How do u potty train a 1 yr old boy!

Stacy - posted on 02/17/2010 ( 253 moms have responded )

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My son is 11 months old Im trying to potty train him.

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Amanda - posted on 02/17/2010

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North America is the only country where kids are trained at a later age, everywhere else kids seem to be potty trained by 1 or close to. I think a lot of people dont give their kids enough credit, but they do and can understand what it means to go potty on a toilet and not soak their pants. I have a friend who introduced the potty at 8mths and just sat her on it from time to time and when she went in the potty praised her with great excitement! She was potty trained by 14mths, she is 3 now and may wet the bed from time to time but that does not have to do with bowel control. She may just not want to get out of bed.
I think if you want to potty train at 1 its completely do able you just have to devote a lot of time, patience and consistency.

Good Luck, I will be doing the same :)

Jodi - posted on 02/19/2010

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I'm a licensed counselor, and as helpful as it would be, training at 11 months of age is only helpful to the parents, but actually can be quite harmful to the child. Children literally cannot control their potty habits until brain cells in the brain have formed specific connections, and trying to force a child to do something that the brain and body are not ready to do can result in serious consequences for you and your child. Every child develops at a different rate, and every parent would LOVE for theirs to be interested in potty training as early as possible. Really, though, there's no such thing as potty training your child. The child will start using the potty when his body is ready. You can't "crawl train" or "walk train" your child to teach them to crawl or walk. You can't "talk train" them to teach them to talk. They learn to do these things when their brains and bodies are developmentally ready. When they ARE ready, often there are behavioral things that you can do to help them remember to use the potty, but 11 months is way too young to do these things for virtually all babies. Most kids have to be quite verbal and able to communicate (well) before they can potty train - the brain develops in sequence, and is not ready to accomplish certain developmental tasks until others have been mastered - it's a hard-wired thing, and no matter how bad we parents want it, there's no overriding DNA. Most kids aren't ready until between 2 and 3 years old - and then many, many accidents will likely still happen. Stacy, please don't push him too fast too early in all developmental areas - not just potty training. He can easily develop significant anxiety, and end up in someone's office like mine some day, and have a life-long struggle with self-confidence and self-esteem.

Marijke - posted on 02/17/2010

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I started EC'ing my baby at around 4 months of age. EC'ing is nothing like potty training. It stands for elimination communication and it's about watching the signals your little one gives before needing to go, timing and relying on a bit of intuition. The easiest way to start is to go bear bottom, see what the signs are or placing baby on a potty at certain intervals, it's easiest to start after a nap because most babies go between waking up and 15 min. So far we've had great success but our success rate goes down during teething or milestones.

This can be done, see this blog post http://www.svmoms.com/2007/08/the-secret... on diaperless china where kids start school at the age of two and most are fully 'potty trained' 6 months or more before they turn 2 by using the EC'ing method.

Perhaps go search for EC (Elimination Communication) blogs and find like-minded mommies, it can be very disheartening when you only get negative feedback on this topic!

If you want you can add me on Facebook and keep me updated on your journey!

Sherley - posted on 02/17/2010

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You shouldn't try to! It's best to wait when the child has a little understanding. Or wait til the child turns 2 in a half.

Peggy - posted on 02/19/2010

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The Hype is the making of the Paper diaper industry. When I was put on the potty I was less then a year and nobody got upset that it was too early. 62 years later, when someone asks for advice everyone is in arms and judgmental. Too early. Own Time. Enjoy! Poppycock ! the only good smelling happy baby is a clean one and if a Mother wants to Diaper Train her son, I SAY GOOD FOR HER AND HERE'S ONE WAY I KNOW WORKS WELL. www.PottyTrainWithBabySigns.com

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Peggy - posted on 02/19/2010

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If Its brain connection that you are worrying about you all need to get with the times. Research has shown that children do the greatest amount of learning before by 2. Babysign and Sign 2me and other pre verbal programs have shown that baby can tell when he is about to pee or poop before it happens and once he can communicate it training is all downhill. Third world countries are way ahead of us on child rearing they can't afford paper diapers,sterile bottles and child psychologists.
STACIE listen to your heart and got to www.PottyTrainWithBabySigns.com
this is a company website not connected to any agent or teacher.

Kathy - posted on 02/19/2010

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One year old is alittle young, but you can start introducing him to the pot. Sit him down show it to him, explain to him what it is for. He will not understand what you are talking about, but he will learn not to fear it. Show him the mommy and daddy pot when he is about 11/2, explain how the two pots are the same, one for him amd one for mommy and daddy. Let him feel like his pot is special, because it is the big boy pot, like him. As he show more interest let him sit on it, just don't force him. When he is ready, then make sure he goes after each meal, after his nap, and before bed. And when you come home from an outing, take him to the pot. He will learn this routine, then soon will start going on his on.

Beth - posted on 02/19/2010

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I was also potty trained early, and my grandmother admitted she was the one who was trained. Moreover, it is easier to train a girl then it is a boy. Physiological the bladder is not ready to hold urine for extended periods of time and cognitively the brain isnot ready to understand the concept.
Beth

Cleona - posted on 02/19/2010

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don't give me his daddy's not around , and being a single mom crap...that has nothing to do with potty training...stop feeling sorry for yourself and be a MOM...the child's raising should be your only concern....and if they are 1, 2, or 3...they won't train until they are ready so be prepared for the long haul....

Jodie - posted on 02/19/2010

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it is too early it is best to wait until they r ready or it causes a great amount of stress for u and ur son! i waited until my son was 3 then just put him in pants, he was completely trained in 2 weeks and overnight within 2 months

Lesley - posted on 02/19/2010

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too early for the neural connection to have happened. You'll just frustrate yourself and the poor kid.

Katrina - posted on 02/19/2010

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I agree, he is far too young, Wait until he shows interest in the toilet and can tell you when he is wet. My daughter was out of nappies at two. Six months later some of her friends are still in nappies.

Kim - posted on 02/19/2010

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Having raised 5 children, 3 of them boys, I would think that 11 months is a little too early to start the training process. He needs time for his brain to develop the connection between the sensation of needing to go and the forethought to get to the restroom in time. 11 month olds just don't have that capability. I know changing diapers is the pits, but it won't last forever, I promise! Enjoy him in each of his stages they fly right by...

Beth - posted on 02/19/2010

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You can't. At this point in your son's life you would be training yourself to put him on the toilet. Wait until he is 2 1/2 to 3 and then you can use a reward system When your son is ready he will won't require very much training and your job will be easy.



Beth

Catie - posted on 02/19/2010

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Umm, you do not train an 11 month old. They do not have the mental capacity for it, nor do they have the physical control. My daughter was potty trained early at 23 months. I have never heard of a boy or girl being potty trained this early. You need to follow his lead - he'll let you know.

Pamela - posted on 02/19/2010

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I think it is dangerous to try and potty train a child that doesn't have a word for pee and poop. Remember that the sphincter doesn't usually develop that fast. My kids couldn't even walk at 11 months. If you do it too early, he will resent toiliting and you could have a lot of problems

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what rubbish - I don't mean to be rude but just because this mother wants to "train" her child at 11 months old is entirely her decision, even though I don't actually agree with it.
But I certainly don't feel "threatened" because children are all so different. sweeping statements like that are just ridiculous.

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hi far too young - he is too young to understand the concept of what a toilet is. Wait until he is ready - he will let you know and boys are notoriously late with their transition from nappies (diapers) to using the toilet. Enjoy him - he's a baby - it is so wrong to put pressure like this on a little one - they grow up quickly enough, believe me I have had four and wish they were all back to beng 11 months old (the oldest is 34 youngest 16). Don't be in a rush to have him grow up..........

Maria - posted on 02/19/2010

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I did it by rewarding him with a snack something the don't get all the time that he would want small thing it helps a lot My sons daddy was not around so I was very hard when your a woman but mot impossible

Cleona - posted on 02/19/2010

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Unless he shows signs of wanting to be trained let it go for another 6 months or longer..He is too young to be trained..he has to understand language...and at 1 year they just don't...some kids don't train for 2 or 3 years so be fully prepared for the long haul...

Lucy - posted on 02/19/2010

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i wouldn't not a 11 months old its far too early they are progressing in other areas first before even thinking of potty training, he wont have the vocabulary to express his needs, or the ability cognitively to process what he needs to do, he probably also hasn't the physical skill yet to maneuver properly, e.g walking, able to pull trousers up down etc, sit and get up off potty unaided, an average age for boys particularly is anywhere from 2.6 yrs and 3.6yrs.

Nathalie - posted on 02/19/2010

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You can't potty train a kid when you want to but you can potty train a kid when he is ready. BIG HUGE difference. When the child gives you signs that he is ready, then it's a good time to try. Buy him a little potty and when he shows interest in sitting then it might be time. The experts say that when he keeps his diaper dry for AT LEAST 2 hours at a time and also stays dry at naptime, then it might be time. You can't force a child to potty train. Believe I tried. I had 3 girls. One potty trained at 22 months (which is on the early side), the other was almost 3 when SHE decided to do it. She is the one I tried to force into it to no avail. The other one was 29 months. And remember boys are slower than girls too. Good luck to you!

Tonja - posted on 02/19/2010

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Also, this strange story about potty training them from birth in Africa is a load of nonsense... I live in South Africa... My child was potty trained at 2 years 8 months... Stop thinking Africa is so primitive.... We are not invalids... Get a grip and stop lending your ears to the media or whatever myths you seem to read... Sorry, but its annoying...

Crystal - posted on 02/19/2010

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You don't! You wait for his cues, staying dry longer, waking up dry from naps, telling you he's wet or poopy. If you push him to hard he will regress and it will take you longer.

Angie - posted on 02/19/2010

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There is no harm in teaching, showing and using the potty at a young age. I think the critisism is that it is a much longer and time consuming process. It is a misconception to say or think that your child (any age) is potty trained because you put them on the potty and they go. It is a process and it can be as time consuming as you make it. If you start putting a child on the potty at 6 months, chances are they will not be fully independent for at least a year at best (minus the clean up help, which usually ocurs @ 4-5yrs). It would be very time consuming for the parents and/or caregivers and not likely to be an option for working parents or children in daycare. Consistency is key in any training so if you have the time on your hands, patience and want to spend 5 hours a day in the bathroom.... go for it!

However, if you waited until the child is 20-30 months and shows signs of readiness (regular elimination schedule, stooping/hiding/grunting to make a bowel movement, tugging at diaper when wet, good receptive language skills, some understanding of themselves, famliarity of the potty.....), your little one could be diaper free and independently using the potty in just days! Not to say that they won't have an occassional accident, but after a few days of being dry, they will be uncomfortable wetting themselves and let you know, unlike a 6 month old.

The difference is the amount of effort you really want to put into it. In reality, you can be in the training process for 2 years or 2 days depending on your effort and your child's cooperation and readiness. Potty trained occurs when the child is primarily in underwear and ONLY uses the potty to eliminate (maybe a few accidents or overnight precautions permitted)!

Tonja - posted on 02/19/2010

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You don't potty train a 1 year old... Only at 2 and a half... It could have severe psychological consequences....

Martha - posted on 02/19/2010

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I read in africa they potty train new borns. For one thing, they don't have diapers or even enough clothes to cover themselves, much less have enough cloth to cover the babies' bottoms. These babie's cry or whine when they need "to go" just like they do when they are hungry or sleepy. I know it can be done, but I've never invested the time it took. I wonder if children who are started earlier if they actually do better? I started at 18 months and it took forever with one of them and the others did just fine. Maybe I should have started the sooner with the first one. I'd say go for it. Don't let the world tell you it can't be done, cause, yes it can!!!

Raylene - posted on 02/19/2010

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It is not advisable to try to potty train a child much younger than 2. Most childhood developmental people will say 21months is the earliest. Their reason being that the nerves that allert the child as to when they have to "go" are not fully developed until that age. You can knock yourself now and both be frustrated or wait another year and it will be much easier on both of you.

Michelle - posted on 02/19/2010

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wait until he is older i have three grown boys adults and no since and rushing thru anything they grow up way to fast so enjoy

Peggy - posted on 02/19/2010

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Stacie, conventional wisdom says pottie training and talking go hand in hand with giving up the bottle or breast, But who are we to go along with conventional wisdom. CHECK OUT BABYSIGN'S PROGRAM @ https://www.babysigns.com/index.cfm?id=5

Stephanie - posted on 02/19/2010

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He may not understand the concept yet, they at least have to be able to tell you they have to go. At that age, all I did with my daughter was take her and sit her on the potty when I went so that when actual training started, she knew what she was supposed to do on a potty. After that she was a breeze to train at about 18 months. Before 2 for a little boy is really hard, if you push it he may have issues later. If you do get it down I wouldn't make him wear undies overnight until he is a little older. Boys who get trained too early seem to have bed wetting issues later on when they are older...

Good luck though, I love that you are trying early instead of putting it off til he is older (gross)! Use a lot of positive reiforcement, and NO negative. At his age he will learn potty time means bad things and you want it to mean good things! Don't just reward with candy, hugs, kisses, high fives work too and always HUGE celebration when he is successful. Jump up and down and scream and act like a weirdo : )

Stephanie - posted on 02/19/2010

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I say you go girl...do what is best and right for you. If you want to try then try there is no harm for foul. I would not make a big deal if he pees himself...heck most grown people peep themselves. I dont know about other moms but when I was prego when i sneezed I peep LOL Any who....I think as long as you keep it positive and come up with greative ways it is gonna work. I am not a believer for punishing potty training little ones...positive reinforcement and attitude is every thing :O) Just even introducing him to the potty is great...they get, they know more than we think!

Best of luck to you! :)

Kirstin - posted on 02/19/2010

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Everyone is different, but you'd would only be training yourself to look out for the cues. If your son can walk and easily get on and off a chair, then i'd put the potty out for him to try only if he wants to though as the more you force them the more they resist. Good luck

Sunitha - posted on 02/19/2010

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my oldest was a boy and being potty trained at 21 months was awsome. my second one is a girl she did awsome also... i have learn in all my child care education that you should never switch the kids from diapers to pull ups because it confuses them. i went from diapers to underwear with both if my kids and the adivce i gave katherine has worked for other people that i told them about reading a book and making it a big deal when they go to potty, it just encoruge them even more.

Bill Christine - posted on 02/19/2010

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Infant potty training is not basing potty training on when they are ready or "know when they are peeing, etc.". It is teaching them patterns of when to sit on the toilet and it is very doable. Just like they get used to when there's a knock on the door someone is there, or when the phone rings mommy picks it up. Babies learn hundreds of patterns that we do not give them credit for and the United States is definitely behind in "baby rearing". If you want to potty train your infant, go for it! just don't listen to everyone who waited until their kids were older because they will definitely feel threatened by you. Hope it goes great!

Bill Christine - posted on 02/19/2010

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Infant potty training is not basing potty training on when they are ready or "know when they are peeing, etc.". It is teaching them patterns of when to sit on the toilet and it is very doable. Just like they get used to when there's a knock on the door someone is there, or when the phone rings mommy picks it up. Babies learn hundreds of patterns that we do not give them credit for and the United States is definitely behind in "baby rearing". If you want to potty train your infant, go for it! just don't listen to everyone who waited until their kids were older because they will definitely feel threatened by you. Hope it goes great!

Jacinta - posted on 02/19/2010

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ping pong ball, 4 aim, or get one of those toy fishing games, the ones with magnets, works well, make it a fun rewarding expeirience ♥

Linda - posted on 02/19/2010

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have your little stand in front of potty and put cherrios in potty and tell him to pee on them , he'll try and if daddy is there have him show him if hes afraid, i have two boys and that was a good trick. good luck

Shana - posted on 02/19/2010

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Give him something to aim at, my three boys liked to pee on a rock, make it fun throw some cheerios in the potty and tell him to sink em'. It becomes a game and before you know it, he'll be out of diapers. And it doesn't matter how old they are, my oldest son was 2 and his little brother that was just about 1 wanted to play the game with his big brother so both were potty trained at the same time. GOOD LUCK!

Benae - posted on 02/19/2010

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I think one is too young, especially for a boy. I have 3 children (boy,girl,boy) the first boy was tougher to train (he had no other sibling to watch and follow firstly) but I did use the "summer" time method, out in the backyard he ran around naked and peed in the corner when he had to, after 3wks of this, we put on big boy underwear and within 2wks he was trained (had a couple of "mistakes" in between though) GOOD LUCK my only advice is do not push the issue too much!!!

Benae - posted on 02/19/2010

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I think one is too young, especially for a boy. I have 3 children (boy,girl,boy) the first boy was tougher to train (he had no other sibling to watch and follow firstly) but I did use the "summer" time method, out in the backyard he ran around naked and peed in the corner when he had to, after 3wks of this, we put on big boy underwear and within 2wks he was trained (had a couple of "mistakes" in between though) GOOD LUCK my only advice is do not push the issue too much!!!

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well, you can always wait until he's tall enough to reach his penis over the edge of the tolit! That's about when my son trained...much easier after 2 & 1/2 years!

Jessika - posted on 02/19/2010

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I have 3 boys and they all have been very different. One thing that I have learned with them is that they are ready on their own time. Im sure you like other moms want their kids to potty train early but it is better for you and your child that it needs to be on their time not ours..

Annie - posted on 02/19/2010

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Well for one thing u have to patient and persistant, lots of love and make it fun, I know this may soound funny but u could use cherrios put some in the potty and have him aim for the cherrios, u could something else thats easy to flush, if ur outside, tell him {not in town or by neighbors} but he pee on sticks or rocks, something like that but not on animals, use your discretion but make fun.

Annie - posted on 02/19/2010

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Well for one thing u have to patient and persistant, lots of love and make it fun, I know this may soound funny but u could use cherrios put some in the potty and have him aim for the cherrios, u could something else thats easy to flush, if ur outside, tell him {not in town or by neighbors} but he pee on sticks or rocks, something like that but not on animals, use your discretion but make fun.

Annie - posted on 02/19/2010

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Well for one thing u have to patient and persistant, lots of love and make it fun, I know this may soound funny but u could use cherrios put some in the potty and have him aim for the cherrios, u could something else thats easy to flush, if ur outside, tell him {not in town or by neighbors} but he pee on sticks or rocks, something like that but not on animals, use your discretion but make fun.

Ronnie - posted on 02/19/2010

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My son is 16 months old. He is not potty training because he is just starting to walk! I don't know if you can potty train a child at one year old, but if you can, good luck!

Mandy - posted on 02/19/2010

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I'm going out on a limb here, I'm assuming this is your first child. Potty training a child, especially a boy at 11 months will only successfully frustrate you and your son and possibley make him resistant to doing any time soon. The best thing at his age is to wait! Maybe at age 2 go to the library with him and get the book, "Everybody Poops" and read it together. Then take him to pick out his own potty. I kept mine in the TV room and let him "try" it out whenever he wanted to. It was always his seat of choice while watching the potty training video and I kept a prize box nearby with stickers and such when he was successful. He really trained himself in only 2 weeks. All I did was be there to encourage him and not get mad when he had an accident, but instead reassured him that everyone has accidents and don't ever make him feel bad about that!

Toni - posted on 02/19/2010

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You can't toilet train a 1 year! As the mother of four sons ranging in age from 24 down to 11, each one of my boys were trained completely by 2 years and 3 months. This took quite a bit of energy on my behalf. It is really the parent that needs to be potty trained first, by that I mean it is up to the parent to take the child to the toilet starting with intervals of 5 minutes and extending from there. Until he actually goes to the bathroom on the toilet, he does not understand what he is supposed to actually do once he is sitting there. Oh yes, sitting! Much more attention for the feat! Has to be sitting with no pants on. For an approximate 5 minutes, if he does not go, then return him in 5 more minutes, until he does. Reward by showing how excited and proud you are of him. It takes a while, about 1 entire month that you will need to imprison yourself at home! The cold weather is the best time to train them, because we are generally at home most of the time anyway. Less social activity the better during this process As far as 11 months old? It will only create frustration for both of you! Yes, we would all love to be the mother whose child is toilet trained at 1 year old, reality? It does not happen! Have fun and take care!

Toni

Alex - posted on 02/19/2010

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Um, you don't. I have 3 kids (2 boys) and it has been my experience that when they are ready to be trained, it only takes 2-3 days and it's done. Keep a little potty around,let him crawl on it, sit on it, etc. When he's ready to use it, he will. To me, it wasn't worth cleaning up all the accidents, etc. when they just weren't ready. Good luck!

Antoinette - posted on 02/19/2010

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First of all, don't force him or it will be a long battle. I, with my 5 kids (3 boys), kind of took it slow but I don't remember trying at 1, that's a little young. I don't think I would really try it till he's 18 to 24 month's and then when he get's to the standing up part you can throw a few cherrio's in the potty ot toilet and challenge him to aim at them. makes it a little more fun for them.

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