How do you feel about the teddy bear leash for kids?

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Lydia - posted on 07/24/2009

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I have one for mine when she starts walking. I value her safety over her freedom (I find it amusing that people dont like them because it looks like you treat them as you would a pet - but why would you put your dog on a leash so they cant run into a road but not your own flesh and blood?) By the same token not every child needs one but if it gives you peaceof mind and keeps them safe then who cares what others think?

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OK LAST TIME I'M GONNA SAY THIS ON ANY "LEASH" OR "HARNESS" THREAD. YES I AM INTENTIONALLY YELLING, SO THAT I CAN GET THE ATTENTION OF ALL OF YOU MOMS WHO ARE (AND I STEAL FROM MY FRIEND JODI) MOMMIER THAN THOU. LISTEN. LISTEN CLOSELY. PLEASE.



ANA. YOU COMPARE MY CHILD TO A DOG. LIKE SOOOOOO MANY OTHERS HAVE ON OTHER THREADS EXACTLY LIKE THIS ONE. MY CHILD IS NOT A DOG. HE IS A BOY WHO LIKES TO WANDER. I HOLD HIS HAND WHILE HE IS "HARNESSED". "HARNESS" "LEASH" IT'S ALL FRIGGIN SEMANTICS. I HAVE A FRIEND WHO OWNS A DOG. SHE KEEPS HER DOG ON A LEASH WHEN SHE WALKS HIM. TO KEEP HIM OUT OF TRAFFIC. SHE ALSO STRAPS HIM INTO A SPECIAL " CONTAINER" WHEN HE IS IN HER CAR. SHE ALSO CARRIES HER FRIGGIN DOG AROUND IN A SPECIAL PURSE. SHE ALSO USES A "LEAD" TO KEEP HER DOG IN HER BACK YARD. ALL THESE THINGS ARE TO KEEP HER ANIMAL SAFE. DOES SHE NOT WATCH HER DOG WHILE SHE'S WALKING HIM? OF COURSE NOT! SHE IS AWARE OF EVERY TIME HE POOPS, PEES OR TRIES TO CHASE A SQUIRREL. BUT HER DOG IS SAFE (AND HERE IS WHERE I WISH I HAD SUPER CAPS) BECAUSE SHE HAS HER HARNESS. WHY DOES MY CHILD DESERVE LESS? SCREW YOU. I TRULY MEAN THAT. SCREW YOU FOR SAYING THAT I TREAT MY CHILD LIKE A DOG. I'M SOOOO SOOO SOO FRIGGIN (AND I REALLY WANT TO ACTUALLY SAY THE F WORD HERE) OVER YOU ANTI-HARNESS PEOPLE COMPARING OUR CHILDREN TO DOGS. SOME PEOPLE ACTUALLY DON'T USE THE HARNESSES, DON'T BELIEVE THEY ARE RIGHT FOR "THEIR CHILDREN" BUT THEY STILL DON'T TRY AND MAKE ME OR ANY OTHER MOM FEEL ANY LESS FOR USING THEM. THEY ARE A SAFETY DEVICE, SOLD IN STORES, RIGHT NEXT TO THE OUTLET COVERS, CABINET LOCKS, TOILET LOCKS, SAFETY GATES. DO YOU NOT USE A SAFETY GATE? WOULD YOU BE OPPOSED TO A MOTHER USING A SAFETY GATE EVEN IF YOU DIDN'T HAVE THE NEED FOR ONE? DO YOU USE OUTLET COVERS? IF NOT, WOULD YOU BE OPPOSED TO ANOTHER MOTHER USING THEM? DO YOU USE CABINET LOCKS? OR ANY OTHER SAFETY DEVICES? GET OVER YOUR FACKING SELVES AND LET US BE. WE LOVE OUR CHILDREN. JUST THE SAME AS YOU DO. WE JUST USE DIFFERENT METHODS OF KEEPING OUR CHILDREN SAFE, BASED ON WHERE WE LIVE AND WHAT WE DO IN OUR EVERY DAY LIVES. GET THE FACK OVER YOURSELF AND MOVE ON YOU SELF RIGHTEOUS BIATCHES. AND HELL YES, I FULLY EXPECT I'LL GET FLAGGED FOR THIS POST BUT YOU KNOW WHAT? I DON'T CARE. YOU PEOPLE MAKE ME CRAZY. YOU MAKE ME WANT TO BUY "LEASHES" FOR ALL MY FRIENDS. YOU MAKE ME WANT TO ASK WHAT YOU WOULD DO IF YOUR PERFECT LITTLE BABIES SUDDENLY JUMPED OUT INTO TRAFFIC AND GOT HIT, OR IF YOUR LITTLE ANGELS GOT TAKEN AT THE FAIR, YOU MAKE ME WANT TO ASK YOU THEN, HOW WOULD YOU FEEL ABOUT THE "LEASHES"? WOULD YOU PRAY TO GOD AND WISH YOU COULD GO BACK IN TIME SO THAT YOU COULD HAVE ONE ON YOUR CHILD? GET OVER IT AND LET US BE. AND THIS IS IN NO WAY A RANT ON ANYONE WHO CHOOSES NOT TO USE ONE. I PROMISE YOU. I RESPECT A PARENT'S RIGHT TO CHOOSE WHAT IS RIGHT FOR THEIR CHILD. AND I JUST WISH ALL THE JUDGEMENTAL ASSHOLES OUT THERE WOULD DO THE SAME AND AT LEAST HAVE THE BALLS TO RESPECT ME FOR DOING WHAT I THINK IS RIGHT FOR MY CHILD. One final note, a wise woman I know said that on this subject she is of the following opinion..."You ladies who are so anti-harness, maybe you should just stop using seat belts and tell your children to "hang on tight!". ROFL DUMBASSES. Really.

Betty - posted on 07/30/2009

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Absolutely love it. I used a similar "leash" back in 1984. With 2 kids, pocketbook, and pacages, it helped me make sure a little hand didn't slip from mine before I knew it. The kids loved it too. They were ages 4 and 1. No big deal to use one. They are all over Europe.



And, as a mother of grown children, NEVER trust that your child will stand right beside you like an obedient puppy. They will bolt because it is their nature to be curious, active, and headstrong.

Katherine - posted on 08/19/2009

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Just so you know I am locking this conversation because it has been turned into personal attacks. Debating mums is a great community to hash this out. But some people are looking for advice, not how cruel it is to put your child in a leash and certainly not to belittle them for doing so. Thanks

User - posted on 07/31/2009

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My daughter is almost 11 months old and not quite walking on her own yet, but hubby and I have already purchased her a walking harness (Tommiguard.com) in order to keep her from darting away from us. Ours has a harness system that goes over her shoulders and around her chest, with a waist belt for the parent. I plan on making her hold my hand when we are using it, it's just an extra precaution if she decides to pull her hand away and take off on her own.



You DON'T PULL OR YANK on a child restraint! It's a safety device that keeps your child from darting into the street or away from you (as previous posters have experienced) and it is NOT a substitute for diligent parenting and watchfulness!

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Quoting Melanie:

I understand people not liking them, that is your business, you are entitled to that opinion and believe it or not I respect that. However, what I do not respect and completely disagree with is the insinuations that mothers who do use harnesses are somehow bad mothers.



thank you for the support! what i have been saying on here the whole time is that people are entitled to their own opinions but they should not shove said opinions down my throat or say i am a bad person for doing something that they do not believe in.

Melanie - posted on 08/17/2009

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I understand people not liking them, that is your business, you are entitled to that opinion and believe it or not I respect that. However, what I do not respect and completely disagree with is the insinuations that mothers who do use harnesses are somehow bad mothers.

Jennie - posted on 08/17/2009

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I Love them I have a 3 year Autism son and 1 year daughter and my son doesn't understand to stay close by and is faster than superman. So Teddy Bear has saved me several gray hairs since he has came into my life. My son now won't go anywhere without Teddy Bear. So before anyone think these are children on leashes remember that we are doing it for thier safety. It's very scarey running down the mall with one child in your arms and your child missing, unable to tell you where he is as your calling his name or even scream it someone grapped him. opps a little passionate about this. Some one called my son a dog until I had to explain that I was a good Mom because I was trying to protect him from stupid people who couldn't understand special needs

Cybil - posted on 08/17/2009

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sorry just my opnion but i HATE those... its like your walking a dog not your child.. get your child to sit in a stroller..

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Quoting Joy :

Woof woof Holly! LOL I'll pat Jacob on the head for ya tomorrow :) You wanna scratch behind your lil girl's ear for me? ROFL



i rubbed her tummy while she was lying down! that's one of her favorite things! lmao :P



 



i'm off to the grocery store with the kids soon (and no hubby since he's at work) and my 22 month-old daughter heard me tell my 6 year-old that we're going out and she brought me her harness! she's now running around the house wearing it and holding her own "leash" in one hand - she loves wearing it!!! :)

Tara - posted on 08/17/2009

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I love mine. It keeps the kiddos safe in a world that is full of ppl that take children in a heart beat! And my kids are fine with them

Tinisha - posted on 08/17/2009

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I can't say I would use it all the time. I took my 3 yr old at the time on a trip to Arizona and I was crazy w/ worry going thru the airports b/c he is so busy and always wanting to look at everything and between trying to keep track of him and the luggage I felt crazy. I wish I would have had one then. As for other things I haven't really needed one. I think if we go to an airport anytime soon I will use one just for peace of mind if nothing else.

Jennifer - posted on 08/17/2009

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I think putting your child on a leash is a cop-out. One thing that you can do is keep an eye on your child . . . depending on the age keep him/her close to you or in an environment that is safe to roam. If your going out in a public space and your child tends to roam away from you put him/her in clothing that is handy to catch ahold of - such as suspenders or pants with belt loops, just reach out and gently pull him/her closer to you as needed. Your child needs to be taught to trust your judgment, and learn how to behave in a public environment not see how far you let him run on a leash like the family pet.

Kara - posted on 08/17/2009

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I have two little people less than 2 years apart, I never used the "teddy leash" but in massive crowds it was very difficult to have two little ones interested in different things and both wanting to go different directions. so in some instances I think it could be a helpful safety tool. but for most every day outings I personally deem it unnecessary.

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Woof woof Holly! LOL I'll pat Jacob on the head for ya tomorrow :) You wanna scratch behind your lil girl's ear for me? ROFL

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tee hee hee... my child is an animal... and i LOVE it!!! :P



once again, i totally give props to those women who have never needed (or felt the need for) safety harnesses. i, however, find them to be a useful safety device. i use them for my child and if people want to judge me for that i don't really care. i let my little girl be a child... and an animal! :D

Amanda - posted on 08/16/2009

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I feel that if you want to walk something get a puppy. Let a child be a child, not a animal. There is always strollers if needed. I have 4 children and have never used one and they made it just fine and never got lost. No they didn't always like being in the stroller but learned that when it was safe for them to they could walk like big boys and they learned.

Emily - posted on 08/16/2009

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I have one for my 2 1/2 year old and I find them very useful. She doesn't respond very well to her name and is very adventurous so if I'm not paying attention to her she will wonder away. People do give me bad looks when I have her in it. People give me bad looks, but I don't really care because I know that my daughter is safe in heavy traffic areas

Katherine - posted on 08/15/2009

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In the beginning, I didn't like the idea until I had to buy one myself when we took our son to Paris. My biggest fear was to lose my baby in a foreign country. Like Sharon B said in her post, it's better to be safe than sorry. It upsets others but who cares what they think, the parents will be the ones responsible if they ran into a busy street or if they lose their child. I've only used it in Paris and Disneyland. Now that he's almost three, I want him to be able to follow instructions instead of depending on the leash to control him but I won't judge parents who feel they need to use it more often.

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Quoting Melissa:

I personally do not like them.. it is like walking a dog. if u feel like ur child is gonna run away then try the stroller again. i know it probably sounds bad but u gotta scare kids into if they run away a bad man could get them.. they need to know what could happen to them. when my son gets older i will not use them.. n think about it what did our parents use for us to not run away? their hand on our asses lol



okay, i was going to log off and just had to comment on this one too...



a "bad man" could get your kid if they are standing RIGHT NEXT TO YOU and you happen to not be paying attention for just ONE SECOND. that is all it takes. read my earliest post for a perfect example (it's somewhere on page 2).



also, my mom did not use any kind of leash/harness on me (I used to hang onto her legs or sit on my dad's foot - i was an extremely shy child), but for my little brother she used to take a dog leash and clip it to the back belt loop of his pants. he was a runner and a climber, so he would run off and then climb onto ANYTHING and EVERYTHING. he would climb out of the stroller (he figured out how to work the straps) and he hated holding hands. he gave her a few scares (disappearing from the stroller while her back was turned) and she had no other choice. she did what she had to do to keep her child SAFE and that is what matters.



have a great weekend everyone! i get to go hang out with family and meet my brand spank'n new nephew!!! :)

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Quoting Cathy:

OMG another excuse for lazy parenting.

People really need to teach their children to behave better instead of relying on all these so called “safety devices”.
If you were real parents you wouldn’t rely on socket covers to stop your undisciplined child electrocuting themselves.
A good parent would get rid of the bars on a crib. Do you want your child to feel like a caged animal?
Stay up all night, watch your child properly. You can sleep when they learn not to roll over.
Stop strapping your kids up in their high chairs and buggy’s it’s cruel. Teach them to sit still.
Using seatbelts in a car is like saying you know you’re going to crash …. Get some driving lessons!

SARCASM … YES

Every child is different … if your child doesn’t need to be harnessed …. consider yourself lucky NOT superior.

Answering the original question .... I think they are cute!



ha ha!!! when i was first reading your post i was getting mad and really worked up... then i saw you were being sarcastic - PERFECT!!! LOVE IT!!!



also, i often refer to my babies as my "pets." does this make me a bad parent? i don't think so. it's an interesting way for me to find humor in the fact that they move around on all fours (sometimes), make huge messes, need to be "house-trained" (aka potty trained) and have various other similarities to puppies. i think it's funny and so do my kids :P in no way does it make me a bad parent and it does not mean i love my babies any less than anyone else. i have just always thought the similarities are funny.



now, i am off to pack bags for a weekend trip with the kids to my parent's house. will i need my daughter's harness while there? no. will i be bringing it? yes. i never know when i may need it and i like having it with me at all times. better to be safe than sorry! :D see you all on sunday night!

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OMG another excuse for lazy parenting.



People really need to teach their children to behave better instead of relying on all these so called “safety devices”.

If you were real parents you wouldn’t rely on socket covers to stop your undisciplined child electrocuting themselves.

A good parent would get rid of the bars on a crib. Do you want your child to feel like a caged animal?

Stay up all night, watch your child properly. You can sleep when they learn not to roll over.

Stop strapping your kids up in their high chairs and buggy’s it’s cruel. Teach them to sit still.

Using seatbelts in a car is like saying you know you’re going to crash …. Get some driving lessons!



SARCASM … YES



Every child is different … if your child doesn’t need to be harnessed …. consider yourself lucky NOT superior.



Answering the original question .... I think they are cute!

Wai Kee - posted on 08/15/2009

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One of my friends gave me that for my son's birthday. It looks really cute, But I feel that it look alot like a doggie leash.. so I am not sure if I am going to use the leash component of it. I may just let my son wear the teddy bagpack when he starts to walk.

Melissa - posted on 08/14/2009

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I personally do not like them.. it is like walking a dog. if u feel like ur child is gonna run away then try the stroller again. i know it probably sounds bad but u gotta scare kids into if they run away a bad man could get them.. they need to know what could happen to them. when my son gets older i will not use them.. n think about it what did our parents use for us to not run away? their hand on our asses lol

Deanna - posted on 08/14/2009

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I really like it. I haven't used it with my daughter in while because she uses the kids carts at the store now and stays close by so she can get stuff put in her cart. When she was younger it was great. Someone can take a child too fast and even the best parent can't always have an eye on their chid. It only takes one distraction and gone!!

Sucressa - posted on 08/14/2009

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we have a monkey that we use sometimes but not often. If they are used appropriately then I don't see a problem, that's why I have one. It really does teach them that they have limits and of course they hate it but it can keep accidents from happening and my children off the latest missing posters. You do what you have to do.

Sheryn - posted on 08/14/2009

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I think theyre a fantastic idea,I havent had a chance to use them myself as my child is 6 mths old.But I have seen how difficult it can be without one.Some people say keep them in their pram/stroller.All good and well if their not dealing with a screaming toddler who wants out.At least with the harness you know where they are,that they havent been picked up by a stranger or running out of the store or in front of traffic.At least it helps keep your child safe and I think its worth a try and If you dont like it then you dont have to use it.Theres plenty of designs out there these days available at Big W and Target

Deborah - posted on 08/14/2009

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My son has auditory processing disorder and therefore has trouble understanding simple commands sometimes. Although he is now 6 we still need to be really careful near the road, the leash was great when he was younger. And we had awful comments about him being treated like a dog but we also had some people tell us how responsible we were. If it works for you whose to say you shouldn't. They don't know your life and family.

Kym - posted on 08/13/2009

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I have used an ordinary child leash with my children, although not often. My 3yo was a horror at the age of two, and kept running off, and hated sitting strapped into her pram/stroller. I found the leash excellent for when she wanted to walk, especially for short distances in town.

We went to a caravan expo 18 mths ago, and we forgot to pack the harness/leash. By lunchtime she was getting really cranky about not being able to get out and walk (because we feared we'd lose her in the crowds), and by the time we went home, she appreciated the stroller because she was plum tuckered out. But I wish I had the harness so she could walk.

So, they have their place. Anyone who doesn't like them because of the way they look should get their head read. That's the most pathetic reason I've ever heard. They're only in it for a year or two at the most, and I'd prefer to see a child on a harness than one in the street either miles behind his mother, who obviously doesn't care what happens to their child, or one that's running in front of cars or other people, looking for an accident.

JL - posted on 08/12/2009

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*sigh* I guess I am a lazy mom. When I had my daughter I was not really keen on the harnesses because I never had to use one with her. BUT then came my son who is now 23 months old and he is a runner. I got him a harness and to my disappointment it doesn't work with him. I wish it did but it doesn't. He reacts my walking backwards yelling WHOA WHOA and then plops himself down on his butt. When I put him in a stroller or a buggy he constantly yells at the top of his lungs..I STUCK I STUCK HELP ME HELP ME DOWN. I get embarrassed and think that everyone must be wondering if I kidnapped this kid since he keeps yelling help me. When I let him walk he pulls away, yanks his hand from mine, and takes off. Now trying to talk sense into a 23 month old and tell them they have to walk with you and hold your hand is like talking to a wall. I am sorry but he does not comprehend and I would rather have him on a harness then drag him around by his hand, but because he does not like the thing I end up having to deal with constantly chasing him down while also trying to keep an eye on my daughter, or putting him in a stroller and listening to him yell I STUCK I STUCK HELP ME HELP ME DOWN, or holding him while he squirms and screams. And the fact is that there are many places that are not stroller freindly so you have to conceede to not using one in order to move around. And for those who say don't take him with me well if I did that I would never leave my house since my husband is in the Army is constantly deployed, I don't live by family, and I cannot afford daycare.



So until people start putting flea and tick collars on their kids I don't see how you an equate a safety harness to a dog collar and leash. Safety harnesses keep kids safe.Geez I also let my kids run around in my fenced in yard that my dogs also run around it....is that the same thing. The fence was put up for the safety of my dogs as well as for the safety of my kids.

Atania - posted on 08/12/2009

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Quoting Carrie:

@Athina If you could spell, I might value your judgment. However it seems you are not that educated so why even post here?

Does it feel good to be judged based on one statement? I betting that answer is no.

Actually, I don't think you are stupid at all but that statement was used to prove my point. You don't know the people you are talking about. Have a little respect for what they choose. Try again, and this time be kind and contribute instead of nasty and attacking.



Ohhh and your so Perfect.........!!!!

Carlisa - posted on 08/12/2009

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look to each its own but i don't have dogs and i don't like them ethier so i would not use something like for my child.i do have my own method it call the look when one of my children act up in public my kids says that i give them a look that they no to sit down.

Atania - posted on 08/12/2009

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Im getting one. I like the idea its better to keep your kids safe instead of 2nd guessing there freedom. As they get older they still get there freedom anywase. I would rather have my baby safe & close by me in crowded places. They are so many disgusting people out there. And its my job to keep my child safe!

Carrie - posted on 08/12/2009

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Quoting Athina:

thats just rediculous if you ask me, my kid is not a dog. no lease needed. and it suprices me to see them walking around like that. no no


@Athina If you could spell, I might value your judgment. However it seems you are not that educated so why even post here?

Does it feel good to be judged based on one statement? I betting that answer is no.

Actually, I don't think you are stupid at all but that statement was used to prove my point. You don't know the people you are talking about. Have a little respect for what they choose. Try again, and this time be kind and contribute instead of nasty and attacking.


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Megan - posted on 08/12/2009

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I am undecided about the use of these. I don't use one currently but I am considering purchasing one for when we go on a cruise in Oct.

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I think they're cute, and great! I would rather that, than to look away for a second and my child be gone the next! You never know these days, and it'll definitely make a difference to a predator! A predator won't even bother if they see that. I've never personally used one, or lost a child, but my 4 yr. old son did get away from my husband once in the store and he was flipping out! It would've been aweful to never find our son again! So, I don't see any problem with these 'leashes'!

Danielle - posted on 08/12/2009

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I Have 3 children and i have never had to use them. I do not like these leashes at all. If you feel you need to use them then do what you feel. Every one is different:)

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Quoting Athina:

thats just rediculous if you ask me, my kid is not a dog. no lease needed. and it suprices me to see them walking around like that. no no


Judgemental much?

Athina - posted on 08/12/2009

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thats just rediculous if you ask me, my kid is not a dog. no lease needed. and it suprices me to see them walking around like that. no no

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Quoting Karen:

I think they are GREAT! I used one with my son and we got one for my niece who is almost 2. She is great about staying close to use (My son is now 10 and I can't get him away from me half the time!) and even holding our hands so far, but imagine walking around with your arm in the air all the time... would it be real comfortable? And another point of view here... I like knowing that no one can grab her from me. That may sound paranoid but I would rather sound that way than be sorry later in todays age. It's buckled around her waist and her chest like a carseat... and the other end is around my wrist snuggly... it would take too much time for someone to try to take her. Let's face it... it's not as safe today as it was when I was her age 30 years ago.



EXACTLY!!! :) Thanks for your imput Karen!



 



And as for those who say they can be 'overused' I reply with "How?" My daughter would wear hers around the huse all day long if I let her. She loves wearing it in the grocery store (how else am I supposed to keep her with me when I have my youngest in the cart seat and a cart full of groceries?), she loves wearing it when we walk to the park, she loves it everywhere (tee hee hee... now I sound like Sam-I-Am!) :D I love having her in it becuase it goves me confidence hat she is safe and nothing can happen to her. My biggest concern is kidnapping and I am always confident that no one is going to get my precious daughter! :)

Karen - posted on 08/12/2009

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I think they are GREAT! I used one with my son and we got one for my niece who is almost 2. She is great about staying close to use (My son is now 10 and I can't get him away from me half the time!) and even holding our hands so far, but imagine walking around with your arm in the air all the time... would it be real comfortable? And another point of view here... I like knowing that no one can grab her from me. That may sound paranoid but I would rather sound that way than be sorry later in todays age. It's buckled around her waist and her chest like a carseat... and the other end is around my wrist snuggly... it would take too much time for someone to try to take her. Let's face it... it's not as safe today as it was when I was her age 30 years ago.

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Quoting Amy:

Living in a community where it is acceptable to see a toddle new on his legs walking, without holding his parents hands, about 15 steps behind or ahead (Japan), I can't say that I will be this mommy when the day comes. I have received a leash as a baby shower gift & have every intention on using it.

Personally, I believe the leash is a great way to let a child start to gain their independence & confidence in a controlled manner in our messed up society. Gaining their legs is a big step, & learning to use them is a miracle in their eyes. Strapping them to a hot stroller all the time isn't really doing them any good & often creates cranky unruly hot frustrated kids. They aren't able to explore & only see things from the knees. Who wants to be like that?

However, like all great things...it has a time & a place. The grocery store is not one of them, nor is Sears! Disney World/Land, walks to the park, etc.I am encouraged when I see moms using this appropriately. Let tells me that they are willing to let their little one grow up, but not run wild without boundaries. After all, boundaries are what we are missing these days!


Oh yeah, when I use to live in Hawaii, and when I worked at the police substation downtown in Waikiki, Japanese tourists did that a lot with their children. A lot of toddlers are walking/running around pretty far from their parents and they were just letting them with confidence.  I didn't feel safe for them because the streets of Waikiki are busy with traffic and crowded with tourists.



But I just wanted to say, well said, Amy. When I visited DC, I let my toddler boys walk with their Elmo leash and they loved it when visiting the monument and museums. They couldn't stop staring at people, and all the other things around them. When they did get tired and restless, you're right--the stroller worked perfectly as they knocked out on the walk back. hehe :)

Tanya - posted on 08/11/2009

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Im a mom of 3 and run a home day care, when your taking 5 2 years olds for a walk to the park there vary handy in keeping them safe from traffic and other unsafe situations

Amy - posted on 08/11/2009

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P.S. I am also sure that once their little legs get tired, that stroller will look really inviting!

Amy - posted on 08/11/2009

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Living in a community where it is acceptable to see a toddle new on his legs walking, without holding his parents hands, about 15 steps behind or ahead (Japan), I can't say that I will be this mommy when the day comes. I have received a leash as a baby shower gift & have every intention on using it.



Personally, I believe the leash is a great way to let a child start to gain their independence & confidence in a controlled manner in our messed up society. Gaining their legs is a big step, & learning to use them is a miracle in their eyes. Strapping them to a hot stroller all the time isn't really doing them any good & often creates cranky unruly hot frustrated kids. They aren't able to explore & only see things from the knees. Who wants to be like that?



However, like all great things...it has a time & a place. The grocery store is not one of them, nor is Sears! Disney World/Land, walks to the park, etc.I am encouraged when I see moms using this appropriately. Let tells me that they are willing to let their little one grow up, but not run wild without boundaries. After all, boundaries are what we are missing these days!

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There are so many people in this forum from so many situations, countries, and cultures that we really have to all simply agree that answers, even to controversial questions, are not one-size-fits-all.

I myself am an American living in India. When I was living in the US, I used a harness on my active son in situations that called for it, and I used the package directions. :) While I'm in India, however, it's not fully necessary so I don't use it. However, I used it in airports en route between the two countries, at least until he was able to undo the clips and he outgrew it.

Live and let live!

Okay, I'm stepping away from my computer now. It's dinnertime, and my little guy is hungry! :)

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Quoting Cathey:

A lot of people frown at this. I say let them frown! You know your children. And those frowners are not dealing with your children. If you are comfortable with it then let the rest of the world think what they want!



Yes, same here. Thanks!! =P

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Quoting Cathey:

A lot of people frown at this. I say let them frown! You know your children. And those frowners are not dealing with your children. If you are comfortable with it then let the rest of the world think what they want!


I like your balanced perspective, Cathey. :)

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A lot of people frown at this. I say let them frown! You know your children. And those frowners are not dealing with your children. If you are comfortable with it then let the rest of the world think what they want!

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Quoting Jennifer:

Ok, well do you honestly think it was necessary to state that fact? Your reply has nothing to do with the topic, as my reply right now to your post has nothing to do with the topic as well. So I will end this here, and leave it that way.

Oh yeah, one more thing, let me quote your previous reply a few posts above: "but please don't start attacking someone who disagrees with you..." Now with that being said by you Angie, I think you should stick to your own advice because stating that fact for Joanna sounds like an attack on her because she "disagrees" with you. =D





Alrighty... since you have quoted me, I think I have a right to answer back. Yes I did state that and I don't believe I was attacking her! I thought her comment was hilarious...and I do not know where she stands on this issue, if I disagree or not. If she has a problem with me, then she can address me...I wasn't trying to belittle her and have no disrepect towards her at all. With the whole english thing...I was kidding with her "sarcastic". But I don't think believe I was atleast in the wrong or trying to start something.






 So for someone to jump on someones case about it all...THEN ITS YOUR PROBLEM!!!!!! If you took offense to what I had wrote, then deal with or get your panties out of a bunch!!!!!!! Oh ya, you definitely can't end something until I have said my peace...






 Dealing with this subject: I stand where I stand and I stated it above. I have no problem with mother's stating why they agree or disagree.






 This is for Joanna...If I have offended you at all please PM me. If I did offend you, I am sorry! I had no intention in doing that...I guess you just can't joke about things like this, lighten the mood up. I guess I'll just stick to my little old group where mothers are very opinionated and don't get too worked up about things like this.






 






 





Don't assume I was getting worked up, I was stating the fact that from my point of view, it looked like a personal attack. And if you said that it wasn't, then sure, I believe you. I just didn't think it was fair to reply with a comment about that regardless if you were being sarcastic or not.  So you advised me to deal with it, or get my panties out of a bunch, well what do you think I'm doing right now? I'm dealing with it by messaging you openly, not privately, because I feel Joanna or any mother that may have taken offense needs to know that I am speaking for them.



But I have nothing further to add regardless if you reply or not, I don't want this thread to receive another cooling session. This topic is a very good one and I don't want it to go off from the topic because it allows other mothers know how people feel about it, literally. = ]

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My children are past the age for the "leash" but as a grandmother with 2 grandkids I do see a need for them. How many children have been lost or do not listen when you are in a store or and amusment park. I do not see anything wrong with providing safety and not hoping that people will be honest when our child gets lost.

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Quoting Jennifer:

Ok, well do you honestly think it was necessary to state that fact? Your reply has nothing to do with the topic, as my reply right now to your post has nothing to do with the topic as well. So I will end this here, and leave it that way.

Oh yeah, one more thing, let me quote your previous reply a few posts above: "but please don't start attacking someone who disagrees with you..." Now with that being said by you Angie, I think you should stick to your own advice because stating that fact for Joanna sounds like an attack on her because she "disagrees" with you. =D


Alrighty... since you have quoted me, I think I have a right to answer back. Yes I did state that and I don't believe I was attacking her! I thought her comment was hilarious...and I do not know where she stands on this issue, if I disagree or not. If she has a problem with me, then she can address me...I wasn't trying to belittle her and have no disrepect towards her at all. With the whole english thing...I was kidding with her "sarcastic". But I don't think believe I was atleast in the wrong or trying to start something.



 So for someone to jump on someones case about it all...THEN ITS YOUR PROBLEM!!!!!! If you took offense to what I had wrote, then deal with or get your panties out of a bunch!!!!!!! Oh ya, you definitely can't end something until I have said my peace...



 Dealing with this subject: I stand where I stand and I stated it above. I have no problem with mother's stating why they agree or disagree.



 This is for Joanna...If I have offended you at all please PM me. If I did offend you, I am sorry! I had no intention in doing that...I guess you just can't joke about things like this, lighten the mood up. I guess I'll just stick to my little old group where mothers are very opinionated and don't get too worked up about things like this.



 



 

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Quoting Colleen:



Quoting Amber:

i feel some parents over use the "leashes" i compleatly understand wanting to keep your child safe, however some people would rather use the "leashes" then explain to their children why they need to stay near them. if yuu explain things to children in a way they can understand you'll be amazed at how well they listen.





The child's ability to listen depends on the maturity level and age of the child. Also, some kids (like mine) are amazingly efficient at ignoring their parent. Mine will run off at full speed, and he's as fast as I am.






Once, he took advantage of my carrying a lot of things as we were leaving the coffee shop around the corner from our house, and ran off. We were in the lane outside our front gate when I caught him. Luckily, he ran towards home, but he could just as easily have run into the basy street in front of the coffee shop.






We had a harness that we used for him at museums and airports when he was two and three. At least he ran by too fast for the public to react to it or make a comment. :) Unfortunately, Mr. Houdini can now open the clips, so I figure he's outgrown it. (He's now 4.)






I never stated that there wasn't times when they were not a good idea i stated some parents over use them or would rather use them then explain things to their children, if you do not explain things to your child they obviously are not going to listen to you when you demand for them to do things, if you explain to them why they cannot leave your side and they do not listen then the harness is a wonderful idea. i also stated if you explain it in a way they can understand, in other words you use words that a 2 year old can understand :)

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