how do i wean a 1 1/2 year old without a bottle or milk?

Elizabeth - posted on 07/06/2009 ( 18 moms have responded )

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My son HATES milk and hates bottles. I really want to start weaning him but I want him to do it himself. I tried to wean him a little while ago and he got really upset and depressed and I dont want it to be like that. He wont take a bottle and has never drank milk - he HATES it. I have tried giving him a sippy cup of warm water and he loves it but right before he is about to fall asleep he wants to nurse. he doesnt nurse for very long and then he puts himself to sleep but I dont know how to break that. He nurses before his nap in the day and then at night. Any ideas that arent forcing him??

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Elizabeth - posted on 07/14/2009

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ill give it a shot. i heard that if he hasnt weaned by one he wont do it himself and that it will be harder the longer i wait!!! IS THAT TRUE? i REALLY REALLY want him to do it himself I just want to push it along. I dont need him to wean RIGHT this minute I just dont want to nurse him forever!

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My son hated milk and I weaned him to soy milk. It has calcium and is fortified with vitamins and good stuff. The Silk brand tastes the best. It comes in chocolate and vanilla and one called VERY VANILLA which is so sweet that we used it for a treat. My son liked to go to bed with a sippy cup of water. I found one that didn't leak and would give him that to suck on at night. That same child also took a pacifier. Some kids just really need lots of oral soothing and won't give up the breast until they have something else to suck/chew on.

Nihla - posted on 07/13/2009

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I had the same problem, it was very hard on both of us! Finally at 2 yr 2mo old I had had enough, she had some tooth decay because of the nursing, and the dentist flat out told me it is time to stop nursing her! He was so right! I got a passifier and any time she wanted to nurse I gave her that, she cried and never really sucked it, but she held on to it and chewed on it a little. It gave her the oral stimulation she needed, and she never started sucking it, she kept it with her for a few days, then she was good. Your son will take a cup, you don't have to give him milk just give him a vitamin d, supplement. All he needs at that age is food and water. (also try Nutripals, my daughter hated milk, but she loved those!) If you are really ready and don't give in after you start it will only take 2-3 days.

Therese - posted on 07/09/2009

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I had trouble with my daughter and bottle rot from her only being able to fall asleep if she had a bottle or nipple in her mouth. I would personally recommend a pacifier, even at his age, if he needs the oral stimulation to fall asleep.

Elizabeth - posted on 07/09/2009

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thanks ill try all of those. i think hes getting enough nutrition because he eats a ton and has a lot of cheese and yogurt he just likes to nurse to sleep and i really dont want him to cry. hes still only 15 months so ill try those ideas and see if he stops himself. THANKS

Libby - posted on 07/07/2009

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He may like the warm water, but it has no nutrional value and won't fill his belly, which is perhaps what he is looking for. I would try just skipping one of those nursing sessions for like a week and see how that goes. It may take a couple of weeks to get him off of all of them. Good luck!

Vicki - posted on 07/07/2009

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Get someone else like Dad to put him to bed while you are out, try just one sleep for a start and once you have broken that pattern move onto the next sleep.

He'll get there with lots of cuddles and reassurance!

Dont worry about the milk, they dont need it as long as they get their calcium and protein from other sources like cheese and yoghurt

Stacy - posted on 07/07/2009

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From what I've learned about nutrition, you can get away with just nursing minimally and adding yogurt, cheese and other dairy products for your son to get the calcium and vitamin D he needs. I'm still nursing my almost 2 and a half year old daughter so I have the same struggle with stopping completely..sounds like you & I both have weaned a lot...down to only two times per day..and it went naturally..but it may come to the point where he's two or two and a half & at that point you can explain to him that we can still cuddle but Mommy's milk is all gone or whatever..A friend of mine did this when her daughter was three, so I''m not worried at this point..18 months is still within the realm of reason for nursing..Since he's using a sippy cup for water, you're all set. I never used a bottle either-went straight to that. All the best!

Sophrona - posted on 07/06/2009

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with my girls i would walk them through the house or just in the bedroom, and try not to talk to them, because that would wake their brain up so to speak. we would also lay down (for nap time first) with them and just sing them about 5 or six primary songs. i would just repeat them over and over until they fell asleep.

Helen - posted on 07/06/2009

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I heard the same as jerri's respond except with blueing that you whitten the white cloth with.put it around the nipple and the infant wont like the taste of it and will reject it...my mother-in law did it and it helped..of course this was way back.

Helen - posted on 07/06/2009

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Quoting elizabeth:

how do i wean a 1 1/2 year old without a bottle or milk?

My son HATES milk and hates bottles. I really want to start weaning him but I want him to do it himself. I tried to wean him a little while ago and he got really upset and depressed and I dont want it to be like that. He wont take a bottle and has never drank milk - he HATES it. I have tried giving him a sippy cup of warm water and he loves it but right before he is about to fall asleep he wants to nurse. he doesnt nurse for very long and then he puts himself to sleep but I dont know how to break that. He nurses before his nap in the day and then at night. Any ideas that arent forcing him??


 

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Some kids are harder to wean then others...try changing the before sleep routine and do it everyday so he knows that this is what happens...you could have him brush his teeth then sit for some cuddle time with books set a limit of 2 or 3 books and then lay him down and go...you can throw in a song or a video a special blanket...the point is consistency. I would think that you are offering him milk in a cup through out the day...he will drink/eat something and if you are worried about him getting what he needs they make yummy vitamins. Ask your doc about them. You may just have to stop as hard as that may be for you it might just be what you need to do...maybe he is having a hard time giving it up because you are not sure in your decision.

Jerri - posted on 07/06/2009

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I heard that dying your nipples with food coloring helps. They think it's strange. I never had to try it but I got the advice from a mom who nursed and weaned 3

Jennifer - posted on 07/06/2009

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you have to have patience first but try breaking his routine. instead of a bottle use a sippy cup one with a straw not the hard plastic one. just as long as you work with him and dont give up on it it will work out. the milk issue however i cant give advice on that. i think you need to talk to his doctor. your milk is always the best. but they do need milk for brain development. hey try putting your breast milk in a sippy cup and see if he takes to that. but dont give hima bottle. good luck with it

Rachel - posted on 07/06/2009

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Well, I nursed all my children. It was hard at first to wean them. Most of the time they stop when they were ready. My child that 6 weaned at the age of 2 years old. You can try just not giving in on the nursing so you can dry up. Do what works best for you. Altimately be strong and you are the parent. Eventhought its hard to do.

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