how do i deal with a picky eater?

Martha - posted on 02/06/2009 ( 13 moms have responded )

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i have a 5 yr old that is not only picky, but won't even try anything out his his usual repertoire. PLEASE give me advice on opening up his mind.

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Hi Martha



This is a hard one.  Children who are picky eaters, 9 time out of 10 know what they want to eat.  The best way I've learned to combat this problem is not to give them a choice.  If your making chicken for dinner then that's what's for dinner.  If the child does not want to eat them they are not hungry enough yet.  Sooner or later they will get the point.  It could be a number of reasons why they won't eat 1. They don't like the texture of the food, 2. the taste of the food, or 3. they could have low taste buds and they can't taste the food.  I would say as long as the child is not loosing any weight, is drinking fluids they not to worry.  They will eat when they are ready.  Take way any juck foods until they eat a good meal.  But if you are giving them choices, the stop.  Let them eat what you eat.  Trust me.  It worked for me.  It's hard at 1st but it does work over time.  I hope this helps. You can always give them Pedisure to give back what they are missing.



Sharon



 

LeeAnn - posted on 02/06/2009

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Serve him his favorites, but put new foods on his plate also.  don't push it as he sees everyone else eating he will try it eventually.  Keep making the new items available.  Our tastes change with age and our willingness to try new things too.

April - posted on 02/06/2009

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oh this is all too familiar ... i have a six year old who's diet consists of basically five foods.  Mostly chicken nuggets. :) When I want him to try something new, I give him a 'prize' for trying it.  And I tell him that he only has to try it once and then I won't ever ask again. :)  He'll usually give in if I'm persistant enough... and gentle. And then sometimes he ends up liking it.  Other times he doesn't, and that's okay... i feel better that at least he tried it.

Sherita - posted on 02/06/2009

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Hi I have an 8yr old who has been picky since he was 3. He has just started opening up to more vegetables and different dishes. I found if I cut his food in different shapes or small pieces and did the same with mine he would at least taste 2 or 3 bites. I also explained to him he needed it to get the muscles he wanted like spiderman.

Jackie - posted on 02/06/2009

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When I had this problem I just stopped talking about food with him. I would make dinner, put a lttle of everything on the plate and if he ate, he ate. If he didn't he didn't. Pretty soon he let up on me with the food war. It becomes a battle of the wills, think about it, the only thing he can control is what he eats really, and if you are trying to convince him etc,,, then he will just fight you. I always told mine I would like him to at least sample everything and if he didn't there was no more food after dinner. ( bedtime snack or dessert). Also I'm not sure if you do this but don't make other food for him. Let him eat what you eat and if he doesn't eat he'll eventually get hungry enough to try something new. Oh and add something new to dinner every night (if you can) and make a game out of it. Maybe let him pick the new food.

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Rebecca - posted on 01/15/2014

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My 4 yr old is a very picky eater, but I read a good book called "how to get your kids to eat without a fight" and it changed the way I think. I do a few new tricks... 1) I started including him in making dinner and I let him pick the veggie we eat every night. 2). I stopped fighting with him about eating. If he does not want to eat what we are and instead tells me he just wants yogart and an apple, I just let him eat that. I am not saying make a comletely different meal than what you are having but if he doesn't want to eat what we are serving as long as whatever else he wants is healthy and available for him to grab hinself I let him do it. 3). One day a week is Hayden picks dinner night...it's normally spag or chicken but he gets super excited and has even started asking me what I am going to pick on mommy picks dinner night.

What has happened over the last 3 months is amazing...he started eating with us. I just had to learn to pick my battles and realize that he may not like what we do and as long as he is eating healthy I don't really care what it is.

Debbie - posted on 02/06/2009

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I totally agree with Jackie , when my boys were small I would make a picnic on a blanket on the floor just before dinner with veggies like broccli and calliflower calling them dinnosaur trees , they were excited about the game and would pretend they were dinnosaurs , so they would eat a little veggies before the sitdown at table , so during dinner I didn't nag them to eat any veggies knowing they had a serving just before and our mealtime was much more peaceful ...... as they got older it wasn't a issue, I had other children that wouldn't eat a thing that wasn't chicken fingers and fries or cheese sandwiches ( fosterchildren) all you can do is keep offering and hope that someday they will accept ... I went through all the emotion of feeling hopeless and frustrated , so the best thing is to know a child will not unless they have a medical condition starve themself...goodluck

Angelika - posted on 02/06/2009

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Jackie is dead on! My 8 yr old daughter and I would go round and round for hours, with both of us in tears by the end. This went on to the point that I asked the dr. He said that if we weren't careful she would end up with food issues down the line. The last thing I want is her having an eating disorder. There are no more discussions at the table. She still tries to put up a fight here and there, but it usually coincides with something else going on in our lives. It is all about power & control. I calmly remind her that this is what's for dinner... eat it or don't. There won't be anything else. She only has until bath time to finish, then the kitchen is closed. I make sure to put a variety on her plate, NEVER tell her to "clean her plate" and I don't freak if she doesn't eat anything at all. I make sure she takes vitamins, drinks V-8 Fusion (light) and she will usually make-up for it @ breakfast. I still struggle with being so firm with her, more so when she is telling me I'm "the WORST mom in the world!" I just remind myself, I'm helping her out for the future. Hang in there. As my doc pointed out... Most kids don't starve themselves! LOL

Kelly - posted on 02/06/2009

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I absolutely agree with Martha at the bottom. Don't give choices, make your dinner, if they want desert they have to eat what is in front of them. But make it clear that no eat dinner, no get anything else before bed. No snacks no food. Nothing.

Leah - posted on 02/06/2009

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I have a picky eater as well. It's a texture thing and not wanting certain things. What I do is tell her to smell it and take a tiny taste. If she doesn't want it, that's fine but she won't get anything else to eat. She'll eat when she's hungry. I do also give her Pediasure for my benefit knowing that she's getting what she needs.

Sherita - posted on 02/06/2009

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Hi I have an 8yr old who has been picky since he was 3. He has just started opening up to more vegetables and different dishes. I found if I cut his food in different shapes or small pieces and did the same with mine he would at least taste 2 or 3 bites. I also explained to him he needed it to get the muscles he wanted like spiderman.

Laura - posted on 02/06/2009

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My five year old son is the same. I have got him to try new foods by saying things like batman or superman eats those things thats what makes them strong. Maybe if your son have a fav super hero or program try the same thing. hope it helps

Christine - posted on 02/06/2009

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not too sure as my son is onli just coming up 2 and he been a bit picky too with his food.

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