How do you get a 6 yr old boy to stop touching 'himself'?

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Ok, this one is not for me... really! My hubby's best friend just asked me this question and i thought that he was telling me a joke... but he was completely serious. Apparently, his son, who is 6 likes to touch himself all the time. I have 2 girls and I really dont have a need for this info, but I thought that I would put it to the 'Circle of Moms and see what has worked for you. Any advise would be appreciated!

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Darla - posted on 06/22/2009

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I have 9yr old twin boys. Michelle's advice is great. It is what we have done. Talk openly with no shame or embassment to him. It makes the relationship better all around.

Becky - posted on 06/22/2009

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I agree with first two moms. Talking gently to the child and being very open about it being a normal thing is important. Make sure he understands that they're "just bodyparts," and normal things, and, well, they're his, so he should certainly be familiar with them. Just explain, also gently, that it's the sort of thing that should only be done in private. It's also fine to remind him "on-site." When he begins to touch himself in public or in front of family or company, whisper a gentle reminder to him to remember that there are other people present. That will need to be done quite a bit before he remembers it on his own, I imagine, but he will get it. Reinforcement is key, but always done in a way that doesn't publicly embarrass him. Good luck!

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Wow! Thank you to everyone for your advise! I will definitely have to pass this on. I hope that it works. I do know that the family has been dealing with this for a long time. As I said, I have 2 girls and we have not had this problem with my girls, although it could have happened! LOL Anyways, thank you again to everyone that replied!

Karla - posted on 06/22/2009

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all the women here are correct. you can never scare a child when it comes to this situation. ne needs to learn that this needs to be done in private. its a known fact that babies in the womb have done this. toddlers do it and its part of being human. none should freak out about it. we probably use to do it when we wher little. its nature

Chanda - posted on 06/22/2009

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Hahaha thats a very good question.I wish i knew an anwser to help.We have the same problem with all our boys at the daycare where i work.It seems as though as soon as they start potty training and descover it -they cant stop touching it.Its like they think its gonna disappear or something.Sorry i know this was ment as a serious question ,i just thought i would add some humor to let u know you arent alone with this problem.

Erika - posted on 06/22/2009

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I told my son if he wabted to do that it has to be in private. And it is normal for them to do this, They are boys! I also stress it is not wrong but not to be done in public. hope this helps

Denise - posted on 06/22/2009

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My 6 year old loves to play around but I just tell him it's not appropriate to do in front of others and he needs to do it in private. It has worked to some degree, but in the bath it still happens.

Michelle - posted on 06/22/2009

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I work at a daycare and we always suggust talking to the child. It should be explained that this is an ok thing but should be done in private (i.e: his bedroom). Do not however make it out to be wrong because it is a very natural thing.

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