how do I get my 5 year old to go to sleep at a decent hour???

Paula - posted on 08/03/2009 ( 17 moms have responded )

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My 5 yr old stays up till all hours, usually she is still awake at 11:00 or later. She starts Kindergarten in the fall and I am afraid she is not going to get enough sleep for school. What can I do???

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Terri - posted on 01/06/2013

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My daughter is 5 and is up by 5:30am at least 2 to 4 days a week or 6:30am due to my work schedule and goes to school/daycare all day and still doesn't fall asleep until sometimes 11pm at night!! We have tried EVERYTHING. And bath's actually wake her up and make her hyper. I try putting her to bed by 9pm but she lays awake until almost 11pm almost every night! ugghh!

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set up a schedule with a relaxing bed time routine and stick to it. mine are in bed at 7 and sleeping by 8 every night. If a child does not get enough sleep there brain will not develop properly. a 5 yr old needs aprox 10-12 hours of sleep per night.

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Your child will sleep at a decent hour eventually but some kids do require less sleep than others. I know that all the professionals say kids need at least12 hours or whatever but every kid is different and maybe yours is in need of less sleep.

I agree with Katherine a routine will help, limit exercise in the hour or two before bed (I have heard that some kids actually get more energised as opposed to tired from it), give her a warm bath, read her a story or two, sing a calming song, and darken her room. I found taking out the nght lite worked well as it gave too much light for sleeping.

Good luck!

Jodi - posted on 08/03/2009

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Vanessa, not necessarily. My 4 1/2 year old does not nap, is up at 7am most days..... and still won't sleep until 10pm or so. I send her to bed earlier, but sleep is a different thing altogether. It is not always as simple as get them up earlier and don't let them nap. Each kid is different. I have bedtimes here as well, but you can't force a kid to go to sleep - you can enforce a bedtime but you can't enforce sleep. Once they are at school though, it really does tire them a lot more.

Danielle - posted on 08/03/2009

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I agree with the routine thing. Having a specific routing helps children acquire good habits very well. I also give my son a time reference like...ok in 15 minutes it's time to clean up and get ready for bed. That way the bedtime routine isn't just laid on her when it's time. I hope all the advice helps you out :-).

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Rebecca - posted on 10/23/2012

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My little boy ashton is 5 yrs old hes at full time scho and has a bedtime routine hell go to sleep at 7 but then he wakes up an hour later and will not go back to sleep really worried becouse hes being naughty at school now because hes tired dont know waht to do

Paula - posted on 08/06/2009

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Thanks so much to everyone. She does not take a nap at daycare, she is up by 7:00am and I try to put both my girls ion bed between 8:30-9-00. My oldest daughter is asleep by 9 the younger is still awake at 11. I sure hope "big" school makes her more tired than daycare. Thanks again for all good feedback. It is appreciated.

Jeannette - posted on 08/06/2009

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my daughter goes to sleep when i do right now and it about 11pm but ive told her that as soon as she starts school 8pm she in bed no if and or buts were the moms were the boss lol good luck

Tina - posted on 08/03/2009

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What time does she get up? If she is up and ready to go at 6:00 you may simply have a child that does not require much sleep. If she sleeps til 9:00, that may be why she stays up so late. Mine get up (7 and 5) at 6-6:30, sometimes get a nap (@ 2 hrs or less) and head to bed @9. We start with bath, pjs,teeth, potty, story, loves, good-bye. That is the routine every night we are at home. This was started back when the first was only 2. If she doesn't have a routine you will have to change it gradually. Most important, you are the parent and decide the bedtime, not her.

Sandra - posted on 08/03/2009

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Do she take naps in the daytime? If so what time do she sleep? Depending upon what time she takes her nap if any will depend upon when she's tired enough for nightime. Let her nap about 12 or 1pm everyday, consistency is the key. Let her sleep for one hour. That's enough or she won't be able to sleep at night, by the time it's about 7pm she should be ready for bed. If she's not give her a bath, then read her a book and tell her she has to sleep now. If you want you can stay in there until she goes to sleep.

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No sugar no tv 2 hours before bed time. Our son Tucker goes to bed at 8pm no matter what. Sometimes he's grouchy about it, but its in his best interest that he is in bed. He has school during the week and is just wiped out afterwards. We read books, color, talk, look at color flash cards anything that soothes him, kisses hugs, then it's bed time, no exceptions. School will change her schedule for the better she will be just pooped I bet, and will definetly want to go to bed! :)

Kylie - posted on 08/03/2009

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Maybe try no t.v for an hour before bed and have a bedtime routine that calms her down..having a bath, brushing teeth, books and a chat then into bed at the same time every night. My 4 year old has just started to stay up later even though we put her to bed a a7.30 for the past two nights I've gone to to check on her before i goto bed and her door is closed and the light is on and she is playing in her room and its after 10!! then she wants to sleep in till past 9am. i had to wake her up for kindy this morning and she was a stroppy little girl. I'm going to try cutting sugar out 4 hours before bed and maybe make her bedtime a little earlier..I'm thinking she gets overtired and gets a second wind.

Jodi - posted on 08/03/2009

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Paula, my son is 12 now, and still goes to bed at 8:30pm. My 4 1/2 year old is in pre-school 2 days a week, and on those days, she is much earlier to bed than other days. In that year before school, they get really difficult, and it is hard to find a balance. I'm sure every kid is different, but school seriously tires them enough. You should be able to establish a good routine within weeks of her starting school. It will be tough in that first month though :)

Katherine - posted on 08/03/2009

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Does she take naps during the day? My 4 year old does the same and is starting pre-school in the fall. I'm with you guys....Rude awakening, try to start a routine. Like ok it's time for a bath, ok now it's time to read a book and then it's time for bed. One thing that may work is that you make her go to bed at say 8 and tell her she has to stay in her room (if you don't already do that) Or.....you can start a chart and every day she gets a star for going to bed at a decent hour and THEN at the end of the week she gets to do something special if she has say, start out with 3 stars a week and then up it every week, that way it's not overwhelming for her.

Paula - posted on 08/03/2009

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Thanks Jodi. That is what people keep telling me. I did not and have not had this problem with my 9 year old. She falls asleep by 8:30 most nights. Thanks for your reponse.

Jodi - posted on 08/03/2009

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She'll sleep. School whacks them out in a big way. My son used to be wired until about 10pm at night, but once he started school, he would be falling asleep in his dinner. I am concerned about the same thing with my daughter, she was still awake last night reading her books in bed, but I know that next year will be a shock to her system :)

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