How do I get all my kids to do chores everyday without fight and argument as who did what and who di

Beatrice - posted on 12/07/2009 ( 9 moms have responded )

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I would like all my children to help out around the house with daily chores without them saying so and so didn't do anything or never does anything ? They always fight and argue or they just don't do anything and the house looks like a tornado went through. ARRRRRRRRRRRRRRGGGGGG

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Kathleen - posted on 12/07/2009

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design a spreadsheet and allocate a price to each chore

put a price against each chore. ie make your bed is worth 10p, make packed lunches for family members - 20p, etc etc. then at the end of the week tot up all money earned and that is there pocket monkey. deduct money for having to tell them more then twice to do a chore

Melinda - posted on 12/07/2009

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Make a chart on an erase board or something similar, that rotates each chore every day or so for each child..This way they can't complain. You can also make a game out of it and award something for whoever finishes all of their chores first. :)

Michelle - posted on 12/07/2009

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I agree with chore charts but you can also put a much of chores in a jar and they have to pick put 3 or how ever many you think and do thoses all week. That why they get to draw a chore and change it up. I also make my kids make their beds every morning as part of our routine.

Betsy - posted on 12/07/2009

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I agree with the chore chart. We did ours with points with our older kids. They earn points for what they are suppose to do, which the option of earning extra points only after they did their regular jobs. They can also lose points for bad behavior. Then all their fun time was bought with their points. Everything had a point amount from 1/2 hr of tv time to play dates to bigger things they could save up for like sleepovers and trips to the arcade or movies. If they did their normal chores, they had the opportunity to have lots of fun. It was in black and white and put the responsiblity on them, so rather than us punish and then feeling we were just mean because they couldn't hang out with a friend, they couldn't argue it because it was in black and white on the chart and was on them, not just our saying it. It worked so great we got to the point we didn't even need to use it because they did their responsibilities without any argument, but I would pull it out again and for the younger kids anytime I feel it is a needed tool. Funny thing is, when we used this, they had more fun time than ever, with everything getting done. They realized that quickly.

Veronica - posted on 12/07/2009

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I agree that you should make a chore chart...this would make things a lot easier....that way when something does'nt get done you can refer to your chart to see who did'nt do their chore for that day :)...

Melissa - posted on 12/07/2009

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I completely agree with Teresa and Jennifer, a chores List would make your life a whole lot easier. It's something they can physically see so no one can accuse anyone else of not getting their work done. They should each be responsible for their own rooms/beds, however I think they should take turns doing different chores instead of assigning the same child to the same one each time. That way no one can later accuse another child of having an "easier" chore. I also liked the idea of giving a reward at the end of the month. GL ! : )

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Create a chores chart to keep track of the chores and mark them off when they are done. You can also rotate the jobs. For example, one child unloads the dishwasher while the other takes out all the trash and then the next day the jobs switch. Or they choose a job that they promise to always be responsible for. I always vacuumed and my sister always dusted. We were also responsible for cleaning our own room and making our bed every day. If toys didn't get picked up then they were taken away. My mom would put them away for a week or a few times she gave them to charity. At the end of the week we did not get our allowance unless our chores had been completed.

Teresa - posted on 12/07/2009

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First off I tell my kids (only have two) to stay in their own lane. We also have a chore list posted on the frig with a place they will check off themselfs. at the end of the month if every box is checked and the work done without me telling or asking then they can go to dollar store and pick out one thing. there has been times when no one gets to go and when olny one get to go. that has worked for us. :-)

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