How do i get my 3 year old to behave??

Lori - posted on 10/14/2010

as a childminder i can not put children on naughty steps/ pillows/ corners. send them to bed or tell them they are naughty because it is demeening to the child. we are told to reward good behaviour. praise your child every time they do something good, as bad as it sounds its like training a dog? you give a dog a treat every time it gives its paw. you have to praise your child everytime they do good ( if they hang up their coat) praise them on how well they hung it up and how it made you happy they helped. a child dosent always know whene they are naughty, you have to explain by getting down to their level. make eye contact and explain why you didnt like what they did. its hard takes ages but it does work.

EILEEN - posted on 10/14/2010

All Children that do not behave in these days now is rubbed off for what there parents were like in there yong er days them selfs . Just think about it or ask your parents to find out what you did when you was very young

Bridgette Renea - posted on 10/14/2010

Do you still have them books?

Bridgette Renea - posted on 10/14/2010

I have tried time out and she wont stay still i tried taking her toys away and cartoons it seems to not work, i retried the same steps over but it seems she want to continue.

Anna - posted on 10/14/2010

With my daughter I found out that when she ate fruits and vegetables and made sure she had something to eat every 2 hours that her bad behavior was gone.

EILEEN - posted on 10/14/2010

WATCH SUPER NANNY AND PICK UP SOME USE FULL INFO FROM THAT from Eileen Beverley

Louise - posted on 10/14/2010

At three she should know that hitting is not right. Personally I agree with Jodi about the time out as this worked for me raising two boys and it is something I will use with my daughter when she starts to push the boundaries. Either clear her room or have a corner in the lounge with a cushion in it and tell her from now on if you hit people or you are not playing nice then you will sit there for three minutes do you understand. As soon as she starts then warn her that she will go to time out and then carry out the threat if she continues. The first couple of times you will have to put her back on the time out spot as she will just get up. I found it easier to have time out in their room with a stair gate on the door. When the time out has finished go and talk to her and tell her why she was in time out and if she has hit somebody then make her apologise. If you stick to the same punishment every time she is naughty she will know what to expect and hopefully this will help her modify her behaviour. Also you did not say whether you have spanked your child if you do she is more likely to lash out at others as it is a learnt responce. Try the time out is does work. A child should be in time out for a minute per year of age.

Jodi - posted on 10/13/2010

Are you being consistent when you "try everything"? Because you can't just try one thing and then if it dowsn't work after a couple of times, try something different. You have to be consistent over a long period to be effective. And you have to have patience.

Different things work for different children. Time out worked for my daughter. It still does. I have a corner in our hallway, just outside the family room that is her time out corner. And yes, I HAVE had to pick her up and put her there kicking and screaming. I have had to spend long periods of time getting her to stay there. But I perservered, was consistent with it, every single time she displayed the behaviours I didn't want. 3 minutes for a 3 year old - and IF they get up and leave before time is up, it starts over.

She is now 5 and I only have to tell her time out and she goes.

What have you tried?

Diane - posted on 10/13/2010

I will share two books with you that changed me and my way to raise my girls. A friend sent one set to me after I called her clear in Alabama crying because my kids were so naughty. I thought it was my daycare kids' fault they were not listening to me, but that was 4 years ago this coming spring and everything has changed, it took many hold my breath moments and I had to change. Kids are naughty by nature. Luckily I read these before I heard my first "I don't like you mom". I was prepared. You realize it takes about 4-6 weeks to create a good habit, but only moments to gain a bad habit. To train up a child and The Heart of Anger. I suggest the first one to begin. Let me know if I can be of service or if you need anymore help