Stephanie - posted on 01/23/2013 ( 140 moms have responded )
6 years ago when I was 18, I got pregnant. I told the biological father and gave him the choice to be involved or not. It was a one night stand and we had no other connection other than that. He at first said yes, and that quickly turned into a no. He had only seen my son about 4 times when he was born, and one other time when he was 3. Now, we have no contact at all. When my son was 3 years old, I met my current boyfriend(fiance). I have been with him for 3 years now and could not have found a better guy for my son's life and my own. He has raised my son as his own and is fully in love with both of us. The problem is that he was always introduced as Sean. And now that years have gone by, we are getting married, and talking about having a baby, thoughts run through my head. I have always wanted my son to have someone to call "DAD". My boyfriend has seen my son as his own and wouldn't mind if my son called him "DAD". I have brought the conversation up a few times and asked who my son thought his dad was and he has said I don't know, and has also said my boyfriend. I think at age 6, if he doesn't start calling my boyfriend Dad, he never will. How do I go about implementing this? I am worried he will start asking question such as "why haven't I been calling him dad all along?". It would break my heart to tell him the truth about his biological father and why he isn't in the picture. When or do I tell him about his biological father? What do I say to my son? I know many people have had their kids call their boyfriends dad but I also find that to happen more when the child is younger. Now that my son is 6, I feel like thing could get complicated. If myself, my boyfriend and my son all think that my boyfriend is his dad, is it ok to have him call him that? Should I be implementing this now at age 6 ?