 babies, one with a shot of morphine and some laughing gas, the second with just the gas.

Yea, it hurt. It hurts a whole lot. But it's a..different type of pain. I've broken my arm, had rope burn, burnt my fingers, sprained my ankles, etc..and childbirth is a totally different kind of pain altogether. For me, the biggest difference was that it was pain with a purpose. That's what really stuck with me. Like it wasn't as bad, because if I stuck with it just a little longer, I would have this huge reward, instead of the *pointless* pain of a general injury. It's really not comparable to any other type of pain.



What I CAN describe contraction pain as is more pressure than pain. Like someone is pushing, hard on your stomach, or like there's a hand inside you squeezing your insides.

Actual childbirth, bearing down pain, is a whole different type of pressure. It's like. . .stretching pain. Like...when your neck, back, knee etc pops, but it's a bad pop and it hurts for a while, it was like that for me, but the pain didn't go away immediately, it stays.

It seems like forever (and my first labor, from first contraction to birth, was just under 5 hours, my second was just under 4 hours and I only spent 8 minutes pushing). Then, when the head is coming out, it's this HUGE stretch pain, I felt like I wasn't going to be able to do it, and just when I felt like I couldn't anymore, it's over and there's this big, shakey sense of relief and the pain recedes to almost nothing. The shoulders are almost nothing in comparison to the head, and by that time, I felt so detached from the pain that it was almost an after thought.



I've heard that induction makes the contractions worse, and I've heard that for some people, the pain of getting the epidural was way worse than the contractions at the time they got it. It's really different for each individual, so really, you'll just have to wait until you go through it yourself.

Lacye - posted on 11/01/2012

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When I had my daughter, I was all for natural. I was scared that the drugs would mess with my baby and I just didn't want them. Ended up, I had to be induced because my contractions would not start on their own and my water had already broken. I was having a really bad reaction to the patocin (I know that's not how it's spelled but oh well) and the nurses kept having to turn it down because it was causing me so much pain (please keep in mind that not every person who is induced has this issue!). They ended up giving me a choice, c section or epidural. I chose epidural because I wanted to at least try to have my child as natural as possible.



I have said this many times and I will say it a million times more, I LOVE THE EPIDURAL!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! After they had given it to me, I was much more relaxed during my labor, my blood pressure lowered because I wasn't as stressed, and it wasn't much longer after it kicked in that I had my daughter. Pushing was no problem. They even had to sew me up a little bit because my baby girl had a big ass head (just like her damn daddy!) but that was alright. It was a little uncomfortable for a bit but the next day I wasn't even sore. Right now I am 26 weeks pregnant with my second child and Monday when I go to preregister at the hospital, I fully plan on telling them that I want another epidural!

~♥Little Miss - posted on 11/01/2012

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Debbie, yeah when you put it that way. 18 is young, and you feel you should have complete confidence in what the doctors are doing. I had confidence in my doctor and I was older....but I shouldn't have had confidence in her. Hey I didn't know better either. But the anesthesiologist was amazing!

~♥Little Miss - posted on 11/01/2012

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My worst period cramps, yes even the fetal position ones, didn't hold a candle to contractions.

Holly - posted on 11/01/2012

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well i had BAD period cramps.... i was in bed curled up in fetal position.... to me, i would say thats about how bad they were....

Debbie - posted on 11/01/2012

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Little Miss Can't Be Wrong no offence taken but I was 18 at the time and thought they knew best, now I would tell them where to go

Holly - posted on 11/01/2012

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BTW I know that some people say natural is best and blah blah blah, sorry, i wouldn't go through popping out a 9lb baby with no meds.... it is just as normal to have an edipural as to not have one...

~♥Little Miss - posted on 11/01/2012

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See, so many people have said it is like period cramps but worse. I am not sure that is a fair comparison, at least for me.

Holly - posted on 11/01/2012

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I will say, i don't think that the pushing out the baby was NEAR as bad as the contractions... the contractions are like the WORST period cramps you have EVER had. this is WITH medication.... I wouldn't say you feel like you were struck by a semi truck...

~♥Little Miss - posted on 11/01/2012

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Well Debbie, no offense but I sure as shit would not let someone try 8 times to put an epidural in. Of course you are going to have damage done. I would maybe have let them try 2 times tops.

Debbie - posted on 11/01/2012

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I've had four babies, 2 section ( huge babies) 1 natural and 1 medicated and I would choose natural all the way! C section is a nightmare afterwards and medicated well let hiding made me violently sick and my anaesthetist took 8 attempts to get the epidural needle in my spine by which time I was covered in blood and then took it out too late and I felt it all the way up my spine when he took it out and have had back problems since, but good luck however you give birth, a child is a true blessing xxx

Claudia - posted on 11/01/2012

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My labor and delivery was smooth sailing. I was induced due to having gestational diabetes (at 38 weeks) and only felt intense contractions for maybe 30 minutes before they came in and gave me the beloved epidural. After that, I felt nothing and it was GLORIOUS. My labor only lasted 5 hours total. I'm told that's fast for a first timer. As for delivery, since I was numb from the waist down, I felt no tearing or anything traumatic. People say that you can't enjoy your baby because you're drugged and yada yada, but that's dumb. I was able to fully enjoy my baby girl, no problems there whatsoever. I also feel like I recovered super fast, despite tearing and having stitches. Btw, everyone is different. Every labor and delivery is different. Don't let anyone's story scare you, even if it was traumatic for them. You'll do great! :)



PS: Just because you get an epidural does not mean you're weak or not a good mother. You're strong for having a baby PERIOD. You should be proud of that in itself. And just because you get the pain meds doesn't mean you're not doing it "on your own". You're still pushing the baby out yourself! I didn't need to prove anything to anyone, and it worked out famously for me.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 11/01/2012

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I had my first one with an epidural, and ended up with a c section. I had my second one fully natural no meds whatsoever. NONE! It hurt like hell. I am not going to lie. For some women it is not bad, and others it is unbearable. Every women is different. If I were to do it again, I would wait until I absolutely could not stand the pain anymore before getting an epi....or try not to at all. I was one of the women it was unbearable for. But, epidurals seem to increase your chances of a c section.



Warning, often they will give you a drug before giving you an epi to take the edge away. It is suppose to last 4 hours. Fuck that. Mine lasted not even 45 minutes and when my contractions were at full force, they were 2-3 times as bad after I took the meds than before the meds. I would NEVER do that again. It is not worth it. I think back and realize THAT is the reason I got an epi so early on.

Michelle - posted on 11/01/2012

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I personally didn't want to be heavily medicated. I am against an epidural full stop! There is NO WAY someone is sticking a needle into my spine.



I feel that it's better for the baby having less drugs in the system. I also found that the pain was bearable. I had a big baby for my first and am proud that I did it on my own.

Oka - posted on 11/01/2012

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Only an hour? That's good to hear. How horrible is natural childbirth? What made you choose natural over medicated? Is it not common for people to ask for all sorts of meds/epidurals like me?

Michelle - posted on 11/01/2012

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Sorry, I had all 3 of mine naturally. My 2nd was the best, Only 50mins and not even a graze.

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