How do I get the pacifier away?

Rebecca - posted on 07/23/2009 ( 19 moms have responded )

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My 18 month old daughter will not give up her pacifier. I have tried hiding them and then she either whimpers around asking for her patpat or she magically finds one and come walking out with it. Help me I don't want her teeth to get messed up. Any pointers?

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Robin - posted on 07/23/2009

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I took my middle child to the dollar store and had her "buy" a new treat with her soother and then when she asked for it we told her that she used it to pay for her treats and that was the end of it she never asked again she was 2 at the time

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Michelle - posted on 07/23/2009

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We took my son to a toy shop and he swoped it for a toy. We gave the dummies to the man behind the counter who I told my son was the 'dummy man' and would take good care of them! That night he was a little upset but that soon stopped when I reminded him of the toy he got.

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Tell her that it's time to give her binky's to the binky fairy, and that the fairy is going to give them to babies who need them. Put them all in a cute little bag or box next to her bed, and then in the morning they are gone and a little toy or treat is in their place :)

Kate - posted on 07/23/2009

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I got my technique from a friend, we use the "Binky Fairy" method. Once a child becomes a "big girl" or a "big boy" the binky fairy comes and takes the binkies away in the middle of the night. My daughter was so excited at the idea of being a "big girl" that it worked perfectly.

Cassandra - posted on 07/23/2009

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My daughter was about two, we got her to gather all of hers together and put them in a pretty gift bag and she left them out for the 'dummy/pacifier' fairies. We told her that they go to smaller babies that really need them. We bought a soft toy tiger and left it on her bed whilst she was sleeping as a thank you gift from the fairies xx

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we started out just only giving it to her at naps and bedtime and then one night just said "no more bink" and it was only after two days and she never asked for it again!!

Erin - posted on 07/23/2009

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My son was just under two when he finally gave up his "see-see". (no idea why he called it that!)

I kept reminding him every time one went missing that there wouldn't be anymore. I didn't buy anymore and as he lost them I made sure to remind him that there wouldn't be more. I think he was ready when the last one was gone.



He did wake up the first night looking for it and I reminded him that they were all gone now, that he had lost his last one.

He went back to sleep and the next morning he asked for it again, and I told him the same thing.



He was fine about it after that.



Maybe I was just lucky.....

Laura - posted on 07/23/2009

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I do childcare in my home. Everyday I am faced with a mom or dad or grandparent who is in a PANIC over a Binky, a bottle, rolling over, sitting up, crawling, finger foods, feeding themselves, pulling up, walking, talking, potty training, sentencing, using a fork and spoon, cups w and then without lids/safety tops....the list goes on. There will always be something that some parental figure is worried their child should or should not be doing at a certain time in their development.
I have a simple rule. If a Binky is used for comfort and sleep only then it should be freely given to the child for comfort and sleep only. What does this mean? When your child is hurt, give him his Binky in a controlled situation. IE: sitting in a chair in the kitchen. When he has settled down and is no longer crying, tell your child "Binky did his job, Good Binky, Time for Binky to get clean for the next time you need him" Then calmly take it and place it in the sink to get "CLEAN" for next time. Or have the child place it in the sink to be cleaned for next time. If your child cries at this point, give him a favorite toy to play with, he'll get the idea. When your child lays down at nap or night, give him a Binky right away at first, then a minute later each night until you have gone about 3-5 minutes without a Binky.Break the child of his nighttime Binky just like you broke him of needing to be held every night before going to sleep. It took a little time, but he got used to you not holding him until he fell asleep and then "magically" ended up in his own crib. Next, we never allow Binky out side while playing, never in the public eye (no grocery stores) and never ever while just running around the house. So, the first 2 or 3 days you will endure screaming, fussing, crying and yelling. Get yourself some Tylenol and chewing gum, cuz you're gonna have a headache and grit your teeth a lot, but eventually, it works. Just remember one thing, this is a human being with feelings and a complete trust in you. If he sees you doing something comforting for yourself, he'll wonder what's so wrong with a Binky and so right with your...cigarette, coke, slippers, book, coffee, phone calls, computer..............hope it helps.

Jan - posted on 07/23/2009

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we went to my moms (5 hrs away) she dropped it in the car and forgot about it so when we got home i told her we forgot it at grandmas and by the time we went there again in 3 months she had totally forgotten about it

Monica - posted on 07/23/2009

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We started weening my daughter at 2 years old (doctor said she could keep it up to 2 years). We got our method from a friend and have heard it works for a lot of people. It worked like a charm for our daugher.



Basically, all we did is cut off the tip of the pacifier and every two to three weeks we would cut off another small piece, until there was only a small piece left. She slowly stopped using it, then finally when it was too small to only bite the tip and not being able to suck on it, she said she didn't want it anymore. She would ask for it and we would give it to her, but she take one look at it and put it down.



We thought this was best for her since she was really dependant on it to sleep and as comfort for everything, and it was really hard for us to take it away cold turkey!! And of course it was easier, I think, that she was already off the bottle since a year old.



Hope this helps.

Jessica - posted on 07/23/2009

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my best friend had the same problem! what she did was went and got about 12 helium ballons, tied the "pacys" to the ballons and let them go. its fun for her and well they are gone. in the air to find a new baby (she told her big gilrs dont need them but babies do)

Stacy - posted on 07/23/2009

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Like Bottles I told my son he was a big boy now and made him throw it away...or try to find all pacifiers and throw them out. She will whimper but it will be ok. Give her something else like a favorite toy to hold...

Amanda - posted on 07/23/2009

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I have twin 8 month girls and I did the out the door they went as well. I took them away and they have never been seen since. They surprisingly were less upset then I had thought! I thought it would be a huge challenge but the first night was the only issue!

I hear if you cut a whole in the nipple when they suck it its not the same and that helps. Or if you can dip it in something not so tasty they tend to refuse it?! Hope that helps!

Amy - posted on 07/23/2009

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I am a mother of two and have been in the dental field for 13 years and the one trick that I know of and used it this. Take a kitchen knife and place a slice in the pacifier (the pacifier will no longer work, they can't get suction) a day or two of this they don't want it anymore. My son couldn't go five minutes without his and at 12 months I tried this trick and two days later he wasn't looking for it anymore. I have several friends who also used this trick with great sucess. Just tell her it is broken and you can't fix it.

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I have two daughters. My oldest one was three when she was staying the night at her grandmas and she lost it. She always had to have two of them and she called it her "Awes". It took about a week for her to not cry for it. When putting her to bed she would hold up her two fingers and cry for her two Awes :(



My younger one was about one when we had to throw it away because she was bighting off the tips. That was easier to break her habbit, I think it only took two nights, but we gave her a soft blanket to sleep with, which she still has today :)

Leonnie - posted on 07/23/2009

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i got my children to leave it for santa to take on xmas eve then santa left toys in its place. if they asked for it i told them they would have to give santa all the toys back to get their dummy back. guess what they choose, yes the toys. My son was two and half , my daughter was two

Jamie - posted on 07/23/2009

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when i took my daughters away i started by not letting her have it in the car.. then she could not take it out of her bed then when she would fall asleep i would take it from her it took a long time and alot of screaming later she did not need it anymore.

Susie - posted on 07/23/2009

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We always did the gone is gone. Sweep through the house, car and toybox, find all the hidden ones, toss them. When she whimpers, just say all gone. My sister had a different approach with my neice, who was a little older, she cleared the house of them and then took the last one and hung it on a tree in the back yard by a ribbon. She told her daughter that the baby fairy would come and give her a big girl toy. The next morning the passy was gone and a little fairy doll was tied to the ribbon.

Kelley - posted on 07/23/2009

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I had two kids that used the pacifier, my son kept losing his and we just toughed it out and didn't buy anymore but my daughter we had her throw hers away herself and said bye bye pacifier I'm a big girl now. She did the same thing with her bottles.

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