How bad is childbirth.. really?

Oka - posted on 11/01/2012 ( 641 moms have responded )

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How bad is childbirth... really?



MEDICATED childbirth.



I have ZERO interest in natural childbirth. ZERO. None. I will not do that.



I want all the medication and epidurals possible.



How awful is a first time MEDICATED childbirth?



Is it an absolute nightmare, even with meds and epidural?



Do you feel like you're being hit by a semi truck? A terrible flu level of pain? Or is it not as awful with epidural and pain meds?



I know everyone says "one you see the baby, it's worth it." Sure, but just how PAINFUL is a medicated childbirth during the process? Is it so painful it's traumatic? Is it unbearable and so painful you feel like you won't make it? Is it somehow not so bad?



Does the medication help enough that it's not the worst pain of your life?

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Charley - posted on 11/17/2012

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My daughter is 4 days old now and I didn't have any pain relief from start to finish, I had anesethic at the end as they had to cut me cause her head got stuck. I'm proud of myself for delivering an 8lb 6oz baby naturally with no mediation, so I say yh it is possible. It is true when people say as soon as you hold your baby in your arms you know u would do it all again and it's worth it, for me the contractions were not the worst part they were agony and took my breath away, but it was pushing that I struggled with, it took me 75 minutes to push her out and on top of that the extra 8 minutes her head was stuck for, but I can safely say the momment she was put on me I forgot bout the pain and knew I'd do it all again cause faith is my everything =)

Meghan - posted on 11/17/2012

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I had an epidural. I will warn you that it may not work or it may not work as well as you are hoping. I don't say this as someone who is against medicated labour obviously, just as someone who has been there. The epidural I had lasted for 2 amazing, relaxing hours which gave me a wonderful time to rest up but it faded quickly. They tried to boost me again but the relief was fleeting. I do not fault anyone for this, it was an extremely busy night for babies and by the time I got my epidural my contractions were coming so violently and close together that it was almost impossible to put in.

I know you don't want the unmedicated perspective BUT worst case scenario and the medication wears off, I do just want to say that yes it will be painful but it will end :) I am by far way less afraid of labour now, because I know i got through it while feeling EVERYTHING. If you have an epidural and it works properly, you will probably have very little pain or at worst some burning as the baby comes out. The worst part are the contractions (which with a proper epidural you may have no idea when they are happening), not the actual birthing part in my experience. It feels like you are having the biggest poop of your life.

Diane - posted on 11/16/2012

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It's so different for every woman; even different for the same woman with different children. But yeah, it's pretty uncomfy. I found that being in a big tub helped a lot with the discomfort. I had an epidural with my first one after 27 hours, and it dulled the pain some, but didn't really take care of it enough for me to just "please, God, fall asleep for a little while". He ended up being born c-section after 36 hours. But the other 2 were pretty easy. Just so you know, don't let my first one scare you. That wasn't normal at all--it turned out I had a staph infection in my uterus which was messing everything up. I think I agree with Beth about working up the pain med scale. With my second and third, I had them naturally and it was pretty okay. Not gonna lie. It definitely wasn't as much fun as a root canal, but not unbearable, either. :-) And don't worry. You will find yourself way stronger than you think when it actually happens. Your body knows what to do.

Britney - posted on 11/16/2012

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With my first baby, the labor was the worst. 28 hours and after I finally gave in to the epidural, it was cake. The second baby, I didn't have the time to get an epidural..the labor wasn't so bad, I learned how to deal with that. But never..in a million years could I imagine the level of pain I was about to feel during the pushing process. I left my body, I screamed at my self from outside of my body to not die. I tried to keep focus but the nurse wouldn't shut up, so you just want to strangle everyone (I did). The pain is measured at 57 del. the human body can only physically handle 46 del. of pain before passing out..so don't feel bad about pain medicine, but I would encourage meditation also to get through as much as you can on your own.

=) Then after delivery, they don't leave you alone poking and checking this and that... and you just keep thinking about your baby, so you don't get any sleep at all for the first few days, weeks (months.lol)

But you're right. Its worth it. Good luck to you.

Desiree - posted on 11/16/2012

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if you choose to get an epidural you should feel nothing from about the ribs down you should be able to sleep.. I guess it depends on you I have never had an issue with any meds and I have never felt like "being hit by a truck"..An epidural is a med pinch in your back but by the timethey do it you'll barely notice..dont listen to all the people horror stories every labor and delivery is different and you could be one of the ladies that barely feels a thing..it depends on your body..no need to be crazy stressed about it..I found as long as you have atleast 1 support person with you you'll do fine..Relax and best wishes.

Kile - posted on 11/16/2012

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With my son I had an epidural and the anesthesiologist put it to high in my back an numbed my nipples, I wish it had worked because my son was pretty big for my petite frame he was 8 lb 4 oz 21 and a quarter long. His head was stuck in my hips and I tore so bad it was beyond fixing. I was in hard labor for 7 hours and felt every second of it i was only 18. My daughter I had an epidural and it was beautiful! I was in labor from beginning to end for one hour and pushed 3 times. She was 7lb 9oz 19 inches. And I was 24. I think it all depends in the pregnancy and how preped you are for labor and delivery, position of baby as well as the size of baby.

Maureen - posted on 11/16/2012

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I will describe it you you in the same way I described it to both my expectant cousins... It is the WORST poop you will ever have, BUT worth it :)

Amanda - posted on 11/16/2012

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I actually went all natural, and would have to say it was not nearly as bad as I expected it to be. My water broke on it's own, I made the 30 minute drive to the hospital, and within the hour they were telling me it was time to push. The contractions started getting pretty painful right there at the end, to the pain my legs were shaking. The doctor got ready to go and before I knew it, it was time to push. I took child birth classes prior to labor, so I was ready to put what I learned to the test. I was on my back with my legs drawn up, and my chin pressed down to my chest and I pushed like I was told. I was so focused that his head was out in no time, but then I knew the shoulders were next. They told me one more push and he would be here, and I felt like I couldn't do it. But sure enough, it was one more push and I heard that cry and forgot all about it. I won't lie, the shoulders were pretty rough, but overall I thought it was a breeze. Best of luck to you! :)

M - posted on 11/16/2012

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It isn't like they show in the movies. At least it wasn't for me. It is exhausting and at the time painful but you get breaks in between contractions. It is doable. Don't be scared. The most important thing is to breathe properly. Seriously, or else you might feel panicked and out of control. Just have a pattern to your breathing. It isn't that bad...that is why we do it again! Good luck!!

Heather - posted on 11/16/2012

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I had the epidural, honestly, that was the only thing that finally allowed me to get some rest,since i was in labor for 2 days, and the contractions had NO break in between one another. The only issue I had with it was they put it in a bit crooked, so my entire left leg felt about as numb and dead as a tree trunk.My mother actually ended up having to hold it for me while I was delivering my daughter.



As a side note, you also can NOT tell what you're pushing out when you have the epidural, as your entire lower half is COMPLETELY numb...if you're not easily embarrassed then it shouldn't be an issue.



And it did begin to wear off while i was finally starting to push, which was equally unpleasant, my advice, grit your teeth until you're about 4 or 5 CM dilated and then get it put in.

Roxi - posted on 11/15/2012

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I wish I had given birth naturally and in the normal way. But labor for me was really horrible. Maybe because of my low tolerance to pain, but it was really bad. Nothing like I had expected and read about. But all pregnancies are different. So I hope my next one would be different, and that I could give birth normally rather than have another c-section.

Jamie - posted on 11/15/2012

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Te ani says it the best. It truly is beautiful. The pain only lasts for so long and you get a Miricle out of it. I wanted a water birth too but couldn't either.

I would never recommend an epidural. For three weeks after I couldn't stand for more then 5 minutes without balling. Pretty scary for me too. My daughter is 7 now and it was the first best thing in my world lol

Te - posted on 11/15/2012

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I'm a first time mother , and from what I've heard and researched epidurals are good for taking away the pain that's if it works sometimes it can be too late usually it takes about half an hr to actually kick in.. But then the recovery sucks ! Also some medications can make you soo drowsy you can find yourself too feel quite out of it in the after math of birth.. Before I gave birth I was all for epidurals and all the meds you can think of because I was so scared too feel the pain.. But when the time came for me to give birth I had no choice but to have a natural birth I even wanted to experience having a water birth but was to late by the time I got to the hospital lol.. I'm not gonna sit here and say childbirth feels wonderful it's hurts like a b%tch but natural birth is a lot better in the long run, recovering and all :) and I personally think naturals the most beautiful way you could ever give birth !but then everyone experiences childbirth differently thats just my opinion hope it helped abit . Good luck Hun

Tiffani - posted on 11/15/2012

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Breathing exercises saved me! And God.. I prayed so much while I was in transitional labor. And I didn't get medicated. I didn't have time! It was deifnitely doable... and it's a mind thing for sure!!! If you make your body relax between contractions and put your mind on something else, it really helps... then when the contractions come, breath steadily and focus on your breathing. As they get more intense, just pray and breath, pray and breath pray and breath. :) It is intense, but God made women (most women) to be able to do it. Good luck!

Shannon - posted on 11/15/2012

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Oka wondering when are you due? Hope none of this scares you to death. No matter what, the goal is a healthy baby. I hope you will post how it went for you. Congratulations and best of luck to you. I hope you have a speedy, easy delivery.

Danielle R - posted on 11/15/2012

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I had horrible back pain, like severe I am going to die if I dont get that epidural. As soon as I got the epidural EVERYTHING went numb waist down. I didn't not feel a thing until an hour before I started pushing. The epidural stopped working I was moved onto my side and they had my legs open to relieve pain. I had a MEDICATED birth planned what I got was a NATURAL birth. I felt like as soon as I started pushing I forgot about the pain. When you are feeling it you are really feeling it, it feels like back pain from heck.

Melissa - posted on 11/15/2012

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I had my two labours/births completely drug free. Not saying it was a walk in the park but is was managable. If you have the right supports in place and realistic expectations of yourself you can do it. The choice if yours. Medication does not take all the pain away, so I am told, so you should have some other pain management strategies in place before you go in. Everyone experiences pain differently so it is hard for anyone to tell you how painful childbirth really is. I did it with no medication just breating and support from my husband. That is not what everyone can do. I went in to it with a very flexible birth plan with the idea that if I needed medication then I would take it. It is your experience, make it your own.

Melissa - posted on 11/15/2012

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My Personal Experiences...

I had an epidural for each of my boys. I had very long labour as I needed to be induced for botha nd things moved quite slowly. I found once the epidural was administered, I was better able to relax and enjoy the experience more with very little pain. The most painful part for me on both occasions was getting the epidural put in, not the insertion of the line but I waited until my contractions were so far along that it was very difficult for me to sit still long enough for the anestheiologist to do their job. I found the epidural great for pain, personally. Once the epidural wore off after the birth, the itchy skin was something I didn't expect, but wasn't unbearable by any means. Good luck, you will do great! Relax.

Sarah - posted on 11/15/2012

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Well, it seems some people just have a need to be angry and judgmental. May I remind you ladies who are saying not to get pregnant, that she ALREADY IS pregnant? If you remember, pregnancy is a hormonal time, filled with worry, concern, fear... and you're not really making it any better, are you? Why would you want to hurt this poor woman's feelings? Do you have no heart, no feelings? No care for what your might be doing to someone in a very sensitive time in her life?

And let's face it, women have babies with drugs every single day, and IQ does vary amongst the children born to those women. Blanket judgmental statements with no facts to back it up are just better left unsaid. "If you don't have something nice to say, don't say anything at all." Words DO hurt.

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 11/15/2012

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Hey, Samantha, maybe you should read the OP again. Oka never said she 'WASN'T INTERESTED IN GIVING BIRTH'. She did say that she wasn't interested in NATURAL childbirth. Which is her option.



I'd really love to see the statistics from you ladies who are being so judgmental about those of us advocating comfort. Samantha, you accused us all of drugging the children and making them retarded! FYI, 2 medicated births here, and 2 very high IQ, sensitive intelligent young men as a result.



Please cite your statistics and sources.

Jesse - posted on 11/15/2012

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Well.... To be perfectly honest you may opt for a medicated child birth but that doesn't mean that is what you'll get. I gave birth 8 weeks ago and I had 2 epidurals and neither took but that is not always the case. I was in labor a total of 6 hours. The contractions were the worst part. They hurt so bad you can't move or even think and they are exhausting. The constant shivering from the hormone changes that take place when your in labor were another part I really didn't care for, they made my teeth chatter. The actual pushing did not hurt nearly as bad as I expected however the episiotomy was not pleasant. It made the recovery much harder than it would have been but I imagine it was better than tearing. It hurts but you recover rather quickly considering everything your body has just went through.I advise you to say yes to the IV drugs because while they don't make the pain go away, they make you loopy enough that you don't mind. The epidural I would try, because it did help me for about half an hour each time before it stopped working.

Miranda - posted on 11/15/2012

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I had both of my kids without pain medication and it was the worst pain I have ever felt. But I have friends who have used epidurals and they say the doctors had to tell them when to push bc they were numb from the waist down. The baby is gonna come out weather you have an epidural or not, so if you want one then get one.

Megan - posted on 11/15/2012

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Haha, wow, Samantha has her judgey pants on!



Anyway, medicated childbirth is no picnic. I only had one (of three) epidurals work correctly, the other two only worked on one side. Every delivery is different, every woman is different. It's obviously do-able, or we would all only have one child. I am not of the camp that "once you see the baby you forget about the pain." I'm a total wimp...I never forgot I was in pain. :) But, as I mentioned, I went on to have three kids, and probably would have had one or two more had we not run out of money. :)



You'll do fine, just try not to get overwhelmed. Have a breathing plan in mind, and practice it at home. Mine wasn't those silly sounding ones on TV, but if that's what works for you, run with it. I was too afraid of sounding stupid, so I did something else. Even something as simple as counting slowly aloud or in your head will make a difference. You just need to be able to keep your focus elsewhere than on the pain.



With the epidural that actually worked, I ended up watching my soaps and Dr. Phil before the doctor told me it was time to push. Not a huge deal, and actual deliveries have always been pretty easy for me.

Kym - posted on 11/15/2012

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I had mine naturally and it was painful but I found the contractions before alot worse! I had all back contractions and that hurt!



Even though you want the meds, it may not happen that way so be prepared. I had contractions for about 4 hours (this is my first and only child) and the hospital kept saying to stay home as they were pretty far apart. I didn't listen after 4 hours, got the to hospital and was 10 cm dialated! So absolutely no time for drugs - and I mean nothing! I had him within an hour of being at the hospital.



Just think of it like you have to go through it either way and you just need to go with it and let it happen how it will.

Jeri - posted on 11/15/2012

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I had both the epidural and drugs before i even started labor because i scheduled an induction. Which after 38 weeks you can do :) I was sitting up talking with my husband and friends and said "hun, something feels funny, can you get the nurse?" He picked up the sheet and my daughter was already half way out, I had no idea, and didnt feel a thing :) With my first however, my epidural took 4 hours to get because the the guy couldnt be found, I was induced that time as well due to my water breaking the week before and no doctor believing me because a blue piece of paper said it didnt, yet my son had no fluid left. Those 4 hours were hell. But they were different hospitals. So if you have a great doctor, and a good hospital, it can be awesome :) Just make sure you tell them as soon as you get there so you dont have to go into full on labor without it.

Samantha - posted on 11/15/2012

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You should not be having a baby if you are not interested in giving birth! Maybe you should have considered adoption!

All you are doing is drugging your child and retarding their development for selfish reasons!

Geri - posted on 11/15/2012

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It is painful. Teeth pain is worse though.



Take a Lamaze class because it will help you learn relaxation breathing which is very helpful during the early labor. (Nothing helps in the end but good, loud, swearing in my opinion, but the nurses will tell you not to!)



I found morphine shots made me so dizzy and nauseous that I felt worse!



Epidurals are the way to go but you have to wait until you have progressed enough so that they do not stop labor. That is you must be dilated more than 4-5 cm and effaced somewhat, so you will still need good breathing and concentration until that point.



The key is your brain cannot accept 2 signals at once. So as long as you can focus on anything, even counting fast to 100 by 5's, you will not be able to "feel" the pain in your brain. So practice focusing on a ticking clock, counting, any type of story, song, whatever. Once you stop and think about your pain, it will intensify.



But, it really will only last that intensely for up to a few hours, then it will be over.



I had 4 kids. 1: 3 bad hours then I needed spinal. 2: I tolerated well 8 hours of early labor, followed by 40 minutes of hell. 3: 6 easy hours/1-2 bad (it was holiday weekend and I was alone due to low staffing for most of it) 4: no labor ER C section 5: was induced for 8 hours for 3 days to no avail. They broke my membrane and when it began to get bad I swore loudly until they came with epidural (because they "ran out" of time on #2 and #3 and I wasn't having it this time. So i felt nothing.

Nicolette - posted on 11/15/2012

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Childbirth is a sacred and private experience : The only result that is wanted, is that mom and baby are okay and that you are feeling okay. Whatever way you want to do it, is up to you and don't let anyone tell you any differently. It is your body and your baby : you make the choice that suits you. If you are that scared of natural birth, perhaps a Ceasarean Section is the way to go. Baby needs to be born healthy and that is all that matters. If you will feel better and more in control of the situation having a planned Ceasar....then that is what suits you. My first baby was a Water birth no medication, my second baby was a Ceasar Section with a Epidural. The first Natural birth was very painful, but your body is a amazing machine, you will not believe how empowered you feel.It was a beautiful experience with music and candles and a midwife.The Second birth was a planned Ceasar , complications in the pregnancy, and I found it a very controlled clinical experience. Remember : It is up to you!

Amie - posted on 11/14/2012

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i have had two epidurals and want another with bubs to come. Tell your midwife that you dont want to 'come out' of the epidural for pushing and youll be finr. you actually wont feel a thing besides some pressure. i had two massive babies. the first i didnt have choice, it was either an epi or a c/s, as my labour was crazy. second one i got to 6 cm and decided i had enough. it never hurt when the put the epi in. i actually never felt a thing and it was so quick. i was up walking around straight after it worn off and felt great. i really enjoyed the labours and it made me realise that labour doesnt have to be a horror show that some woman say it is. mine was quiet, pleasent and recovery was easy.

aint no way anyone is cutting me open to deliever my baby. C/s freak me out.



ggood luck. youll be fine either way.



xx

Gammie - posted on 11/14/2012

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Please don't get pregnant!........As a mother and grandmother (I had one vaginal 8 hour labor and delivery; the 2nd was 24 hours and an emergency "C" section)........Labor and delivery is nothing compared to the years --- the illnesses you see your children go through, the pain, the heartbreak, the accidents........If you are this frightened of a "natural" pain, you aren't ready for what the next 30+ years hold.........Good Luck!

Jamie - posted on 11/14/2012

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I had two children myself. The first was not to to bad. My water broke and I went almost two days without contractions or anything till they put me on a drip. Once they started they turned it down and I stopped so had to give me max again. The contractions were the worst but I wanted it natural and against my wishes they gave me an epideral ( one nurse held me down while dr did it) but when it come to pushing it was a half hour at best. It hurt bad but livable. The second was an emergency csection. If I had a choice of which way I would hands down say the first was WAY better. I did try the gas and didn't like it at all. The pain is like no other pain but when they held up my daughter it was very much worth it. The love (meeting) was absolutely amazing. I wouldn't worry about it to much.

Rachel - posted on 11/14/2012

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I don't think my experience was normal. My friends who've had kids with an epidural said, "once they got the drug they were fine." That's nice. Unfortunately for me that was not the case. I had to get stabbed for my epidural 3 times. My husband, who assured me he wouldn't leave the room for anything, couldn't stand to hear my howl (he came back for delivery). During labor, after the epidural, I started convulsing and needed to be put on oxygen. On top of that, I felt EVERYTHING during delivery and was NOT NUMBED when they stitched me up.

I was so angry and in so much pain, I refused to hold my baby immediately after birth. I didn't want to be angry the first time I held my child. Because my epidural basically didn't work, I was able to stand right after giving birth...literally. After I got all cleaned up, about an hour later, I was more comfortable with holding my daughter.

I guess the moral of my story is have a good anesthesiologist. Also, don't have blind faith in modern medicine as I did. I had false expectations that once I got medicine I would feel nothing, or mostly nothing. I hate to say it but it's going to hurt. It was the worst pain of my entire life. Having said that, once you do this, you will be amazed at what you've handled and you will feel stronger for it. Despite my situation, I'm still thinking about baby number 2 and trying to imagine how I can handle delivery better.

You will look at every woman whose had a baby differently. It's like what I would imagine war veterans feel when they look at each other. You kind of slightly smile and nod, knowing you all have done some mighty thing.

I hope this has helped in some capacity. If it makes you feel better, I was in the hospital the night before I gave birth and they gave me something that was so strong I FORGOT WHY I WAS IN THE HOSPITAL. Sheesh, where was that good stuff during delivery?

Chureen - posted on 11/14/2012

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Oh yeah, back labor sucked....Holy smokes. I have 4 all no meds. Like mentioned before all were different, but the contractions with the last one was all in the back. If this had been my first child I would not have had more kids or at least would have been medicated. Because it was unbearable. With the others I had played cards with my husband until the end with the others. All I wanted to do with the last one was to curl up into a little ball and cry and I couldn't get that baby out fast enough it hurt so bad.

Carol Louise - posted on 11/14/2012

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I would like to say something about that I HAD 2 natural child birth all came so fast that the midwife's nor the doctor had to tell me anything

Darla - posted on 11/14/2012

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Honestly, the pain can be so different from one woman to the next, so it really should be discussed with your Dr. I have had 6 children, all natural childbirth. Only used IV pain meds with the first one, epidural with second, IV meds again with next 3, and last one born pain med free in a midwife system. The least amount of pain was certainly with the epidural. There was absolutely no pain involved with that delivery. Best of luck to you!

Terasa - posted on 11/14/2012

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oh and my doc told me the only thing you need to know or remember is NOT to push until he/she tells you! good luck love it is the most wonderful thing in the world!~

Terasa - posted on 11/14/2012

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dont' worry darlin' meds or none, -it is truly natural, you will be just fine!

Lisa - posted on 11/14/2012

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get all the medication they"ll offer up; after i had my daughter- via- c-section; i was given darvocet for my pain. unless you take 2-3 thats a joke. i was given morphine WHEN I WAS IN LABOR- because i had such a hard time; that seemed to be THE ONLY thing that subsideed my pain; after awhile my epidural starting wearing off i kept telling the nurse im in pain i cant take it; "well you shouldnt be" she said; i wanted to slap her. tell them you want MORPHINE. i had never had it before i was in labor; & when they gave it to me they told my mom "you may wanna leave for a bit shes gonna start to get really sleepy" i sat up & carried on conversation w/my mom; the nurse looked slightly suprised. but my epidural was given to me at 4.30pm on a thurs; not til 10:30 that night my doctor said said ok this babys not cooperating; were preparing for a c-cection; and im being honest even that is scary as hell. i finally got to go home saturday afternoon; almost 48 hrs after having her. it is not fun- i wont lie to you. but yes; it most definatly is worth it:) as you will see. good luck :).

Sarah - posted on 11/14/2012

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One thing I DID NOT like about having the epidural is that I had to trust the nurses and doctor to tell me when to push. They felt the baby wasn't coming out fast enough (and warned me to just have a C-section next time!) but they weren't seeing that I could push for a MUCH longer time than they were telling me to. I was quite frustrated with the lack of communication from them, and obviously my body which had its signals cut off by the pain meds. I think I could have made the birth go much more smoothly if I could have felt what was going on in my body. However, the stitching up after.... 45 minutes of it, that was nice to have pain meds for. We were in the hospital for 2 days instead of 1.... I don't think I could have prevented that by having a natural birth, because it came down to a low white cell count? I am not remembering, don't think we could have changed that by having a natural birth. Now I've just found that I am pregnant again, so you've got me thinking if I should go ahead and go natural. There are definitely pros and cons to each, but you know, in the end, you just get through it. You may or may not do it gracefully (I sure as hell didn't on number 2), but you'll get over that too! LOL... Do what YOU need to do, and don't let anyone tell you different, because this experience won't be the same for you, and actually, each pregnancy is different, too. I certainly wasn't expecting to have to have a C-section with the first, and I fought to have a vaginal birth with the 3rd, and I'll probably fight to have a vaginal birth with this one too, considering my age, the previous C-section (though my odds of complications are about on par with someone who never had a C-section due to having 2 vaginal births in the meantime)... you simply have to do what's right for YOU. If you normally have a high pain tolerance...go natural, you won't regret it. If you are the type to be in pain for an hour after getting a scrape, then get the meds ;). Either way, no one has the right to look down on you. I've done it all except for a water birth or home delivery, no one birth was really any better than any other birth, they each had their own set of issues, and potential complications, and actual complications. You just never know what's going to happen, and often, circumstances take the choices out of your hands, if you have any faith in your doctor. I would NOT have chosen a C-section for my first, but her being breech left me with few choices, given I was a month away from giving birth. We tried an external version since she was my first (very dangerous procedure, went fine, but no change), since that didn't work, the doctor laid down his law with me and told me I HAD to have a C-section. Not knowing much better, but trusting him, I said yes. I've since learned that it's NOT completely necessary to go that route, but in the doc's eyes, that's the safest route when dealing with that type of situation...Ah, gotta love American medicine. What are you going to do? I'm sure the next doctor, whom I need to locate, will end up wanting to do a C-section too! I'll be fighting for my right to a V-BAC. Any GOOD hospital can do an emergency C-section, but I think I'm going to insist on another VBAC unless they can show me REALLY good cause, I'll go natural so I can help my body do what it needs to do, and get a doctor I trust. We'll see how it goes :).

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I had two natural births. No meds. It was definitely painful but the pain meds they give you can harm the baby. Slowing down the heart rate. I also don't want anyone digging a needle into my spine. For me, some contractions were worse than others but I wouldn't say that it was unbearable. With drugs u shouldn't feel anything.

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 11/14/2012

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Ashlea, for you to say "For women that say it's so worth it in the end I say forget you." is slightly rude and condescending!



I'm sure that all of us wish that we had your same perfect birthing experience, but the fact of the matter is, my dear, we don't! I'd have LOVED to only have been in labor for 1.5 hours, but the brutal fact of the matter is that one was 18 hours, and the other 12.



So, before you so condescendingly dismiss those of us saying "It's so worth it"...we aren't saying so because we want to pad anyone's pocket. FOR US...it was worth it.

Ashlea - posted on 11/14/2012

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Reading people say their contractions felt like bad period cramps reminds me that I didn't mention back labor. I had it with both of my boys. It full on sucked and did not feel like period cramps. Not to scare you, but it felt like someone was kicking me in the lower back. Don't let anyone sway you with your decision. Do what you feel is best for you and te baby. You'll be surprised what you can do when you are in the moment.

Ashlea - posted on 11/14/2012

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I've had two babies. One with an epidural and one natural ( didn't have time for meds.) My first son was 20 hrs beginning to end. When it comes time to get the epidural your contractions may be painful enough that you don't care what they do. With the epidural I only felt pressure. It was the litacain shot prior to the epidural that sucked. For women that say it's so worth it in the end I say forget you. In that moment when your contractions are insane all you want it relief. My second son from beginning to end was 1.5 hrs. If I weren't done having kids and I could guarantee another fast delivery I would go without drugs. My overall delivery and healing experience has been much faster. Good luck.

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I had an epidural with my first (and an epidural that was too late with the second, but that's another story.) It worked out really well, even in terms of epidurals, because while I was able to *feel* everything, it didn't hurt. That's uncommon, and it's more likely you'll be somewhat numb.



I think the biggest warning I can give is that even if you can't feel it, it's still wearing your body out. It's a marathon sometimes.

Rachel - posted on 11/14/2012

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Rest assured that millions of women share your anxiety. And I am a mother of four and can tell you no two childbirth stories are the same. It's uncomfortable yes but as soon as you get the epidural you'll be feeling waaaay better lol! I think the one thing that helped me was preparing myself and staying calm at all times. I never screamed or yelled or got all upset like I see some women. We were made for this moment !! So I like to feel a little impowerment that day of labor. :-) I'm sure you have prepared and are ready to meet this baby that has been moving all over the place and I'm confident you'll be fine and have a healthy baby! Stay focused, meditate, and breath ! Remember those three things! And don't be afraid to talk to others. When I was having my contractions I would tell everyone in the room to please be quite while I focused on the pain. Congratulations!

Kenny - posted on 11/14/2012

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Childbirth is only as aweful as you put it in your head to be. And the only thing that I took away from the book "What to Expect when You're Expecting" was to NOT listen to anyone else's horror stories about birth. Don't even entertain them.

Childbirth is a natural body process that women have been doing for thousands of years. Now I am not advocating for natural birth, because that's a choice everyone has to make. However, what I am suggesting is that you remember that childbirth wasn't a horrible affair until after it became severely medicalized in the 1950's. That's when we were taught that it was painful and bad.

I took a hypno-birthing class and they advocate doing birth your own way, but remembering your body knows what it needs to be doing. My first childbirth was accidentally all natural, but I told myself the entire pregnancy that I didn't want a long painful labor. My labor lasted 4 hours and the contractions just felt like really intense cramping. Just episodes of feeling excessively tight and then a release, like it should be.

Ultimately, unless there is a severe complication, you make up in your own mind what it will be like and tell your body that everyday, all day long. Tell everyone you know that that's the way you want it to be. Your mind is much more powerful than you are giving it credit. And based on your question above, you are setting yourself up for a crazy labor.

Chinyendu - posted on 11/14/2012

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Child birth is not bad. It all depend on ur point of view. We go through pain to give birth to a child, and that contraction is for a purpose. Without that, the child won't desend for delivery. Now, there are some pple that can bear pains and some cannot. God has made it possible that there is epidural that can help us women bear the pain of contraction. There is advantage and disadvantage in everything in life. Before the epidural is administered on u, the pros and cons will be given to u. It's now left for u to decide if u want it or not. For me, I did natural for my first child. I want to feel how it is when giving birth without medication and I understood how it feels like. I wanted to go through it again for my second child but I could not bear the pain when I was about 4 to 5cm dilated. So, I decided to give the epidural a trial after weighing the pros and cons. And it worked out for me. We are still stronge women in which ever way we choose to bring our child/children into this world. So, go for it. I'll use the epidural for my third child.

Sarah - posted on 11/14/2012

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In today's Soviets with modern medicene they have found an epidural to be BETTER for baby and mommy. They have proven it to take the edge off both people and makes the childbirth less stressful on the baby which leads to less problems with baby.

Mine must not have worked because I felt everything. Sure, dottie took the contractions down to a bearable level. As far as the delivery portion...I felt pressure. Intense, painful, strong pressure. I also felt myself tearing and felt the stitches. Just depends on you! I have a high pain tolerance so I dealt with it OK but it HURT and I had an epidural and delotted (spelling?) But....I was ready yo do it again before we left the hospital!

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