How do you get your child to get ready for school in the morning? As well as waking up?! Mine is very pokey - we've tried the alarm - he ignores it or hits snooze. Takes forever to eat and get dressed. He's 6. Any ideas?

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Angelica - posted on 01/08/2009

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My 10 year old is the exact same way... still!! I have to get up with her even earlier so everyone else isn't late. 4th grade now and she is NOT a morning person. I have tried enticing her with homeade breakfast, McDonald's, threats (kidding) etc. nothing works for me. Help?

Kimberly - posted on 01/10/2009

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My 7 year old is ADHD with severe impulsivity and hyperactivity (he was diagnosed hyperactive at 4).  I actually refused medication for 3 years with him, and I give him a timer.  I set reasonable time limits (15 minutes for eating breakfast - once prepared; 15 minutes to get dressed; 10 minutes to go to the bathroom and brush teeth).  I've sent him to school without socks or his coat (on warmer days) or a belt when he's taken his time, now the only thing he procrastinates is getting his shoes on, and even that's gotten better. 



Of course I have a "tickle monster" that wakes him up.  It's the most effective for me, and it wakes him up without a fight.  I also give a good 10 - 15 minutes just to wake him up and get him out of bed.  My perspective is that if he's upset he'll work against me that much more.  But if I can wake him up by getting him laugh (I tell him the tickle monster won't stop until I see his pretty eyes open), then he'll be much more responsive to getting things done faster. . . it also primes him for having a better day in school. 



Good luck!

April - posted on 01/09/2009

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I'm a harsh mom.... They pick out their clothes the night before and also get a shower... I wake them up and let them know how much time they have... I do yell out when they have 30 minutes... But when I say "in 15 minutes this bus is leaving".  They know they have enough time to brush their teeth and hair get a coat on and out the door.... Mornings can be very hard at times I have a son with ADHD and another with asthma.... But it seems to work for us.

DarLinda - posted on 01/09/2009

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Had similar problem w/ my now 12 year old. I started putting him to bed earlier & earlier...until we found his best sleep pattern that had him up & going in the mornings. (bed at 7pm to get up at 6:30am) As he got older, he has learned that if he wants to stay up later, he has to be able to get & moving at the same time/speed as before.

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Lana - posted 5 days ago

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I have a 7 year old daughter with the same problem! I tried going to bed early, waking up earlier, everything, but nothing worked. I bought this alarm clock that shoot out shape, and it doesn't stop beeping until you put the shapes back! There is no snooze and it sounds like a mini fire alarm. It worked like a charm.

Monica - posted on 02/11/2013

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Well the problem I'm having with my 9 year old is he drags out of bed...even if we send him to bed early, he still doesn't go to sleep till about 9. His bedtime is 8 and if he doesn't get up in time he'll go to bed at 7:30 that night. Doesn't work!!! He does have his uniform ready every night. Alarm clock used to work but now just snoozes it :/ How can I get him to just focus on doing his morning rituals?? Consequences????

Kristina - posted on 01/10/2009

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My 9 yr-old stepdaughter had problems with this as well. So instead of sleeping in her pj's she had to sleep in her clothes for the next day. She only did this once, as she likes to look nice.

Elizabeth - posted on 01/10/2009

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I have triplets 6 yr old boys, and one sometimes gives me trouble waking up. I have a spray bottle i do their hair with and spray him with it. He wakes up laughing. He likes to wash his face in the morning. As far as breakfast and getting dressed set a timer for each and if they are hungry they learn to eat and not play before the timer goes off. And getting dressed I have told them if the timer goes off before you are dressed, then you go to school with all your friends how you look when the timer goes off. I don't have that problem anymore.

Carmel - posted on 01/09/2009

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yeah I really like the idea that if they are not ready to go when its time then they go as they are things will change quickly

Malinda - posted on 01/09/2009

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I have triplets and what I did was told them if they did not wake up on time in the morning, they would go to bed an hour early the next night. The key... I kept to what I said. Kids need their sleep. I even do this to my 13 year old. If he does not get up when it's time, then that night he goes to bed an hour earlier than normal. It sucks for them cause they don't want to go to bed early, but it works! It may take a few days for them to "get it" but as long as you stick with it (which is a must with teaching the kids anything), they will come around. Try it and let me know!

Cinzia - posted on 01/09/2009

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Maybe you're son isn't ready for an alarm clock.. or maybe move it away from the side of his bed so he can't easily snooze it. I also find the buzzer alarm work better than the radio alarm because it forces you to shut it up! :D



Morning is probably the hardest time of our day as well but I've been able to implement strategies that have helped a lot (he's 8):



1. Morning showers: does the trick

2. A visual schedule: he knows exactly what needs to be done and in what order (for those who aren't quite "awake" to think for themselves)

3. A timer: I set a timer for a specific time until we have to leave the house. He's a visual learner so it helps him keep track of his own time.

4. Point system: if he's not ready by the time the timer goes off, he loses a point which equates to losing all privilages for a specific period of time. It's meaningful to him.

5. 7:30pm Bed-time: sounds early but it makes a big difference for him.. heck, for us!! He's like his mama. We require a lot of sleep or we don't function well lol



Good luck.

Christine - posted on 01/09/2009

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i make my soon to be 9yr old son dress in his clothes for the next day the night before, at least i dont have to battle with him getting dressed just getting up.

Lucy - posted on 01/09/2009

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my daughter is 9 and we go thru the same ting i find simple things to race on , an example see if you can bet me starting the laundry and chide her on saying bet you cant win i am faster.

Rebecca - posted on 01/09/2009

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You can also take him to school in PJs. Let him know what time you are leaving. If he is not ready by then, take him as is. You will most likely have to do it only one time. 


I agree with this strategy. Also if my daughter doesn't want to eat her breakfast, then I tell her she will have to skip breakfast and wear my selection of clothes. She usually steps up the pace then ... to me this is in line with my general strategies on child rearing -- clear link between their actions and the consequences.





 

Carmel - posted on 01/09/2009

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My son used to b very slow in the morn. I talked to his teacher and let her know that I was goin to do this firs then what I did was let him b late goin to school. He would get in trouble there or have to catch up on his work he didnt like it very much. I also simplified his morning routine and gave him lots of time to do what he needed. Kids are tough you really gotta b firm with them. Also I gently explained to him how his actions affect everyone around him eg. This makes mom Late and so on as well I bumped his bed time up an hour so he got lots of sleep and was well rested when i woke him.

Rebecca - posted on 01/09/2009

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if my 5 year old is dawdling i tell her i want her to do things by the time i count to xx number or i challenge her to do it faster than anyone else e.g. i get dressed while she is getting dressed and bet she can't get dressed faster than me...

the other important thing is ROUTINE ... even my two year old knows the routine in the mornings - breakfast, get dressed, brush teeth, put pyjammas under the pillow, brush hair etc. everything always gets done in the same order and it's a bit of a drill -- if they're dawdling between items in the routine i ask them what they are meant to be doing next and they always know and get to it then themselves.

Toi - posted on 01/09/2009

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Quoting Tina:

How do you get your child to get ready for school in the morning? As well as waking up?! Mine is very pokey - we've tried the alarm - he ignores it or hits snooze. Takes forever to eat and get dressed. He's 6. Any ideas?




I wish I had some advice for you!! I have a 6 yr old and I'm dealing with the exact same thing!

Jackie - posted on 01/09/2009

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If you find the miracle cure, let me know! My son who is 9 has no problem geting up and moving but when it comes to my 13 year old daughter.....nothing works! She is not a morning person (neither am I). My husband says I should let her hit the snooze and miss the bus but then I am the one getting dressed and taking her to school! Not quite fair! She pushes the envelope but does manage to get up, eat breakfast and make the bus.

Aimee - posted on 01/09/2009

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I have a pokey 8 year old. She are trying now to put her to bed earlier.. I am hoping that helps.

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You will probably think I'm too harsh, but here goes.

My son had that issue. It is not much of one, now. Putting him to bed at an earlier time will help. If he complains, tell him it is obvious that he needs the rest. Let him prove to you that he can get up and get ready in the morning.

You can also take him to school in PJs. Let him know what time you are leaving. If he is not ready by then, take him as is. You will most likely have to do it only one time.

My son is now 12 years old. If he doesn't want to get up in the morning, all I have to do is walk into his room and say, "Okay, I'm picking out your clothes, today."

The boy is out of bed in a flash (most days). :)

Tina - posted on 01/09/2009

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Get into a routine and stick with it. Maybe he needs to get more sleep. How many hours does he get? He should get at least 10 hours, if possible. He is probably slow, pokey, and crabby because he is tired.

Lisa - posted on 01/09/2009

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I have a pokey 6 year old too!  She loves to take her time.  I try and have everything laid out in the morning so there isn't too many decisions being made when she is half asleep.  She gets about 12 hours a sleep a night and it is unpredictable at times as to how she will be.  I found that as long as I keep consistent with her and a firm yet soft ton she tends to do better.  Good luck, I am sure tomorrow she will wake in a mess and I will forget about this advice because it can be very frustrating to us as parents when we are tired too!  :-)  

Carol - posted on 01/09/2009

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I just give him a time limit. Like when it comes to shower-you have "x" amount of time. As he gets close to that limit, I will remind him. Same for getting dressed, eating, etc. There are days that he drags behind and I just have to remind him and tell him that if he keeps lagging around, he will have to get up earlier-and I know he doesn't want that.

Diana - posted on 01/08/2009

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I have one that is very pokey...she's now 9, but I found I still from time to time have to help her. What we did was set up a routine & then I had to make a game out of it. For example, I will wake her up at 6am with "Herman the Worm" crawling in her ears (this is my finger) and her neck, any of her tickle spots. Then when she wakes up enough to be somewhat coherent, I give her a piggy back ride to the shower. After the shower we burrito her in a towel, pick out her clothes and then piggy back downstairs to breakfast. After breakfast she does really well on her own. I know it seems like a lot of work, but it is worth it to me to have a happy/productive morning.

Ellen - posted on 01/08/2009

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my son will be 6 in a 2 months, and i noticed he had a really hard time getting ready for school & waking up (lots of tantrums and crabbiness) when he wasn't getting 11 hours of sleep a night.now that he gets more zzzs, he is much more cheerful and things are so much easier. Maybe your son would benefit from more sleep too?



i also have my son pick out his clothes the night before and he can decide what he wants for breakfast.

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