How do you feel about the teddy bear leash for kids?

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Leighanne - posted on 07/28/2009

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I have one I used it while we were away at Disney World for the first time and it was great. My son is 2 and he HATE the stroller and being tied down. We still use it now that we're home for walks since I also have a daughter in a stroller. He gets it on himself when getting ready to go for a walk. I use to Hate the way it looked with other mom's and their kids but I find it great for keeping him close.

Deb - posted on 07/28/2009

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I guess it is the only option for some...I think it is more important to teach your children to hold your hand or stay with you...talk to them as you walk and they will want to stay with you...but every child is different.

Jennifer - posted on 07/28/2009

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My stepson is a 4 year old adorable child, but boy can he go. We want to buy one of those back packs and are looking on ebay, because he is getting too big for a stroller, and while we are teaching him to stay with us, he tends to get excited easily and run towards the thing that is exciting him. I think people who see the leash as being "tacky" or "parents who are unable to teach their kids to stay with them" need to think how they would feel the one time that their children decide to rebel and be their own person and end up getting hurt.

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I certanly looks awful, I hate it, but we have to be realistic: in some places you wish you had one. Sadly we can't control everything, and it's necessary to be able to avoid the children from getting lost, or worst. That's why I'm reconsidering...

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I used it one time, we were at Disney and it about killed me when she fell down because of it. It is a great idea but I will not use it again. I will do strollers to age 20 if I have too!!

Kelly - posted on 07/28/2009

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hi, my kids are 17 and 15 now, but when they were little I did use leashes...we got lots of stares...but my kids didn't always want to hold my hand (especially at Disney) and with the leash, they felt independent, and I could turn my head for a moment and look in a window and know that my child/ren was still safely by my side...they were safe & I had my sanity....I think if used properly they can be a great tool....but not a replacement for watching your kids...once they got a little older, we never needed to use them again, and they always stayed near by because that's just how it was...what they were used to....

Queenie - posted on 07/28/2009

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I absolutely hated those things, I used to be like " how can people treat their little one like that" with such digust.................until I had a little boy!!! My little guy hated the stroller and of course didn't want to hold my hand he would climb everything everywhere and would run soo fast away from me. So I broke down one day after he climed the tires is Sears and bought one.....best thing I ever did, it made him feel like a "big kid" walking the malls. It actually helped him NOT to run and climb. Please note: I NEVER tugged on the leash as I see other parents do...I still hate that.. I would just say " Frankie....do you want your stroller?" and he would say"No no no" and automatically behave, I swore my leash had magical powers all I had to do was put it on when we got to the mall and he transformed to a perfect child!!!

Heather - posted on 07/28/2009

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I bought them, I have three kids all around the same age, so when I was out I felt like a dog walker with the three leashes. I stuck to the triple stroller.

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My mom used one that was attached to my elmo backpack...I always wanted to wear it...even around the house! I think they are a great idea if used properly. I received one at my baby shower that has the option of attaching it to their wrist and/or bag and has a rubber ring so they can hold it themselves without it being attached.

Tracey - posted on 07/28/2009

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My youngest is autistic & has a habit of just running out into the road, has no sense of danger whatsoever, so for us, they are definitely good!!!

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busy places-must have! when you're pushing a baby in a stroller, watching where you're going, listening to your older kid talk, them quiet little toddlers can be gone in the blink of an eye-and that will make your heart drop out-been there done that-USE ONE :)

Rhionna - posted on 07/28/2009

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I used a wrist link with my eldest son when we first started going out for walks, it helped him get used to the idea of staying close to me and we stopped using it when he would do as I asked, approx 2 years. I still use one with my autistic son as he has no sense of danger and tries to run into the road the second he is out of the car. I will probably use one with my LO when she starts to walk until she will walk with me and not run off. I think they have their uses and if used properly can be a great tool to teach our children the boundries of how far away from us they can be without going too far!

My oldest son gave up using his pushchair when he was 15months old, he decided that it was for babies and as he was aa big brother he wasn't going to use one!

Daniellebaker604 - posted on 07/27/2009

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My son and I saw this phenomenon for the first time on our recent trip to the Magic Kingdom in California. We found it really funny , Well I found it funny that HE found it so funny. WE call them leash kids. I guess its better than nothing if your child is really a runner for their own safety. The problem with them is if they get off the leash (much like a pet to be honest) there is no other restraint program in place to prevent something from happening. I think for the majority of children , its best to just teach and use patience along the way without a leash........there is the odd exception to the rule though and I can understand a parents fear of losing their child in a crowded place.

Stina - posted on 07/27/2009

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This is somthing my opinion has changed on over the last 5 years.


I USED to think these were ridiculous. Children are not dogs to be put on leashes. I used to think it was lazy parenting. Demeaning to the child at the end of the line... I used to think I would never ever ever use one.


My children are now 4 1/2, 2 1/2 and 3mo. and I still don't use one or see myself getting one anytime soon but my feelings about them has drastically changed. I now understand why a parent might use them... it only took my 2 1/2 yo running out the front door of our church while I tried to get ds to start walking so we could go home to think "I really could use one of those child leashes." In large crowds- like at the 4th of July carnival, I was rather anxious even though I have taught my children to stay close when I say so... or they will be strapped into the stroller. never thought I'd put a 4 1/2 yo in a stroller, but my double jogger accompanied us to the fair and while he walked the majority of the time, it was a lifesaver for the walk home after the fireworks. And my stroller strategy is the same really as a leash. You can walk according to my rules or I will strap you in.


So leash or no? It's an individual decision. People will judge you. I know I used to. Or, they will understand exactly why you have your child tethered to you and perhaps smile knowingly.

Melinda - posted on 07/27/2009

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Honestly, I am not a fan of it! How hard is it to hold your children's hands that you have to tie them like a dog?

Sharon - posted on 07/27/2009

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After reading some of these posts - honest to god I have an urge to go outside and tie one of my kids to a tree and take a picture of it to post here.

Brandi - posted on 07/27/2009

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I personally think it takes away from your parental obligation to teach your kids safety boundaries..What happens the first time off the leash and tehy don't feel that tug that lets you and them know They've gone too far.. I do know there is now a gadget that allows you to where a beeper and your child a wrist band. If the child moves too far away it signals you..but again keep an eye on them..keep them at your hip, in a stroller or in a shopping cart when in the public .Always be aware of your surroundings and the people in it..Sorry this is only my opinion.. I'm sure you are a wonderful Mom who leash or not does watch over your kids with love and keeps them safe..

Renae - posted on 07/27/2009

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I love mine! Not only do I use it for keeping a closer eye on my child but there are alot of strange people out there these days. No-one can just pick up my daughter and run without me knowing.

Adele - posted on 07/27/2009

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Completely up to you. My three year old wore won until she was about two and was able to understand not running away. She loved it. It was a koala back pack with a tail, which I hold. If the tail dropped she would run back to me with "the tail". I had so many people making comments, but surprisingly most of them were positive, people saying they were relieved to see parents not letting their kids run around on the road etc etc. At christmas time when we are in Melbourne I intend on using it for my (then to be) 18 month old. Better safe than sorry.

Kimberly - posted on 07/27/2009

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I have a set of twins and when they were little the "leash/harness" were the best thing ever. It was the only way I was able to keep track of them and keep them safe. The most important thing is to keep them safe and withing sight of where you are.

Carmen - posted on 07/27/2009

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What's harsh about a leash attached to a backpack? If it's necessary, do it! It's not always practical to hold your child's hand, if you're pushing your younger child in a stroller or something. I don't see how putting them in a stroller is any different.I've seen older kids in strollers that probably should have been walking and that disturbs me more than the leash!

Kylie - posted on 07/27/2009

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How do i feel about them? I hate them, i would never put one on my daughter. But that is my persona opinion. I can see why other mothers use them, and i dont have anything against them for that. But yeah, i dont like them.

Alison - posted on 07/27/2009

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I started using similar things about 7 years ago. I had 3 kids in 3 1/2 years and I physically couldn't hold on to all the kids when I took the kids somewhere by myself. The way I looked at it, I'd rather offend someone and know my child was safe then have my child be hurt because people didn't like them. I even used one last summer at the zoo for my 5 yr old. I needed her to stay with me but I also had a 1 yr old to push in the stroller. It's all about safety and what works for for you and your child(ren)

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it's one thing if you're being lazy and tying your kid up to something because you don't want to deal with it or pay attention, but if your kid runs away the second his/her feet hit the ground, by all means use the leash!

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they should not be used as a babysitter or excuse for mom to not pay attention but in crowded areas such as the airport of shopping center during holiday time i think they are a necesity. you can teach your kids about stranger danger and to stay by mom but they are kids and dont always remember everything you tell them. a harness can help prevent a child from running off and getting lost and from getting taken by a stranger

Janine - posted on 07/27/2009

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I'm all for them. My son went through a stage of running away from me, it only started after his brother was born, so it may well have been an attention thing , so I bought a rucksack for him, it's a turtle one and he loved it! It seemed to give him a bit more confidence as I didn't have to carry him everywhere or put him in the shopping trolley at the supermarket as he was now able to help mummy put things in the trolley. After using it several times and getting on so well with it I decided to take him and his brother to the park, it went was going so well til he bolted off towards the river! If he hadn't of fallen over due to the downward slope towards the edge he would've gone in for sure!! I so wish I had it on him that day!!

Ruthann - posted on 07/27/2009

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l had one when my daughter was little. She's 25 now. She uses one on her children also. l also used one on my son is now 19. Safety is the main issue. having a child walk, get seprated, or taken from you is devastating.

Abigail - posted on 07/27/2009

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I think they are hilarious! I'm going to be getting a backpack one for my daughter because when we go out she hates to be in her stroller and carrying her for a long time gets pretty tiering. I think it's better safe then sorry...I like to let her walk around but the thought of her running off or someone snatching her is the scariest thing.

Stevie - posted on 07/27/2009

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I used to not like seeing the "leash" on kids but now that I have a little runner of my own, I understand them. I just don't have one yet. I'd rather have her get the exercise walking next to me than have her confined in a stroller. Unless, of course, we're going somewhere there's a BIG crowd.

Emily - posted on 07/27/2009

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We use one in situations like busy airports and such. Our daughter loves it!! Sometimes she will bring it to us while at home and wear it around the house. I remember the my Mother used one for me and by brother and sisters too! I turned out just fine and so did my other siblings!

Tracie - posted on 07/27/2009

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A part of me used to think the leash was a crazy form of child abuse....now that I have two boys under the age of two. I love it!!! it's not a teddy bear tho, it's a monkey. And my two year old son loves it. He talks to the monkey when we walk around and just thinks its really cool back pack. I just use it at airports and places like the zoo.

Jo Anne - posted on 07/27/2009

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I have some monkey "backpacks". I have 2 daughters, ages 4 yrs and 14 months. I would gladly accept dirty looks from others (even though I've never gotten any) to keep my children safe! This day and age, it's nothing for someone to grab your child and run! And my kids LOVE them because they can keep all their "stuff" in the backpack!

Karen - posted on 07/26/2009

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I used the stroller when I was by myself and Tracie would ride in the seat and Denise though it was fun to stand in the baggage area and hold on to the handle. I always felt the harness looked to much like it was for your pet not your precious children. Of course I used cloth diapers instead of the disposal ones so I am a little ole fashion. You can see my 5 grandchildren in my profile and my girls did not use the harness either.

Rebecca - posted on 07/26/2009

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my mom has pics of me on a harness (that she said she had to put on backwards because I knew how to undo it) tied to the screen door! Im now 30 so it must have saved me from doing something lol!! I think they are great!

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Posted by Brittany Emerick (July 24, 1:18 am)

I think you should use strollers or those toddler wagons for longer trips to zoos and such. Teach your children to stay around you or hold your hand (or each others and yours) when walking.....I think parents need to teach more respect and self-control. You can never preach that enough!



**I have not used a leash/harness for my children -- it's been a stroller or walking holding hands. Disipline and self-control is key for any child (some children are more "free-willed" than others and need more).



Posted by Amy Friel (July 24, 7:41 pm)

I use the "monkey pack" for my boy. He loves it. They now carry them at walmart and target in the baby isle (usually in the safety section) It has been a lifesaver. I still hold his hand, to teach him that he always has to hold mommy's hand. It's just that toddlers are totally unpredictable. Total angels one min and then BIG trouble makers the next



**I make my kids hold my hand or a siblings hand and we all stay together. But there is that time when one (usually the boy) will not want to hold hands anymore. "Back up harness" great idea!!!



Posted by Mary Kingston (9:53 am)

....I just don't like the way some mothers that have never used them look down on mothers who do. everyone is different and everyone has what does and doesn't work for them....stop hating on each other.



**I agree.

Ann - posted on 07/26/2009

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Only if you have a special needs child that cannot understand the seriousness of wondering off. I would suggest you take short trips away from the house until your child understands why he/she cannot wonder off. This is why mom's have eyes in the back of their head!

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I think they are great if you need one. I know some proud mothers on here will boast that they never needed one because they were so great at controling their kids and good for you (and I havn't even read the other posts yet, there are just some things you can predict). I like the leash, the leash worked for me.



Lazy parenting? Sometimes. Child abuse? NO.



One plus for the leash is that it enables a child to explore their surroundings without being confined to the stroller or stuck holding mommies hand. It also makes it easier to walk longer distances with a toddler than you could with other methods. I for one would rather see a healthy kid on a leash than a fat kid in a stroller or being shuttled everywhere in a car.



If I ever have another child I will buy another leash/harness/reigns and use it with pride. I might even buy my next kid a hat with dog ears to relly tick the anti leash people off.

I LOVE THE LEASH!

Kristen - posted on 07/26/2009

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i think the backpack leash is a great idea I am about to go get one for my daughter she is to the point when we go out she wants to walk but she tends to run away and when im shopping or out at a busy place i can't look b/c i worry about her so if its something that will help you use it b/c it don't matter what others think and if anyone ever says anything tell them to mind there own its your kid not theirs see i believe its just being used for safety and im sure everyone wants their kids to be safe just like their pets why do they put a dog on a leash so he or she is safe right well its the same reason we would do it with out children if there is something wrong to make sure your children are safte then i guess you shouldn't have any then because you can't always make your child ride in a stroller or a wagon then when they get older they won't want to walk let them walk all they want now with the leash to teach them to stay by your side when they get older

Tiffany - posted on 07/26/2009

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When I used the leash it was wonderful. I had a 2yr old and a new born. It gave him the freedom he wanted, yet I still had control of him. You have to do what you feel comfortable with.....

Toni - posted on 07/26/2009

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Posted by Denise Jackson (5:44 am)
that is so crazy. I hate to see kids on those leashes, it makes me think people treat there kids like pets and are walking there pets in stores or just in public period, it's a bad idea

So it's ok to keep your pet safe and stop them from running into traffic, but not your own baby....okaaay!!!!

Toni - posted on 07/26/2009

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Harness's and leashes have been around for donkey's years. I have a photo of my sister at 2yr old wearing one and she's now 36...lol. The only difference is they've been made more fun for the kid.
I think they're great. Of course not every child needs one. My sister did, I didn't. My daughter didn't need one for running off but if we're in a crowded area I needed one because she day dreams and wanders off or doesn't keep up. She still does this and she's now 7.
I must have saved her some cut and bruised knees too, as when she fell I would catch her with her reins and haul her up again without her actually hitting the floor....lol.

Mary - posted on 07/26/2009

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In my personal opinion I hate it when people call them "leashes" They are not leashes they are harnesses. I am not putting a collar on my child and attaching a leash and walking them like a dog...So many people say that and it bothers me just cause in no way is it the same thing (at least in my opinion) I also don't like when people say parents are just lazy cause my children stay with me...I tought them well....well good for you. some children just DO NOT want to stay put no matter how well behaved they are. If you need to use one there is nothing wrong with that...if you don't need to use one thats great for you.



I haven't had to use one yet because my son is just turning one and has only just started walking so he doesn't mind the stroller yet. What I don't like is seeing a parent force a child to sit in a stroller when all they want to do is explore. I find it unfair. If a child doesn't mind a stroller and that's what works for you, great. I know as Jayden gets older we will prob be using one of the backpacks....but in more crowded places or when we are walking on busy streets. Jayden loves the wagon so if we were to go to a place like the zoo I would bring the wagon and the backpack. when he wants to walk use the backpack when he is tired let him ride in the wagon.



I just don't like the way some mothers that have never used them look down on mothers who do. everyone is different and everyone has what does and doesn't work for them....stop hating on each other.

Kate CP - posted on 07/26/2009

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Denise...by the way most people treat their pets I would would be thrilled to see more people treat their kids the same way. Pets in today's society are often viewed as "furry children". They are pampered beyond belief and are loved dearly by their "pet parents". There is nothing wrong with putting a safety line on your child (or your dog).

Denise - posted on 07/25/2009

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that is so crazy. I hate to see kids on those leashes, it makes me think people treat there kids like pets and are walking there pets in stores or just in public period, it's a bad idea

Jude - posted on 07/25/2009

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We got one for our daughter, and it was a lifesaver! We were moving to Thailand, a 36-hour trip, with layovers in Atlanta and Seoul. We got it for her a few months before we got here, so she could get used to it, and she loved it, too! Anytime we went out, she would get her "teddy bear backpack", and she would always make sure I had its "tail" in stores, etc.

I have to agree with Kate - we prefer to leash dogs, to keep them safe, but suddenly that's bad for kids? Dogs have the same attention spans and intelligence as three-year-olds, according to latest research. Either way, the leash is a good way to train to stay with you.

Of course, my daughter is at a point where she doesn't need the leash. She always stays with us, holds our hands, knows not to run in the streets. But she still loves her teddy bear, and wears it a lot - sometimes it's the only thing she'll wear - and sleeps with it. It's her "safety blanket".

We're going to be moving again next year; now, we're getting a leash for our son. I can't praise these things highly enough. I've heard too many stories about kids running out in the road and getting hit, slipping away from their parents and getting lost in stores (which is not healthy, mentally) or, even worse, getting bribed away and kidnapped. That can't happen if you're tied to your kid.

Rebecca - posted on 07/25/2009

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I have a puppy backpack and wouldnt go without it, I use it when we are at the mall, zoo or wherever he wants to walk around, he is 2 1/2. He likes to ride in his stroller but would much rather walk then sit and I like for him to get the excersize to. I do make him hold my hand while wearing it but it is good when he wants to "look" at something or just walk beside me. In this day and age you just cant trust anyone and you expecially cant put the responsibility of knowing to stay beside you at all times and road safety on a 2yr old. I am the parent and I am supposed to keep him safe from these things and I think if having a harness to do it then I do. I just know that the one time that I didnt use it and something was to happen that I would NEVER forgive myself for not preventing it with something so easy. I mean its not like you are dragging the kid around by it. My kid is a good kid and he listens really well but I have also seem him get distracted by something and bolt towards it without looking....I mean he is only 2.

Kate CP - posted on 07/25/2009

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Okay, as a mom and as a professional dog trainer I have to say that I am very pro-leash for any species. The leash for a dog serves the same purpose as a leash for a child: just in case. Your child should always be beside you preferably holding your hand but some times that shiny thing is too distracting. Just like with dogs: your dog should always be walking beside you and not pulling on the leash. But some times that squirrel is just too tempting. Would I use a leash on my kid? Hell yes if I needed one. I have one just in case but I've yet to use it. So kiddie leashes are not bad things. Get a cute looking one and relax knowing that you have a security chord on your kiddo. :)

Patrice - posted on 07/25/2009

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I always thought that "leashes" were a cruel thing for kids, but it has been a huge help with my into-everything toddler. It also helps calm her down, and she enjoys carrying things in the back pouch. Her faithful stuffie is a monkey, so I got her a monkey backpack and she loves it. I've gotten lots of compliments on it, and it has kept her safe and out of trouble when I run out hands. It also helps her with balance.

Sadie - posted on 07/25/2009

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personally i don't care for them, not knocking you at all, from day one when my children were mobile in public I taught them to stay by my side, not saying that it was easy but i was consistant, they knew that NO meant NO, fast forward to tween years now i have the problem and they think NO means MAYBE and sometimes I want to lose them in the store! JK

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