how do i put a fussy baby to sleep ?? help!!

Val - posted on 09/04/2009 ( 33 moms have responded )

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my baby is so fussy at night it seems like hes trying to fight sleeping hes only a month old im a new mom and it is really stressful sometimes...please help...

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Angela - posted on 04/08/2013

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I have two year that wake up cry , I change and keep her clean and towards the weather condition. Sometime hours or more. What tip do u have to keep her Sleep All night.

Christa - posted on 09/07/2009

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All I can do is smile when I read this. I know where your coming from. My son who is now 19 months was a HORRIBLE sleeper. He would only sleep for 45 minute to 1 hour intervals until he was 8 months old!! Being that your baby is only one month old you just have to deal with it. At this age you should not "just let him cry it out", he doesn't know any better because he is a newborn. Around 5-6 months you can try to let your baby cry it out. But I would not recommend it before then. For right now it is not abnormal for your baby to only sleep 2 hour intervals. Because at one month they need to eat every 3 hours at least. If your baby is gassy you can give them "mylecon", and allow him to sleep in his favorite spot (in a swing, bassinet, car seat) where ever you can get him to sleep...let him. Good luck, I know these times are difficult.

Jessica - posted on 09/07/2009

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I let my son just cry himself to sleep now that he is 5 months old. It works like a charm! Now he sleeps through the night.

Nicole - posted on 09/05/2009

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Quoting stephanie:



Quoting Nicole:

Yes it could be gas but i have noticed with my son that when he gets really fussy its because he is over tired. sometimes just letting them lay in their crib and cry is good too. and when you hear them cry you want to pick them up and comfort them but you cant let them get spoiled! he will never want to be put down!





PLS dont take this the wrong way, but I giggled a little.  I have not herd anyone refer to babies as being spoiled..?  What does that mean?






Holding the baby too much can spoil them and then they will want to be held all the time! and when that happens when you put the baby down then they will just cry all the time..there is such thing as spoiling them! this happened to my baby and it was haprd to get him to not cry and not be held

Milagros - posted on 09/05/2009

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you can try putting on a bouncing seat and facing a wall, so he cant see any mvements like you cleaning or anything, turn lights off use only a night light and if is during the day close all the courtains, that works with my 3 kids when they got fussy!

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Nicola - posted on 09/07/2009

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with my baby, who is now 10months, i tried something caled self soothing.



the first thing you do is make sure all the boxes are ticked, not got wind, clean nappy, not hungry ect....



....then secondly put them to bed. they will cry at first but use your mother senses, you will soon know if your newborn is in distress.



The point of this is, that they will learn to calm and sooth themselves to sleep. so if they wake in the night they will use the method they used when they were first put to bed.



It is hard and you need to keep to it but it is worth while in the end, i had to do it for 2 weeks with my daughter crying but i haven't looked back since, shes slept throught the night ever since and has not cried when she has been put to bed since 3 weeks old.



All babies are different and what works for one wont work for another but it worth a try.



Hope I've helped xxx

Rebecca - posted on 09/07/2009

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My fourth child wouldn't sleep unless I warmed up a towel or blanket in the dryer, wrapped him in it and rocked him belly down across my knees... It sounds funny now but the OB nurses were the ones that suggested it and it was HEAVEN the first night I got some sleep!

Marie - posted on 09/05/2009

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Most of all mama needs to stay relaxed and just be very patient they will calm down. Give them a warm bath and put some lavender for baby's in it. Rub there Eye brows,there tummys, and there back. This is what I did with my boys.

Nicole - posted on 09/05/2009

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Quoting Anna:

Yes, it is so stressful but it will get better as she gets a few months older. She is still really young and will need to be held and rocked a lot. Babies need touch more than anything else and they love movement - it really calms them. Try walking with her, singing to her softly. I don't think you should leave her to cry as some people suggest. Studies have proved that if you do that, the baby will give up crying eventually but she will still be stressed and if you do brain scans and blood tests on those babies, they show the exact same signs as an adult with severe depression. If you are breastfeeding, that is a good way to get her to sleep or let her suck on your little finger -it's better than a pacifier.



you have to let them cry sometimes! im not saying let him sit there and cry for 30 mins. let them cry for 10 mins and go in check on him calm him down give him a pacifier or whatever. leave if he starts crying let him do it for another 10 mins and do it again! thats what the doctors have told me and its good for them to cry!

Kate - posted on 09/05/2009

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I just had my son last Monday, and we brought him home last night. The only thing that seems to work with him is to put him in the baby swing, they crave that movement from the womb. Good luck!

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If she is fussy, it may be due to gas on her stomach. Try the bicycle with her legs closer to the stomach to kinda help move the gas. Another thing that may help is to put her across your shoulder where her stomach is resting either on top of the shoulder or right up against the shoulder bone and rub her back. Also a little warm water in a bottle helps to move the gas.

Melanie - posted on 09/05/2009

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Some of the things we found useful with my daughter was when she was tired but didn't want to sleep, I would rock her and stroke her head with one hand, occassionally putting my hand over her eyes and shutting them then continue stroking, closing eyes etc till she slept.



The other thing we did, was watch cartoons in the dark. She loved watching the bright flickering colours and it had a calming effect on her. You can try it with the sound off - it can send you into a trance like state if you just stare at the TV. Surprisingly meditative.

Patricia - posted on 09/05/2009

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Quoting val:

how do i put a fussy baby to sleep ?? help!!

my baby is so fussy at night it seems like hes trying to fight sleeping hes only a month old im a new mom and it is really stressful sometimes...please help...




Newborn babies often seem to have no real sleeping pattern — and no regard for whether it's day or night. Often sleeping 16 to 18 hours a day, your baby will probably sleep for two to three hours, wake up, eat, and go to sleep again. Adjusting to his new world can be tiring!



At about 6 weeks old, his sleep and wake pattern will begin to become established, and by 16 weeks, he may have settled into a regular schedule. So there is a routine in the not-too-distant future.



Ensure that you are also not stressed as it does also interfere with the baby's picking on what



you feel.Try and catch up when the baby does sleep...as some babies their night is day and their day is night....



Be at ease all will fall into place.



Kylie - posted on 09/04/2009

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my little girl is about the same age but I found that if she is wrapped tight then patted while nursing her but pat on the bottom very firm. hope it helps

Urvi - posted on 09/04/2009

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Turning on any white noise was really working for my daughter...She used to get really fussy at night and we used to turn on hair dryer and she will fall a sleep in few mins...

I heard that noise of vaccume cleaner really works too for colic/fussy baby.

Hope this helps..

Annika - posted on 09/04/2009

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Hi, I also had trouble putting my baby to sleep when he was only a few weeks old, I tried a lot of things and the best that worked is to 1) rock him to sleep in your arms, 2) sleep with him in bed 3) if he falls asleep in his cot, put your t-shirt next to him that you wore that day, your scent comforts him and your t-shirt obviously smell like you! Good luck hun!

Nara - posted on 09/04/2009

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try a car ride or putting him in the car seat on top of the dryer/washer/dishwasher. sometimes the vibration and white noise work wonders. once asleep, it is ok to let him sleep in the car seat for one night...so you can get some sleep too.

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I know it seems cruel to do... but letting him cry may be your only way.

It gets easier with practice. I used to sit outside my daughters room and cry right along with her. I made the mistake of giving in, and she slept with me until she started school. Then she finally found that she slept better in her own bed. My 3rd was/is a tough one too. She still at 21 month old still screams everytime she goes down for a nap, or to bed for the night.

Its just her nature. With her, even going in to soothe her, would make her screaming worse, so I finally found that leaving her to fuss it out, worked best. But overall her fussy times ( she was fussy 3/4 of the day), have improved some this past month, and she is more enjoyable, and less clingy to mommy. She is finally getting cozy with daddy, grandma, even grandpa.. I may get a little break, finally.

Just hang in there!

Anna - posted on 09/04/2009

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ps. don't worry about spoiling her - it is truly not possible to spoil a baby. The more sweet and gentle you can be with her now, the more it will pay off later as she will grow up calmer and happier. take care :)

Anna - posted on 09/04/2009

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Yes, it is so stressful but it will get better as she gets a few months older. She is still really young and will need to be held and rocked a lot. Babies need touch more than anything else and they love movement - it really calms them. Try walking with her, singing to her softly. I don't think you should leave her to cry as some people suggest. Studies have proved that if you do that, the baby will give up crying eventually but she will still be stressed and if you do brain scans and blood tests on those babies, they show the exact same signs as an adult with severe depression. If you are breastfeeding, that is a good way to get her to sleep or let her suck on your little finger -it's better than a pacifier.

Stephanie - posted on 09/04/2009

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This is such a tough question. Like someone had said you have some great ideas to try. I dont know if your are nursing but you can try the lay down nursing, then when baby is asleep just leave them there or transfer them to their crib.
When my little one was really fussy, I would nurse her as an early night time feeding, by laying down and she would just fall asleep that way and I could just roll out of the bed.

Carly - posted on 09/04/2009

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The only way my little guy would sleep initially was to swaddle him fairly tightly and play his womb sound bear. The swaddling mimics the comfort and snugness from when they're in our bellies, and the thumping womb sound comforts as it's the sound they've heard for nine months. He's now three and a half months old, no longer needs the womb sounds, but I find he sleeps best when he's wrapped. 9-10 hours a night!

Stephanie - posted on 09/04/2009

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Quoting Nicole:

Yes it could be gas but i have noticed with my son that when he gets really fussy its because he is over tired. sometimes just letting them lay in their crib and cry is good too. and when you hear them cry you want to pick them up and comfort them but you cant let them get spoiled! he will never want to be put down!


PLS dont take this the wrong way, but I giggled a little.  I have not herd anyone refer to babies as being spoiled..?  What does that mean?

Amie - posted on 09/04/2009

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I have three kids 11, 8, and 2 and each one was different. The bouncy, vibrating chairs were great for my youngest we even had one that played music too. My oldest would sleep in his infant car seat he just loved it. My 8 year old was really light sensitive and liked to sleep in a pitch black room no light. Just try different things you will find your nitch. I noticed you said he is only a month old most babies don't have set schedules for sleeping that young and you are probabily sleep deprived and stressed, Have a family member or close friend maybe take him for the night just one good night of sleep for you will make a world of difference.

Jennifer - posted on 09/04/2009

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I found early on that my baby really felt comforted by touch - hated to be alone. Sometimes just holding her hand would calm her down. Or holding her till she fell asleep, then moving her to her bed. We had to learn other tricks (smooth jazz), or the 'be back in 5, 10, 15 minutes' phrase when she was a toddler. When she started levitating off her toddler bed (wouldn't stay in), we had to resort to rules where rule 1 was stay on the bed. They even say to maybe switch bed times - maybe experiment with your baby being put to bed 10 minutes earlier. Sometimes they can't settle in when they are too tired. Hopefully, you will experiment to figure out what works best for baby and you!

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Hi Val, sorry for your troubles. I'm wandering if the mood and/ or energy in the house changes at night. Give it some thought. You've certainly gotten some good advice: no shortage of things to try. I, too, would try giving the baby something to prevent gas. Ask your dr. what to give.For my son, who''s almost 2 - The lighting had to be just right in his room. Good luck to you.

Nicole - posted on 09/04/2009

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Yes it could be gas but i have noticed with my son that when he gets really fussy its because he is over tired. sometimes just letting them lay in their crib and cry is good too. and when you hear them cry you want to pick them up and comfort them but you cant let them get spoiled! he will never want to be put down!

Lindsey - posted on 09/04/2009

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i have three kids and each one was different my oldest who is 10 now would go to sleep in a vibrating bouncy seat and this might seem odd but thats the only place i could get her to sleep and i did that until she was 3 mos old i tried everything with her and that was it my middle child who is almost 6 would go to sleep after a bath at night and then rock her and that was sweet too my youngest who is now 2 loved to sleep on her side and id rub her back and was asleep in about ten min all these worked for me i also had a fleece warm cribb fitted sheets so that when they would roll over the cold regular fitted sheets wouldnt startle them and wake up that came from a nurse was great advice my fourth child is on the way due in a week and i might be in the same boat and if these dont work for this one i might be asking the same question good luck and let me know what you try and what you may get from others so i know what to do as well

Lynn - posted on 09/04/2009

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i just layed my daughter across me like i was nursing her and put the blanket over her and my shoulder and kinda rocked her by patting her butt..... that always worked for her... hopw this helps too

Julie - posted on 09/04/2009

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Oh I forgot...we also had a bassinet that had a subtle vibration to it...that put her out pretty quickly too..

Julie - posted on 09/04/2009

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Well first make sure he's not gassy (do the bycicle legs, if there's gas it will come out that way) ....what we did with our daughter Payton is, after she was changed and fed and all those needs taken care of...we would put her in her crib and play a Baby Bach cd. after about 10 minutes she would fall fast asleep. (and it's a proven fact that baby's that listen to classical music are smarter then baby's that don't) Hope this helps!!

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