How do you get your sex life back?
Nicola - posted on 01/09/2010
since you are obviously interested in sex again I am guessing this is more of a scheduling issue with fatigue, work, and home commitments. Sorry to take the spontaneity out of the equation but it takes planning. try to think of a time when you partner is likely to be most receptive to you and plan around trying to get some cooperation from baby (as far as being asleep then) getting all the planets in alignment as far as both of you not being tired, baby being asleep and of course being in the mood is a challenge. you will get there or none of us would have second children!
Mary - posted on 01/09/2010
First of all, you are wanting to have sex with your boyfriend instead of your husband. If he want to have sex with you and you two already have a child when when is the wedding. Get married first and then talk sex. Old school mom. Talk to your boyfriend. A man always want to have sex. Please have a serious talk with him about your relationship and marriage.
Mandy - posted on 01/09/2010
It takes time. Not only have you gone through an amazing process physically but also emotionally. Give it time, dont put pressure on whether or not you are intimate and take it slow if you decide you are ready. Make sure your bofriend understands how you feel about it, talk about it.
Just do what feels right for you and your partner. It is hard adjusting to having a new baby and a lot of women don't want to know about sex, while others want it more. Talk to your partner and see if there are any 'issues' on his side of things, eg, not wanting to hurt you etc and go from there.
My hubbie was too scared to come near me at one point. He thought I would get hurt and hated the fact that I went through so much pain giving birth. Once I pounced on him he was fine lol. Not everyone can have their sex life back as quickly as they would like. And not all husbands understand its actually ok to have sex after giving birth. Also being tired and getting up in the middle of the night does not help. Our sex life went non existant after doing it once. We were just too tired. Once the baby starts sleeping all night, spend time with your hubbie curled up on the sofa and enjoy the peace and quiet. You never know you might just get it "on" on the sofa.lol. If you still dont get "it". Talk to him. He might be like my husband and too scared to touch you incase he hurts you. Hope you finally get some. :)
Dawn - posted on 01/04/2010
it happened to me.. after my daughter was born. i did not want to look at myself and i felt i was ugly and fat!! lol but i had to look at the fact that i just had a beautiful baby and even my streach makes were like a badge of honor... took me a bit but what also helped is that the man i have in m y life loved m e just the was i was and honestly thought i was beautiful.. sooooo hump city!! ha ha sex is needed to feel wanted and sexy and needed so to speak. then i started working out and loving that i was a mommy
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