Denise - posted on 11/22/2010 ( 6 moms have responded )
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4 me it has been fine at first , then small signs of his health get a lil worse start to show. See we to small kids (2) under 5... We had kids I was 38-40 he's 7 yrs older. I started taken PAXEL just haven hard time dealing with work, DR. APPT. now christmas around the corner.. Can anyone help with ideas on how to deal with aful plate?
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Katherine - posted on 11/23/2010
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As always Laura your posts are very helpful :)
Laura - posted on 11/23/2010
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I feel for you right now because I'm about to have surgery and will be down for much of the holidays (I have had chronic health issues myself). The first thing I have done is SCALE BACK! My family knows that Christmas will happen, but that it will be much simpler than last year. I won't be decorating or baking like I usually do and I will be doing more on-line shopping this year to make it easier for myself. Re-arranging schedules and planning for a simpler celebration have taken a load off of my plate. This is an attitude adjustment that MUST be done if you plan on being sane through the holidays!
As mentioned previously: Find support! Use friends and family, look for a support group through your local hospital, or, if you attend a church/synagogue/temple/mosque ask for help from your religious community. I am in the proccess of arranging tasks and care this week from friends and family so that when I return from the hospital I won't have to worry about stuff getting done. Be pro-active and organize ahead of time.
Finally, find time for yourself to relax. I know this seems like an impossible task given the season and personal concerns, but it needs to be done. I'm not talking huge amounts of time either. Fifteen or twenty minutes a day for you to meditate, pray, listen to your favorite music, excercise, etc. without distractions from kids or husband. Use this time to let go of your stress! Literally blow it out of you by doing some deep breathing excercises--like slowly blowing out the candles on a birthday cake--and you will be amazed at how much better you feel afterward. If you make these changes that are suggested, you will be able to make it through all of this (I know these have helped me)! Hope this helps and best of luck to you!
Katherine - posted on 11/23/2010
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These groups should be very supportive.
Katherine - posted on 11/23/2010
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http://www.circleofmoms.com/moms-of-canc...
This is a support community for mother's who have people that survived cancer. There are a ton more like it.
You just have to search!
Louise - posted on 11/23/2010
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You need to either enlist help from the extended family or sit down and make a plan of action. There is so much stress planning christmas and dealing with a sick partner. You are not a miracle worker you can only do so much. Try and find a support group near you that you can chat to other people in your predicament. The next few months are not going to be easy so get help now.
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