How bad is childbirth.. really?

Oka - posted on 11/01/2012 ( 641 moms have responded )

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How bad is childbirth... really?



MEDICATED childbirth.



I have ZERO interest in natural childbirth. ZERO. None. I will not do that.



I want all the medication and epidurals possible.



How awful is a first time MEDICATED childbirth?



Is it an absolute nightmare, even with meds and epidural?



Do you feel like you're being hit by a semi truck? A terrible flu level of pain? Or is it not as awful with epidural and pain meds?



I know everyone says "one you see the baby, it's worth it." Sure, but just how PAINFUL is a medicated childbirth during the process? Is it so painful it's traumatic? Is it unbearable and so painful you feel like you won't make it? Is it somehow not so bad?



Does the medication help enough that it's not the worst pain of your life?

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Kerri - posted on 11/07/2012

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From experience i found contractions more difficult to cope with using gas and air and pethidine compared to nothing. Its horrible feeling drugged up and drowsy, with no meds i was really aware of what was happening and able to remember my babies birth, which was lovely.

Kerri - posted on 11/07/2012

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It depends what happens durong the birth. As soon as you have an epidural you are immediately increasing the risk of forcep delivery or c-sec. Forcep sutures usually take more time to heal compared to a natural tear that has been sutured/not sutured depending on the degree of the tear. You are less mobile after assisted deliveries, you will have a catheter in situ with an epi and if you cannot urinate it will be left until you can which isnt very pleasant increases infection rates and could cause long term damage if left in for many days. With a c-sec you will be in pain for a numbee of days. Doesnt seem worth it when naturally the pain is over in a few hours. Labour, birth, parenting should be embraced with an open mind. I wanted a c-sec with my first due to fear of giving birth but wasnt allowed. I wanted an epi.. Anaesthetist was busy, so i gave birth using gas and air and pethidine. My second labour was three hours from waking up in the middle of the night with no pain relief at all. You find subsequent labours tend to get quicker each time... Its worth thinkingabout. My first labour seemed really painful, second was a doddle. See how it is for you. I loved giving birth, would do it again in an instant!

Sarah - posted on 11/07/2012

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Hello, i hope this helps im a first time mum and broke my back at the age of 16 so i am unable to have an epi, my daughter 8m was born face up so i had a sevear back labour, apart from my back pain my contractions were the worst period pain ever but i could handel them i had the gas to help with the back pain, remember with gas keep your eyes closed or it will make you sick, my labour was a lucky 3 1/2 hours i dont think i could have done it any longer due to the back pain if she would have come out the right way and no back pain easy i could have done it for hours, i also tore a lot over 160 souchers, but they are right once they are out and its over and your lookn in your amasingly beautiful babys eyes you do forget and its all worth it,



I hope it helps,

Aimee - posted on 11/07/2012

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I have had two very different experiences. My first birth was an induction and was hours of excruciating pain. I was not offered any pain relief or an epidural and I was so traumatised that I found it hard to bond with my baby. With my second I had a great midwife who looked after me through my whole pregnancy. I went into labour naturally and only asked for pain relief once I was 9cm dilated so they offered me gas. Afterwards I was not traumatised and could bond with my baby normally. I think you need to do what is best for you but know that inductions are one of the most painful childbirths you can have and extra pain relief should be planned for because you can’t always rely on midwifes to do what is best for you. Just my experiences.

Cherie - posted on 11/07/2012

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Oka,



I heard horror stories from family members so when I was pregnant with my first I was totally scared to death of how bad it would be. Let me assure you that it is not as bad as most say. Yes, it does hurt, but every woman is different. I was able to labor and handle the contractions for some of my pregnancies, but on others, I had an epidural. Every pregnancy and every woman's experiences are different.



In defense of going natural, there are many advantages. If the pain is tolerable, this is the way to go. You feel so much better afterwards. Sometimes people have bad headaches from the epidural and afterwards sometimes you are numb for a long time. This means you can't go to be bathroom on your own, so they have to empty your bladder. You cannot move around as well, and it is a slower recovery time. If you can handle natural, and I know many women who have, it makes the recovery so much easier. I do understand that natural is not for everyone, but go in with a open mind. If the pain gets too bad, then, hey, take the epidural. Just don't assume it will be a pain worse than death. I had a friend who would have two contractions and the baby was born. You never know if you can handle it until you experience it.



As for taking an epidural, that is fine if you feel you need to. I had pitocin for several of my pregnancies before the labor pains stopped when I was dilated several centimeters. To get my contractions going again, they would give me a drip of potocin. If you have this, let me assure you, you will want a pain reliever. If you do have an epidural, you may feel some tightness, but for the most part any pain is not felt. The hospital where I went made me lay on my right side after I had an epidural. Sometimes I wished I had the freedom to move around. The needle for an epidural is very big and there is discomfort when they insert it and put the meds into your spine. Again, it hurts, but it will slowly take away the pains of labor.



The disadvantage of an epidural is that it can cause headaches and some people later have back pains and trouble due to the epidural being administered. You have to way the pros and the cons and decide for yourself what you want. As I said above, I was given horror stories about childbirth, but when it was all finished the first time, I sat there and thought, if this is as bad as it gets, this is nothing like some people told me.



Every pregnancy is different, so if you have more than one child, you may want to change your choices. I speak from experience. I have nine children aging from 26 to 7 years old. I know what I am talking about. Yes, childbirth involves pain. Some doctors will give you meds immediately; others will make you wait. Let me assure you, you can do it. People have cancer and so many others diseases which are far worth than the pain you feel in childbirth; also, childbirth does not last for days, weeks, months, or years like others illnesses. You will be in labor for maybe a few hours or many hours. Inform yourself before you go in so you will be able to make informed choices about what you want to do.



I hope this helps you to have a better grasp on what to expect.

Malerie - posted on 11/07/2012

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Like said b4 all women n pregnancy r different. It's a lot mental too...if Ur setting urself that its gonna b a lot of pain, then Ur brain tells ur body to feel that pain. Also if u have a high tolerance for pain matters. I did it w/o drugs n its fine. Yes I was in pain but not unbearable. I had back cramps like someone was twisting my muscles n I felt like I had these knots, Charlie horses or whatever u call them. U know when Ur swimming n Ur toes start to cramp. Yeah that in Ur back. Lol. Well in mine. At one point I saw the pain chart or contraction chart going off, n the nurse asked if I was in a lot of pain I said no. She was like oh, cuz the machine said it was a strong contraction....she screwed me over...after that I felt all the pain. Ha, my brain didn't know I was supposed to scream. Because it was my 1st baby...I've never experienced it b4 so my body didnt know how to react. I'm sure my next pregnancy I'm gonna b screaming blood n murder. Good luck to u n what u choose for Ur labor. Just relax n go w the flow

Linda - posted on 11/06/2012

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of course it hurts i did it nine time all natural so it cant be that bad just do the breathing . it is called child birth once the baby is born you forget the pain and look at the beauty that was made with love . just saying

Anne - posted on 11/06/2012

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If you choose the drugs. Ur baby will be fine. Only you can decide what is best for you. Don't let people make you feel bad for choosing the drugs. It's ur body, ur baby and your choice!

Anne - posted on 11/06/2012

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I had my 1st with epidural because I was induced and knew it would be a while. The bad thing for me was that my body rejected it once i started pushing. The entire time i was fine and didn't feel anything. But 15 minutes into pushing i ended up having to go completely natural. The doctor said sometimes that happens where ur body just rejects it completely once delivery starts. It was horrible for me because i didn't expect it. But it's true what they say. Once it's all over you don't even remember the pain. Im currently pregnant with my second and am considering going natural. It's bad but, not that bad :)

Sara - posted on 11/06/2012

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Honestly, for me, giving birth wasn't that bad. Wasn't fun either, but not as bad as I was led to believe. I got Stadol, which does NOTHING but make you sleepy in between contractions, and then I got an epidural, which NEVER KICKED IN. I gave birth, feeling everything, about 15 min. after getting the epi. Next time I'll just go without, doesn't seem like much of a point if the stuff might not even work. And yeah, contractions were WAY worse than actually pushing her out. They sucked.

Stephanie - posted on 11/06/2012

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Had one with an epidural, it was complicated, but not painful. My second baby was el natural, in the water. By far the best experience was the natural birth. Can't describe the level of hurt, absolutely nothing can compare it to. But I did it and I am proud of myself for doing it that way. When you are going through it, you can't believe women have done this for hundreds of yrs, but they have and so can you. But either way in the end you will have a beautiful baby and it will all be worth it.

If you are stressed about it, then go with the medicated birth and enjoy your pregnancy without the fear.

PS

My natural birth was a 9+ pounder...

Glad I didn't know that ahead of time LOL.

Cherizxe - posted on 11/06/2012

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I would say that every body is different. Allow yourself to have the option of taking pain relief if you need to do so. I waited until I couldn't take it and as my obgyn and I had discussed was given an epidural this took away the pain. I was able to focus on contractions and pushing better. good luck and congratulations

Shamekia - posted on 11/06/2012

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I had an epidural with my daughter. It was easy pushing her out. I was loopy lol I was telling everyone I loved them as she came out. They didn't give me the epidural right away because they didn't think that she was coming so fast. She was my first baby and she was born in less than five hours. You will feel some pain afterward even with drugs especially if your child tears you. It wasn't a nightmare for me. By the time they gave me the epidural, I was almost completely dilated so I probably could have done it without them. I have a high tolerance for pain. I plan to have a natural childbirth next time. I didn't like being loopy like that. I encourage you to do whatever you can handle. :)



ETA: I now have lower back spasms due to the epidural and I can't feel when I have to pee unless my bladder is full. My epidural was done correctly.

Kimberly - posted on 11/06/2012

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With my first I had an epidural despite not wanting one. I had extremely high blood pressure and they felt this would help bring it down. It barely worked for me. They kept wiping my leg with alcohol and poking me to see if it was working and I always felt them. My labor was longest with him. My second I didn't want the epidural again and my OB said that I wouldn't have time for it anyway due to how quickly my labor was progressing....well then he got stuck for 9 hours. I ended up asking for the epi and again it did not work for me and actually slowed my labor. They ended up turning it off. My daughter I absolutely did NOT want another needle in my back for no reason and chose to have nubain (sp) It worked very well and though it still hurt it was definitely tolerable and my labor was short and my body was working as it should. She was born after only being at the hospital for an hour. I am 10weeks along now and provided I do not have to have a c-section (This pregnancy is riskier) I will not do another epidural and if needed I will ask for the nubain again. It was very relaxing without messing with my laboring. Good luck to you!

Vicki - posted on 11/06/2012

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I've read so many of these that say it's like painful menstrual cramps that I could puke. Some people have different kinds of pain. Back labor is terrible, and those who think they can speak for every woman in the world are just plain stupid and ignorant and don't care about anyone else's possible experiences. I hope there is a special place in hell for people who think the know it all. Childbirth can make you feel like you want to die . . . . and that's an absolute fact! The epidural will make it more tolerable, and it shouldn't be that bad for you. And don't listen to these crazy people who try to condemn you for being scared. My god people . . . . what if she was raped but decided to have the baby that was conceived? What kind of people are you? Stop lying any thinking you know it all!

Bridget - posted on 11/06/2012

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In New Zealand epidurals are not offered as often as in other places, I have had 3 Natural births to to be honest drugs didn't enter my mind. I remember the pain but it hasn't stopped me having more children. do what is best for you

Tamara - posted on 11/06/2012

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I had a natural childbirth. It was awesome! You work with your body and have no fear. It was like painful menstrual cramps. So, yeah it hurt, but not like you're going to die. Look, the truth of the matter is, that once you begin intervention with childbirth you are more likely to have complications, all of which are bad for you and baby. It all starts with pitocin, which causes stress in the baby, next thing you know you are having a C-section and you and your baby spend much more time recovering. Pitocin from my understanding makes it more painful because it causes sporadic spasms which is why everyone wants and Epidural. Natural contractions are more rhythmic and helpful. Did I mention the 6" needle that goes into your spinal cord that can paralyze you if they get it wrong. There are breathing techniques you can do to focus on the birth, not the pain. Honestly, it's better to just take the time and energy and give birth! It is such a powerful thing, why drug it up? To sum it up, it is really nothing you can't handle.

Diann - posted on 11/06/2012

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My daughter was 10 Lbs 7 Oz. 22 & 1/2 inches long! Hard active for 45 minutes and by the time she got here all the meds they gave me in the morning where gone. EASY??!!?? Not exactly. UNBEARABLE!? Not even CLOSE! the fact that she was due Sept 3rd and got here on Sept 20th after 3 inducements with the 3rd one taking? carrying her was more an ordeal for me then the birth. ALL WOMEN ARE DIFFERENT! Go with your gut YOU know your body!

Brynn - posted on 11/06/2012

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Its everyones personal preference when it comes to epidurals. I have two daughters and had an epidural with both and wouldnt have it any other way:) It definitely takes the edge off and soothes you as much as it can. I personally had a great experience with both and also did not want to do it naturally. Naturally it is uncomfortable at times but remember you are giving birth not flying a kite ;) Typically the doctor will give you just enough to help the pain and for me it was enough to make the process go great!! Good luck

Diann - posted on 11/06/2012

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OK, I FIRMLY believe that it depends on YOUR thought process going into it.

My Story.

After being induced 3 times I FINALLY went into labor. If the inducement did not take, they would have taken her czarin. (sp) "I" was in hard active labor from 8:00pm to 8:45 PM. By the time she got here the meds they gave me at 7:30 in the morning where DONE! They where out of my system so NATURAL is how I had her. 45 minutes hard active and it was only mildly uncomfortable.

My Sister. Hard active for two days and then had to have daughter taken C Section. Yes she calls me the "B" word when the discussion of labor comes up.

I do not think if you asked her that she would say it was the WORST pain of her life because she has been through a HELL of a lot worse pain in her life. Broken Bones and personal loss.

Like time, it is relative. My suggestion, is:

When you get to the hospital. if you are hurty? Get the meds. If you are fine, Go with it. Listen to your doctor but ABOVE ALL ELSE when it comes to YOU and YOUR BODY!!! FOLLOW YOUR HEART!!!!! You know YOUR body better than ANYONE! If you feel you need meds TAKE MEDS if you feel you do not DON'T! If your Doctor wants to take the Baby C section and you are not to term yet and do not feel that this is right 2nd OPINION!!!!!!! YOU TRUST YOU DEAR ALWAYS TRUST YOU!!!!!! Go with your GUT! and how you feel about this wonderful process!!!!

Heather - posted on 11/06/2012

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A all natural child birth is the best feeling once its all over and done with, i had a medicated child birth for my first son which is 6.5 years old now and had a all natural child birth for my second son which is 5 months old and if i ever had another child i would do it all natural again. the pain tord the end is so bad, idk how i got through it but i did and I'm very happy with my self for it.

Amy - posted on 11/06/2012

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I am on baby #4. And had epidural with pas three and each experience was totally diff. My first And smallest was the worst. She ended up needing to be vacuumed and I got third degree laceration. My second was the biggest at 9 lbs and was the easiest by far I was in labor for 8 hours with only small tear that I didn't feel thanks to Epi. And the last one was best pain wise with Epi I got it as soon as the started induction didn't feel any contractions BUT with that I was in labor for 2 day but was also the easiest recovery. So Epi is def what I recommend cause contractions are worse depending on where u cramp. Mine was always back cramps which is by far the most painful part.

Izarel - posted on 11/06/2012

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My first one was fast and natural without pain medication I got to the hospital 6 cm already at 6:30 am on a friday morning and she was born that same day at 11:28 am. With the second one it was the hardest it was a 24hr labor got there on tues night around 9 pm and had my second baby on wens. at 8:45pm. Got the everything to have him come out natural they put the pitocin, they broke my water and he never descended so they had to do a c-section. I prefer the normal way recovery wise its a lot faster then the c-section and with the c-section and was more in pain then normal way.

Mkmcurcio7 - posted on 11/06/2012

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Read "Childbirth Without Fear" to help the fearful feelings I had from hearing what an awful time my mom had in labor. It must have done the job because both my deliveries were natural; no meds at all. The contractions with the first were intense but only lasted an hour; the actual delivery was easy. The second time was fast and honestly the only thing I felt was the stretching which really wasn't painful. I believe I did have local anesthesia for the episiotomy. Everyone doesn't have it as fast and easy as I did; however, I wouldn't go into it with the idea of being drugged up. My thought is the less drugs the better for you and the baby. Best wishes and good luck for a very tolerable experience.

Kimberly - posted on 11/06/2012

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well for me I have to say..I had 3 children...



1st was a son and I had a local, demeral shot..it didnt help much

2nd was a daughter and I waited til my contractions were three minutes apart, so NO pain medicine

3rd I was induced was a son, I had an epidoral shot once, by the time i was about to get a second blast (lol), he was crowning, so only on shot



at the point you have your child, you may think its the worse pain you experienced, but when its over with, about a week..you will forget the pain..now all mine were natural, not cicering section...sorry about my spelling...stay as active as you possibly can, he does help with your labor..i hope this helps you some...one more thing..WHATEVER PAIN YOU MAY EXPERIENCE, ITS ALL WELL WORTH IT.AND LOVE YOUR CHILDREN.....THEY ARE SOOO IMPORTANT AND DEPEND ON YOU...GOOD LUCK AND PLEASE KEEP ME IMFORMED

Alexandra - posted on 11/06/2012

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It hurts. The worse pain you will ever feel. It hurts more than anything else.

BUT with epidural, it is very manageable. I had epidural with the others, I will have an epidural with this one. I want to enjoy giving birth, not feeling horrible because of the pain.

And yes, after pushing the baby out, you will have no more pain. No more pain from birth, that is.

Then other pains will come: stitches if you have them, hemorroids if you have them, engorgement of the breasts, pumping the milk out, all these are going to be bad too, but nothing like the contractions during labor. And with the baby with you, these new pains are really manageable too because you have to dedicate yourself to your baby.

congratulations!

Martina - posted on 11/06/2012

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Childbirth hurts like a bitch. I had asked for an epidural three times and the nurses kept yelling me i wasnt in that much pain and that i should wait..so i did....my body moved so fast that one hour later i was 10 cm...and the nurses were like " congratulations your ten cm" ...i could have punched that lady lol....so what i learned from this experience is...trust your own body and if it hurts too bad and you tried other forms of relief like water and it just hurts way too bad...demand it and stand up for your self...vecause you are the only one that knows exactly how much pain your in...regardless if it looks like ur anot in alot of pain..you can andhandle it differently...you dont have to be screaming to be in alot of pain....i was quiet and calm...but none theless it still hurt like a bitch...so stick up for yourself....i had a natural child birth with vacuum epesiotomy and forsepts and let me tell you it was not at all how my birthplan was...i wanted all drugs and minimal pain and i didnt get any of that lol...evcept my beautiful baby girl alexis♥

Christina - posted on 11/06/2012

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First of all, it really sounds like you don't need to be having a child at all if you are already so hyped up and freaking out over it. The worst pain I've ever experienced in my life was when I dislocated my hip. The only way a medicated child birth could be the worst possible pain of your life would be if you were going through back labor with preexisting spine issues. I have two kids, the first was a cesarean because she was breached. My second, a son, was vaginal after cesarean and weighed 9 lbs 8.6 oz (unusually large). The cesarean hurt worse because the pain from being cut open and stitched back, lasted for MONTHS afterwards. Note, the first was also the smaller baby by 1.5 lbs



In short, calm down it isn't as bad as you think it is

Minet - posted on 11/06/2012

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I felt no pain... none... until after the baby was born and the drugs were gone. The aftermath is painful, especially if you rip and need stitches. The hemorrhoids for a week or two afterward were the worst with both of my children.



My second came was too fast and I had no time to get drugs so I was forced into natural childbirth. The Lamaze really helped and having someone to calmly help me remember my Lamaze was ever so helpful. The situation was different since I was way too fast to dwell on any pain. I felt the baby's head crown and pass and I felt as though I was ripping but I didn't. That was the most painful part of natural childbirth, one I'm not likely to forget anytime soon (that child is 6 now)



I don't want to scare you but childbirth is painful and if you've never experienced it you just don't know. I hear horror stories about the epidural wearing off and such but having gone through it both ways I can honestly say you're scaring yourself for nothing. It's not as bad as a broken bone or surgery, both of which I've had.



You're going to be a mom. You will find the strength and endurance you need to get yourself through it. I hope this was helpful.

Jannell - posted on 11/06/2012

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Feels like super strong menstrual cramps. It not really all that bad. Being mentally prepared & knowing what to expect, keeps u from panic mode.

How To Run A Home - posted on 11/06/2012

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O.K., here is my two cents. Birth is scary because everyone has a story and you don't know what to expect until you have been through it. It's the one time in our lives we go through this crazy huge event without any real help or guidance. My advice- GET YOURSELF SOME HELP FOR YOU! The doctor, nurses or mid-wife is there for the baby, the doula is there for YOU. It doesn't matter what you choose, some meds, no meds, every med possible. Your doula will be there to answer ALL your questions and help you through EVERY step of the way. I chose NOT to have one because of expense and that was a huge mistake. I wished I had someone there on my side, cheering for me and supporting me and meeting my needs.

I gave birth naturally without meds for both my kids because the horror stories about the epidural freaked me out way more than the pain factor.

The choice is always yours and you will make the best choice for you, just get some help with the gathering all the information so you can make the best decision for you. A doula will help you make an informed choice with YOUR best interest at heart.

Here's a great link to a video about births. Dr. Nancy is fantastic. GOOD LUCK!

http://yourbirthcoach.com/2012/02/08/nat...

Jennifer - posted on 11/06/2012

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I think you need to realize everyone's birth story is different. Each of my pregnancies and deliveries were different with each of my children. The best advice I can offer is develop a pain management plan in advance with your health care provider. They can discuss all of your options and the risks associated with them. I personally opted for an epidural with each of my deliveries. I did not have any adverse effects as a result of them. I must admit once I saw the baby the rest of it didn't really matter.



Good Luck!



Jennifer

Colleen - posted on 11/06/2012

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I've Had 3 kids all births different! I will say this, if you plan on getting an epidural, make sure to let your obgyn know ahead of time so they're ready to accommodate you quickly! My oldest son I had an epidural & it was horrible afterwards! The pain was definitely obsolete while birthing, but massive migraines for 2 days after...I'll talk more on this in a minute. My daughter I had 10 yrs later, different ob, hospital, etc...I was going to do all natural then while in labor haha I changed my mind! I 1st had nubain & it only makes you feel goofy & in pain! I then had the epidural & it rocked!!! NO MORE PAIN! I also didn't have any issues afterwards either. 15 months later I decided to have my youngest boy closer to home & went in asking for epidural right when I got there...they told me I had to wait until I was 4cm. Omg it was the worst pain waiting & then when I was at 4cm it was too late.

Now, there are from what I know, 2 different ways epidurals are administered. 1 being it's kinda like a shot & it can wear off & you have to be around 4cm dialated. The other is like an iv...it's on a drip, can be administered at 2cm not 4cm, doesn't wear off & will not give you headaches after!!! (this is what I had w/my daughter). The type of epidural totally depends on the hospital not the ob though. The bigger the hospital the bigger the staff! The bigger hospitals will have an anesthesiologist on staff that is there at all times. The smaller hospitals have them on an "on call" basis. Had I known this before having my 3rd baby I would've chosen to make the drive to the larger hospital further away from home!

Now, for me, epidurals were great! I felt nothing & childbirth was the most amazing experience ever!! I also tore with all 3 & didn't feel a thing! My advice is just ask your ob about the specific practices of the hospital you're scheduled to give birth at.

Also, you have to remember all women & each birth is different. All of my kids were born within 6 hrs & even if you plan on having meds they may make you wait a bit until they can administer them.

Good luck & God bless you & your family!!!

Leisa - posted on 11/06/2012

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Just remember that with every drug you have it has side effects.... My epidural was 18 years ago and I am still paying the costs for it. I had two more children after my epidural and it caused me to have unbelievable pain with some of the pregnancy.... Think about it first and weigh up your options, u never know u may have a good birth and not need it.... Your body will cope with it and you will be better off for it too....

Cynthia - posted on 11/06/2012

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Seriously Ashtyn don't listen to half of these stories! Well u did ask for it.....but seriously whats the worst thing you can say to a 'new' expectant mum? Your horror labour story! You may be completely different! Youre in it now no turning back & look forward to meeting your little bundle! Inform yourself with positive & correct information! Good luck!

Chelsea - posted on 11/06/2012

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Oh yeah, and the IV medication is a joke. I felt drunk for 20 minutes, and it hardly took the edge off. The epidural was a gift from heaven, but I did have excruciating back pain for several months.

Chelsea - posted on 11/06/2012

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Frankly, it felt like the pain of taking a poop after being constipated for a week, multiplied by 100.



The uncomfortable post-partum stage was worse, in my opinion, than actual childbirth.

They're right. The pain is less intense as you are overwhelmed with a newfound love for your baby, but you don't just forget a pain like that. Especially having stitches in the most sensitive area of your body for a month.



It's no picnic, and there was a point where I just wanted to give up. It hurts a lot! But I'd do it again in a heartbeat. I can't explain why, it's insanity. But yeah, it's worth it.

Casey - posted on 11/06/2012

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I had two babies naturally. From my experience and what I have heard from others, it is your own fear and resistance to what your body is trying to do (move that baby out) that makes the contractions seem painful or like you are suffering.



For my first, I was scared of how intense it would be and I held back. It took three days, and it was not fun. For my second, I completely surrendered to each contraction, allowing my body to do what it needed to do without my brain in the way, and that baby came so fast - wow! Just a few hours altogether. When I surrendered to the process, it was really manageable - just breathing and visualizing. (I recommend practicing breathing and visualizing a fair bit beforehand so that you learn how to keep your attention on track.)



Good luck and strength to you, no matter what you decide, or how things develop in the moment.

Breanne - posted on 11/06/2012

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I have had 2 child births a year apart. The first one I was medicated and had a lot of gas due to the long labor and bad back labor pain, but with my second he was so easy and natural. My second delivery was more enjoyable then the first. But it's right once you see your baby you forget how bad it was. That's what happened with my first. No pain with my second. And I am someone who has very little pain tolerance.

Jacquelyn - posted on 11/06/2012

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I have to agree that every birth is different. I was going to try natural childbirth with my son. We were at the hospital and I was induced in the morning, after they broke my water and the contractions really started, because of my other health conditions, the nurses were coming in my room and telling me I was getting the epidural. I am glad I had one, my contractions were so strong I was screaming in pain, after the epidural all I felt was pressure and I had a friends mom who brought in a stuffed animal that I could squeeze if the pain got to be too much. During the actual delivery I just squeezed the hell out of the stuffed animal and I almost broke my husbands hand. The contractions are so much more bearable with an epidural though. We just found out we arehaving baby number two and I don't even have to think if I want the epidural. If they ask, the answer is yes.

Jennifer - posted on 11/06/2012

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I have 3 boys. I was totally on board for loading up with meds. Unfortunately my body didn't agree. My first baby came 4 hours after we got to the hospital. The nurses were so surprised that I didn't have time to get my epidural. My second baby was also 4 hours after we got to the hospital. This time I begged for it as soon as I got there, but as the epidural doc came in the door, another pregnant lady came into the ER and had been in a car accident and was seizing. The doc apologized (as I was screaming) and had to go attend to the other lady. My third baby was about 2.5 hours after we got to the hospital. They sent me to the pregnancy triage room and every nurse that came to see me got to hear my story :) I got an epidural. Finally. The difference was night and day. Screaming and writhing in pain or laying on the bed patiently waiting for the doc to tell me to push. I had no pain and couldn't even feel much pressure. Do fast labor/deliveries run in your family? My mom had me in record time (first born). Said all the nurses were stunned. Same for my sister and brother. Very fast labor. Guess I should have known! But my sister's labor/delivery was very slow. So, you never know. Just prepare for the worst, hope for the best!! And tell them you want the drugs as soon as possible :)

Jackie - posted on 11/06/2012

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I had a few complications and was in labor over 36 hours. So I was pretty damn miserable even with an epidural. Which they had to do twice! Even though after the second I felt better in my bottom half. I felt like every rib was broken the entire time. But I dread to imagine how I would have felt without the medication. Cause I did feel the pain a couple times after the first epidural wore off a couple times, an I was shaking from the amount of pain. I also was experiencing back labor and was not dilating at all for a while. Even prepped for a c-cection. Luckily, I as able to have a vaginal birth.

Michelle - posted on 11/06/2012

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If you do the epidural it is not that bad if u have a vaginal birth. It is just uncomfortable. I had 2 like u wanted no pain. Don't worry plus the recovery time us short u are just sore make sure u keep the meds they give u on the every 4 hours for at least 3 days. If u think you don't need them u do believe me. You just had a baby come out of u lol

Leanne - posted on 11/06/2012

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you can hardly feel anything with an epidural it s quite comfortable actually and pethidine slows your labour just dont wait too long to get epidural if you need.

Mylinda - posted on 11/06/2012

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I have 3 children. The first was an epidural and was a breeze. The second was emergency c-section (horrible). The 3rd was epidural only birth again. It dulls the pain but you can still feel contractions which is what you need. If you can't feel contractions you can't push and that's what leads to c-sections. I never felt the epidural needle because they numb the area first. I never did extra drugs because I didn't want to drug the baby. Everyone is different and no 2 births are alike. I loved having babies! It is an excitement like no other. Don't be afraid there is instant relief when it's all over.

Mylinda - posted on 11/06/2012

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I have 3 children. The first was an epidural and was a breeze. The second was emergency c-section (horrible). The 3rd was epidural only birth again. It dulls the pain but you can still feel contractions which is what you need. If you can't feel contractions you can't push and that's what leads to c-sections. I never felt the epidural needle because they numb the area first. I never did extra drugs because I didn't want to drug the baby. Everyone is different and no 2 births are alike. I loved having babies! It is an excitement like no other. Don't be afraid there is instant relief when it's all over.

Jessica - posted on 11/06/2012

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I didnt have time to have any drugs! All natural but very painful, but all the pain went n forgot about when I sore my first born!

Theirs nothing wrong with wanting every drug!

Krystal - posted on 11/06/2012

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I had a completely natural birth with my second baby (mostly because I didn't have time for anything else as she arrived not even a half hour after I arrived at the hospital.) But for my first they had given me some medication through my IV. Not sure exactly what it was, kind of like a stronger dose of tylenol or something. and it knocked m out! I don't take much medication to begin with so what they gave me worked wonders and I felt very little pain, but I didn't want to do that again as I was so tired still I don't remember much of what happened immediately after giving birth and I didn't like that so much :(

Diandra - posted on 11/06/2012

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i would put it this way.... how no woman does not die from the pain we endure to give birth is FUCKN amazing.

i only had shitty gas with my first because the midwife was a cow!

and with my second whom was 9lbs 9 oz mind u i had naturally. not on purpose of course i just didn't want to stop to wait for some bastard to shove a needle in my spine. both my births were very fast but.

all the best with how ever u go.

Micki - posted on 11/06/2012

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Go have a tooth pulled with no anesthetic. That's about how painful having a baby with no Meds is. God bless those who do it. But I would never do it!

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