how do you get your husband to watch the kids?

LaCi - posted on 06/04/2009

tell him i'm leaving. he has no choice does he? lol. no I just ask him. He knows I need a break after being alone with the little monster all day :)

Sara - posted on 06/04/2009

I say "Hey I'm leaving, and I'm leaving the kids here" LOL Doesn't it need to be complicated? Does he "ask" you when he wants to go somewhere and doesn't want to take the kids? Doubt it. It's always assumed that the mom will have them some times you just have to make it clear that this time you won't!

SAMANTHA - posted on 06/04/2009

I JUST TELL HIM I'M LEAVING AND WHERE I'M GOING AND SOMETIMES WHEN I WILL BE BACK. HE GRADUALLY STARTED TAKING CARE OF OUR SON BETTER AND BETTER. JUST TRUST THAT HE ISN'T GONNA KILL THEM WHILE YOUR GONE. LOL HE WIL BE FINE. JUST LEAVE.

Ariel - posted on 06/03/2009

Quoting Lisa:

One of my biggest pet peeves is to hear a father say the words "I have to babysit". HELLO!??!?! He is not a babysitter! He is a father. A parent. Co-parenting should not be something that we should have to "ask" our mates for, for Pete's sake. Step up to the plate and accept the responsibilty that God is entrusting you with!!!

OMG yes!  I hate that!  My husband has said it a few times and I've about slapped him.

I generally either just hand him the baby and say I'll be back in an hour, plus let him know if it's almost time for food or a nap so he's informed, then walk out the door.

If I will be gone longer, like when I left for a weekend vacation with my girlfriend, I told him waaaaaay ahead of time that i was planning it.  Then the week before it happened I reminded him and told him he had been agreeable to it and I expected him to follow through. ;D

Lydia - posted on 06/03/2009

Lol - I have to admit to referring to looking after our own child as babysitting! I know it drives some people nuts but its not because i think of it asa chore but its just quicker to say than looking after the baby :)

Lisa - posted on 06/03/2009

One of my biggest pet peeves is to hear a father say the words "I have to babysit". HELLO!??!?! He is not a babysitter! He is a father. A parent. Co-parenting should not be something that we should have to "ask" our mates for, for Pete's sake. Step up to the plate and accept the responsibilty that God is entrusting you with!!!

Natalie - posted on 06/03/2009

My hubby is doing not too badly in the arena of child-rearing even with his new found employment. He'll take time in the evening to be on bath duty, change diapers, cuddle the both of us. There's still the call that he gets where he has to leave at the drop of a hat, but we're all left to feel loved and we've made family time in to break time...most of the time...I still get my time outs :)

Desreen - posted on 06/03/2009

My hubby , hmm he is a difficult one, it would haveto be somethng really imparticulare for him to watch our son, however most of the time I would have to take him wherever I go, because he is self employed and so he could be called for jobs at any given moment!. That all being said, I still ask him to pull his socks up so I can get a few mins or a couple of hours to myself and when he sees how stressed I can get then he does. My things is why must I get so stressed before a man moves? I will never know

Lydia - posted on 06/03/2009

I just tell him he is - he usually tries to convince me to take her with me not because he doesnt want to spend time with her but he isnt too confident about looking after her by himself. I am off overnight to a womens only retreat in a few weeks and have put all grandparents on notice :) I know theyll be fine but he isnt as conviced.

Andra - posted on 06/03/2009

Both previous replies are good. I just say I am leaving and make a list of things he needs to do. I even remind him to check for poopy diapers since that is what I always seem to come home to. Join a gym or do some sort of physical activity that gets you out of the house for a while. After a while, it will give you more energy and who knows what else...............LOL

Sharyn - posted on 06/02/2009

Ask him to.
i'm a stay at home mom and my hubby works, but i've asked him to do his share with our daughter. since i do the nightshift of baby watching as it were, he gets up at 7am when she wakes up so i can get some rest.
its only fair, takes two to tango ....

Nicole - posted on 06/02/2009

Ask him to! I'm a stay at home mom and spend every minute of every day with my kids. For us moms, we don't get a lunch break and we don't get to 'clock out' at the end of the day. It's a 24/7 job. You NEED to get some time to yourself, even if it's just an hour a couple of days a week or a half hour every night. Sit down and talk to your husband about this because they are his children too, he needs to spend some one on one time with them and develop a relationship with them as well. Most men don't know what it's like to be a mom and aren't considerate enough to tell you to get out, you need to tell him! I'm sure after a couple of hours with the kids he'll get a small glimpse of what you go thru on a daily basis and he will be more understanding of why you need some alone time. Good luck! :)

Nicole - posted on 06/02/2009

Ask him to! I'm a stay at home mom and spend every minute of every day with my kids. For us moms, we don't get a lunch break and we don't get to 'clock out' at the end of the day. It's a 24/7 job. You NEED to get some time to yourself, even if it's just an hour a couple of days a week or a half hour every night. Sit down and talk to your husband about this because they are his children too, he needs to spend some one on one time with them and develop a relationship with them as well. Most men don't know what it's like to be a mom and aren't considerate enough to tell you to get out, you need to tell him! I'm sure after a couple of hours with the kids he'll get a small glimpse of what you go thru on a daily basis and he will be more understanding of why you need some alone time. Good luck! :)

Nicole - posted on 06/02/2009

Ask him to! I'm a stay at home mom and spend every minute of every day with my kids. For us moms, we don't get a lunch break and we don't get to 'clock out' at the end of the day. It's a 24/7 job. You NEED to get some time to yourself, even if it's just an hour a couple of days a week or a half hour every night. Sit down and talk to your husband about this because they are his children too, he needs to spend some one on one time with them and develop a relationship with them as well. Most men don't know what it's like to be a mom and aren't considerate enough to tell you to get out, you need to tell him! I'm sure after a couple of hours with the kids he'll get a small glimpse of what you go thru on a daily basis and he will be more understanding of why you need some alone time. Good luck! :)