How bad is childbirth.. really?

Oka - posted on 11/01/2012 ( 641 moms have responded )

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How bad is childbirth... really?



MEDICATED childbirth.



I have ZERO interest in natural childbirth. ZERO. None. I will not do that.



I want all the medication and epidurals possible.



How awful is a first time MEDICATED childbirth?



Is it an absolute nightmare, even with meds and epidural?



Do you feel like you're being hit by a semi truck? A terrible flu level of pain? Or is it not as awful with epidural and pain meds?



I know everyone says "one you see the baby, it's worth it." Sure, but just how PAINFUL is a medicated childbirth during the process? Is it so painful it's traumatic? Is it unbearable and so painful you feel like you won't make it? Is it somehow not so bad?



Does the medication help enough that it's not the worst pain of your life?

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Jessi - posted on 11/08/2012

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Patti

Six days?! Ugh, I can't imagine. I thought three was horrible. Yeah mine is gunna get snipped too, as soon as he gets a chance.

Emilee - posted on 11/08/2012

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@carol... Can u retype that? It makes no sense to me. I think something's missing from the paragraph :)

Carol Louise - posted on 11/08/2012

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my twins which was my second pregnancy the 1st born was 4lb and 16oz the other one was 4lb 6oz and it took the second twin to get pregnant when they found out they were identical twins and yes I had them by natural child birth and they came out crying really good too that the nurses said they both had good lungs.

Bree - posted on 11/08/2012

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Natural childbirth is AMAZING! I've had 2 and wouldn't have changed a thing! First labor = 4.5 hrs, 2nd = 2.5 hrs.



The more elective medication you receive during your labor, the more risk of complication you CHOOSE to expose you and your baby to. A natural vaginal birth is the safest way to give birth, unles there is a medical need to do otherwise.



When you are relaxed in a natural labor your body releases oxytocin into your brain (which doesn't happen with pitocin, it is only released into your bloodstream), and gives you natural painkillers and mind-altering chemicals. I FELT totally drugged during my natural birth. My sense of time was off, my thinking was fuzzy, and even my speech was slurred. And its true that once you see your baby you feel that it was worth it. There is medical evidence to back this up. The hormones released after a natural birth bond you with your baby and also have memory altering effects and leaves you feeling high :)



Don't let fear of natural birth keep you from learning about and attempting it. This website might help you www.naturalbutterflies.com, its for women who are scared of natural birth.

Carol Louise - posted on 11/08/2012

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I was very lucky to have easy child births but I do know some women that

had a very hard time with delivery.

Melissa - posted on 11/08/2012

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there really isn't any way to describe it, because you typically forget how bad it hurt when you have the baby in your arms, unless it was REALLY traumatic.

Hm - posted on 11/08/2012

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I just wanted to add that, I was dead-set against the epi and went through 20 hrs natural. They then gave me pain meds that only made me tell my life story like I had too much wine lol. It wasn't hard to convince me to get the epi after 20 hrs cuz I was like a wounded animal - biting my husband and Mother. My legs hurt like hell and every time a contraction came, my husband and MIL rubbed and shook them like crazy. My Mom did her awesome 1970's lamaze with me but it was so hard. It got more intense and felt like the baby was going through my tailbone. I kept screaming for God to not kill me. It took two tries with the epi and he put it in during a contraction. It was so hard not to move but this amazing nurse said I could hold her hand and break it if I needed to. I was stuck on my back then but in no pain, my husband kept giving me oxygen and I was psyched to push her out! I did awesome but had 3rd degree tears cuz baby kept her head turned to the side.

Carol Louise - posted on 11/08/2012

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Well always do a lot of walking as I had 3 pregnancies with my first one I was put to sleep with a gas mask that was a single birth then 3 years late had a set of twins by Natural Child birth then my last single baby was also

done by natural child birth and walking was the most important part to having an easy delivery I deeply believe.

The most important thing is to follow your doctors instructions.

Deidre - posted on 11/08/2012

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It hurts and is scary, no one can say it's not your first time. But you have to trust your own instincts and body to know when you can't cope with pain. No one else can tell you what your own pain threshold is. The only thing that matters is that you and the baby are safe and healthy. I had natural and a c-section. The epidural was amazing as I have never had a local before. You can't feel anything. Only the pinch of the freezing at first. And that only last about 6 seconds. I did count, yes..lol. But really listen to what you feel is right for you.

Marissa - posted on 11/08/2012

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First of all consider how many women have had children. Take a deep breath! God gave you the tools for this. And most women really don't remember the pain once that baby is in your arms. It is scary but the doc or midwife will help with all they can. I am praying for you.

Patti - posted on 11/08/2012

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Awesome! I wanted to experience a home birth, but I'm done making babies.

Patti - posted on 11/08/2012

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Jessi

I remember having to wait 6 days in the hospital after I had my first child and I too wanted to get out of there and go home. When I have to get stuck by needles, the nurse has to stick me a bunch of times because my veins are thin and not very close to the surface. It is annoying to be poked a bunch of times, but I can take it. I'm done with having kids too.. I have my son and daughter.. time for my husband to get snipped, but it's so expensive :-(

Jodye - posted on 11/08/2012

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Patti,

I did have my daughter at home and it was AMAZING! You didn't have to wait around to get discharged or anything. I got to go walk around while in labor and was not stuck in a bed all day. I would not change it for anything. If we have anymore children, then I will have them at home too... :) MILLION TIMES BETTER THAN HOSPITAL.

Barbara - posted on 11/08/2012

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I had an epidural with both my kids. the epidural is PHENOMENAL with easing contractions. Al I felt after the epidural was some pressure but no pain with the contractions. However, the pain/burning that comes with the baby crowning is a completely different set of muscles... that part still hurt like a b**ch!! But yes, once the baby is there all the birthing pain goes away and there is a HUGE sense and feeling of relief when the baby and all that fluid finally come out. Once you set your mind to it and make yourself realize that the only way to end the pain is to push through it, you'll just want to get it done. Also, everyone's body and pain tolerance is different. If you want the epidural DO NOT let anyone try to make you feel bad for it. You have the right to feel as comfortable or uncomfortable as you want! :-)

Chantal - posted on 11/08/2012

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It is not about trying to be "brave" or having a medal. It is about what our bodies are capable and able to do. I personally want to know exactly what my body it telling me to do and not have to rely on the doctor to tell me to push. There are complications from epidurals that will can go way beyond labor and do you really want your child to have its first taste of drugs during its birth. Yes, this does go through your blood and the baby gets whatever you are getting as well. Again, educate yourself. This is not meant to be frightening but beautiful. Everyone is different. I don't judge anyone for choosing an epidural but I wouldn't push it on them either. Yes it was painful but I birthed a 9lb. 9 oz. boy with no medication and at the end I was completely alert and had full use of my legs. It was a great experience, painful but great. I wouldn't come on here and scare people about child birth. If that is all you have to say, I wouldn't even post anything at all. Keep your fear to yourself.

Jessi - posted on 11/08/2012

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Oh gosh, wouldn't that be nice to do it at home? I think the worst thing about giving birth was having to wait around in the hospital afterward. I just wanted to go home and SLEEEEEP! And the IV's! Bah! I'm B- blood type, so I had to get the WinRho on top of everything else, and my veins are apparently super slippery, so it usually takes like five tries to get that sucker in there. X( I'm not afraid of needles (thankfully) but it does get a little annoying to have someone jabbing at you while you're having contractions.

Glad I'm done. Got my boy and my girl and I'm stopping at that. :3

Diana Alice - posted on 11/08/2012

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I was just like you drug me up! I had a blood clot with my first child. So I was on medication that no longer made an epidural possible. Well for the first 12 hours and I have to say I was in so much pain. I kept my eyes shut and couldn't move with every contraction. Once they finally let me have an epidural it was SOOOO much better. Without all the pain I was able to be aware of the whole experience of giving birth. I could still feel presure but it wasn't painful at all. I would learn some pain tolerance technics just in case when the time comes you can't have painkillers. But I am all for epidurals. Getting the epidural did hurt but not nearly as much as the contractions.

Alisha - posted on 11/08/2012

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LOL I felt the say anxiety you are feeling, but unfortunately I had an emergency c-section because she was breach and my blood pressure went through the roof. ( I was due to have c-section anyways, but she came a week early.) So I can't comment on vaginal childbirth. But I did have the epidural and pain meds. Didn't feel anything, just tugging. Afterwards was in pain. (Don't let the meds wear off if you feel pain) Our hospital we had to ask for meds...they just wouldn't keep track of certain intervals. Not traumatic at all, rough at the time, but I would do it all over again in a heart beat to have my baby girl. Oh ya, went in at like 6am had her by 7:30am.

Liza - posted on 11/08/2012

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I do not understand how you can make that decision beforehand. I had both my daughters naturally and it was not comfortavle, but it was at the same time not that bad. It is all about listening to your body and working with it instead of against it. If you are expecting it to be horrible, you wil be tense and and every muscle in your body wil be working against you. That being said everybody is different and everybody's body is different. Do you think if it was so traumatic that anybody would have more than 1 child?

When you get an epidural, they basically numb your whole lover body, making it a lot harder to feel what is going on down there. To me having someone sticking a giant needle in my back, potentially making a mistake and giving me lifetime complications was a lot more frightening than a NATURAL childbirth could ever be. Because after all it is NATURAL, we are created to do this.

Unless, the baby is too big to come out vaginally, I think describing it as the worst pain of your life is a gross exaduration. Have you even considered that thereare other alternatives than an epidural?? Water is great for relaxing and thereby getting you to work with your body instead of against it. There is also acupunkture, which makes the body relaese natural painrelievers.

When my first daugher was born I was floored by the fact that she was born already, meaning I thought I had a lot longer to go because I did not experience this horrible unbearable pain.

My water broke at midnight, I went to the hospital where they monitered her for about 30 min. said she was doing great in there and to come back when I was in real labor. I went home and around 2.30 the contractions started, nothing bad but a little uncomfortable. I went in the shower a few times and otherwise walked or sat in a chair, however I could get comfortable. Around nine the contractions got stronger and closer together and we went to the hospital. At 11:44 am she was born and it was the best moment of my life and I am so glad I was fully awake to make the most of it.

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GET AN EPIDURAL ASAP!!!!

I had mine naturally with NO medications as I had a very fast labour and it hurt like hell!!! The pain was like nothing you have ever experienced. It's like menstrual cramps x 1000000 in intensity around your back and it felt like someone was burning my perineum at the same time (from the stretching).

I don't see why so many women try and be "brave". At the end of the day you want to have a joyful birth and not one when you're screaming your lungs out from the pain! No one is going to give you a medal for enduring pain and nobody knows if you had a drug-free delivery or caesar etc.

Good luck (GO EPIDURAL GO!!!)

Michelle - posted on 11/07/2012

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The worst labor was with my son!!!! The only time my water broke was when i was in labor with him it never broke when i was in labor with either of my daughters!!!! The only time i ever wanted medication was when it was time to start pushing with my son!!! With all my children i was in labor for at least 10 hours!!!! I never had back labor though thank god because i hear that is the worst!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

CHERYL - posted on 11/07/2012

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Child birth is real bad, All 3 of mine was born natural with NO medication. sorry I against epidural. My oldest daughter and my only son I was in labor for 5 hours. My daughter was easy not much pain, my water never broke until her head was almost out.

With my son I had back labor, that hurt more then the from labor pain.

then my middle daughter i was only in labor with her 2 hrs. it was so fast. it was not that bad as it was with my son.

Michelle - posted on 11/07/2012

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Childbirth does hurt like HELL!!!! I didn't have an epidural with any of my children (3)!!! I did have what they call blocks (shots up in your uterus) and those did NOT help one bit!!!! I am definitely NOT against drugs during childbirth if u need it TAKE IT!!!! That would be my best advice!!!! With my last child (a boy) i was in SO much pain but by the time i asked for an epidural it was to late so if u want it GET IT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Danielle - posted on 11/07/2012

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I had my first child 2 weeks ago. My plan was to go natural until I actually started having contractions. The contractions were not regular but lasted for over 18 hours before my water broke at home. They were painful but not unbearable however I went to the hospital early in evening on 10/21/12 because I didn't think I should've had contractions for that long without being seen by the doctor, plus my due date was 10/22/12 and I was nervous. I was placed on the monitor for about 20 minutes and then was sent home and told to call once my contractions were 5 minutes apart, consistently. About 5 hours later, the contractions had continued but were still not 5 minutes apart. I went back to the hospital because my water broke. I decided to get the epidural once I got there because the contractions I was having were NOT registering on the monitor. They weren't unbearable however, they were a bit paralyzing when they would hit me. I would have to stop whatever it was I was doing and just take short, deep breaths until they passed. I didn't get any rest that day because the contractions had started at 5:30 am. I had to wait a few more hours for the epidural because I had only dilated 1 centimeter when I returned to the hospital. I ended up having to get a c-section the following morning, time of delivery was 9:57 am. My daughter was distressed and I had only dilated to 6 centimeters in all that time. To date, I still do not have any pain from the incision and I think my stitches are almost completely dissolved. In addition, I'm only 4 foot 10 and weighed 171 lbs by the time of my delivery,



Whether or not to get any pain medication really depends on your ability to manage the pain, pain tolerance and personal preference. I, personally, didn't feel I needed to feel the pain. It hasn't stopped me from enjoying my daughter to date. The "recovery" time is a bit longer but i was up and about in the hospital the following morning after the c-section.

Patti - posted on 11/07/2012

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It's funny how different hospitals/doctors give a patient more or less epidural. I did not like them sticking that thing in my spine, very uncomfortable. I was induced because I was swollen and had low amniotic fluid, then I got the epidural & pitocin, and only dilated to 3 cm after 10 hours. The thing that bothers me is that they put in the epidural, which slows labor, then they put in that disgusting pitocin that makes the contractions crazy... so then you need more epi = slow, then more pit, and back and forth... ridiculous.

I'm done having kids too, but if I was to ever get pg again, I would have my baby at home in my own bath tub with a midwife :-)

Jessi - posted on 11/07/2012

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After seeing what you posted, I went and looked up the disadvantages to epidural anesthesia, and found out a few things I hadn't really been aware of.

With my own experience, the birth of my first child was much better, and the epidural effects were quite weak. They took very little bite off the contractions, and did nothing for me in the delivery. It wasn't horrible at all, actually, and when I compare it to my second birth (where the epidural was very strong) I preferred the first. I'm done having kids, but - theoretically - if I had another, I would probably try a natural birth.

When the epidural was weak, I still had most of the feeling in my legs, could still move, and was up and about almost immediately after the birth. No icky side-effects. With the second, however, I was frozen up to my breasts, and it was very uncomfortable. I got horrible shivers too. X(

Keely - posted on 11/07/2012

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I was having terrible pains i hate them so much they were the worst and i asked for a epidural and i got it but it just made it worse i couldnt feel my legs and i couldnt move my body but i was still feeling the pain so it didnt help so much but i wish you the best

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I had a natural birth ... and I can tell you this from experience and from my familie's experience:



Natural birth was not bad. Really. Natural birth is good because the pain increases really slowly and you can't really tell and you give birth.



Now, if you take pain medication, like epidural then yes pain will be gone most of the time. I said MOST of the time not the entire thing. I have a friend who has had both natural and medicated births and she prefers natural, and I haven't come accross a woman in this position who prefer medicated. The worst part about a medicated birth is that... when the effect wares off... you will suffer a lot more than if you had had natural birth because the pain didn't increase gradually making you used to it an confortable... you will feel a really strong pain all of a sudden. And that is traumatic, very traumatic.



When I get my second child I will defenetively go for natural birth and not medicated one... just like you're terrified from a natural birth im terrified of the medicated one because you can actually end up having a harder time.

Lauren - posted on 11/07/2012

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I said the same thing when I found out I was pregnant. "Hell no, I am not doing this naturally, Im not insane! EPI EPI EPI!" I have a problem with researching the crap out of things though and ended up watching tons of videos of actual labor and birth. The hospital setting, all the wires, needles, hospital gown, hospital bed, OBGYNs that are barely there and nurses that rotate shifts convinced me I needed to find something else. That is when I discovered Midwives and birth centers. Giving birth in a home like setting, my own clothes, no stupid attachments...that was more me strangely enough. Though because I started out wanting every pain med available to a pregnant woman, I also got a doula to help me stick to my plan, especially since birth centers don't offer pain meds.



BUT to your question, I was more exhausted than I was in pain. I didnt call them contractions I called them waves or surges to make them seem more positive. Pushing felt the easiest to deal with besides early labor and by the time I started pushing I was ready to just go home so I pushed with all my might to get the baby through so I could to get my own bed. I dont know how a medicated birth would feel, but I wouldnt ever do it. Doesnt seem necessary. My friends that had the epi still reported pain and I think because they werent expecting to it hurt them it did hurt them worse than my natural labor hurt me. A lot of people I know even go so far as to really regret going with pain meds. Not everyone, but to each his own. Hope any or all of these comments other than mine are helpful, its a decision you have to make and be comfortable with.



CONGRATS!!!!

Rebecca - posted on 11/07/2012

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I posted before, but just wanted to give a little more insight. There are so many moms responding, and it's great! The more information, the better.



I had a medicated birth, and my baby is the least fussy baby and was sleeping through the night by one month. She's only four months, and sleeps from 10pm to 7am nightly. She did have some problems latching, but no one can say whether or not this was related to the epidural.



Again, my encouragement to you -- whatever you choose! I don't believe that one is better than the other, just be comfortable with your "planned" experience. However, from all I hear, birth plans are usually changed when labor commences. Good luck!

Ericka - posted on 11/07/2012

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natural child birth is good and its better because you don't have sideeffects of the meds after a natural child birth. i recommended. and they do the epidural they give at the last minute. childbirth is a beautiful experience

Patti - posted on 11/07/2012

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Yes, some kids who are born naturally are fussy while others who are born with drugs are not, but it is a fact that the drugs do go into the baby's body. My sister is a Pediatrician and she told me it is a fact.

Whatever decision you make will be the right thing for you. If you do choose drugs, your baby will mostly likely be just fine. Don't stress about it. Keep your focus on your baby and what is best for both of you.

Tracey - posted on 11/07/2012

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I Tried gas my first time around. I didn't feel it did a thing. I was then given a shot of pethodine (I felt no effects- perhaps there was but I didnt notice it). I really didnt want to go the eppy because it slows the process down. I wanted that kid out of me.

My second was natural with nothing but a hot shower (for 8 hours) which I found way more effective then at least the first time round.

If it was soo bad why do we have more then one kid. I am not going lie it REALLY hurts. Most likely going to be the worst thing (hopefully) you endure. But I wouldn't take it back for the world. And I am sure you won't either. Good luck

Tamara - posted on 11/07/2012

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Doing what is best for the health of momma and baby is all that matters. If that means a C-section then that's whats best. But to go into it thinking you are going to be in the worst pain is not very helpful. Sure it hurts more for some and women did used to die from childbirth, but that is no way to think when your about to give birth. My best friend was raped and gave birth naturally and it was very healing for her. There is no need so be so mean in your post Vicky.

Jessi - posted on 11/07/2012

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I honestly don't think the meds make any difference in the child's health, but that's just me. I know people who got the epi with perfectly healthy kids that fed well and had no health problems (me, for example), and I know people who did natural birth and ended up with really fussy, unhealthy children.



Don't let anyone tell you what to do and not do. Do a bit of research on your own, and do what you feel comfortable with. Make sure you are prepared for anything, though, because things change in an instant with something like this. Just don't let yourself get too stressed.



Also, as much as people talk about how 'beautiful' their own experience was - me included - you might end up with a nightmare and never want to do it again. I'm really not trying to scare you, I just don't want to give you the wrong idea about it. It's hard, and it hurts, but it's your baby. When it's done you'll know. Then and only then, will you have any idea what we're all talking about.

Patti - posted on 11/07/2012

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I have experienced both medicated and natural childbirth and I can tell you from personal experience that, contrary to what you may think, natural is 1000x better and less painful. If you take Bradley classes and learn how to relax during labor, you will have a beautiful experience. With my medicated birth, my child had a very difficult time breastfeeding, whereas my baby I had with natural childbirth nursed immediately and with no problem. Watch the movie "The Business of Being Born" and read the book "Supernatural Childbirth" and you may change your mind about natural childbirth :-).

Jessi - posted on 11/07/2012

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It's quite common for people to go with meds, though I know a lot of people who do it naturally.



As for your original question, you could get a million different responses, and none of them will be exactly the same as your experience. Everyone is different, and there are several factors that will come into play. Is your build small? Is the child very big? Also, it depends on your pain tolerance, and how you go into the process mentally. If you go in panicked, it's going to seem a lot worse than it is. The most important piece of advice I could give you - for your own safety and the child's - would be to stay calm.



I have two children, and got the epidural with both. Again, people respond differently to the procedure, so you might find it doesn't help you at all, or it might help a lot. My first, I was in labour for 32 hours, and I waited as long as I could before getting the shot. They are painful, yes; it's a very sharp, painful pressure in your lower abdomen. However, if you keep your wits about you, and you don't start acting like a simpering ninny, you'll be fine. Breathe through them, stay calm, and remember that you are doing something miraculous. Each contraction is one closer to your baby. I was fully dilated not even half an hour after getting my epi, and it only took me 32 mins to push the baby out. The shot, while it helped with my contractions, didn't do anything for me during the birthing. The pressure is still immense, but you will live through it, so keep a stiff upper lip and that.



The funny thing is, I'd expected it to be much worse. I didn't cry, shout, or freak out. I stayed level-headed and even joked with the nurses through the entire thing. It was actually a really incredible experience, and I was excited to do it again. (Don't get me wrong, it was gross, and certainly not a walk in the park, but it was just really special.)



My second was not nearly as long of a labour, but the pushing was about the same. He was huge, however, so it was quite a bit more painful.



Before you start hyperventilating, remember that you don't want to freak yourself out more than you have to. STAY CALM. As cliche as it sounds, any mother I've ever talked to says the same thing. It hurts, but the second you see that little face, it's all worth it.



Be strong, and you'll do fine! :)

Sarah - posted on 11/07/2012

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Ha- until you go through it - no one can tell you what its like. It will be the worst pain of your life but once you are in labor your body and mind handle that for you. The epidurals help ALOT but you still can feel your contractions etc....Just not in a "just kill me" sort of way. I was in labor for 36 hours before I had to get a c-section for fetal distress. Dont get hung up on a birth plan - anything can happen. Just stay calm as much as possible and concentrate on your baby and your body. It is SOOOO worth it in the end.

Lisa - posted on 11/07/2012

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I have to agree that Childbirth without Medication is really bad! I have four children and there heads were so big that my 5 foot body couldn't do it so the doctor gave Me 4 C sections instead. Although I have had some friends that can pop the baby's out with three pushes good for them not all of us have that abilities to have easy deliveries. So I guess what I am saying is to each there own and in all said and done the real important thing is what good Mothers we are after the babies are born.

Bailey - posted on 11/07/2012

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I was small during my 1st and cld not have done it without the meds. The contractions, at their worst, are definitely as painful for me as the actual birth. I am 6 1/2 months pregnant with my 2nd baby boy and have been in maternity twice for pre-term contractions and activity and without any meds I have been in much pain. Ultimately, every woman, (and every pregnancy), ARE very different- and you should do what is best for you. I WILL agree that you should never let the same person stick you more than twice unsuccessfully. If they can't find the epidural space by then I would request another anaesthetist. Good Luck!

Morgan - posted on 11/07/2012

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Child birth is a beautiful thing!! I just recently had a home/water birth and if i had to do it again, I would!! Yes it hurt like hell but not once did i think pain meds. I focused more on 1 more contraction i will not do again! Between contractions i chatted with family and would rest, telling myself that i can do it! mind over matter :)

as for pain meds, its personal choice. I had a hospital birth with epidural and it didnt work..everyone is different. Good luck :)

Diane - posted on 11/07/2012

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Had mine 30 plus years ago before epidurals, and we did breathing techniques. My pelvis was small, and the doctor should have done a c-section the first time around rather than using an electric vacuum extractor for 55 minutes. Left my rectum torn, to be surgically fixed, even after episiotomy, and two bladder suspensions over the next 30 years. So when someone says c- section would be the worst thing they could imagine, and we do too many, and they would rather die, yada yada yada, I remember all the skin pulled off the forehead of my daughter after being born, and wondering if she'd be "norman." Oh yeah, do what you want for pain, and don't freak out and cry like a six year old if the baby needs to come out surgically. And yes, it was the worst pain of my life.

Tabea - posted on 11/07/2012

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Dear Oca,

"How bas is childbirth?" - I read much negative ideas into these words, and fear. First of all, let me say that I have 4 children, all natural birth, the last in my home. The painful part is actually expulsion of the baby, especially when you have no experience. In my first birth it last 30 min. (6 strong contractions) in the later 2 and in the last two birthes only 1 contractions. So, "pain" is actually not the real problem. I learned that in the first part, until you have real dilatating contractions you need to REST, WALK (in order to make gravity work) and try not to get bored if it lasts for longer. You can do anything you like. In the second part, when the contractions are every 10 to 5 minutes, you have to learn to LET GO and RELAX. This is actually the work your body must do to get the baby and yourself prepared for the the last phase, expulsion. Here, I would recommend to wait for "pressing" as long as you can - it makes labour easier - and follow your INSTINCTS. Actually, pushing the baby out is more a reflex than a real hard work of "pushing"!

As others have already said here, every mum and every birth is different. I can understand your fear. For the same reason, I personally reject medical birth. But if it gives you confidence, than it is fine. Make sure they are not telling you fairy tales. THE ONLY ONE EARTH WHO CAN BIRTH IS THE MOTHER!!! Doctors and medicin can actually not do anything about it. But, if you have good doctor, he can help you with the relaxation, possible nauseas in the birth or similar issues. Make sure, that you doctor will not paint things in rosa in order to promote you any medicine. Get informed yourself about all possible interventions and choose according to your own feeling what is best for you. BIRTH IS AN ACT NOT AN EXPERIENCE! It is not something that "comes over you". But doctors sometimes make it look like this, at least in my country (Spain). A good birth depends very much on yourself, on how you think about beeing a woman, a mother and having a child. It is a very powerful act and has nothing to do with the blue and rosa dress mummies put their babies on later. You will become in that single moment a kind of creator Godess - for good or bad. Or if you prefer to say, you will feel the power of God or nature through you (according your own belief whatsoever). Take birth as an opportunity to learn make decisions in a completely unknown circumstances (which is birth always), to make peace with your life and to know yourself, your spirit and body better. It is first of all a lecture for growth.

If your digust or fear is too strong, perhaps you would even consider to induce a cesarean right from the beginning. Get yourself informed about PRO and CONS and enjoy to have the ability to do what not many can do - give life to a new human! ALL THE BEST!!

Kimberly - posted on 11/07/2012

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yea i think the best thing you can do during your pregnancy, is to exercise. nothing crazy, walk as much as you can without straining yourself. walk around the neighborhood, a mall, up and down your steps, etc. i think that helps with your labor...good luck to all you women pregnant or thinking of getting pregnant.

Natasha - posted on 11/07/2012

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Everyone is different, our hospital does not give epidural's so you just have to get on with it !! second was a lot better than the first. My pain relief was a paracetamol !!

Nichole - posted on 11/07/2012

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You should watch "The Business of Being Born". It's very informational and has many women talking about their experiences. My instructor of Women's Health Issues told me that a study was done that compared women who had epidurals and women who had their babies w/o pain meds where the results were that women in both instances felt the same amount of pain. I have had 5 epidurals and I waited as long as I could before I got each one. I do have some back problems which is normal after having an epidural. So it comes down to how you feel when you are actually in labor. It is painful but you'll feel pain with or w/o pain meds. Hope this helps.

GENEVIEVE - posted on 11/07/2012

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I have had all my 4 babies without any medication and the pain is bearable. Once the baby is out, then it is over!!! You never feel pain at all after that.

Labour pains do not last forever, and you will appreciate your mother the more once you go through this experience and the attachment to your child will be massive. Just go for it.



Wish you luck.

Genevieve

Coby - posted on 11/07/2012

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I have mixed views on medication. I have 3 children my first labour 10 hrs long I had pethadine and gas both made me feel ill and vomit. My second labour 7 hours long I had an epidural and could still feel my contractions maybe it didn't hit me until after when I couldn't feel a thing down there when returned to my room. My 3rd I had nothing at all and a 25 min labour ( contractions for a day before) I wish they were all like my 3 rd but all were an amazing experience. I think do what is right for you , your mind and baby.

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