How do you know about a missed miscarriage?

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I guess I should just head into this, there's no better way. I have never had a miscarriage. I have a beautiful, healthy 15 month old daughter. Still, I'm terrified of having a miscarriage. I notice that, in movies and on TV, pregnant women always get the internal scan to confirm their pregnancy. I have never had one of those. Not that I want one, but how would you know you had a missed miscarriage? I've heard a lot of women say that the doctor told them at 7, 8, 9 weeks that the baby had not grown passed 5 weeks, but what gave it away? I don't want to be the one that goes in all excited for my 12 week scan to find out the baby never grew. I'm so sorry for mothers that have gone through that, but why are there some that find out earlier? Did you have key problems? Too much spotting? What was it that made them check?

I'm so sorry if this is offensive, it's just that I don't know if I could survive a miscarriage. The thought of it tears me up and I am so scared of having one. My mother has had a couple, and I know it isn't genetic, but... the fear is still there.

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Haley - posted on 10/29/2012

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I just went in for my twelve week appt and they did an ultra sound and found no heartbeat. I was completely blindsided. At seven weeks I saw a little baby with a strong heartbeat. They said the baby hadn't grown for a week. I had to have a D&C today and I'm not sure how to even express how it feels. There is nothing I wanted more than the unconditional love of a child.

Jerosha - posted on 10/20/2010

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I dont really know if I can be of asistance, I have had a number of early miscarrigages ie 7-9 weeks, I am very intune with my body to the point that I know when I ovulate and can feel my periods starting so I know within an hour of falling pregnant that I am without having a test to confirm it. When I fell with my daughter I was soo sick instantly (within 36hours) that I knew that it would be my luck that she was a keeper. Every other time I wasnt sick my period just didnt come and I would have the sore boobs and queasies .... When I lost them I would just get a really really heavy period and would go to the gino for a D&C after. I personally beleive that we all need to listen to our bodies more and trust your gut if you think there is something not quite right then have it checked If you have unusually pain in your groin, tummy, back or chest have them check, I did once have an internal ultrasound to confirm a miscrage because I was sure that something wasnt right but had not outward signs. Dont know if this helped. :-)

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Sharon - posted on 10/30/2012

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I had a miscarriage at 6 weeks. It started with some spotting and my dr sent me to hospital I missed the following morning. It was very hard for me to get over and even now 15 years later I still mark the day with a little prayed. I am now a mother to 3 happy healthy boys. During my second pregnancy I was worried up until he was born that something would go wrong all that did was send my BP through the roof. Try not to worry about it there is nothing you can do to prevent it and there is no way if knowing if it will ever happen to you. If/when you get pregnant again discuss it with your dr/obgyn and they will help you. Good luck and take care of yourself.

Haley - posted on 10/29/2012

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I just went in for my twelve week appt and they did an ultra sound and found no heartbeat. I was completely blindsided. At seven weeks I saw a little baby with a strong heartbeat. They said the baby hadn't grown for a week. I had to have a D&C today and I'm not sure how to even express how it feels. There is nothing I wanted more than the unconditional love of a child.

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I thought that an 8 week scan was normal, too, but my doctor only set me up with a 12 week scan and that was only with the OPTIONAL early testing. You know, the ones they do to test if the baby has any mental health problems and how likely that is. I don't care about the early testing, I care about the early ultrasound. I only got the optional one and the one at around 20 weeks when I was pregnant the first time. It just strikes me as odd and scary.

I'll try to relax, but it's so hard. I can't even imagine what I would be like if I had had one before.

Tyrae - posted on 10/20/2010

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I've never had a missed miscarriage, I have had two miscarriages though at 6 weeks and 7 weeks. Both I had the sore boobs and mild nausea, and I found out with both that I was pregnant by a HPT. I started bleeding with both like a heavy period and had extreme menstrual cramps. The first one the doctors said that since my cervix was closed I most likely wasn't having a miscarriage and to just take it easy. Well the next morning I woke up and the sore boobs were gone and so was the nausea. So I knew than and there that I had had a miscarriage. They confirmed with an ultrasound that the baby was no longer there. The second miscarriage the hospital told me when i went in because of the bleeding that I was no longer pregnant. Both were extremely difficult to deal with. I'm so happy I've pushed past it and am now 35 weeks pregnant! I think you would probably know from the lack of symptoms that something was wrong. Especially if you have them at first and than they end all of a sudden. Don't stress too much though, you'll know if something happens.

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Like Teresa, I didn't even know I was pregnant when I miscarried. I started bleeding very heavily out of the blue one day. I soaked 4 pads and 2 trauma pads within one hour. (My husband is a nurse and keeps odd things like trauma pads in the house.) My husband, concerned about blood loss more than anything, took me to the ER. I took a urinary pregnancy test and it confirmed I was pregnant. Later it was a confirmed miscarriage.



My sis-in-law had a bit of a different experience with her miscarriage. She found out at her 12 week appointment that her baby had stopped developing at 8 weeks. Because it was her third pregnancy, she knew how her body reacted to pregnancy, and she kept saying that she just didn't feel pregnant. There was no bleeding, but she knew because she read the signs her body was giving her.



Honey, don't stress yourself thinking you'll have one. Take care of yourself, and don't blame yourself if it does happen. And most importantly, reach out for help if it does happen. My husband didn't want to worry anyone with our miscarriage, but I had to talk about it. I told my mom and SIL, who had each been through one. It helped. Just to have someone who understands what you're going through helps.

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I had a miscarriage at 4.5 weeks. I didn't even know it until I had been bleeding (heavier than normal and off and on) for a week. Then I was advised to take a pregnancy test and it was instantly positive. Had blood tests to test the level of pregnancy hormone. First test was 900something. 2 days later it was 300 something....

Second miscarriage... I went in for an ultrasound for what was supposed to be 8 weeks and found out the baby had no heartbeat and had quit developing around 6 weeks.

I was SO thrilled when my first ultrasound w/ my son (3rd child, 5th pregnancy) showed a single baby w/ a strong heartbeat, but I was still very worried about losing him throughout the entire pregnancy.

My first pregnancy being twins and then my second one resulting in a very early miscarriage would be why I had early ultrasounds. I hear from many people that an ultrasound at 6-8 weeks is fairly normal for where they are though.

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