Taylor - posted on 06/03/2012 ( 52 moms have responded )
My mother won't let me have my wedding near where I live (8 hours away from the rest of me and my fiance's families) and while I don't think it's fair that we have to be punished for actually making it out of our home town, I don't like to start conflict so I'm going with it. This also means that I'm planning a wedding from 8 hours away and everything I'm choosing is being based off of photographs and my mother's personal opinion. So far my beautiful, outdoor, DIY wedding at an apple orchard with the Blue Ridge as a back drop has turned into a disgusting mix of beach and redneck- two things my fiance and I specifically ran away from. Also, I'm not getting to do all of the fun stuff that I was looking forward to like cake tasting, and dress shopping. I'm not even getting a shower. I feel like this isn't even my wedding anymore. What do I do?
I tried talking to my mom about some things that I wanted for the wedding and that it would be a hassle for me to cart my son (who will be one) on a cross-state trip, and she completely ignored me. The first few times I thought maybe Skype was acting up, but after an hour of blatant topic changes I figured out that she wasn't going to listen.
Also, a few people have asked if she's paying: No. My dad is paying (parents are divorced). Mom promised to pay for my dress, but ended up blowing all of her money before we had a chance to order it, and she doesn't exactly have a job to save up again.