How do you get your three year old to start wiping his bum?

Kim - posted on 01/11/2009 ( 9 moms have responded )

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Ethan will not wipe his own bum. He will not tell you when he has to go to the bathroom, he just runs in has a poop and runs out without a wipe or a flush. Then he gets a red,itchy bum.

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Claire - posted on 01/12/2009

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hi,i hope this is helpful,i used kando moist toilet wipes.takes time dont rush him.



use stickers as a reward.you can try 1 or both. my girls still uses them even though they dont need to.good luck claire ; )

Kym - posted on 01/12/2009

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Don't know where you're located. I'm in Australia and the BEST product around is Wiggles Wipes. They are the flushable kind and come in a wiggles pop up tub. My kids love them. My son still uses then even though he no longer needs to

Lar - posted on 01/12/2009

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for my son and daughter instead of using a chart we used Bulletin Board accents (the stuff teachers use in grade school classrooms) large selection to choose from. My hubby and took our children with to The Learning Shop in Appleton,WI (when we were visiting fam) and let them pick out which accent , then they picked out a tablet of stickers to use for thier reward. My daughterchose flower accents and bug stickers. My son chose airplanes and funny face stickers. What you do: Choose one accent to use for the entire day and when our child did what he/she was supposed to (wipe his own bum) they chose the sticker to stick on the accent (every time). If they only did it partially or at least tried to, they would get half of a sticker. If they didn't even try or refused to do it they got no sticker and I got to put a check mark on their accent. Believe me they did not like it very well that me & my hubby were marking on something that was theirs. At the end of the day right before bed the accent would be hung on the wall and the next day it started all over again. it only took a few days & my kids were doing great on their own. I used this method with their potty training, because a chart with lines across it didn't seem to work for my kids. They liked filling the accent with stickers and then filling the wall up with the stickered out accents for g-pa's & g-ma's to see. they also liked getting to pick out something to do with just mom or dad when they got so many full stickered accents. Now that they are out of the potty training stage I use them for other things like naps, chores, good behavior in public, etc. Like the other parents I also suggest having your child stick with wipes & then use the toilet paper. My son is six and he still can not use just the t.p. not sure if he just like the feel of t.p. or if the wipes make him feel cleaner. Best Of Luck

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tell him he will get ouchies... or whatever you call booboo's, my daughter is the same way. I started chasing her in there and told her to let me know if she was going, then if i wiped i'd use regular tp which isnt as soft as the little kid wet wipes that are flushable... that might also help if you havent tried those wipes yet makes them feel special if they got their own toiletpaper

Cheryl - posted on 01/11/2009

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tell him that is makes his bum smell and that he needs to do it everytime- Ashton did that for a while and then when his underwear we dirty- and he saw it and had to wash it out byhimself- he started to wipe.

Kate - posted on 01/11/2009

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Kids don't like the feel of toilet paper on their bums!  We use wipes on them forever, then want them to use paper.  Try flushable wipes.  Maybe it will help.  Tell him that big boys wipe their own bums.  If that doesn't work...start telling him now that when he is 4 he has to do it himself.  Thats the rules!  That is the only way I could get mine to do it!  Good luck!

Annette - posted on 01/11/2009

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the only thing i have been able to do is follow my daughter in to make sure and if i go to the bath room and she that she went and didn't do the wipe flush and wash i call her back in to do it then even if was hours ago that she was in there just keep reminding him

Paulette - posted on 01/11/2009

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Hi Kim, Boys are harder to train usually. I would let him know he is a big brother and his brother will learn how to do it from him learning to do it. You could also use a chart and reward system. If he can see his progress he is more likely to wipe and flush. Like if he gets 10 stickers on his chart for wiping he gets.....xx. (Whatever you choose as an incentive.) And you can do this also for flushing the toilet too. They can be together on the chart sidebyside. You can use a digital camera....take a picture of the wipe container/wipe and a picture of the toilet handle.....then put them on the top of poster paper. Use a yard stick and draw the column lines and there you have it. Oh, yea...it is a good idea to have them help you pick out the sticks....then you'll know they like and want them. You may want to use 2 different stickers so he does not confuse the 2 goals that he is trying to reach. I hope this helps you. Take care.

Katie - posted on 01/11/2009

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If you figure this one out good luck. My son is 4 and still will not do this either. Share your secret when you know.

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