How do you get your 3 year old to poop in the potty?

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Clare - posted on 02/28/2009

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Quoting Rebecca:

How do you get your 3 year old to poop in the potty?




i couldnt get mine to poo on the potty so i tryed on the toilet got her her own little step and a sticker chart and made it a game did not pressure her and she did it bless her it also helped that she got a toy at the end of the week if she did more on toilet than in her knickers hope this helps

Deborah - posted on 02/28/2009

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I took my boys to the dollar store and let them pick out a few toys.  Then they choose the one they want first.  You can put that toy in a place they can see it, but not touch... above the bathroom door for instance.  Then when they do go in the toilet, they get the prize.  My oldest is disabled, and for him I checked him every hour for a week and charted when he had a BM.  Then for the next week I would have him sit on the toilet in that block of time.  It took a lot of time, but it helped him get over his fear of going in the toilet.    Best wishes... I've trained and retrained some of mine... I still struggle with bed wetting.

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Tyler - posted on 11/05/2013

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that sounds like a good idea but i might have to do candy for my three year old

Paula - posted on 02/28/2009

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ps- if it "hurts" when he poops, perhaps he is constipated.  try raisins or bran flakes to make it easier. 

Paula - posted on 02/28/2009

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give him M&M's every time he tries.  give extra M&M's if he is successful. start a sticker chart and leave it in the bathroom.  give a sticker for every try.  let him put the stickers on the chart himself.  most importantly- don't force him or make it a negative experience.  it has to be HIS idea.  all positive encouragement will help.  good luck.  he will get it eventually. my 1st son was 3 1/2 before he fully got it.

Emily - posted on 02/28/2009

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you could always put their nappy in the potty if they are still in nappies and get them to poo into that so they can get use to using it 1st!

Cecilia - posted on 02/28/2009

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I have a 3 years 4 month old boy that won't potty train.  He was very interested last summer when he was 2 years 7 months but then the new baby came 7 months ago and since then NOTHING.  He won't even discuss it.  And when he goes poopy in the diaper he denies it happened.  He has no interest and changed the subject any time we bring it up.  I've offered bribes of M&Ms, match box cars, stickers, Disney movies, stuffed animals, a half hour of Mickey Mouse Clubhouse on TV...all he says is he doesn't want it. 



Then tonight after another soiled diaper I asked him if he knew when he had to go.  He said yes.  Then I asked him if he was scared to go.  He said yes that there are sharks in the toilet.  Oh...sharks.  Great!  So I told him that we'd get the shark repellent we have out and spray it on every toilet every day.  He said then he'd feel better about going.  (Shark repellent being a small pink spray bottle I have filled with water.)  So now we have the shark theory.  I don't know if he's really afraid or if this is just another ploy to not go on the potty but tomorrow we'll try it. 



Cecilia

Michele - posted on 02/25/2009

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Well if you know that it is their poopy time then have them sit on the toilet and read a book until it happens.  Then all you can do from there is PRAISE PRAISE PRAISE!!!  And talking about big boys and big girls always helps a bit too!!

Deanna - posted on 02/25/2009

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My daughter just turned 5 and I cant get her to poop in the toilet, she wears pullups and i now have a 5 months old.... she had been potty trained at 18 months old and then had a large bowel movement and hurt herself and ever since then NO luck...... she is in preschool and not ashamed to tell the other kids that she wears pull ups .... so i know where U r coming from, its very fruserating but i am sure it will happen in due time!!!

Holly - posted on 02/25/2009

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I had it very easy potty trainning my first child, however the second put me to the test. She turned three in december and still wouldnt go potty to save her own life even though she knew how but choose not to and belive me you cant make them until they are ready. Her daddy told her one day that she was going to get worms if she didnt start using the potty and it worked!! YAY hey at this point ill take whatever I can get but try to find something that works with your child wether it be a toy, game,song, or in my case just scare them into it LOL.. Good luck

Rebecca - posted on 02/25/2009

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Very True! Thanks. That makes me feel much better! I will try not to pressure him.

Kristin - posted on 02/25/2009

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You don't. Honestly, I tried every trick in the book with my son at about that age. He was 4 years old when he finally pooped in the potty. Peeing was not an issue, but pooping was. The more I pushed early on, the more it scared him away. Then he would hold it in and wouldn't go. This causes major problems. His doctor told me something to tell him that worked MIRACLES. Just tell him, I know you're scared that its going to hurt, so when YOU are ready, we can try pooping in the potty. Until then you can ask for a pull-up to go in. When YOU are ready to learn how to poop in the potty like big kids do, then you just let me know. It totally takes the pressure off and makes it all seem like its HIS idea!



Good luck! I know its so frustrating, but I promise, he'll get it down... just in his own time.

Kristin - posted on 02/25/2009

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You don't. Honestly, I tried every trick in the book with my son at about that age. He was 4 years old when he finally pooped in the potty. Peeing was not an issue, but pooping was. The more I pushed early on, the more it scared him away. Then he would hold it in and wouldn't go. This causes major problems. His doctor told me something to tell him that worked MIRACLES. Just tell him, I know you're scared that its going to hurt, so when YOU are ready, we can try pooping in the potty. Until then you can ask for a pull-up to go in. When YOU are ready to learn how to poop in the potty like big kids do, then you just let me know. It totally takes the pressure off and makes it all seem like its HIS idea!



Good luck! I know its so frustrating, but I promise, he'll get it down... just in his own time.

Rhonda - posted on 02/25/2009

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Get to know their routine and when they shows signs say "let's go to the potty" and take them. If it's too late say "where do poopies go? " then dump the poop in the toilet and say "poop goes in the potty!" then flush it  and wave goodbye saying "bye bye yucky poops!" And of course when they succeed make the biggest deal out of it (dance clap and sing even more then when they started walking).  Good luck!

Rene' - posted on 02/25/2009

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I told my daughter that the Princesses didn't like to get poop on them!!  Then I told her that when she did go poop and she did it in the big girl potty it would make a funny noise like plop and she wanted to hear the sound and after she did it we did the potty dance.  Just dance around like you are silly....worked for her and she loved it!!  Hope this helps....

Joanne - posted on 02/25/2009

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Bribary, worked for mine. and my eldest was very determined not to do it. I gave her money to pop in her piggy bank!! worked a treat. good luck xx

Jessica - posted on 02/25/2009

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I heard boys have a harder time going poopy on the potty. (idk if you have aboy or a girl?) Its more of a seperation anxiety for them. The best thing is be consistant and use lots of praise. With my daughter i found out rewarding her with big girl dora undies worked the best. And i agree with the other moms, its ok to leave them in messy underware for a little bit, you'll see they wont like it and they learn fast to go on the potty.

Rebecca - posted on 02/25/2009

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Thanks mommies for all your great tips!

I'm going to try each of them one by one! Surely one of these will work!

Rebecca - posted on 02/25/2009

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I tried that but he pooped in his spiderman "big boy" undies! And he says it hurts when he tries to poop on the potty.

Thanks for your tip though!

User - posted on 02/19/2009

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My son wanted super hero underwear and I bought them and then told him he couldnt have them until he could poop like a big boy! 

Marisa - posted on 02/19/2009

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I kept mine naked all day long - it took 3 days.  He refused to go without some 'protection' and then went on the small potty I had bought him. Hopefully you are able to stay at home because it is an all day process.

Korinne - posted on 02/18/2009

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be consistant. brayden had a potty book we read while trying. he also got a lolipop for going. it took a little while, but he'll get it. one day it just seems to click.

Michelle - posted on 02/18/2009

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Rebecca what I did with my 3 year old is when we got up first thing in the morning we went to the potty.  Every hour on the hour we went back to the potty no matter if she had to go or not.  It was had at first but she finally got it.  I have a 2 year old and we are trying the same thing.  As everyone in the past has told me don't worry your child will not go to school in pull ups.  There were many times I thought she would.  I hope this helps.

Cathy - posted on 02/18/2009

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Praise,Praise,Praise,,,,I also did special treats like goldfish..also let the kids feel what it was like to stay messy in pants gave them a few minutes to feel how nasty and yucky it was..Good luck been there 3 times..

Yvette - posted on 02/18/2009

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Sing a little song " Poop Poop in the potty, Poop Poop in the Potty" and when he does it, say a big yaaay! Worked for my girls.



 

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