Rie - posted on 10/18/2012 ( 52 moms have responded )
i know ive been posting questions on here, but my divorce has been finalized in august this year and im new to the changes. i dont mind that my ex sees our daughter on his visitation, and i have no intention denieing it, but i am not going to lie...i get really annoyed with the fact that his mom and his sister are the ones that tells him what to do( for example, they were the one told him where i can and cant go), pretty much he is controlled by his family. i dont really trust neither one of them due to the fact that i have been lied to during the divorcing process(even though they were telling me that im still part of their family, they were telling me lies like whatever we talked stayed between us, which whatever i talked to them with trust pretty much leaked to him) and he has threatened that if i do move without his permission he will take me to court for modifying the agreement. i am having hard time dealing with the pressures from my ex's family...is there anyone out there that has gone through same thing, or still going through the same thing? i get along with some of his family, but i just feel like they are constantly trying to control my life. i work and i pay my bills and i have been providing everything my daughter needs, since my ex does not work and he has no income coming( he still hasnt paid for the child support) i dont want any trouble with anyone, i know some people say that its a matter between my ex and i, since we are the parents, but its kind of hard when his family are constantly telling him what to do. how does everyone deal with visitation plan after divorce??? i know its something we have to talk about, but he is hard to reach, and he doesnt really talk about it...and whenever he does talk, its not negotiation, its his demand(from his mom and his sister) and my facebook is being watched by his sister...how does everyone deal with agreeing for visitiation??? i know that some moms denies visitation from their kids dads, but like i said in the beginning i dont mind him seeing his daughter as long as hes really willing to and not because his family told him so. i dont want my daughter to be traumatized about our divorce becasue of me. but talking to my ex about how we do the visitation plan is like talking to a wall...he doesnt want to compromise, and he expects me to bring her back to him and take her back with me, when on divorce agreement it says we split the travel cost. if he wants to have his daughter, does that means i have to pay for everything, since he doesnt have money??? or if i didnt listen to him and i didnt send her in, and he gets mad and told me he would take it to court for violating the agreement, would that really affect me? i know that the visitation thing cant be just one way, it has to be something bothe of us agrees, but he just doesnt make it any easier on me.