How can help encourage my daughter to go Poo poo in toilet? She will pee in toilet no problem.

Emma - posted on 08/31/2009

THANKS EVERYONE FOR ALL YOUR ADIVCE AND TIPS :) ITS ALL VERY MUCH APREICIATED.

IM GOING TO KEEP OFFERING HER THE TIME TO THE TOILET TO SEE IF SHE NEEDS AND IVE BEEN DOING THE WHOLE GRUNTING AND PUSHING NOISES ETC WHEN SHES ON TOILET AND SHE COPIES ME THINKING ITS REALLY FUNNY LOL SO HEARS HOPING SHE CRACKS IT SOMETIME SOON

IF NOT I AINT GOING TO PANIC AS SHE WILL BEREADY WHEN SHES READY - I WAS JUST REALLY HOPING TO HAVE HER READY BEFORE SHE STARTS NURSERY AND WE GO ON HOLIDAY NEXT MONTH LOL X

Cn - posted on 08/29/2009

wow sounds like my daughter LOL this was something we just CONQUERED a few months ago.
since our daughter had a clear understanding of going to the toilet for peeing and but is somehow just scared of pooping in the toilet, after trying rewards and books, etc, we decided it was time for some tough love.
she was on a dwindling supply of pull ups and we only ever use it when she needs to poop. so we figured she was doing it out of habit. she would even ask for a pull up when she needed to go! we told her everyday that we put on the pull up that once they are gone, she would have to poop in the toilet. the day finally came that we ran out and we would encourage her to go on the toilet every time she had the urge. she wouldn't. i think it was 2 days when she REALLY had to go. i mean it was obvious she couldn't hold it in much longer. she was so upset bec we had no more pull up. i sat in front of her and showed her "how to poop" by making pushing noises and scrunching my face... she started copying me and eventually it came out! i gave her high-fives for that one. the next few days that she had to poop, i would do the same thing until one day, she looked at me and asked "do you need to go poopy mom?" LOL i guess at that point she didn't need reinforcements from me!

Laura - posted on 08/29/2009

Quoting Emma:

How can help encourage my daughter to go Poo poo in toilet? She will pee in toilet no problem.

My daughter will b 3 in Nov 09 and is doing great toilet training pee wise but refuses to poo in toilet.

She will not use potty only toilet and waits until we put her pants on before she poos :( she often takes poo out of pants and says look mummy im big girl ive poo poo'd. My Health Visitor says this is Hannahs way of showing us shes been clever and poo'd as asked but i just need to get her to understand that pooin is for the toilet not her pants.

We have tried to encourage through sticker chart, treats etc but nothing successful eyt :(

Any help/Advice would b much appreciated.

Thankyou Moms :) xx

Maybe shes just not ready to take that final step.  She knows what she is supposed to do, and she will do it when she gets comfortable enough with the idea.  Letting go of that last vestige of babyhood is a big step for some kids.  I did not hurry my kids' own timeline on ptty training and it worked out just fine for us.  If its a big problem for you, maybe you could ease her into it by suggesting that she poo-poo in her pants while sitting on the toilet.  After she gets used to this, she might more easily transition .  This worked well for someone I know.  At all costs, dont turn it into  a power struggle because thats an entire extra issue to have to resolve.

Mindy - posted on 08/29/2009

My daughter too had issues with pooping, and even twice regressed from using it for peeing. When she started pre-school, I made a decision that she wasn't going to go in diapers, and put her in underpants, and was prepared to go through them all, and she decided time for toilet. BUT she would wait until night-time when I would put her in her night diaper to poop. ( or swimmee ....) I think she felt more in control for some reason, so we stopped pushing the issues...slowly but surely she started using the toilet to pooped... at first it was at bath time...and of course, we congratulated her everytime she used it to poop. i believe within 3 months of that she was ready.

Jennifer - posted on 08/29/2009

My youngest daughter just recently became potty trained (shes 2 1/2) and she would go pee no problem but when it came to the dirty one, she didnt like looking at it! Her first time she actaully did go puu in the potty, she was scred out of her mind! seriously! I think it just made her very uncomfortable, but with lots and lots of cheering and potty dances, we have it donw to a tee! But also she will go because she usually doens't like it in her pants! I contribute most of her potty training to big sister (6yrs) because she mimics everything she does and when sissy went, so did she! Keep at it, sooner or later, it will happen!

Jaime - posted on 08/29/2009

I think it's just scary for them to do it in the toilet - when my daughter went through it I just sat with her and held her hands and encouraged her - sometimes that was enough. Other times when I knew she really had to go but was nervous, I wouldn't let her down until she was done. She got the hang of it after about 2 weeks. Lots of cheering when she was done was very helpful, too. And talk about how proud you are of her to other people and make sure she hears you.. the feeling of self-pride works wonders for my daughter! Good luck!

Melody - posted on 08/29/2009

I am going through a similar situation with my four year old. He actually did poop on the potty for about two months and over the past month has regressed. I have tried everything I can think of, candy, toys, stickers, and nothing works. He even started pooping the other night in his underwear when he was in the bathroom!! If you get any good advice please please let me know!!!

Amanda - posted on 08/29/2009

My 22month old was doing the same thing, so I knelt in front of her on the toilet and made a 'grunting game'. She thought it was funny and mimicked me and was surprised when the little poop dropped. Now she thinks it's all a game and actually prefers to poop in the toilet.

And for all my kids, if they poop in their pants, I put them in the shower to clean them off with not-so-warm water. They hated it, but I told them I HAD to get them clean... they soon stopped because they dreaded the chilly shower. Tough love lol

Tanya - posted on 08/29/2009

i had the same problem. Lolly bribes did not work - my daughter wanted to do her poo in her nappy rather than have a lolly and do it in the potty! So I increased the reward to little toys (just cheap ones from the discount shops) and bigger lollies that she never got (Freddos and things like that) which I took out of a special 'lucky dip' bag and that worked. After a few weeks she was doing her poos on the potty and stopped asking for rewards. Hope something works for you soon. It's hard work!

Gillian - posted on 08/29/2009

i was having the same problem with my son. he will be 5 in december and only in the last 12 months he has been usint the toilet for his poo. like you, i thied everything, sticker charts, lucky dip prizes and even lollies. finaly i took him to a gastric pediatrician. turns out he had irittable bowls.

i would try the pediatrician. i know how frustrating it is.