How do I prove to someone my child isn't on drugs?

Lisa - posted on 10/01/2010 ( 42 moms have responded )

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I have a 15 year old son who despite my best efforts keeps making bad choices. The last couple of weeks have been some real do-ies. The result is that I have been in the office several time over the past 2 weeks. each time the administration is convinced the kid is on drugs... i have tested him myself with a home kit (and yes i was in the room when he peed in the cup and he didn't have any forewarning of the test) and he was clean. I have also taken him the the doctors office (again no warning was given) and had him tested there (twice) and both of those were clean. I do random room checks and anything else i can think of and can't find a trace of anything and it seems the only place he is having trouble is at school (though he is a 'A' student). it doesn't seem to matter what i do i still can't get the school to look past their suspensions and look into what the problem could be. Could someone please advise?

FYI my son has a Learning Disability but i have never had the specific disability identified because he has been making progress with his IEP and I didn't want to label him unless i had to.

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Krista - posted on 10/01/2010

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Whoa -- ladies. Tone it down and keep it civil. The OP needs advice on how to deal with this issue, she does NOT need a side debate about the overall value of public schools.

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Julie - posted on 10/01/2010

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If you guys are so anti school pull your kids out! Home school them! I am sick of the School Bashing from the truly "uniformed" with the entitlement know it all attitude. "typical of school"? what a horrid bitter thing to say but very typical of someone who has no idea of the time effort and work that actually goes into the free education you take for granted and shit on every chance you get. You are the one who is on the outside looking in and have no idea. Will never have any idea and can not look past anything but your own failure and disappointment and scapegoat mentality to any other view than the one you have created above the box you live in.

Isobel - posted on 10/03/2010

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who is the third party??? where was it published???the only parties involved are the parents and the school admin...I heard nothing about telling other (uninvolved) people...unless you know something that hasn't been printed.



Maybe you are reading into it something that happened to you...you seem a little extra invested in this for some reason.



and why??? are you people so freakin sue happy? There have been no damages, nobody's lost anything...the only thing that's happened is you have been alerted to the fact that something in your son's behaviour leads his teachers to believe he may be on drugs.



Use the information to get help for your son, and be grateful that somebody cares enough to notice.

Sneaky - posted on 10/02/2010

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I am not suggesting that your son is on drugs, but I would like to give you a drug test 101 overview in case there is something you might have overlooked (or not - this might completely confirm what you already know!). I am going to refer to 'your son' a bit, but as I said, it is not an implication that I think he is a drug user, it is just the easiest way to explain some things!

First off, all the drugs I am talking about are tested in urine. Hair testing technology is so new that there are not even testing standards for it yet and oral fluid testing is great for amphetamines and opiates but not much else . . it is completely useless as a drug 'screening' tool. The down side of urine testing is that it will NOT detect recent use - it takes between 6 to 8 hours for a drug to appear in the urine after it is taken.

Most urine drug testing kits you buy at the chemist or over the internet will test for multiple drug classes (five or six), if the kit you are using only does one or two drugs then you are not actually performing a 'screen'. Typical drug classes tested for (in America at least, which is where I assume you are!) are 1) cocaine, 2) opiates, 3) amphetamines, 4) cannabis and 5 )PCP. If you are in Australia then drug tests typically test for 6) benzodiazepines instead of PCP.

After the drug first appears in the urine it will only be there until the body completely breaks it down:
1) cocaine will only be detected for 2 to 4 days
2) opiates for 2 days
3) amphetamines for 1 to 2 days (methamphetamine is longer - 2 to 4 days)
4) cannabis and 5 ) PCP for approx 14 days (a chronic user can actually give a positive drug test for up to 60 days after they have stopped using)
6) Benzos for about 3 days (after chronic use 4 to 6 weeks).

Simple so far! Now I am going to get a bit more in-depth: different drug classes might actually be testing for different drugs than you expect . . .
1) a cocaine test in a urine drug screen is actually looking for benzylecoginine which is a cocaine metabolite (e.g. the human body breaks down cocaine to benzylecoginine) so if you get a positive result then the urine has definitely come from a person who took cocaine.
2) the opiate test is actually looking for morphine, but it is important to remember that morphine can come from different places, so a positive result does not necessarily mean nefarious activity. Heroin is metabolized to morphine so that will give you a positive result, as will the abuse of the drug morphine (obviously!) but codeine (a common pain killer and cough suppressant) also metabolizes to morphine in the body. The lab I worked in (here in Australia) also recognized that you could get a positive opiate/morphine result in a urine drug screen if you ate poppy seeds. If you get a positive opiate screen then the only way to get an idea where the morphine has come from is to send the urine to a lab for GCMS analysis. This determines the levels of morphine in the sample - for heroin or morphine abuse there are usually huge amounts of morphine in the urine, for poppy seed abuse (lol) you only see small amounts. If the morphine is from codeine use than the lab usually detects codeine in the urine sample in addition to morphine. But as I said this only gives you an IDEA what might be going on - many heroin/morphine abusers will take codeine to try and confuse the test results and if you are approaching the end of the detection window (about 2 days after abuse) then morphine levels that were originally high might become quite low.
3) the amphetamine test is actually testing for either
amphetamine (Amp - typically called speed) or methamphetamine (Met - typically called crystal meth or crank) - you need to check the information that comes with your test to see which one it is testing for (or you could buy a test which tests for both). So if your test kit is only testing for one, then in theory your son could be taking the other and he would still always give you a negative drug result. It is also important to realize that the amp/met test does NOT detect ecstasy use - ecstasy is the drug MDMA which does not give a positive result on either the amp or the met screen, so again, your son could be taking MDMA and if that was not included in the drug testing panel of your test kit than you would never know.
4) Cannabis is easy - the drug test just looks for THC. If it's positive then you know you have had past usage or marijuana or hash.
5) PCP is also easy - it tests for PCP :o)
6) the benzo class is made up of over 30 different drugs, including Valium, Xanax, Klonopin and Restoril and in a urine drug screen the test will actually be looking for only one of them - typically all bezos will 'cross-react' meaning that if the screen is looking for only one benzo drug and your son was taking a different one, then you should still get a positive result . . . . but only if your test kit is looking for benzos, as I said earlier, most American drugs screens do not.

Other drugs not detected by typical urine drug screens: pain killers (like oxycodone, oxymorphone, hydrocodone and hydromorphone), barbituates, methadone, GHB, ketamine (also called special K), Demerol, propoxyphene, mushrooms or LSD. If you wanted to test for these you could try to find a urine kit over the internet or you might actually have to send a sample out to a laboratory. So again, your son could be taking any of them and you would never know it from a typical urine drug testing kit.

Beating the urine drug test: there are ways of course. Most commonly a person will try 'water loading', which is just drinking lots of water to try and dilute the drug in the urine enough to give a negative result. You can sometimes detect this because the urine will be quite clear instead of yellow, but usually you need to send it to a lab for a creatinine test (creat is a byproduct of muscle metabolism, e.g your beating heart, so if you have none in your urine that would mean that you are dead . . .). There are also some 'masking agents' you can buy over the internet - basically anything that makes your urine go basic (high pH) will make your body retain amphetamines so you don't wee them out. You can detect this sort of thing by testing the pH of the urine. A good urine test will actually have an 'adulterant' panel which will tell you the pH of the urine and detect the presence of bleach and oxidizing agents and other things.

So, you have done the right thing testing your son and you have done the right thing taking him to a doctor to have the testing done independently, but if you want a water tight result that can not be disputed by the school you probably need to have him give a urine sample at the doctors and have it sent to a drug testing lab. I hope I have explained some of the reasons the school might not be that impressed with the drug testing you have done at home :o(

If you have any questions, I will be happy to answer them!

Good luck with your situation - i hope it all works out for your son and you!

Heather - posted on 10/01/2010

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Could your son be hanging around kids doing drugs and that's why the school keeps saying he's doing them? Guilt by association is a relevant issue. Schools can't monitor every student all the time and if they're constantly having problems with a group of students or one student, then the parents need to address the problem with their child. Have you tried asking your son what the problem is instead of randomly drug testing him? Open the lines of communication and be willing to listen with an open mind. It may be something you and the school are totally unaware of.

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Karen - posted on 10/09/2010

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The only advice I can give you is just love your son, trust your instincts and fight for his and your rights. It can be a long haul when you know there might be underlying issues so get those issues sorted and recongnised and only then can you move on to helping him become a confident competant adult.

Terri - posted on 10/08/2010

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Well if the administration is targeting special needs students then, the parent group has to do something immediatley. There is a law, called "no child left behind". If the administrators at the school are targeting then you have to go over their heads to stop this. Make certain that you have facts, not hear say. If is natural to become defensive when someone is targeting your child or you feel that they are. But if your child has some form of autism I would be researching schools that speacialize in this area. There may be a better learning environment for him somewhere else.

Heather - posted on 10/06/2010

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To be honest i think that you should like stated above speak with the education board. If your son has passed home teats and drugs tests done within a MD office with NO notice at all then likelyhood is ur sons isnt doing drugs however that doesnt mean he isnt in with the wrong croud (which to me doesn't sound like the case since he is an A student) I would have to say it may stem since its only at school to be related to his learning disability or something that is isolated at school. Speaking with the board of education will help take the look OFF of drug use and finally put the time and effort into looking further wheter behavioral learning diability or trouble with someone at school. Your son is at a very difficult age and now is the time if he i having difficulties to have support from the school and his parents which to me sounds like he has your support and to get to the bottom before it does become a larger problem or his grades begin to suffer. I am in the medical field and have dealt with many drug tests ext i have to say the likely hood your son is taking something they are not detecting is a very out there idea all though i think the women who gave you drug testing info was very helpful its very unlikely. I think you should even take it into your own hands since the school seems hell bent on saying it's drugs and have him see a psychiatrist it really could be something SOOOO simple thats bothering him or it may be again his learning disability. I have a learning disability and i have to tell you i caused alot of trouble in school it was never drug related it was to do with my frustration of what i was dealing with combined with the age of pubirty...Good luck if you ever EVER need to talk please feel free to drop me aline on here any time

Heather - posted on 10/06/2010

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that is very true. I have always told my kids GUILTY BY ASSOCIATION. You need to pick your friends wisely. Sure someone seems neat or cool but you know what you hear about them or how you see them act. And the administration does keep their eyes open too. And once a kid or a group of kids develops a reputation for trouble, drugs, what ever it is very hard to shake that. And truthfully making good grades make no difference. Kids who have ADHD and other disabilities have extremely high IQs. And as far as the school systems go it is a mixed bag. We have been in good and bad ie: memphis city schools which are the worst. I have kids who do well and breeze thru and I have 1 in particular who failed twice got suspended several times had an iep got told by his 6th grade teacher he might as well drop out because all he was going to do was work at mcdonalds anyways. SO.....I was an involved parent but i also had a drug addicted son who knew how to work the system, me (UNTIL I DECIDED NOT TO BE CODEPENDANT). And 3 other kids who have made it thru the same school system plus another system fine. As parents we just have to keep our eyes open. open to our kids, the schools, teachers and administration

Iridescent - posted on 10/06/2010

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I'm so glad you're getting his needs addressed, as well as monitoring the school's treatment of these kids. It takes an attentive parent to deal with this.

Lisa - posted on 10/06/2010

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Well I have started the ball rolling with the school psychologist and Matt will get an evaluation. she said going by what I told her there is a strong possibility that the problem is within the Autism Spectrum.... even the stuff I thought was OCD could be symptoms on Autism and not OCD. She is going to get him on the Docket for the school district autism team (which she is a member of) to evaluate him. Wish us luck!

On the other school front... parents of special needs student that attend this school are noticing that their children are spending an unusual amount of time in "in-house suspension". there are rumors in my parent group that the new administration at the school seems to be targeting special ed students... not sure what make of this but will watch and wait to see what happens.

Lupe - posted on 10/06/2010

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I had the same problem with my son at the age of 14, he was a freshman in high school and he hated it. Everyday was a struggle, I did find out that some students were messing with him and took it up witht the counsler. Though the issue was sloved at school, he still dreded going. I decided that a traditional school was not for him at that time. I ended up enrolling him on a online high school. He loved it,, he improved. His attitude was 100% better. It might not be for you, but it could be something you can look into and depending where you are at, some high schools actually offer it free of charge, This school year he asked to go back to a traditional school and he is doing great. Unlike some on here, the school does make a difference and it does cause some of the problems.

Terri - posted on 10/04/2010

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Well, I am confused. If you have had him tested and you have told the admistration that he tested negative, then what is the problem? If he has a learning difference, it is their job to help him. As to having him labled, that is the wrong way to think. If he is diagnosed with a learning difference then he can get the help that he needs and possibly eliminate his problems. If he is ADD, or ADHD, or what ever he needs to be diagnosed. They can not reveal this information, it should be kept confidential. But if he keeps getting into trouble he is going to be labled for certain, or have to go to alternative school.

Alison - posted on 10/04/2010

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If your sons behavior leads people to believe that he is on drugs, although he is not on drugs... maybe it is time to have him evaluated and find a suitable treatment. There is more to school than good grades.



My husband is very intelligent, but he was consistently fired from jobs until he was diagnosed with ADHD and started an appropriate treatment. My husband's "label" seemed to lift a huge burden from his shoulders. Since then, his professional life is better and our marriage is better. I can only imagine how much better he would have done in school if someone had clued in during his childhood.



Do your son a favor and take him to a specialist.

Lisa - posted on 10/04/2010

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The school hand book says that they can perform a drug test if the school administrators and the school nurse agree that it needs to be done... the principals requested it the first time that he went to the office and the nurse didn't agree so the nurse only checked him out for low blood sugar. Matt doesn't always remember to eat and sometimes he just doesn't feel like eating. his doctor has told both of us that because he has no fat reserves that is very important to eat.

Lisa - posted on 10/04/2010

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That is my next step. The Team is meeting mid October (I don't have a specific date yet).

I think I may need a list of specialists that can check him out. He had a teacher at one point that told me he reminded her of her son who has asperger's syndrome.... this would explain his lack of social skills (though we have tried hard to instill them) and his habit of avoiding eye contact and lately he seems funny about being touched (he is fine sometimes and other times seems overwhelmed with it).... dies anyone know more about this syndrome?

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@LIsa, have you suggested or thought of allowing the school to perform their own random drug test? The schools where I live make it known and the parents are asked to sign a consent form allowing random drug testing at anytime throughout the year. Especially if the student is involved in ANY extracurricular activity or drives to school or rides the school bus. Obviously they don't trust the test that you have performed or they think that you are covering for him (whether you are or not so many parents do) so at this point I would tell them to perform their own at their expense (you shouldn't have to incur the expense because of their suspicions) and then when the results come back negative once again I would inform them that if they continued with the accusations I would file suit for defamation of character and harrassment. Not slander.

Lisa - posted on 10/04/2010

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IEP does not mean an accomodated grade. IEP stands for Individual Educational Plan. My daughter has an IEP and she is 3. It's a document that assists the school, her teachers and us (her parents) in creating goals to make sure that she succeeds in school and outlines how we are going to obtain those goals and monitor her progress.

If the school is not listening, I would request a meeting with your son's IEP team. Discuss your concerns and come up with a plan to help your son. If your concerns are not met, there are steps that should be outlined with the IEP on how complaints/concerns are handled.

Lisa - posted on 10/04/2010

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thanks everyone for all the advice. I am still going through most of it.
Do think I need to clear a few thing up. Matt's has a IEP because of a reading disability, i sent him though a tutoring program last year to get him to grade level and i think we have succeeded. his classes are all at grade level (his math and science are both advanced... he even has robotics) but all his classes have a extra teacher for support should he need them. I also wanted to say that I am not blaming the school or the teachers for their assumptions. The school district has been very helpful with Matt's education for most of his school years (we did have a teacher at one point that was not actually teaching the kids in her class and after an investigation the teacher was let go). I have worked have worked hard to have a relationship with all the members of the IEP team and we have reached a degree of success. Even over this situation they have commented that the "new" school administration seems to be jumping to labeling kids a "druggies" whenever a student gets in trouble.... other parents are also starting to complain about what is being assumed about their children. So it isn't just me.
As for Matt's bad choices... there has been a girl (doesn't it usually involve a girl) who has been his on again off again girlfriend. when she is not Matt's girlfriend she is this other boys girlfriend. when I learned that she was going to be going to the same highschool i told Matt to stay away from her... of course he didn't and the last time she broke up with him the other boy started pushing him into lockers every time he saw him. after about 2 weeks of this he sent her a text message threatening both of them of they didn't stop.... she took it to the school administration and Matt was suspended and they were all told to stay away from each other (the couple even went and got a restraining order)....this was also the first time the school accused him of drug use, I promptly went home and tested him and had him tested the next day. the next incident happende the day he came back matt started getting threatened by the boys friends, he reported this to the school but wasn't believed, so matt started going out of his way to avoid the couple but is having difficulty because they are now starting to hang out at gates he needs to go in or approaching his friends so that he will leave... etc. I requested the school change either his or her classes (they have 2 together) and they can't change is because of the support staff required for his IEP and her mother will not allow hers to be changed (apparently they are the only two classes that she gets good grades in... Matt said he had been helping her but that doesn't seem to matter).

Lyndsay - posted on 10/03/2010

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Your son is probably acting out because he hates his school, which appears to be full of assholes. If I were you I would not even bother with them, I would look into an alternate education program where they employ people who are actually qualified to deal with children who have a learning diability (which often leads into behavioural problems). You obviously know your son is not on drugs so there must be something else going on... they are too daft to see this, clearly. Kudos to your son for pulling in As, though. :)

Sneaky - posted on 10/03/2010

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I was probably too subtle in my earlier attempt to point this out:

Although a urine drug test performed at home or at the doctors office can work as a fantastic deterrent to drug use (why do you think so many companies are adopting drug testing policies?) a drug screen performed on-site with a testing device does NOT actually PROVE anything . . .except that you are trying to be a good mother.

If you want the gold standard watertight drug testing result you need to have him donate a sample at the doctors or the drug testing labs collection rooms, then it needs to be sealed with security tape so it can not be altered in transit unknowingly, Chain-of custody paperwork (yes, the same thing police do with evidence) needs to filled out and signed by every person that touches the urine container and then it needs to be sent, usually in a security bag with an un-breakable seal on it, to a certified lab were it can be independently tested to your countries accredited drug testing standard . . . . .and even then if you get a negative result it only proves that he hasn't taken anything in the last few days, and the school probably knows that.

What the school really needs to do is communicate with you - why do they think he is using? And they need to let you know when they think he has used (and what he has used) so you can have the correct testing done within 12 hours.

Again, good luck!

Iridescent - posted on 10/03/2010

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http://www.myfoxdfw.com/dpp/news/090910-... - here is an example of the same situation. As it says in the comments, it's not legal, and does have an effect if the accusations aren't stopped immediately by putting them on permanent record, which goes from school to school, to college, and to work with the kid. If not dealt with, it haunts their entire life. It's not right or legal.

Angie - posted on 10/03/2010

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What behaviors is he exhibiting at school that makes them think he is on drugs? I understand the label thing and I'm tired of every behavioral problem being blamed on ADD or ADHD. Get him tested and find out if the behaviors are related to the disability so the school will get off his back. If he's gone to school high in the past, it may just take some time for them to trust him again. It's not fair but it could be an answer.

Stifler's - posted on 10/03/2010

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If he has a learning disability then get him diagnosed and tell the school to shove it with their drug accusations. It probably explains his behaviour.

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Obviously the school staff are unwilling to listen to you, take it to the next level. Call the superintendent or head of the school board and tell them if it doesn't stop you will be talking to a lawyer. Be ready to present your evidence to them that your son is NOT using drugs. Ask the principle for proof that he is... why do they believe it? Be ready to make your case. Schools should be willing to work with a parent, but sometimes they aren't and you have to take more stringent measures.

Iridescent - posted on 10/03/2010

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http://definitions.uslegal.com/s/slander...
" 1. a defamatory statement;
2. published to third parties; and
3. which the speaker or publisher knew or should have known was false."
Yes, it is slander. This is a defamatory statement, no doubt. She's proven it false three times, and yet the school insists he's on drugs. And third parties are being involved, by way of other school officials, parents, medical personnel. It's very much slander.

Isobel - posted on 10/03/2010

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and being informed by the office of their suspicions is a far cry from slander or libel...personally, I would be glad that the people in charge have noticed that there is a problem and are trying to help you solve it.

Perhaps he has a mental disorder which mimics drug use? Have you looked into getting him assessed by a psychiatrist?

Pamela - posted on 10/01/2010

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Could he be ADHD? I know you don't want labels, but I have several relatives with this ans poor decision making can be a clue. It might take a medicine to slow down his impulses. I have special needs son who I pulled out of public school and homeschooled. I didn't like the way they were doing things either!

Jodi - posted on 10/01/2010

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Jenny, you will get a notification when anyone responds to this thread, pretty much, so Julie wasn't necessarily responding directly to your post :)

Jenny - posted on 10/01/2010

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I shoulda never posted on this lol pain in my bum...ok so julie it says ur message was in response to what I said??? I said nothin about school

Elizabeth - posted on 10/01/2010

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First of all, Krista Thank You for telling everyone to keep it civil and tone it down.
Lisa-I would request a meeting with the school, put it in writing and make sure to keep a copy. I would request that someone from the Special Education Dept is in attendance. If you have not given the school copies of the drug testing reports from the doctors think about giving them copies and make sure that they sign a copy stating that they recieved them. You do not have to give them copies of the tests if you do not want to. I would also have them test your son in all 8 domains provided through IDEA to find out if there is more than a learning disability that is affecting how he behaves at school. He could be having problems due to his learning disability and since it hasn't been identified there isn't any way to make accomodations for it or there could be something else all together that is going on. I would look for an advocate to go with you to the meeting or a friend/spouse so that this way if you have a problem getting information across to the school officials then the other person can help you out. If this doesn't work in getting your son the help he seems to be screaming out for then I would go to mediation. Just make sure to document, document, document. I hope this helps. Please let us know how things go. Also if you have any other questions please feel free to ask.

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What kind of trouble is he getting into? Is he seeing a counselor of some type yet? If his drug tests are coming up clean.... what else is the school suggesting you do?



Sorry, I don't have any other ideas for you.

Iridescent - posted on 10/01/2010

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It must be nice to have a child that has never had any problems at school. That's great, but it's not true for everyone. Some of us have had to go through hoops for years dealing with school districts that intentionally and unintentionally endanger our children, accuse our children or ourselves of being responsible for what they did wrong (such as leaving a 3 year old in the middle of nowhere, not home, not day care, not with any adults at all, in January, in a blizzard, outside. And feeding them things they know very well they are allergic to. Or not monitoring them and allowing another child to beat them to the point of skull fractures during school hours, on school property, with the principal standing right there watching.). These things happen every day for some of us. Wow, great "free education"! We take nothing for granted, we just want our children SAFE and treated fairly so they can receive the education they have every right to, just as your children do. There is no "scapegoat mentality" here; the school is in the wrong and needs to own up to it. This happens so often it is WHY the services I listed in my first reply even exist.

Iridescent - posted on 10/01/2010

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NO, actually an IEP does not always mean an accommodated grade. It CAN, but that is actually pretty rare. It simply means 20-30 minutes per week receiving help in whatever area is difficult for the bulk of students. So those are likely true grades, the same effort and homework as his peers. Schools don't deserve credit for knowing anything when they refuse to spend the time necessary to bother, only make accusations (such as this) vs find out if *maybe* they aren't challenging the kid and the work could be too easy, so he's bored. God forbid the school be at fault! He's not having these problems at home, so obviously the issue is at school, and with the school. Yes, they see him 8 hours per day, so why are they so insistent he is on drugs!? They do not care, which is typical of school. That was an exceptionally rude and uninformed post.

Julie - posted on 10/01/2010

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A student means nothing on an IEP
it is an "accomidated" grade
He is making "bad choices" some of them do sies? like what? How big? stuff that could be a danger to other students? To himself? What are you missing? I am sick of people not giving schools any credit for knowing anything. They see your kid eight hours a day too. Something is going on. Quit worring about covering your kids ass and focus on getting him some help.

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I think Amy's on the right track there! These people are obviously labeling your child as a druggie when you have proven several times over that he is in fact NOT. I'm guessing his issues are stemming from frustration that their program/teachers are not providing him the help he requires. It may be time to get a specific diagnosis so he can get a program tailored for his individual needs.

Btw, Amy, sorry! I did not mean to hit "funny", my mouse got jumpy. You have excellent advice!

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I don't know if it's an option for your family, but have you thought about or considered alternative education? Traditional schools are not for every child, and there may be something happening there that is causing him to make bad choices. There are many virtual schools where kids stay at home for their schooling and with the help of their parents, excel and feel safe. We use a virtual public school for our daughter and we love it. It has all the requirements of a traditional school, is free (all the books, etc. are sent to you) and there are teachers to do the grading, help and monitor his learning. Just a thought. Good luck!

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Also, you can request the school pay for him to attend another school and receive the therapy he needs (for his IEP) at their expense for transportation and therapy. False accusations are not acceptable, and would warrant this. You can call the Department of Education for your state and discuss this with them, also speak with (and request) a child advocate, and speak with the District Special Education person, whoever that may be for your district. Make certain you contact all of them, and make certain the school knows you are not joking, this is serious, and this will be corrected.

Iridescent - posted on 10/01/2010

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You shouldn't need to go any further. If the school wants to continue making accusations, file charges with the state for libel. Those accusations (which have been PROVEN false multiple times) can cause serious harm in his future if not stopped. He should not have to prove himself innocent, and in this case, multiple times.

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