How do I get my 3 year old to stop using the pacifier ?

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Are you sure you want to go without a binkie?  My three year old uses her's to sleep and I'm okay with that.  If I were to take it away nap time would be a thing of the past.  There is no harm done to teeth (My friend is a dentist) and a well rested three year old is much better than a crankie one.

Jennifer - posted on 03/29/2009

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It takes 7 days to break a bad habit they say and I have always found it to be true.  Have them collect all the pacifiers in the house and put them in a special bag...the nicer its decorated the better and tell them that the pacifier fairy is coming to bring them to babies who need them since a 3-year old is no longer a baby.   You may have it go easy and you may not but DON"T give in!  When the tantrums have ended or the following day  have a special big kid surprise waiting that the fairy left as a thank you from all the babies.  The more fun you make it the better...good luck

Tammy - posted on 03/29/2009

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just take it and throw it in the trash bin. make sure they see you do it. and don't talk about it anymore. they will cry, but trust me, they will sleep eventually and so will you, and it's a lot easier than I ever thought it would be

Belinda - posted on 03/26/2009

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Quoting Belinda:



Start by getting him to only use it during sleep time and saying good bye to it each time he gets up in the morning. When he is doing that on his own then you can move on to completely removing it from him.





 

Tometria - posted on 03/26/2009

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Don't lie. Ween the child off of it. try not to give it often. tell her the truth.

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Yvonne - posted on 03/30/2009

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This is what I did when my daughter would not give up her pacifier.  I have a calendar on my refrigerator and on Sunday I walked my daughter with her pacifier and favorite pillow case to the calendar and explained that she was a big girl and that big girls don't need a pacifier anymore.  I explained that mommy doesn't use one and others in the family (using names of course) didn't need one because they were big girls.  Then I told her that today is Sunday and I pointed at the calendar, and that on Friday (also pointing at the calendar) the pacifier will go bye bye.  I put a big red X when Sunday was over and explained it to her again.  I did this everyday for a week.  Come that Friday we walked to the calendar and she handed me the pacifier (I didn't even have to ask for it) and said bye bye pacifier and I let her put the big red X on Friday and she never asked for it again.  Eventually I did the same thing with her pillow case.  It worked for me everytime.  Just remember she can not be upset when you try to explain this too her and use a calm and soothing voice.  If it doesn't work the first time, wait a week or two and try again.  Good Luck!

Kristen - posted on 03/29/2009

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This may or may not work. my youngest daughter was 10 months old and she was teething and of course she already had a couple teeth and had already used them on me while trying to put orajel on her gums.LOL! I didn't want to get bit again so i put the orajel on the tip of her paci for her teething pain. The next time i tried to give her the paci she refused it because i guess she associated it with making her mouth numb. I felt horrible becuase i wasn't trying to get rid of it yet, but it worked and now i won't have to break her from it later. Hope this helps and if you try this i would use a very small amount and for an older child ,discreetly!

Kay - posted on 03/29/2009

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try telling him,that he';s far to big,,and to throw it,,as it's not a good habit,just work with that..

Karrie - posted on 03/29/2009

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Right before my son was 3 he couldnt find his binky and I told him that I had no clue where it was and I did cause I saw it under a toy, he went to bed without it and the was the best night sleep ever cause he did not wake in the middle of the night cause it fell out of his mouth haha. After he fell asleep I threw it away and he didnt ask for it agian. I heard cutting the tip helps but with my son I couldnt cut it cause he chewed a whole in it and it was his favorite binky and the only one he wanted. It also helped by only giving it to him when it was nap or bed time. It was never aloud outside of the house

Janelle - posted on 03/29/2009

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thank god my child never had binkies so i didnt have to worry but i heard something fun and adorable for kids.   try the binky fairy.  you tell the child to give you all of their binkies.  buy balloons with helium and tie the binkies to the balloons.  have the child write a note to the babies in need of binkies.  then let the balloons free.  dont worry about the balloons because if they get stuck in a tree it'll come down eventually.    or recently on nanny 911 another form of the binkie fairy is a doll with a net---the child puts their binky in the fairy net and at night the fairy will deliver the binkies to babies who need them (you can just clean them and donate).  in the morning place a simple present or toy in the net for the child who gave up their binky.  this will show them that they dont need it any more and they got something special in return just like the tooth fairy would.

Tracy - posted on 03/29/2009

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hi Tara- my 2 youngest children had their's for ages!!! I hated the bloomin' things esp as their teeth started to grow in a circle instead of a straight line!! With Megan I told her that she was a big girl and we needed to give the dummies to the children who didn't have any. She was excellent and saw that as being very kind!! Ollie just threw his away with a bit of pesuasion and it was replaced with a lovely blanket-he looked after this for about 4yrs!!! Good luck!!

Kim - posted on 03/29/2009

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My 2nd child actually did lose it at a circus with grandma and grandpa!!! When she got home she said it dropped all the way down the stairs. I told her we didn't have another one! She was fine!!!!

My 1st one threw it out the window and said bye! At night we picked it up and it was never to be seen again!

April - posted on 03/29/2009

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Tell her she is a big girl and let her throw it away. when she throws it away you can remind her  that she threw it away and she won't throw the fits.

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my son was 3 adn i hated that darn pacifier! he would have one in each hand and one in his mouth. we started with he could only have it at bed. then we actually cut the tips of all of them. (we said the cat must of eaten them) I know some friends leave them for the easter bunny or santa clause and in turn get a special treat! (or the child can hide the binkies for the bunny and in turn the bunny will hide eggs for the child)

Eileen - posted on 03/28/2009

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what I did was clipped a tiny hole in the tip of it with finger nail clippers. My son told me that very day he didn't want it any more.

Eileen - posted on 03/28/2009

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what I did was clipped a tiny hole in the tip of it with finger nail clippers. My son told me that very day he didn't want it any more.

Wendy - posted on 03/28/2009

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With the Easter Bunny coming in a couple of weeks you could tell him that the Easter Bunny needs his pacifiers to give to other babies that need them. I have a friend that gave her daughter's to Santa Claus.

Julie - posted on 03/28/2009

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Your child is old enough to understand that it is for babies, you could convince her that a baby that you know or have around needs them and ask her to give them to the baby. She might feel so excited to help a baby she would forget about them. Good luck

Julie - posted on 03/28/2009

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Your child is old enough to understand that it is for babies, you could convince her that a baby that you know or have around needs them and ask her to give them to the baby. She might feel so excited to help a baby she would forget about them. Good luck

Barbara - posted on 03/28/2009

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For my son it was cutting the tip off the passy! It worked! Bed time was a bit worse but after a few days he was completely over it. Good Luck!!

Cydney - posted on 03/28/2009

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I cut just a little bit off the top of the soother. My son was mad at me but soon stop wanting the soother.

Anne - posted on 03/28/2009

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With both our kids when they were 2 we took them to a toy store and told them they could pick something out, but they had to pay for it with their pacifier. They both gave the cashier their pacifier and that was that.

Heather - posted on 03/28/2009

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I talked with my son for about a week about becoming a big boy and when he becomes a big boy the pacifier fairy comes and takes all of his pacifiers and leaves him with a big boy gift! He was so excited about giving the fairy coming he packed all of his pacifiers into a plastic bag and even drew the fairy a picture. The next morning he found the toy (it was something inexpensive but something I knew he wanted when we were at the store) under his pillow and told me the fairy was bringing his pacifiers to a baby.

Felicia - posted on 03/28/2009

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I know some people say it is ok for the babies to keep the pacifier because it doesn't bother their teeth, but it really isn't a good habit to let them keep. I just stopped giving it to my daughter during the day and used it for bedtime. Eventually I started to lay her down without it and it worked after 2 weeks. She cried but when she realized she wasn't getting it anyway she stopped.

Kristen - posted on 03/28/2009

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Just throw them away. eventually, he won't need one anymore. And pacifiers DO cause teeth problems, I've witnessed it, not with my daughter, but with other people's children. You don't want your child having braces when he gets older

Heather - posted on 03/28/2009

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We told our kids that if they wanted to use the pacifier they would have to sit on their bed to use it. It usually took a few days, but eventually they wanted to be out playing

with the rest of the family. You have to be consistant with this or it just won't work. There will be crying and screaming, but it has worked for us and we have 5, all with different personalities!

Lisa - posted on 03/28/2009

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I don't know if you could use this one, however my Mom used this with my older sister. My Mom collected all of my sisters pacifiers and on Easter morning when the Easter bunny came my Mom told her that the Easter bunny replaced all the pacifiers with little toys and candy in her easter basket. She said the Easter bunny thought that she was such a big girl that she didn't need them anymore. It worked for my Mom. It's funny because she just told me this the other day. Another one that my friend used with her son, she had a pacifier going away "party" and had he son throw them away in the trash and they did a dance because he was now a "big" boy. Hope these help....

Marci - posted on 03/28/2009

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Get the scissors, cut the rubber part of the passy right in front of your child! I did that with two kids, and it worked. Just explain that they are now broken.....all done.

Macaela - posted on 03/28/2009

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We had our nukkies go to the nukkie fairy! At night give him a bag to put outside under a tree and wait like an hour and have someone replace the nukkie with a stuffed animal! My kids thought that it was cool!

Belinda - posted on 03/28/2009

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Hi, this is a very hard thing to do. My son gave his up when he was about 3. He had to have 2 at once. he had to hold one and suck the other. At 3 he was old enough to talk to and understand. We went to the shop and picked a toy that he really wanted. The deal was he couldnt have the toy until he finished a reward chart. The toy was place where he could see it but couldnt reach it. Every night he slept without it he got a star. If he felt he couldnt sleep without it that was ok but we explained he wouldnt get a star for his chart. Leaving him to decide what was more important. He did decide the dummy a couple of nights but every morning he looked at his toy with excitement and asked if he could have it. We just kept saying when you fill the chart with stars. This only took about 2 weeks and no restless nights as it was on his terms. we tried this technique with toilet training and eating his dinner at night. It worked well each time.



You could try doing this if your child needed the dummy all day but I had managed to slolwy cut it down to sleep time only by telling him if he wanted it he needed to go to bed.



 



good luck and remember you dont see kids at school with dummys.

Cindy - posted on 03/27/2009

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Try walmart and get the nail bitting stuff. I put it on all of her pacifiers and every time she would put them in her mouth then I would put more on it. And it doesn't taste very good try that and see if it will work for you.

Cali - posted on 03/27/2009

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I haven't read anyone's response, but my friend's kid is 2 1/2. He said that he told his son that the babies at the hospital need the pacifiers the other day. So they gathered all of them up, stuck them in an envelope, addressed them and he walked out to the mailbox and "mailed" them to the babies that needed him. He said son cried that night and really wanted them and he reminded his son that the babies needed them more than he did. His kid got over them being gone pretty quickly.

Amy - posted on 03/27/2009

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try like the Easter bunny come and take it  we use that the Halloween Gost came and took our Son and it work it been 3 years this year

Amy - posted on 03/27/2009

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try like the Easter bunny come and take it  we use that the Halloween Gost came and took our Son and it work it been 3 years this year

User - posted on 03/27/2009

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Let her throw it away, she may cry for it for 1-2 nights then forget about it. But since I see the baby in your pic, she may replace it with his, so you may need to get rid of his too!

Andrea - posted on 03/27/2009

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I cut my daughters binky clean off at the plastic so no part of it could be sucked on. I cut it in front of her so she new it was broken... My friend had her daughter give her binkies to a baby who went to her daycare cause the baby needed them more than she did. 

Andrea - posted on 03/27/2009

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I cut my daughters binky clean off at the plastic so no part of it could be sucked on. I cut it in front of her so she new it was broken... My friend had her daughter give her binkies to a baby who went to her daycare cause the baby needed them more than she did. 

Andrea - posted on 03/27/2009

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When my daughter turned three on Her BDAY the Binky Fairy came, she was a beautiful  fairy I saw her pass my door in a goergous light blue Fairy Dress! I hear she chooses special kids and takes their binky's and gives them to little babies that need them! That's my story and I'm sticking too it!!!!!

Sheila - posted on 03/27/2009

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If you know an elderly person who can tell you when the signs will be in her knees, I know it sounds crazy but it worked for my son.

Megan - posted on 03/27/2009

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I gave my daughter a long countdown of a few months till her birthday, about two months away and reminded her often that it was going to happen. i said we were going to put it on the window sill and that pacifier fairies would come and take it because she was older now and the new babies needed it. the fairy left her a note and a big girl present. it worked well and the plan is to implement for my son we begin in a few months and the count down will be when he begins pre- k in sept
hope this helps
megan

Lucie - posted on 03/27/2009

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I suggest, pick a time,say easter... and tell them that the easter bunny takes them when he leaves eggs like a fair swap, and gives them to all the little babies in the world, worked with my oldest

Rebecca - posted on 03/27/2009

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Ok if you have seen that show called "Super Nanny".....or something consisting of that..I took her advice that she had...there was a little boy who just didn't want to give up his pacifier (and his was like 3 or 4), and the nanny told him about the "Pacifier Fairy." So she got him an envelope with the fairy's address on it(the addres doesn't really have to be real) and that if he gave her his pacifier there would be a surprise waiting for him and (we put the envelope in the mailbox that night and then we put a surprise at the front door for him the next day).....and it actually works! I did it with my son when he was like 1 1/2. We just got him a small toy that he wanted and put it infront of the door and rang the door bell and let him open it and find the surprise all wrapped up!. I hope that this works for you, it worked for us! Good luck!

Wendi - posted on 03/27/2009

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i had this problem. i slowly only started to allow him to have it at bedtime. after he got used and comfy with that i started saying about twice a week it was lost. then gave him a special sleep time stuffed bear. then it he went somewhere id tell him that it was left there. then i would "search" the house for a spare. now we are binky free and no complaints. though there was a time where he just refused to sleep without it and had to buy one. but the last spare we had he cut in half and threw it away! i said you do that thats it. no more bink. and that was that.

Shauna - posted on 03/27/2009

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We left ours for the Easter Bunny.  He was giving them out to the new babies who needed them.

Jo - posted on 03/27/2009

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PS - My daughter is 16 years in a few days time and she is none the worse for having a pacifier until age 4! Hang in there! They are little people remember and we all have minds  of our own, so why should they be different!

Jo - posted on 03/27/2009

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Hi Tara, my daughter also had one until she was 4. I then told her she was a big girl now and she needs to throw it away . She wasn't too keen on that idea and then one day she did and we never looked back. All in their own time. I see you have a younger child. It would be interesting to know whether the baby also uses a pacifier. If so, then it could be a comfort issue with the older one or because baby has one she feels she needs one too. Don't hurry it though, as I said - All in good time! Good luck

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Well I had my son wanting his all the time he was almost 3 ..so we just stopped giving it to him and we told him it was hurting his teeth. He said ok and he just threw it away himself...it will be tough but if just talking wont work toss it in the garbage..i told my son that babies use them ans we had another child and he wanted it more but he also like dgiving it to her...so we did it like that for a while too...

Tara - posted on 03/27/2009

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i saw on Supernanny where she told the little girl that if she left all her pacifiers in an envelope in the mailbox, the paci-fairy would leave her a gift.  it worked for her.  good luck!

Lauren - posted on 03/27/2009

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hey well my little3 one is 2 and we decided to make a box paint it together and put all of her dummys in it for the easter bunny for his baby rabbits may work

Dorothy - posted on 03/27/2009

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Quoting Tara:

How do I get my 3 year old to stop using the pacifier ?



We had that problem with my grandaugter Madison...and the solution was easy and workd 100%



...We told her it was time to give up her soother (she called it her soose) and we talked about the 'soose fairey' and convinced her to put it under her pillow when she went to bed...you know the rest!



Good Luck!



Sincerely, Dorothy Sasseville



Mother of 4



Grandmother of 3

Chrissy - posted on 03/27/2009

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Hi, we were quite lucky, we went away for a week and forgot it, she then forgot all about it and didnt ask for it, when we got back we threw them away. A friend of mine did say she got her little one off by putting them in a bag and putting them at the bottom of the garden, telling her daughter fairies were going to take them and leave a present for them in the bag. (cue putting a treat in the bag and letting them go get it). She got the other one off by hanging them on the xmas tree and come xmas morning hanging where the dummies were were treats instead. Hope this helps. xx

Christine - posted on 03/27/2009

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I had my 3 year old gather all her "Binkies" up and put them in a zip lock bag. We then took them to a store and picked out something she could 'buy' with her binks. Luckily, I had encouraged her to 'buy' a big cuddly stuffed animal so that when she was missing her bink she could snuggle up with the new animal....



GOOD LUCK!!

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