How do you get your husband a job??

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Julie - posted on 01/02/2010

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Oh, I feel you on this one, my husband was without a job for over a year and I thought I was going to go nuts!!!! It seemed as though he had no motivation, and I was doing everything for him, but once I stopped looking and filling out applications for him he suddenly found an interest in doing it and found a job shortly after...thank God!! GOOD LUCK!!!

Rebecca - posted on 01/02/2010

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My husband is also military. He has been in for 7yrs and we have been together for 5. We have 2 kids and money has never been an issue. I love what my husband does and i love being an army wife as well:) The benifits are awesome and you get to see so much of your country. He is able to retire when he is 37 so 11 more years:) How awesome is that! See if there is a trade he is interested in through the military. The life is pretty good no matter the horror stories you might hear it truly is a good life:)

Sharina - posted on 01/02/2010

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I don't know the details, however my husband had like 50 jobs in a few year and had trouble keeping one. Finally, he enlisted in the US ARMY and has kept in the ARMY for three years now providing excellent benefits and income improving our credit and providing quite nicely for our children and I. I am enjoying being an army wife and recommend it highly.

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Brooke - posted on 11/27/2012

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im 19 year old i working stocking at target i have a two year old and i am with my childs father im doing everything i can for my family i finished school last month and am waiting to take my test in January to get my license and get a good job my boyfriend lost his job a couple moths ago and is now working at a car wash however he hasnt worked in a couple weeks we have no money for rent or bills thank god for my substitute father that has been a better father to me than anybody helping us make it through but my guy says hes trying to get a job but when i tell him about a job he doesnt do anything about it and says hes applied for over 200 jobs????? ya i know its bulls&^% but i dont want to leave him and be that typical teen mom that couldnt keep her family together i want my little guy to have his daddy i have triend everything i have talked to him filled out applications for him how long do i wait? what do i do? please somebody help me i need advice its not fair that he gets to go out when he wants and im here every sencond im not working with our son and i do everything around the house and cook him dinner every night i feel stupid like my life is over before it even started

Debra - posted on 01/02/2010

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My husband had been out of work twice when I finally got through to him. He had to find a job. I could never make as much as he did and we had 2 babies at home. He ended up having to get an apartment in another area 5 hours away to work just so we could get some money. It was only a contract position for 6 months which turned into 5 months due to outsourcing of the jobs. He was fortunate then to find one just 20 minutes from our home. Motivating is the hardest just remind him what he has at home and if you doesn't find a job or look what he will no longer have at home.

Rhea - posted on 01/02/2010

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when you figure it out let me know my husband doent have any degrees but he has experience in heating and air and mechanics and i dont know what his deal is?

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I am sorry that I didn't add in my earlier post, that you are a good woman for helping your husband out and I wish you both luck in the job search... = )

Angela - posted on 01/02/2010

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Mine has been a stay at home daddy now for over a year due to back surgery. I found that after a few months he quit helping out around the house, quit doing just about anything and just wanted to go out with the guys.... Finally, he got a temp job he thought his back could handle. After his first day of work he was the man I first met again. Guys feel the need to be providers and the 'Man' of the house.

Just keep reassurring him of his manhood first of all. And don't help too much because when you baby them they forget how to do it on their own. Just let him know how much you need him and he'll do it. And remember, take anything even if it's a drive thru... it's always easier to find a job when you have a job and right now anything is more than you have now!

Brandi - posted on 01/02/2010

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I should think providing for his family should be motivation enough. My husband and I had a rough year or so while I was pregnant with my second child. He was demoted from his job (which provided him with decent pay and health benefits) for taking 3 days off in a period of 2 weeks to help me care for our sick daughter (I was working as well and we alternated days to be with her until she got better. Since the days were not consecutive for either one of us, we both got into some trouble, but he was offered 15 hrs. per week NO BENEFITS) so he quit because NO way he could look for a job, work part time AND manage to make enough money for us to live on. In the period of time he was "off work" he WORKED!!!!! He did WHATEVER job he could get. Odd jobs, full-time for only the summer help (which only lasted a few weeks), then he got a job working in a woodworking factory. He was doing well there and making a little money (not much, but was on track to be eligible for benefits) when they downsized. Last hired first fired. (they laid him off, but never called back) after that he did several jobs (each lasting a very short time and one of which he didnt' actually get paid for--he was working delivery for a furniture store for 2 days, they gave him an "old" new mattress and boxspring set with the rails that had been collecting dust in their storeroom, and I guess they thought that was like getting paid. He collected unemployment for a short time (very short like maybe 2 months.) then worked for a Temp. agency. They laid him off there as there was no work, so he started going to career fairs and careerlink OFTEN to try to find a job. He FINALLY found a job with Home Depot. They were opening a store in our area and they liked his experience (not the job he wanted, as he was trying to get out of retail) but for me and our kids he took the job (at better pay than most other of the first hires) and still works there today. He enjoys the position he has (in receiving) and I was never sooo impressed with him as I was when he WASN'T working. I had never seen anyone try so hard and hear rejection after rejection (when it wasn't even his fault) and still keep trying. When he wasn't working, his job was FINDING a job. He took any lousy, low pay, degrading job he could get and I have never been prouder of him. If your husband isn't willing to work THIS hard to find a job to support his family, I don't know what kind of motivation he needs. Good luck..

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Let me get this straight....you are looking for a job for your husband while he sits at home NOT taking care of the kids because one child goes to grandma's and the other is in pre-school? If this guys is over the age of say.....15, tell him to get off his butt, get a job doing SOMETHING, or you will get him a job flipping damn burgers at McDonalds!!! If he is big enough to make babies, he is damn sure big enough to support them, even if it means knocking door to door to find something!!!!

Erin - posted on 01/02/2010

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Quoting Melissa :

You know his mom keeps the youngest and Wyatt goes to Preschool,,, so as far as getting motivated I am really not sure what do there. I just have to keep praying that an answer will happen soon..



My son's name is Wyatt :)

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Fill out the forms and encourage him to keep looking. Mine is doing this right now. I have even turned in application for him while he was unavailble.

Melissa - posted on 01/02/2010

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You know his mom keeps the youngest and Wyatt goes to Preschool,,, so as far as getting motivated I am really not sure what do there. I just have to keep praying that an answer will happen soon..

Erin - posted on 01/02/2010

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Quoting Melissa :

I have,, i have done his resume on line, and put it on Careerbuilder, and Monster... still I am the one looking.. He goes out and looks by talking to people he knows... Just killing me,.. He has a degree in Business and minor in Finance.. and doesn't want to sit down at a desk.. He likes working wiht his hands.... Yes.. he should do it on his own.. But ya know sometimes they need a big push!! :0)


I never understood why when people have degrees in a certain field then they don't want to do it. Why did he get a degree in something if he wasn't going to have a job in that field?? He needs to do what he can now, jobs are harder and harder to come by.

Stephanie - posted on 01/02/2010

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Leave him at home taking care of the kids and you get a job...lol...I am sure that will get him motivated enough to find his own job. Who know he may end up liking being a stay at home dad!

Erin - posted on 01/02/2010

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Temp agencies, internet, applications at everyplace he can think of. Finding jobs are very tough nowadays so good luck to you!

Melissa - posted on 01/02/2010

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I have,, i have done his resume on line, and put it on Careerbuilder, and Monster... still I am the one looking.. He goes out and looks by talking to people he knows... Just killing me,.. He has a degree in Business and minor in Finance.. and doesn't want to sit down at a desk.. He likes working wiht his hands.... Yes.. he should do it on his own.. But ya know sometimes they need a big push!! :0)

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He should be big enough and old enough to get his own job, shouldn't he? Otherwise go and put his name down everywhere that he's capable of working for.

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