How do u potty train a 1 yr old boy!

Stacy - posted on 02/17/2010 ( 253 moms have responded )

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My son is 11 months old Im trying to potty train him.

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not a good idea! as the mind and bladder need to be aware of eachother! prob a bit young, try again in the summer when he can round round the garden with not alot on.

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hey, i have two boys and my oldest is 3 and is just recently potty trained. it was very hard for me because i tried to start when he turned two and he screamed and kicked when i would set him on the potty. so i waited til he would come to me and tell me he pooped in his diaper and he needed a new one. so i took him to the store and let him pick out his own potty and underwear. then i made a potty box with special toys and books that he could only play with on the potty. every child is different and it took a lot of time for me teach him. i would wait til he is fully aware when he goes and can tell u he needs a new diaper. oh and pull-ups dont work. they are just a diaper they can go potty in and its way more expensive that regular diapers. i hope this will help because i know how hard and frustrating this can be, and i have read book after book but nothin is better than your own intuition as a mom!

Donnie - posted on 02/18/2010

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I am a mom of 6. I never "potty trained" any of them. All of them quit using diapers somewhere between the ages of 20 months and 3 years. I feel like I saved a lot of time and energy by just letting nature take it's course. It seems to me that you can struggle until the child is ready or relax and wait until the child is ready. I used cloth diapers and made sure I changed them the moment they were wet (checked a lot); I believe this made them want to be clean and dry. Anyway, parenting is the greatest journey ever and we all have our own paths ( and unfortunately we all make our own mistakes ), enjoy your precious baby:)

Brenda - posted on 02/18/2010

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Um, I hate to tell you this, but children really aren't ready to potty train until they are between 18 months and 4 years. It is normal for a child, especially a boy, to be almost four when training is complete. My son was three and a half when we were finished. If you try to force it, then you and him are going to be very upset and frustrated. A child at that age is just not developmentally ready. Unless the child decides he is ready at that age, they just are not ready. Trying to force potty training can cause some severe problems later in life. It is a myth that children should be potty trained at a given time. If you are interested, a book to look at is Potty Training in one day. It has great information, and especially tells you to wait until they are developmentally ready and gives you the signs. If you wait until they are ready, potty training is completely painless and amazingly easy.

Gina - posted on 02/18/2010

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My mom did it a little different with each child (depending on if she was working or at home). I have been considering trying something my mom did with my oldest brother. When my brother was between 6 and 8 months old she started potty training him. Every time she went to use the bathroom she would sit him on a child seat potty for a while. He was potty trained by 10 months.

Natasha - posted on 02/18/2010

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Can he talk? If so, I think you're doing a good job at teaching him early..My son was one when I potty trained him..The reason I started him early was because he could talk well enough to tell me he had to potty...I started taking him to the potty everytime I thought he had to go,maybe every 30 minutes or so..I also let him go potty outside a time or two since he was a little boy..Sometimes it's easier for them to potty outside to make them feel like a big boy..I thinks boys are easier to train than girls..At least it was for me...My little boy was the type that like to put his hands in his pants from time to time...So outside was a good place for him to learn to pee-pee..I can say that he wet his underpants one time during training and did well after...Good luck!!!!

PEGGY - posted on 02/18/2010

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I DO CHILD CARE ,AND IM POTTY TRAINING A 1 1/2 YR OLD BOY AT THIS TIME.I GIVE HIM LOTS OF PRAISE!! ,GOOD-JOB!! BUDDY!! OH! BOY!! YOUR A BIG GUY NOW!! !HIGH - FIVE MR.MARTINEZ ,LOL! ,JUST MAKE IT A HAPPY TIME FOR THEM NOT A SCARY ,TIME ,AND THINGS SHOULD BE FAST! I JUST HAVE SET BACKS SOMETIMES CAUSE PARENTS NEED TO COROPORATE! AT HOME WITH THE SITUATION,AND CONTINUE WITH THE TRAING AT HOME.LOL! GOOD-LUCK! DID I MENTION I HAVE FOR CHILDREN OF MY OWN,3 WERE EASY POTTY TRAINED BY 13 MONTHS ONLY 1 GAVE ME A HARD TIME LOL! KIDS LEARN FROM THERE SUROUNDINGS IF THAT HELPS!

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Um.... why? Diapers are WAY easier than the potty training process. Wait til he's ready for both your sake's......

Lucy - posted on 02/18/2010

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ITS TO EARLY THE BABY WILL LET YOU NO ONECE ITS STARTS TAKING HIS PAMPERS OFF ON HIS OWN!!!!

Tiffany - posted on 02/18/2010

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It's hard to potty-train 11 month old boys because they most likely aren't ready. I used to make my son walk around naked with the potty in the living room. Try to use the cool alert pull ups first. Most likely your son might not be ready. I didn't start poty-training until my son was about 1 1/2.

Tracey - posted on 02/18/2010

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I say you let them tell you when they are ready my daughter was1 year old when she would bring me her stuff to change her because she went and everyone told me she was to young but I would let her go into the bathroom with me when I had to go and she would just sit on her potty. about 18 months she would sit and try to really go potty but didn't do anything. One day about her 2nd birthday she took it off and said she wanted to be a big girl we got her underwear and that was it she wet the bed 2 times both times she was sick and wet during the say maybe 3 or 4 times and that was it. My son just turned 1 last Friday and I just started having him go in with his father to the bathroom to see what he would do. My son is very small only 19p and don't want to push him they will let you know when they are ready just don't make it something that they will hate!!!

Teri - posted on 02/18/2010

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YOU DON'T! Those functions are completely involuntary for some time. Until a child can associate the feeling of urgency to the need to go to the potty, it will be nothing but a frustration for both of you. My oldest son was an early trainer at 19 months, but his brother was 30 months before we were successful.

Jennifer - posted on 02/18/2010

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I think potty training depends on the child. You can potty train a child young and they may not like it and won't respond well, but they may also love the opportunity to get out of diapers.
I have two boys. William will be four in March and has been potty trained for a long time. Matthew will be three in March and is potty trained as well. They both learned at one. I started early because of the cost of diapers. William liked staying clean and so with him potty training wasn't hard. Matthew learned with William which made it easier.

1. You have to have the time to watch him. ( know his sign and when you see them,say "hey let's try using the potty! Mommy uses the potty.") If he goes to a daycare talk to the people that watch him and let them know that you are working on potty training. Continuous reminders for him is needed.
2. Treats work. (don't be afraid to offer a treat for a trip to the bathroom. Nothing real big. My boys only got a small candy when they used the bathroom, but a whole day of no accidents definitely warranted something bigger. I gave my boys a dollar for a whole day of no accidents and they got to pick their prize at the store. They found that even more exciting.)
3. Get really excited about every successful trip to the potty. (Make it a big deal! Clapping, smiles and cheering. When there is an accident, emphasize the unhappy but don't get mad. Scare tactics aren't really the best motivator. Remind them that accidents don't get them a treat.)
Start teaching your son, but remember that it may take what seems like forever or it could be a breeze. Depends on the child. Good luck!

Heather - posted on 02/18/2010

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Is he showing signs of no longer wanting to be in a dirty diaper? My oldest daughter was that way. By the time she was 6mths, if she went potty in her diaper, she would rip it off. So when she turned a yr old, I started potty training her. She was completely trained by 14mths.
I know diapers can be expensive, but if he isn't showing signs, you could up making the process take longer. That tends to happen when a child is being forced. However, you are his mother, and it is up to YOUR discression as to when to start training.
Now when you do decide to start, here's what i did with my nephew that I raised from birth, and it worked great:
1.) take some cheerios or fruit loops, throw them in the potty, and tell him to shoot the battle ships. He had a blast with this one!
2.) take food coloring, like blue or red, and put it in the toilet. When he pees, it will turn colors. They get very excited when you tell them "LOOK! YOU MADE MAGIC!!" They tend to want to do it over and over again lol (this works great fro girls also).
Another thing that helped was I didn't give my kids more than 1 drink an hour, during training. Ever since they were new, I always knew how often they went potty (making diapers even more expensive lol). Knowing how often they go pee (like my youngest would pee every 20-40 min, depending it she had 1 or 2 drinks; during training with the 1 drink an hr rule, she would go every 40 min) defintely helps. You can set a timer, and put them on during that time. Now teaching them to poop is much harder! My oldest went at different times a day, but I knew my youngest normally went btwn 12-1pm and again btwn 6-8pm. The only thing I can suggest with the pooping part is stick to the timer method.
Good luck with your little guy, and don't let anyone discourage you. Remember, every child is different and they progress at different rates.

Debora - posted on 02/18/2010

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It depends on the child. Personally, I think girls are easier to potty train. My youngest son wasn't potty trained till he was 4. He was very stubborn. I doubt you will be able to train him at 12 months, but it's a good time to start. You have to take him to the bathroom when you go so he gets the idea..sometimes they will learn from other children also.

Cindy - posted on 02/18/2010

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When my son could sit on the potty we moved to standing on a stool which he thought was cool as we painted it the colour of his choice. I used a little bit of food colouring when he peed in the potty so he could change it another colour with his urine. I also used fruit loops or cheerios for a better aim. He loved sinking the cheerios. Good luck hope it helps

Bojoalo - posted on 02/17/2010

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1 yr is too soon for him, I tried with my daughter and i didnt work. Wait till he's at least 18 months

Heather - posted on 02/17/2010

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why do people always say boys are more difficult to potty train? I have two boys one asked to use the potty at 18 months he was potty trained by 20 months, the other never would ask to do anything.....so like some have said take everything off them stay home three days and the second son was fully potty trained at 24 months. Neither was difficult but i do not give them back diapers or pull ups even if i am leaving the house when potty training, i brought spare clothes with me. I feel pull ups after the initial three day stay at home says "it is ok to pee yourself out of the house". good luck and truly my boys potty trained completly before two years old and were no problem!

Sarah - posted on 02/17/2010

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My sons were both potty training at 2 and a half and my pediatrician said that is young for some boys. If he shows interest in removing his own diaper or in the toilet itself then you should probably get a seat that fits right on the toilet. and a step stool . and then make up a dance or high five or somekind of praise for when he does use it.

Katie - posted on 02/17/2010

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I'm agreeing w/ the other posts, 12 months is too young. However, you can start familiarizing them with the potty. At 12 months, mine would point to his diaper and say "poop"...sure enough he'd just gone. Then he got to the point of saying it right before he'd go. I tried putting him on the toilet around this time. He did go a couple times in the toilet, but still too young to actually understand what's going on. I decided to just keep trying for a while. We'll really start pushing it around 2 1/2, if he hasn't picked up the idea yet.

Peita - posted on 02/17/2010

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My little girl started sitting on the potty just before the bath at 12months old! We progressed very quickly and by 22months she was out of nappies day and night and taking herself to the toilet! There is nothing wrong with making them aware of the whole process at such a young age, just be consistent with what you do and hope for the best!! It's really toilet LEARNING, they don't know and till you show them what to and how to do it!! It's like everything else, you have to learn it from somewhere, and I say the earlier they get it, the better!!

User - posted on 02/17/2010

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Boys don't really get it till after two so don't even stress it. they will get it when their ready. One the diaper is gone there is NO baby left so cherrish these times

Sarah - posted on 02/17/2010

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Good Luck with that I started potty trainging my son when he was 2 1/2 and it took almost a year before he was fully potty trained. Boys are harder My daught was 2 when she was fully potty trained. Plus it will be even harder if he's not showing any signs that he's ready. If you think he's ready have him get rid of the diapers and tell himhe's a big boy now. Everytime you go to the bathroom have him sit on his potty and try to go. Good Luck!

Julie - posted on 02/17/2010

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My sons were 2 and 3 when they were fully trained. I got a potty with a little desk on the front so they could look at a book or draw, otherwise they get bored and want to get off. At 11 months I would put the potty in the toilet area and talk to your son about it and get him used to it and the idea that this is his toilet. Also, it sounds gross but you may want to show him that big people go to the toilet and talk about what is going on. Once he accepts it you can sit him on it with a book or something to keep his attention and talk to him about him doing a wee or poo in the potty. It may take quite a few attempts but it does work, once he does something, no matter how small, praise him immensely and make a big deal of it, he will love it. You need to put him on at frequent intervals so he remembers he has to go on the potty, once he gets used to it he will tell you or may even take himself. Persevere, it may take some time but it is worth it.

Christine - posted on 02/17/2010

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My daughter was potty trained at 18 months, I did the usual showed her how to go took away all aids like diapers except long trip or bed time and in no time she was completely potty trained. She had accidents of course but she is now 3 and is even potty trained at night. You can do it if you are willing to work at it. I set the timer for 15 minutes at first then 30 and before the week was up she was all set to go. Now my son on the other hand, keep in mind I did not do anything different is 2 and still is not potty trained he will pee on occasion but never all the time. All kids are different and develop at different rates. So good luck.

Viki - posted on 02/17/2010

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i think that maybe he is a bit too young for that just now. you shouldnt really try potty training him untill he starts to no when he needs to go. he needs to have a bit more understanding and to get a bit more intouch with himself before he will be ready to potty train.

Amber - posted on 02/17/2010

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my lil boy done it on his on . he went out side to play one day and her came runing in the hause tell me momie i have to pee so he has been doing it on his on. i say thay will do it when thay are ready and my lil boy was 2 so

Andrea - posted on 02/17/2010

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I don't put pressure on my kids to do anything! I just introduce new things all the time with no expectations - and I encourage all who do the same, rather than saying "sorry, that's just unrealistic, no point in trying" there is always point in trying! :) No harm done - if they don't take, then the worst thing is I end up doing what everyone else does - it's more pressure on me, not my baby, and I'm up for the challenge :)

Stephanie - posted on 02/17/2010

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I agree with Monica in the respect that in some ways society and some parents do put pressure on kids (everyone in fact). I don't want it to seem like I FORCED my son to be potty trained. I didn't. I of course introduced him to it, but since he took to it he kept doing it. I personally haven't forgotten that he needs to enjoy being a kid even though he was potty trained early. He's 2.5 now and does a lot of things. He dresses himself, picks up after himself, puts dishes in the sink, knows how to start the dishwasher, helps me with laundry, vacuuming, a BILLION things...these aren't really "fun kids things" but it's what he likes doing so why would I hold him back?

Andrea - posted on 02/17/2010

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Please understand, those os uf who are FOR infant potty training do not exprect the success right away - we just START it earlier. I am starting at 6 months, but will have many many months to go before it is ALL done - those of your who start at 2 or more have much less time. But there is nothing wrong with going early - it's not "expecting" anything more of our children, it's just starting good behavior early.

Lois - posted on 02/17/2010

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wait ! at one year old there is no way that he will be able to controle himself enough for any degree of sucsess.. The earlest that I would start is 2 and that is only IF he has the language to say what he needs-potty,pee,poop,and if he WANTS to, if he is dry at night. and if he can understand simple one step directions-bring me your teddy,go hug Dad ect. I know there is a lot of preshure to potty train early,but he has to be ready first.

Monica - posted on 02/17/2010

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look just because a few of us moms say its no good to expect a child to be potty trained at one doesn't make us slackers, and it does not mean we don't give our children enough credit. it means we care enough about our kids to not compare them to what would be easiest. it would be a blessing if all kids could be trained by one and a half. you think we like buying expensive diapers and pull-ups? I think society puts too much pressure on children now days. Asking a one year old to potty is the same amount of pressure as asking a 15 year old what they want to do with the rest of their lives. it seems people forget that one of our jobs as moms is to make sure they actually get to enjoy being kids.

Theresa - posted on 02/17/2010

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You don't potty train a one year old. they don't have control of their bladder and sphincter (sp?) muscles yet at that age. You'll have much more success ans much less frustration if you wait until he's between 2 and 3.

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1 is a very young age honest i tried my son at 18months and even then twas young and plus theyht just dont understand at all and pee everywhere and anywhere

Andrea - posted on 02/17/2010

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I plan to infant potty train too! I will be starting at 6 months - it's a LONGER process, but makes more sense to me. Why train a baby to do one thing for 2- 2 1/2 YEARS and then just all of a sudden switch :) I don't train my puppies to go on a puppy pad for 6 months and then all of a sudden switch it on them :) I bring then outside right from the get-go. Look up "infant potty training" to get your answer - and good luck!

Amanda - posted on 02/17/2010

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North America is the only country where kids are trained at a later age, everywhere else kids seem to be potty trained by 1 or close to. I think a lot of people dont give their kids enough credit, but they do and can understand what it means to go potty on a toilet and not soak their pants. I have a friend who introduced the potty at 8mths and just sat her on it from time to time and when she went in the potty praised her with great excitement! She was potty trained by 14mths, she is 3 now and may wet the bed from time to time but that does not have to do with bowel control. She may just not want to get out of bed.
I think if you want to potty train at 1 its completely do able you just have to devote a lot of time, patience and consistency.

Good Luck, I will be doing the same :)

Maria - posted on 02/17/2010

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He's too young. I'd wait until he's 2. Both my boys were closer to 3 when they were ready for potty training.

Giseli - posted on 02/17/2010

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Hi,i'm from Brazil but live in the USA but in Brazil 99% of kids b4 they turn i1/2 are potty trained,they just put the kids in underwear all day long and teach them where the potty is and believe me they do get potty trained at this age,i was there a few months and did not see a 2 year old in diapers,so if u really wanna do it u can.good luck!!

Stephanie - posted on 02/17/2010

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If it seems natural then maybe younger is better people just don't know =) I don't reward or punish our son either (but they do give him stickers at daycare) If he wakes up in the morning or from a nap he'll just knock on the door and patiently wait for us to come. Any other time we just leave the step stool in front of the toilet and the potty seat next to it (for #2) & a small light is always on in the bathroom. He just goes whenever he feels like it.

Marijke - posted on 02/17/2010

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Thanks Stephanie - When I started I didn't tell anyone except hubby about it because I heard all kinds of negative remarks. One day I had no choice but to put my baby on a potty in front of my mother because by almost 5 months she did NOT want to poop in her diaper. Well you can imagine my moms jaw dropping to the floor and she ran around telling everyone about it.

The thing is, she doesn't get any reward or punishment for going in her potty or not, she just does it. It's the most natural thing ever. What do people think? That poor countries have pampers stacked in a warehouse that they distribute to their people? Hello?!

Don't want to be rude about it but who do people think drives the idea that before the age of 2 it's "a crime" to potty train...

Stephanie - posted on 02/17/2010

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Marijke I think your post is interesting (and you actually TRIED to help the OP). Some people say "Kids all develop at different rates. Don't push it" blah blah blah. If kids really do develop at different rates (which they do), then what's the harm in trying? Why aren't people more encouraging? My family said many times I was doing things "too early" but our son has always taken to things quickly because he is developing at his own rate.

Monica - posted on 02/17/2010

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My son decided not to potty train til he was three. Can't force it, he may not be ready. You have to consider if his bladder is developed enough to handle holding it in til he makes it to a potty. Also, at that age their attention spans are short and he may be very caught up in playing and not think about pottying. Don't worry about potty training too much at this age. Every kid is different and develops differently. If he's not getting it now, give it a rest til he is closer to two.

Stephanie - posted on 02/17/2010

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lol Alison. I think the price of diapers is motivation for anyone to potty train asap. We started our son later than you (he was 16 months at christmas so one of his gifts was a little potty). Between school and work I didn't have time until he was around 18 months. I...

1) Put his potty in the front room because that's where he was most
2) Left him without pants (even with a pullup & underwear he seemed to feel like he could pee in those)
3) Tada that worked for us and he was fully trained in a week.
4) As a word of advice don't go for the most expensive/fancy potty. By the 2nd week our son decided he wanted to stand up at the actual toilet (with his stool of course). We've never used his potty since.

Marijke - posted on 02/17/2010

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I started EC'ing my baby at around 4 months of age. EC'ing is nothing like potty training. It stands for elimination communication and it's about watching the signals your little one gives before needing to go, timing and relying on a bit of intuition. The easiest way to start is to go bear bottom, see what the signs are or placing baby on a potty at certain intervals, it's easiest to start after a nap because most babies go between waking up and 15 min. So far we've had great success but our success rate goes down during teething or milestones.

This can be done, see this blog post http://www.svmoms.com/2007/08/the-secret... on diaperless china where kids start school at the age of two and most are fully 'potty trained' 6 months or more before they turn 2 by using the EC'ing method.

Perhaps go search for EC (Elimination Communication) blogs and find like-minded mommies, it can be very disheartening when you only get negative feedback on this topic!

If you want you can add me on Facebook and keep me updated on your journey!

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wow that's really young. good luck and good for you. i'm not sure i'm qualified to give advice because i'm currently training my 2 year old but this is what i started doing the day he turned two (Jan.10) and still working on it. underwear ONLY at home, rewards for going on the potty, spend at least three consecutive days at home completely concentrating on training and nothing else. loaded him up with lots of fluids and put him on the potty every 15-20 minutes and praise him like crazy for going. It's been one month and my son is doing all poops on the potty and most pees on the potty with a few accidients here and there. i wear pull ups when we go out because he's not 100% trained and he wears diapers to bed at night because he's still soaks a diaper through the night. i hope this helps you a little.

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