How do u potty train a 1 yr old boy!

Stacy - posted on 02/17/2010 ( 253 moms have responded )

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My son is 11 months old Im trying to potty train him.

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Sue - posted on 02/18/2010

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omg....11 months is way too young! why do u wanna potty train him at this age? let him be a baby! Obviously u can make him aware of the potty & what its for. he's not ready 4 potty training yet. if u force him to start too early when he's NOT ready u could cause the opposite affect, u could delay his need to start. Leave him at this age but he will let u no when he's ready. it will be much easier 4 all of u if u start potty training him when he wants to do it.

Yaneila - posted on 02/18/2010

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i think 1 yrs old is to young my son learrned as soon as he turned 2 though....its easy put a toy boat in the toilet and make it a game for him tell him everytime he has to go potty ( show him the toilet with the boat in it) to try to shot the boat and when he pees on the boat you give him a treat...(i know it kinda sounds like a dog) but after a while he will like going to the bathroom after 3 or 4 days my son always went to the bathroom by himself.....(just make sure u take the boat out with a rubber glove and clean it after every use)...lol....if u try it let me know how it works out for u....but maybe u should wait till hes about 2 just an idea....

Esther - posted on 02/18/2010

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wow! 11 months is a little too young. i would at least wait until he is 18 months. i didn't get my 1st son trained until 2 and 1/2 years. i started at 2 years. u have to give it time and just wait until he understands what he is doing and how to process what u are trying to teach him. he won't be able to do that at 11 months.

Eileen - posted on 02/18/2010

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to be honest it is too early in development milestones to potty train boys or girls. Usually around 2 years old is when you can start. That part of the brain hasnt developed yet. Boys are famous for taking longer to potty train than girls. Because of where I lived I house trained my boys before they were potty trained. Lol.

Laura - posted on 02/18/2010

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I've been letting my son sit on the potty since he was about 9 months old and he loves it. I started by putting him on the toilet every hour and saying "potty" and singing to him when he would go in the toilet. He loves it now. Even though he doesn't talk yet if I see him pushing I ask him if he needs to potty and if he does he runs to the bathroom door and that's how I know. If he's at daycare you also need to have them help you out with that so you keep it constant.

Sara - posted on 02/18/2010

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Developmentally speaking, 11 month old children don't understand potty training. Trying at this age will frustrate you and your son. Wait until he shows some interest in the toilet first...usually around age 2.
( Kindergarten teacher and Mom of 2 boys)

Jamie - posted on 02/18/2010

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When my son turned one we got him a potty. We put it in the living room and just let him get used to it. He was not old enough to understand but i did not want him to be frightened by the potty as a lot of kids are. He is 2 now and in the last month just started asking to sit on the potty with out us asking him first. He still is not going in the potty but he is getting on it. We use candy to reward him and sing and do the potty dance too. If your baby can get the whole potty thing at 11 mo. then koodos to you, and let me know cause I really want my 2 y/o to get trained. But honestly don't expect much he is still a baby. but good luck to you, and let me know if you get him trained!!!

Carrie - posted on 02/18/2010

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What exactly is the big deal about starting early??? Who cares when you start. My husband's mother started when they were born because the were too poor to buy diapers and never really had any real cloth diapers (this was in India). I started before my daughter was 1 year.
Stacy didn't say she was forcing her son! I say good for you Stacy, start him now. Show him what to do, make it seem fun and exciting for him! Take him in the toilet with you whenever you and your hubby go and clap and make a big deal about it when you finish. I did this with my daughter, and although we went slowly cause we started her off early, she transitioned beautifully and only wears a pull-up at night now. She will be 2 in 3 days!
But, honestly, I am sick of hearing some mothers scold others for "starting too early". She wants to start, she is asking how, so if you don't have any info for her for starting to train, then don't join the conversation!

Fannie - posted on 02/18/2010

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it has bee 27 years and Iam trying this again my grandbaby is two and she was trying to go but now she take off her diaper and sometime with boo boo in it and spread it
on the floor in her room in the carpet and all over her self, man did she gets it but i am glad that the two time she did it her mom and dad was home. so we hope she will just go.but i have to say it was funny watching them clean her and it up.

Michelle - posted on 02/18/2010

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put cheerios in the toilet and make it game for him. try to hit the cheerios.

Nazevyanga - posted on 02/18/2010

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children are different....some know what's going on that's why they can let you know when they want to go....my daughter does not want to be seen when she goes, that's a sign! She wants privacy so I face her away from me and we sing and play peek-a-boo while she goes to distract her from feeling shy....if your son is ready...go for it...my little girl can count and sign and tell you shapes and colors (and we are too poor to but that "your baby can ready thing"), and so how can can she not let me know when she needs to go?

Cheryl - posted on 02/18/2010

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Too soon, especially for a boy. They usuallly take longer than girls... sorry

Nazevyanga - posted on 02/18/2010

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What is the schedule in your home like? For my little girl, I out her on when she wakes up and a couple of hours later. Also a few minutes after lunch and so on and so forth. If she goes before then I tell her potty...you know and stay consistent.......Some children are ready quite early even my twins were trained by the time they were 18 months! The signs are if your baby is dry for two hours or more of if they let you know they need a fresh diaper and generally if they are predictable....just do make it like a chore.....sing and talk as you take him and let him know what you are doing.....it's really simpler than it sounds....

Michelle - posted on 02/18/2010

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Don't rush this. It takes time, esp with boys. If you push potty training it could take longer and you may develop a fear of it. Make it a game and enjoy this time with your son. My son was 2.5 years old and the other 3 and now they are 18 and 14.

Meeka - posted on 02/18/2010

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1 yo, especially for a boy, is a little young =/ My son didn't fully potty train until he was 4 and a half (neurological issues). Be gentle - as my mother used to say "He's not going to graduate from high school wearing diapers".

Teresa - posted on 02/18/2010

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I wanted to elaborate on my earlier comment. I don't see anything wrong w/ introducing the concept at this age, but not go through the actual 'training' process. Of course, after 'potty training' twins I have decided not to train my son at all.... unless he's refusing the potty at 3. Then I'll 'worry' and possibly reevaluate my plan.



After saying all that.... the first time my son pooped in the potty he was 15 months old. He said 'poop' and I asked him if he wanted to use the potty. He said yes. He had already started in his diaper, but finished in the toilet. :) His cousin (11 months older) had recently started potty training, so my son was exposed to the concept a LOT. It's about 8 months later and my son has pooped in the potty several times and peed in there once by 'accident' (he thought he had to poop). All entirely on his choice. His cousin.... still pees in his pants several times a day. NOT worth the hassle IMO. ;)

Naomi - posted on 02/18/2010

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My friend was able to potty train her boy at around that age. They would stay in the bathroom until he went, and then she'd give him a cookie. It gave him the idea that potty on the pot was good. The only "accidents" he had were deliberate things like urinating into a shoe in the closet.

Becky - posted on 02/18/2010

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Until your baby goes through the night dry on a consecutive basis, your wasting your time! One is kind of young anyway. You would be lucky to have a boy trained at two years old!

Brooke - posted on 02/18/2010

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I belive that might be a liitle young. I worked with two year olds and thats when I would start introducing. Don't push it he might become scared and confused. Good luck.

Deb - posted on 02/18/2010

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He probably is not aware of his bladder needs at that age. You are rushing it.

Grandma and Montessori teacher.

Joelle - posted on 02/18/2010

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Place a few cheerios in the toilet and tell him to shoot the cheerios. But I agree I think its a little early. I have a girl but my cousin had 3 boys and none of them were even ready to start PT until they were closer to 2. Good Luck!

Kelly - posted on 02/18/2010

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Hi Stacy - developmentally he's a bit young. I've seen - but very rarely - some kids potty trained this young...but it's very unusual. I'd say give it a bit of time. Often boys take a bit longer than girls. Keep the potty around...let him see Daddy go potty...and he'll start to show an interest.
Take care!
Kelly

Sharon - posted on 02/18/2010

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That is hilarious! How can you train him when he can't tell you he has to go? Most doctors and other references will tell you that children aren't physically able until quite a bit later. I suggest you check with your son's doctor and make sure what you trying to do won't damage his self esteem or cause other problems in the future.

Markita - posted on 02/18/2010

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i have twin boys that r 3yrs old and i know for me i started that young, i made a game of going to the potty put little drawing in the potty of cartoon that is interesting to them and it took me awhile because they were on different levels but they got it. Plus u dont want to go back and forth between pull ups and underwear because it will confuse him. so when u start to train him and u want to use pull ups until u think he has the concept of the potty that's fine then when he like 13 months put the underwear on him and just stick with it

Annette - posted on 02/18/2010

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Hi ..1 is way too young to start potty training ...The best advice I was given id wait until the summer around when they turn 2....Surely he doesn't have the understanding to try now ...
Why are you in such a hurry to train him now ???.
He is still only a baby !!!

Norma - posted on 02/18/2010

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That's true, treats are not good for this subject.... If you can, buy books or videos, where the cartoons go potty. I did that with my daughter when she was 2 and a half and in less than a week she was going to the potty all by herself. Good luck!

Angela - posted on 02/18/2010

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I would second guess the treat though you may not want to establish the thinking that he needs a treat to go potty. Praise definitely but .. did you give a cookie every time he took a step? Did you give him sugar every time he took a bite of solid food? To me treats used in this fashion are more like bribes. When he gets older and makes it without accidents maybe but not to begin. If he sees that going potty or just sitting on the potty is a treat in itself then it makes it so much easier. Just my opinion.

Nikki - posted on 02/18/2010

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put cheerios in the toilet and tell him to try and hit the target
worked for my friend

Betty - posted on 02/18/2010

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Don't fret he isn't ready yet. He is to young. When he wakes up dry place him on pottie and if he is susseful praise him. Give him his favorite treat. I used M&Ms. after he has washed his hands making that part fun also.

Angela - posted on 02/18/2010

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Like people are saying 11 months is really young - BUT - that doesn't mean you can't build a natural habit of having him sit on his while you sit on yours. That is part of the training and it will be much easier if you have his practice now than if you start cold turkey in 2 years when it's a totally new skill to learn rather than a natural progression of something he is use to. Go in together and take his diaper off and let him have the same experience as you. People learn to do that just like anything else. One step at a time and less we stress about it the better it will be.

Norma - posted on 02/18/2010

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I think it's to early, BUT if you wanna do it, it's your son and your decision... So, Good Luck!

Delene - posted on 02/18/2010

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Hi, I had my son potty train in one month; he was 8 months old. The way I did it was I put him on the potty chair when it was time to eat a meal. I would let him sit on the chair for about 10 mimutes after he was done and would stay with him and talk to him about why I wanted him to sit their for 19 minutes longer, explain to him what potty training was. He caught on in one month.
Delene

~♥Little Miss - posted on 02/18/2010

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Wait until they are two..LOL...boys do not train quickly...best of luck to you...please don't traumatize him!! My son was almost 3 before it really took!

Pru - posted on 02/18/2010

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As far as I'm concerned 1 Year old is far too young to toilet train them. Let them be a baby.. It doesn't last long!!

Tina - posted on 02/18/2010

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I agree that one yrs old is totally to young to potty train. Signs of readiness are if they can go a few hours without wetting their diapers, wake up in the morning with a dry one, and are able to tell you that they just pottied in their diaper. Good Luck.

Tamy - posted on 02/18/2010

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At that age you're really potty training yourself to read their body language to be able to tell when they need to go.

Alena - posted on 02/18/2010

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Seems a little young. But I threw cherrios in the toilet and told the boys to sink them. They loved it and worked fast. Plus they got to wear there favorite character underwear. I had both of mine fully trained (even at night) by two years of age.

Naomi - posted on 02/18/2010

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SAME IM TRYIN TO POTTY TRAIN MA 1 YR OLD SON ASWELL BUT I DONT KNOW HOW TO.

Sherean - posted on 02/18/2010

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Teach them what poo, wee and potty is then wait till there ready. Push them to do it and it will take longer.

Rachel - posted on 02/18/2010

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you don't!! Absolutely not unless you want a frustrating ordeal. Medically most children do not have the sphincter control until close to 2 with girls gaining it before boys. You don't have to believe me - I do have 4 children, the first three are boys and potty trained easily when I waited until they were ready. My first and third training in about 2 days both day and night and were almost 3 at the time. My daughter is now 20 months and interested in the potty, will tell me when she has gone and such and so I will start with her probably in the next few weeks when she really pushes the issue. EC is OK - i have friends that have done it but it's not really training the child but more the parent to hear the cues and respond. There is more than 1 way to skin a cat I guess as it has worked for my friend with girls but just not what I choose with my boys

Tracy - posted on 02/18/2010

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You don't potty train a 1 year old,especially a boy. If you have any sucess, you've managed to train yourself. There is an actually physical connection that has to happen in children that lets them know when they have to go. Until that is developed, you have no chance of sucess and in the long run will only make it harder to train when he is the appropiate age. For both of my boy's that was after the age of 2. You need to reaseach what is appropiate and expected behaviors and physical mildstones for your child before making decisions that could cause perment damage to your child!

Lisa - posted on 02/18/2010

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Dont do it, A 1yr old hasnt got the knowledge, its best to wait till 2-2.5yrs old when they understand more...dont rush your child in growing they grow fast enough as it is

Ann - posted on 02/18/2010

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Why would you want to?! They (boys) don't know how to hold it at the age of 1! They are later in developing the ability to hold it and to know what's going on down there, than girls. Just wait until he's a year older, or two. By 3 they should be able to "get it".

D - posted on 02/18/2010

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How do you potty train a 1 yr old boy?? Answer - You don't! You may wish he were potty trained, but unfortunatly for you, its up to him, not you when it is done. I tried when my son was 2 1/2, but he had other ideas and wasn't potty trained til 3 1/2. If your son is not ready, all you will get is undue stress in your and his life. Good luck.

Milithza - posted on 02/18/2010

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Wow!!! I'm sure your intentions are great, but that's a tough one, not just physically, but emotionally (for you). I have three kids, two of them which are boys. My first little boy was just curious and ready about the potty at a year, but if he wanted to be ready I left it up to him and didn't push it. He wore pull-ups (waste of money, by the way) and just "got" the idea of it and by 2 years he was in underpants! My second son, however, was a whole other story! I thought he would be the prodigy my first born was and "get it"-WRONG! At 18 months I started and my anguish didn't end until he turned FOUR! Had I just let him make the first move I'm sure he would have been done before, but when you start prematurely it will bite you in the behind! If he hasn't shown interest by the age of two then you can start getting him acquainted with the process...and your hubby can be an awesome role model by going to the bathroom with him! Once it becomes "fun" then you can do the timer method-put him in underwear (yeah, the real deal) and nothing else and set your timer for every hour and increase it as he has less accidents. This is a process-do it for three days...if it's a disaster don't give up, but maybe his little body is PHYSICALLY not mature yet and try again a month later! Potty training CAN be an exciting thing and even FUN, but it's a commitment! For now I think you should just enjoy your little baby while he's LITTLE because they grow too fast!! God Bless you! OH, and don't buy into the pull up thing! Babies KNOW that pull ups are safe to pee and poop in...they'll do it and you'll be out more money. When both of you are ready it's straight into underwear!!

Medic - posted on 02/18/2010

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Why would you not start till 2???? My son was totally toilet trained by his second bday it only took a week to get him out of pullups.