how can i deal with my 3 year olds paddys?

Claire - posted on 01/22/2009 ( 5 moms have responded )

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I have a 3 year old little girl ( well she will be next week!) I am having really problems with her having tantrums and paddys when were are out. She screams shouts and even just sits on the floor oftern for no reason at all!. I dont want to put her back in a pushchair but i am out ideas!

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Jodie - posted on 01/22/2009

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that is how she knows she gets both your 100% attention you need to ignore her while doing it and pretend you don't care, tell her that sort of behavior is not acceptable etc do not praise her in any way until her behaviour changes then reward her for it. its not a nice thing to have to go through but give it a few days and it will work as she will know its not a way to get the attention and with people that look at you for doing it most will understand if they have kids them selves.
not sure if you get a programme on tv called the super nanny by mate she is the bomb!!

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Kay - posted on 01/22/2009

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If it is out of sight, it is out of her mind. At first she may throw a fit, temper tantrum, etc. Tell her you are falling for it. Your the boss, she is not. Tell her to knock it off or there is going to be a consequence to her action. Do you believe in disclipining your child. Tell her there is a consequence with each action. Sit her down for three minutes, or use element of suprise. Don't put up with her temper tantrums.

Naomi - posted on 01/22/2009

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Been there done that. I have 3 boys 6,3,2. I still stick my 3 year old in the pushchair if he's having a tantrum. I also keep walking. i have been know to drive over the kids with the push chair ( not really but you kind of lift the front then the back and just keep walking.) Take a book or a mag with you and just move to the side and ignore her. If you feel like everyone is watching or trying to talk to her. I also had a little sign that said "Please ignore my child their are having a tantrum." If you are in a supper market. I draw a shopping list on my sons hands and go through it with them. They then have to "fill" their list.  I also am a fan of rains you can get them now which a cutie little animal back packs. It gives them freedom with bondaiys.  So you can give them a choice hold my hand, put the rains on or ride in the pushchair. If she want hold your hand or pop the rains on then  put her in the push chair

Vicky - posted on 01/22/2009

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i agree, my daughter is also three nearly four. she still hasnt grown of having a paddy - dont think she ever will. i find getting her involved with what im doing usually helps and playing 'eye spy' keeps her occupied.  when she does have a paddy i just ignore her and leave her and walk away and hide, she soon comes running to find me. i also warn her that i will take away her toy and dvd time, she soon gives in then x



 

Vicky - posted on 01/22/2009

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Generally ignoring her may ease the problem.You could also get her more involved in the shopping.And i find when she sits on the floor if you keep walking just out of sight so she cant see you but you can see her you wil probably find that she will run to catch up with you.

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