how do i get my daughter who is nearly two out of a dummie

Lois - posted on 07/22/2009 ( 23 moms have responded )

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she likes it for bed but also durin the day, i have nearly got her out if it but itsthe bedtime i really need help on

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Danielle - posted on 07/24/2009

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My sister cut the tip off of her daughter's pacifier. She gave it to her daughter, who put it in her mouth and quickly took it out and said it was broken. I think she tried sucking on it a few more times, but since it was "broken" she didn't want it any more. She hasn't used one since and has not seemed to miss it. My niece was about 2 years old at the time.

Kim - posted on 07/23/2009

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We gave ours to the summy fairy...... We talked up the dummy fairy for about a month - "the dummy fairy takes dummies to the little babies who need them". We bought a special gift bag, collected all of the dummies together and put them in the bag, put the bag in a special place for the dummy fairy and went off to childcare. when we returned, the dummies were gone and a special toy was in the bag. When he asked for his dummy the first night, we reminded him the little babies now had them from the fairy and he no whad his new toy to cuddle at night. We had three upset nights with cuddling the new toy instead and he was sold.

Leigh - posted on 07/22/2009

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We got our twins to leave their dummies out for Santa to take with him on Christmas Eve. In return he gave them toys! They were a bit upset the first night (they only used them to sleep with) but we just reminded them of the new toys that they got instead of having the dummies. All good after that.

Belynda - posted on 07/22/2009

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I think a good one is to get him to throw it on the fire, tell him hes a big boy n to old for it, that way he gets to watch it go, thats it its gone and cant get it back

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Jo - posted on 07/28/2009

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We did the nummie fairy idea and it worked a treat! I also loved reading the post below about the garden fairies - what a great idea! I think the trick is to make sure that you 'talk up' the visit by the fairies so that the child has time to get used to the idea.

Jeni - posted on 07/26/2009

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hi, pretty familiar with this just went through it with my little girl! Well i was pretty tough and only let her have it for sleep time only, then just told her we have 2 give it to the little babies that need it.. It was hard as she became very upset when it came to night time bed time, but had to be consistant and say no its gone now, she cryed for about half hour and refused to go to bed, but i said to her if she could sleep all day and night without it i would let her pick a toy at the shop.. It worked she did ask for it for the first few days but now she couldnt care less...so u need to be tough its hard and heart braking but its worth it!!! let me know how u go!!! Good luck

Rebecca - posted on 07/26/2009

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hello lois, my daughter was very stubborn when it came to her dummy. what we did was at christmas time we had a party and had someone dress up as santa and he came and asked how old she was and when she answered two he made a big deal about how much of a big girl she now was and that she didn't need a dummy. and we got her to give it to santa. she was happy to do it. hope this helps.
regards rebecca.

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My daughter never used one; but I've got friends who said cutting a small hole in them worked well, because there is no suction! Their kids decided to throw them away themselves. :)

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so many good ideas here!!
my daughter has a dummy and even though she is 7 weeks old im worried already about how we will ween her off of it!

one of my friends said he got her daughter to give it up on her 2nd birthday. she had her party in the morning where everyone cooed about how much of a big girl she is now then for her afternoon nap she was told she didnt need a dummy cos she was a big girl.

ive also heard of people taking it to the dentist and getting something in return ie toy.

lots to think about!

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Encourage responsibility for your childs toys and "her" things. Some things she keeps, and some things are just to "baby" for her. IE: toys that are past her playing with, her dummy etc. Then when things need to go, to the church or garage sale, or friends you pass items on to, she gets the idea that she is growing up to be a big girl, and with that she should be rewarded with her choices. Small replace items that show what that age will bring. This dummy thing is not something we used ever, no attachment to blankies etc. either. The only thing she wanted was a glass of water at night for a ritual night time drink that sat at the bedside when she was over that night time bottle. It helped and was usually still full the next day. Its just the idea that the drink/ ie the dummy was there, not in the mouth for suckling which is something that bonded her to the parent that put them to bed at night.

Gayleen - posted on 07/24/2009

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I have had the same problem with my 2 year old. Because I also have a 10 month old it was very difficult to try to convince my 2 year old to give them up because he's been caught with the babies. We started by not allowing a binky during daylight hours only for night time.We went on a trip recently and forgot his binkies, there was a lil drama but he moved on and now he doesn't need them. I try to sub for comfort, blankets or stuffed animals that are his favorites. He had recently gave up a mobile, but took it back when the binky was gone.

Joan - posted on 07/24/2009

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I told my daughter that faries needed them for babies and as she was a big girl they would come get them. Then left her a teddy bear and letter from the faries saying thank you. I felt that if I was taking something away replacing it with something else she could use for comfort was best idea.

Firebird - posted on 07/24/2009

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At 2 it's not a huge deal if she still uses it to sleep. My girl was 3 when I got rid of hers, that's when she stopped sucking it and just chewed on it... put a few holes in it too. So after that I just threw it out and didn't get another one. It took about 3 days for her to adjust to falling asleep without it. Other than that, if there was something I didn't want her putting in her mouth I coated it in cinnamon because she hated cinnamon!

Sami - posted on 07/24/2009

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sounds a little cruel and quite different compared to the other responses, but have you tried putting something with a taste that the child may not enjoy so much on the dummy? may turn her attention away from it because of the taste?
just a thought :)

JODIE - posted on 07/23/2009

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Like Kim, we had the "Dummy Fairy" come and take it one night and in return, "she" left a letter saying that she was going to give it to a new born baby who really needed it and in return she left a stuffed bunny...this worked for my daughter during the day, but we did have a few nights of tears, but within 3 days, all was forgotten...Good luck!

Lisa - posted on 07/23/2009

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My son loved to help me in the garden, so we took all of his dummies and planted them in a planter pot and covered them with dirt and watered them. That night I took out the dummies and planted flowers. Now he has dummie flowers and he loves to help take care of them. The next couple of nights when he asked for it, I just reminded him that they grew into flowers.

Thubelihle - posted on 07/23/2009

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Hi Lois, sometimes you need help from somebody else, like your mom, sister or childminder. Thats what we did with my niece, I helped by asking her nicely to throw it away in the bin on the day that the the trash will be taken away, we both watched as the trash was taken away and waved "Ta ta" to the dummy. Later that night when she cried for it I reminded her that she threw it away because she was a big girl. My mom did that for my baby's bottle later and it worked. My point is, being her mommy, she knows how to take advantage of you, so there are things you cannot do to her. You may try also to replace the dummy with something else, like a new toy.

Dawn - posted on 07/22/2009

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i let my daughter be the one to throw it in the garbage. each time we would find one in the couch or at grandmas house, i would hand it to her to get rid of..tell her 'ewe... yucky, that is for babies' and give her a new 'big girl' cup or toy or something to replace the loss.
get rid of it while you still can!! seriously, at this point it is just easier for the parent to keep it around because, lets face it..its a quick fix. the longer you allow it to be around the harder it will be to get rid of it. the pacifier was created to passify a baby. at two years old there is no sucking reflex that needs to be passified.

Fiona - posted on 07/22/2009

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Get her to throw it in the bin herself, tell her shes a big girl now and dont need it, if this fails slowley wean her off it. She will throw temper tantrums, do not give in, if she needs comfort she has a thumb, or fav teddy. If you try to bribe her with a new toy she will have you wrapped around her little finger. DONT GIVE IN TO ANY TEMPER TANTRUMS, IT MAKES HARDER WORK WHEN THERE OLDER. DUMMYS DELAY SPEECH IN CHILDREN

THIS IS A PROVEN MEDICAL FACT.

Belynda - posted on 07/22/2009

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Love your comment Ryan, but if it does become an issue a good way is to let them do the chucking away so it cant be got back

Ryan - posted on 07/22/2009

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i don't understand y we think we need to take them away... if it helps them go to sleep is it really hurting anyone let them keep it they will grow out of it sooner or later.. my son is only 11 months hes had one since he was born and he has went from always having it to only wanting it at bed time to sometimes not even wanting it all on his own.. so i suggest let her keep it if she wants its not really hurting her or you ... and please don't say it could mess up her teeth that is not a proven fact... just opinions

Debbie - posted on 07/22/2009

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my son really loved his dummy and one night we went and stayed at a friends place for the night and it got lost.Later the next day when he asked for it i explained to him that we had lost it and there wasn't another one and that was it no more dummy. He was about the 2 - 21/2 at the time.

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