how do you get your kid to stop skipn school

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Lynn - posted on 06/02/2009

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I told my kids that if they skipped school, I would go to school with them every day and walk through the halls holding their hands to be sure they could find their classes, then would sit next to them during class to be sure they knew where their seat was and where they were supposed to be. I never had to do it as my boys knew that I WOULD do it! Just the threat kept them in class. This started when they were very young and whatever I told them, I followed through. When they didn't pick up their toys, they were put in garbage bags and donated to kids who cared enough to pick them up. That happened only once. Never another problem. The main thing with kids is to follow through and never make a threat you know you won't follow through on. I am sure it would only take one day of walking your child to all their classes for them to be embarassed enough to never skip again. I would do it for a week though just to be sure they got the message. Tell them what the consequence is for skipping and do it. Even if you have to take time off work, it's worth it in the end. Mine thanked me for being "so mean" when I dropped them off at Harvard. It's worth it!

Wendi - posted on 06/02/2009

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If they are leaving school for a reason such as being bullied, etc. then it is important to find that out and go from there, but if they are doing it ‘Just because it’s cool and everyone else does it’ then I say grounded and no giving in! No TV, no cell phone, no computer, no allowance, no car and no friends...that’s it, but if you ground them you have to stay firm and stick to it.

Adrienne - posted on 06/02/2009

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I use to skip school a lot when I was younger. I wish that I have never done that. Before I can even say any advice I have to ask... Do you even know the reason why your kid is skipping school in the first place? Sometimes kids don't let the parents know why they are skipping. Most parents just start freaking out because they see their kids ruining their future and never know the real reason why their kid is truly skipping school. Good Luck!

Betsy - posted on 06/02/2009

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You do everything you have to do. First get in contact with the school. Start by making sure communication is open, and they are working with you. It could be phone calls or even the teachers having to sign a booklet and you signing it each every (after seeing he was in class doing his work) so he knows he can't get away with it. Then if he still refuses, take him to school yourself, walk him to each class...treat him like a young child, making sure he gets there, until he can behave responsibly and handle attending and his responsibilities on his own. It sometimes takes a lot of effort, but that's what we're here for :-)

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Yvette - posted on 03/24/2013

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if you notice your kid comes home with lice in the hair ring worms pink eye or anything why do these parents don't their kids to the doctors so they can't spread the germs and risk of other kids of getting sick.

Yvette - posted on 03/24/2013

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stop giving the kid if he or she diesn't want to go to school make them find a job,

Mel - posted on 06/07/2009

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well with regards to my little brother when he was about 13 i was with her when she made lots of calls to the education department and asked what she could do about our dad not sending him to school. not sure what happened but im guessing not much

Sarah - posted on 06/07/2009

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take them into school, ring every morning and afternoon registration to check they are there

communicate with school and educational welfare services

Jessica - posted on 06/06/2009

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Quoting Melissa:

you cant! kids/teens make their own choices and dont realise that these are stupid ones til they grow up. i was skipping school since i was 11 or 12



It's very noticable.  I'm very sorry.

Michele - posted on 06/06/2009

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Hi Brenda,

Well if he is bored I can understand why he does not want to go, he told you he hates school because he is beyond it. Testing and checking to see where he is at academically makes lots of sense. Getting him a physical makes even more sense. If he is 18, he'll be on his own set of rules and guidance like an autopilot. He just needs to know graduating from High School is really important, but his health is even more important. At this point I guess asking him if he has a plan for his next step will help him understand and open the line of communication even more. There is hope my Son was dyslesic and hated school also, he hardly went his Senior Year, luckly they let him make up courses over the summer and he did graduate. He went into the Air Force when he graduated. Only stayed a short time and came back home to get married and I have a Granddaughter, she is so precious. Things do get better! Hang in there.

Michele :-)

Melissa - posted on 06/06/2009

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Quoting Sue:

You need to establish the reason WHY your child is skipping school. I have worked in secondary and primary schools and dealt with absentees and there is always a problem at the route. Whether it be that they don't like a particular teacher, other children are bullying them, the work is too hard. There will be a route cause and you need to find out what that is. Once you have found out the problem, you then need to tackle it. Always speak to the school as they will be more than happy to help.
Hope this is of use and good luck.



I love this because it is not normal for kids to skip school I did it but it has reprocussions spelling sorry very tired 3 am here any way parents have to have expectations for there children or children will fall between the gaps ask your kids the hard questions. It will make a world of differance really.

Mel - posted on 06/06/2009

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you cant! kids/teens make their own choices and dont realise that these are stupid ones til they grow up. i was skipping school since i was 11 or 12

Melissa - posted on 06/06/2009

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If you have to go to school with them the embarresment alone will make them go and stay. Lol or take stuff away. What do they do while skipping school how old are they?

Michele - posted on 06/05/2009

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Take something they really like to do away and stick to your guns do not allow them to get it back until their attendance improves. If a vehicle is involved take away the keys and let them take the bus or have a friend drive them. Also, ask for text msgs from the school at the moment they know they are skipping. Try communicating with your kid and ask them what they are doing when they skip. Find out what is going on and who they are with or are they alone? This will help you figure out why they are skipping. Let me know how it works for you.
Michele :-)

Brenda - posted on 06/05/2009

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he is skipping school cause he hates it. cant stand it. its a mental dificulty. he has been tested at school years ago. his mind is racing and to put words down on paper is extrememly slowe to him and therefore is boring and not important. he has done an english course twice, cant stay connected enough. if i push him he will leave school completely. also he has suggested moving out. he is eighteen and a half.

he says that he is zoning out. he is not and i repeat not on drugs or alcohol. he sits and time lapses. he gets bad migrains sometimes too. the high atmospheric pressure gets him every time.

I suggested that he talk to the people that are the helpers in the main office. he definitly needs to talk to some one but he wount listen to his father(HEALTH ISSUES) or me cause im just mom. I suggested he go to the doctor and get a physical too. he agreed to go to the doctor. soon I hope.



thanks for taking the time to help me. bren

Sue - posted on 06/03/2009

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You need to establish the reason WHY your child is skipping school. I have worked in secondary and primary schools and dealt with absentees and there is always a problem at the route. Whether it be that they don't like a particular teacher, other children are bullying them, the work is too hard. There will be a route cause and you need to find out what that is. Once you have found out the problem, you then need to tackle it. Always speak to the school as they will be more than happy to help.
Hope this is of use and good luck.

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Quoting Lynn:

I told my kids that if they skipped school, I would go to school with them every day and walk through the halls holding their hands to be sure they could find their classes, then would sit next to them during class to be sure they knew where their seat was and where they were supposed to be. I never had to do it as my boys knew that I WOULD do it! Just the threat kept them in class. This started when they were very young and whatever I told them, I followed through. When they didn't pick up their toys, they were put in garbage bags and donated to kids who cared enough to pick them up. That happened only once. Never another problem. The main thing with kids is to follow through and never make a threat you know you won't follow through on. I am sure it would only take one day of walking your child to all their classes for them to be embarassed enough to never skip again. I would do it for a week though just to be sure they got the message. Tell them what the consequence is for skipping and do it. Even if you have to take time off work, it's worth it in the end. Mine thanked me for being "so mean" when I dropped them off at Harvard. It's worth it!





LOL you parent like I do, and it definitely works. My adult son appreciates it now, and "being mean" didn't stop him from feeling that he could tell me anything. I don't even need to say it to the younger kids. may daughter saw that I meant what I say, so she believed it, and now the 3 younger ones are observing and learning too..






HAHA! My mom did the same thing to my little sister/cousin (biologically my cousin, her mom died so my parents adopted her) she was skipping school because she thought it was "cool" so my mom took a day off of work and walked around with her all day. took her to her classes, and sat there with her! i dont think she ever skipped again! i thought that this was just horrible and udder nonscense but believe it or not i will threaten my son the same way!

Betsy - posted on 06/02/2009

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Quoting Lynn:

I told my kids that if they skipped school, I would go to school with them every day and walk through the halls holding their hands to be sure they could find their classes, then would sit next to them during class to be sure they knew where their seat was and where they were supposed to be. I never had to do it as my boys knew that I WOULD do it! Just the threat kept them in class. This started when they were very young and whatever I told them, I followed through. When they didn't pick up their toys, they were put in garbage bags and donated to kids who cared enough to pick them up. That happened only once. Never another problem. The main thing with kids is to follow through and never make a threat you know you won't follow through on. I am sure it would only take one day of walking your child to all their classes for them to be embarassed enough to never skip again. I would do it for a week though just to be sure they got the message. Tell them what the consequence is for skipping and do it. Even if you have to take time off work, it's worth it in the end. Mine thanked me for being "so mean" when I dropped them off at Harvard. It's worth it!


LOL you parent like I do, and it definitely works. My adult son appreciates it now, and "being mean" didn't stop him from feeling that he could tell me anything. I don't even need to say it to the younger kids. may daughter saw that I meant what I say, so she believed it, and now the 3 younger ones are observing and learning too..

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