How do you get to shower ?

Sarah - posted on 03/14/2012 ( 203 moms have responded )

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I have a 1 month old daughter and Im not sure how im allowed to shower when im home alone with her. How do other people shower with a baby ???

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Linda - posted on 03/14/2012

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Several possiblities:

(1) Get in the shower before your husband leaves for work.

(2) Take a quick shower while she is sleeping in her crib.

(3) Put her in a car seat/bouncy seat in the bathroom and keep an eye on her while in the shower.

Elaine - posted on 03/15/2012

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bring her with...although juggling a slippery baby, washcloth, and what ever soap you can manage to get on you is difficult...it works...I had a newborn and a 3 year old...baby gates yadda yadda...I used the bathroom for a super quick wash down, 3 year old sleeping, baby in cradle carrier right outside the open bathroom door...came out three year old sitting there looking innocent...baby upside down on 1st landing of stairs, ticked off but undamaged...eventually just did the group shower...me and 2 wet girls just so I could wash my hair occasionally...not fun but it worked...

Erin - posted on 03/14/2012

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I don't get the not showering thing that so any people complain of. Babies sleep sometimes, it really only takes 5 min to shower, once s/he's down for a snooze jump in quick and get it done. Take a monitor with you if you're that worried, otherwise just leave the bathroom door open. I would die if I didn't shower every day :)



(btw I'm a mom of soon to be 3 ages 4 and under and have had no issues showering everyday since day 1)

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I wasn't home alone w/ my infant son, but the only other people in the house were my 6 year old twin girls... ;)



I used to stick him in his bouncy seat on the bathroom floor. A lot of the time he would start to cry as soon as the water turned on, so there were many, many days where I could only manage a 'hair, pits, and privates' wash... lol



You could wait til she's napping and stick a monitor in the bathroom w/ you. It's actually a lot easier at 1 month than when they get mobile and nap less.....

Brittney - posted on 03/14/2012

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When she naps, I can either take a shower, take a nap, or clean. Otherwise, when she was that little, I put her in her bouncer and put it in the doorway so she could still see me and I could still see her. Got in a quick 5 minute shower.

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Karla - posted on 03/19/2012

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What I used to do an still do it now with my youngest hes 7months I would put him in his car seat if awake and put his bottle in his mouth put a blanket to hold the bottle in place and he would usually fall asleep or i would just wait till he was tired put him in his car seat and put him the bathroom with me and so that while im taking a shower if he wakes up he would see me and not cry as much or he would just lay there it feels alot calmer them being in the bathroom with you or you could put her in her bed when she is asleep and take the monitor in the bathroom so you can hear if she wakes up

Misty - posted on 03/18/2012

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Take a shower while your baby is sleeping, either in her bouncy seat, car seat, crib, etc., for peace of mind you can have her in her seat in the bathroom with you. If she is already asleep be sure to start the shower BEFORE you take her in the bathroom as the sudden sound of the water turning on may startle her.



If you are asking how to take a shower with her while alone, it's simple (although maybe not too simple or you wouldn't be asking right?). Make sure you have the towels you will need close by, preferably over the shower curtain/ door. Undress yourself and get the shower started and set at the right temp, take your shower first. Then reach out of the shower, undress her, and put her in with you, be very careful as squirmy soapy babies can slip! After you are done, dry her off and wrap her in a towel and place her back in her seat. Dry yourself off, then get her dressed, hopefully she hasn't made a mess in the towel by then ;) I hope this helps. I have eight kids now and have done this with every one of them. It's not hard, but does take a little bit of steel nerves and practicing to get comfortable with it. Good luck!

Raylene - posted on 03/18/2012

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Generally 5-6 mins max is all it takes in the shower, so either do it when you've just put her back down for her sleeps or as one of the the other mums suggested and put her in the bathroom on her bouncer, that should give you some peace of mind.

Angela - posted on 03/18/2012

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just when you can :D dont worry it gets easier and you will feel more relaxed about finding her having a little grizzle if shes been asleep and wakes up, or gets bored with being alone while you're in there, you can also put her in a bouncer in the bathroom if you want to (which by the way, the steam is great if they are a little sniffly or have croup). Not sure if you also meant about showering with your wee one, but we showered from a really early age and both of ours loved it - but they can get slippery, especially when they get bigger and wigglier :-) we found it easier to have one shower and to hand them to the other to dry and dress, but also if you decide you want to sit on the floor of the shower with your daughter, as I did occassionally with mine - watch thier toes in the drain... I caught my daughters toe and cut it - first injury she was fine after a few seconds but I was mortified!

Have fun and enjoy your wee one they arent little for long! :D

Kisa - posted on 03/18/2012

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I put baby in bouncy seat or travel swing and showered. Tried to do when napping but the nap never lasted very long, I had very difficult sleepers. but THE BEST way was to shower WITH BABY. my kids LOVED this. get a baby tub and fill it with warm water. put baby in the baby tub and push it to the back of the tub and you can shower while baby sits happily in the warm water. then you can pick baby up and have skin to skin cuddle time. It is hard to hold baby and wash them as they are so slippery. so I would wash baby when in the baby tub. then I could get out and baby could still sit in the water and they were very content. Even my 1st who pretty much cried most of 10 months. the warm water is relaxing and the skin to skin cuddle time under the shower gives great bonding and is wonderful for breastfeeding. and gets kids used to the feel of the shower very young.

my husband took showers with our kids this way also. to bond, to give me a break. we started this when 1st son was 4mo old as a way to try to get him out of his nursing strike. they suggested a bath with him skin to skin in my chest. then we progressed to showers and it was just easier to have the kid kid in the shower.

when they were older I put them in doorway jumper or exersaucer when they were ready to play. I sang songs and played peek a boo if they weren;t in shower with me. when I had a newborn and 13mo old the 13mo old would be in jumper and newborn with me or vise versa if nerborn was sleeping soundly.

in-fact at 4 and 5 yrs old we still shower with our kids. we can shower the 4 of us faster and not run out of water.

just try different things and do what works for you.

Ilene - posted on 03/18/2012

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How about a bath? I used to get in the tub and put my son on my lap. That way, I could bathe him and play with him at the same time. I put a huge towel on the bathmat on the floor and laid him on that and wrapped him up when we were finished. Iput on my robe when I got out and grabbed him right up. It was fun as well as a handy way to get us both done. I actually did this for several months. You might enjoy this.

Jennifer - posted on 03/18/2012

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Oh, and I got the best advice from my pediatrician on this:

"Nobody ever died from crying." Let her cry, take care of yourself. You'll be a better mommy when you're clean and refreshed.

Jennifer - posted on 03/18/2012

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That was when I learned to shower at night before I went to bed, while baby was down and hubby was there in case she woke up. Good luck!

Mandee - posted on 03/18/2012

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I used to just take a shower during one of her short naps and bring the monitor into the bathroom with me and turn the volume on high so I could hear it. That worked for a while and then she wasn't napping as often, so I had to start doing it when the hubby was home before he left for the day or as soon as he got home.



Also, this will sound odd, but with our youngest, we discovered she hated the bath but loved the shower, so I would often sit in the shower and hold her or put her in an infant shower seat and took a really short shower with her. It was enough to at least rinse the icky feeling off until I could find time when the hubby could take her for me.

Kathleen - posted on 03/18/2012

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I would shower when she napped or bring the bassinet outside the bathroom, leaving the door open to see her. It was never long as I was paranoid about leaving her unattended or becoming scared by the noise of the shower. Good luck..you both will survive

Erica - posted on 03/18/2012

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Your fine to shower your baby can be settled first then you can have your shower it won't hurt your baby to cry if you haven't finished baby's should learn to deal with you not being there every moment most times they will cry themselves back to sleep i have 5 children and i have never had the trouble in rushing a shower once she is settled and wrapped tightly then you can have your shower if u prepare everything you need while baby is awake this always help you to bring down the time of running around....!!!!! She will be fine and you will time everything right with practice good luck!!

Christine - posted on 03/18/2012

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i would wait for my little one to fall asleep and put her in her crib and take a shower then. it was always a quick shower. if you have a baby monater bring it to the bathroom with you. i would shower with the room open so i could hear her.

Valerie - posted on 03/18/2012

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You sound like a very concerned mom, not a bad one. It's hard at first because you feel like you have to always be there. Getting them used to you showering is a must. I used to put my son in a bouncer and work out and shower. I did a 25 minute workout and a quick 5 minute shower. If he was napping, then I would try to get it done then. You just need to figure out a way to make it work for you because you need that shower every day. If I didn't get it in, I felt horrible all day. You can do it!!!

Jen - posted on 03/18/2012

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I have taken baby and bouncy seat in the bathroom when he was sleeping and take a quick shower. Worked well many times.

Krista - posted on 03/18/2012

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I used to take my daughter into the bathroom with me - put her into her car seat or her vibrating chair... then from behind the shower curtain I would play peek a boo with her while I was getting myself clean!! :) She loved it and I loved not being stinky anymore!

Rachel - posted on 03/18/2012

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If I were you, I'd get a baby papasan chair (Target sells them) wait until she's asleep and put her in it strapped in on the floor in the bathroom. Then shower. Just realize you may have to hop out so make it quick!

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There are a number of ways to do this...the first and most obvious is to take advantage of her nap time. Or if your daughter is the kind that does not sleep, have her on her blanket, or bouncer in the bathroom with you whilst you take a shower. Or if her father lives with you, schedule your shower when he is present, giving them time to bond....and remember, just because your daughter cries does not mean she needs you instantly to appear....God bless.

Teresa - posted on 03/18/2012

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This is probably going to sound rude...but what do you do when your child is sleeping? Do you sit and watch him/her sleep. My kids are 22, 21 and 13. They were never in the bathroom with me while I showered. If they cried for 5 minutes while I showered, it wasn't a big deal. Kids nowadays are coddled way to much.

Helen - posted on 03/18/2012

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How is showering while they sleep any different to sleeping while they sleep? I never got the inability to shower either!! My ex used to complain about not being able to pee if I was having a sleep in! You don't need your eyes on the baby every second!!!

Kateri - posted on 03/18/2012

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You can shower when she is asleep, take a baby monitor in the bathroom with you if you feel more comfortable that way. Or you can put her in a bouncy seat in the bathroom with you.

Anita - posted on 03/18/2012

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i have tried to coordinate around naps, and when that is not possible, I have a glass shower, so I can let them crawl around in the bathroom with me while I am in the shower since I can still see them. DO you have a playpen, you could maybe use that too.

Letitia - posted on 03/18/2012

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I am a single mum and have an almost 2 year old, when she was younger i would shower when she was asleep or put her in a bouncer/highchair in the bathroom with me...

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if she is fed, dry and safe, then let her lie on a blanket on the floor in another room and shower: I used to leave her on the floor just outside the bathroom and leave the door open. Or wait until her nap and shower first, before the dishes or anything else. Surprisingly these little people do not need us watching them as much as we need to watch them :) Enjoy the freedom until she is mobile. Oh yeah, even a little cry won't hurt while you shower or finish the dishes or whatever!!

Angela - posted on 03/18/2012

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I used to put mine in a bouncy chair on the bathroom floor. At 1 month old though, a crib or the bed is fine, they don't move much.

KIm - posted on 03/18/2012

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I guess I had children to long ago to understand not being able to take a shower. MY oldest is 24 and my youngest is 20. My eye was not on them every minute of everyday. The need to learn to have that alone time , just as you as a grownup needs alone time. Place them in their crib or playpen where are they going to go, just make sure there is nothing dangerous in there with then but that should have been done already. I know that you donot hold then all day long. I guess I came from a time when childred and parents were worked into a living situation together. What good are you going to be for that child if you dont feel good about yourself what are you showing them. YOu take time to clean them and clothe then in clean clothes why not you, They are part of you now as God intended but you have to be you happy healthy and whole yourself. And who know maybe they need that time alone too.

Cindy - posted on 03/18/2012

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Put her in her carseat or bouncy seat and put her in the bathroom with you... yes, it will be a fast shower but atleast you can feel somewhat refreshed.

Samantha - posted on 03/18/2012

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i had a bassinet, so i just rolled it into the bathroom while i took a shower. i have also set him in his crib and took the monitor in the bathroom.



if you dont have a bassinet, or dont feel comfortable leaving the baby in thr crib, try putting her in the carseat and then take her in the bathroom

Lydia - posted on 03/18/2012

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I would bring baby in the bathroom in bouncy seat. I would sing or talk to baby while I showered

Amanda - posted on 03/18/2012

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I used the car seat and brought it in with me so I could see him, wait till she is due a sleep the noise of the shower and then hairdryer will usually help them nod off anyhow If you don't have a mobile car seat use the bouncer chair or even push chair, anything you can so you know she can't fall and you can keep an eye!

Tami - posted on 03/18/2012

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Put her in a bouncer in the bathroom with you. That's what I did and it worked out great! Now that my baby is older (15 months) I put her in the pack n play which now resides in our bathtub!

Tricia - posted on 03/18/2012

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It's okay to leave them alone if they are asleep or in their crib. The crib is the safest place for them. Eventually, she will sleep in her crib in her own room all by herself without your supervision. Relax. She'll survive! I have four kids and no harm has come to them while I shower when they are napping or in a crib or in a bouncy seat. When my first born was older, I set up a playpen with toys while I showered. She did fine.

Jazmin - posted on 03/18/2012

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While they nap, go to sleep, or stick them in a bouncer, carseat anything that keeps them safe and comfy. Some babies even like being in the bathroom to listen to the water run. Just don't shut the door it will get to warm. Plenty of ways :)

Naomi - posted on 03/18/2012

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The bouncy seat is a wonderful thing! Put the baby in the seat on the floor just outside of the shower. If you have a shower stall with a glass door all the better. If not keep the shower curtain open a little at the end and the nozzle pointed down so water doesn't spray out. Keep an eye on your daughter, sing songs, talk to her etc. to keep her entertained. If she is sleeping even better. The vibration of the bouncy seat and the hum of the bathroom fan seems to be very soothing to the little ones. You might not have time to do all the maintenance you need to do in the shower, like shave your legs, but you can keep yourself clean.

Sarah - posted on 03/18/2012

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I shower at night right after I put my boys into bed. When my oldest was born I would shower when he took his 9 am nap. The only other way is to put baby in something they can't get out of into the bathroom with you. I used with my youngest jolly jumper in the doorway or car seat carrier or bouncer seat or even high chair with some snacks. Best of luck.

Corinne - posted on 03/18/2012

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Why my sons were infants, and if I needed to shower before they napped, I would put them in their bouncy seat in the bathroom with me and my shower would be really fast. I would peek out every once in awhile just to make sure that they were okay, and then I would carry on with my shower. I never ever had a problem with that. GOOD LUCK!!!

Kimberly - posted on 03/18/2012

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Shower while she's sleeping safely in her crib or playpen! Heck, if I needed a shower badly enough and couldn't wait til my husband got home, I'd put my son in his crib awake!

Kirstie - posted on 03/18/2012

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during a nap.. or i'd put my son in his swing/bouncer in the bathroom with me. FAST SHOWERS lol

Jessica - posted on 03/18/2012

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I use to either leave my lilman in his crib and if he cried he cried it wont hurt her to cry a bit, or I had one of those little vibrating bouncy chairs I would put that in the bathroom with me and keep the door ajar a bit to let the steam out some and he would just sit there and bounce and play with his rattles and the hanging things that were on the chair... with my daughter 13 years ago I used her carseat or the walker(yes I would prop her up in her walker she loved it and it promoted balance early on in life, she was walking by 8 months lol....

Annie - posted on 03/18/2012

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I used to put him in the bouncer on the floor of the bathroom so he could still see me, that or whilst he was napping - but I usually like to sleep then myself!

Lizz - posted on 03/18/2012

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When my daughter was a newborn I would shower either while she was napping with the monitor in the bathroom with me or if she was awake and a absolutely couldn't wait I would put her in her bouncy seat and bring her in the bathroom with me.

Nicole - posted on 03/18/2012

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i used to take my sons infant car seat or bouncer chair right in the bathroom with me...that way i knew he was safe and i could shower!!!

Julie - posted on 03/18/2012

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When mine were that young, I would wait until they were sleeping, would burrito wrap them and put them in their bassinet, then go for a quick shower. If they woke up, I'd just rush through the shower a little quicker! Baby will be fine in her bassinet or crib for the few minutes it takes to have a quick shower. You'll get used to it!

Jennifer - posted on 03/18/2012

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I used to do it as soon as I got home, because he would be asleep in his car seat carrier. i would put him in the doorway of the bathroom so i could see him while he slept and still got my shower in with no worries!

Missie - posted on 03/18/2012

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I always took baths instead of showers, but i would place my son in his car seat, bouncer or swing and place it at the bathroom door or if the bathroom was big enough at the time inside the bathroom where i could reach him easily if needed. I got everything he could possibly need set up before i went into the shower and he was usually content through my time, he liked hearing the water running and normally went to sleep so i got my me time.

Ann - posted on 03/18/2012

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put her in her carseat and set it on the floor in the bathroom while you take you r shower

Jessica - posted on 03/18/2012

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I either waited til my boys feel asleep or put them in a bouncy set in the bathroom next to the shower and took the fastest shower possible.

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