How long does it take to recover?

Mary - posted on 06/01/2011 ( 81 moms have responded )

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i had my son 4 mths ago and he is my first and i am still recovering from giving birth. I am 26 i didn't tear at all i just got 2 phishers... and the labor from 1st contraction to conceiving was just 3 hours...is it normal to still have phishers and my joints always feel like really super hot and my hip is still feeling like it could pop out. I walk, jog and stretch...does anybody have any ideas ?

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Louise - posted on 06/01/2011

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You need to get the phishers seen to as this has gone on to long. They are incredibly painful and need attention. As for your hips it can take 12 months for them to get back to the same strength they were before. Go back to the doctors and asked to be referred about the phishers and then ask for a pelvic belt if you are uncomfortable when walking with your hips.

Louise - posted on 06/02/2011

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maybe you have an infection as you describe your joints as hot.I never tore with any of mine but found it very painful,only a few days though.I think somethings not right after 4 months to feel like this.I do think it takes longer with your 1st.I felt as though id been in an accident after my 1st.I have 6 now and 1 due in oct and my 2nd was so easy.I think you should see your doc again and demand he check you out.Good luck!!!

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Also could try one of those belts that helps pull everything back to your 'pre pregnancy size' I laughed, they sell them at Babies R Us and cost 50$ but if it helps your hips.. maybe?

~♥Little Miss - posted on 06/01/2011

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One last thing, your body had this alien in it for 40 weeks, then you have to push it out of your body stretching EVERYTHING. It takes a while to recover from such a long ordeal.

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Elizabeth - posted on 06/06/2011

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Ask to see a specialist. I have been complaining about my hips already with this pregnancy (my 3rd), and my doctor told me that it was normal during pregnancy, but not after your body started to heal. He said he would not elaborate about what would need to be done, because he didn't feel it was necessary at this stage for me. As for everything else, I know it takes a while for your body to fully heal, but this sounds like it's carrying on a bit. Just ask to see a specialist. Even seeing a Chiropractor like people have suggested might help. My husband was getting migraines, and with no avail, not even a specialist could figure it out. Only after the chiropractor discovered that my husband had degeneration of his neck and acquired scoliosis in his lower back, did anything finally start to fall into place. For him, the Neurologist was able to do a bit more, and release him to the chiropractor. Ever since then, his migraines have slowly gone away. Maybe it's just a different insight like that that could help you.
Good luck...

Candyce - posted on 06/06/2011

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Your joints "loosened" to make carrying and delivery the child easier, so it's going to take quite a while to get back to normal. I didn't completely recover for nearly two years, but I was working non-stop since my son was only a couple of weeks old. Just keep going to your doctor and let her/him know of any concerns you have.

Kelly - posted on 06/06/2011

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I agree that you should discuss with your doctor, I don't remember ever taking that long to recover and I have had three children. The only problem I have is my right hip, ever since I had my first child which was 10 years ago, I have had issues with it. It hasn't popped out of place in about 9 years, but I goes numb and burns whenever I walk...

Tiffiny - posted on 06/06/2011

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Reread your post and thought of a couple more things - one, everyone heals at their own pace, just as everyone's pregnancy and labor are different. Also, the heat you're experiencing may also be related to yeast which just goes crazy while you're pregnant. Another alternative method of treatment you might try is acupuncture which can really clean your system out, help manage pain and speed up recovery. Again, good luck!

Tiffiny - posted on 06/06/2011

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It was months before I felt normal again. Had hip issues too. Chiropractor can help. If you're open to alternative, try an energy massage like cranial sacral or reiki - that's what cured my hip issues - I had a lot of trauma during my birth held in my body. As far as phishers, might be yeast related. Cut back on sugars and breads and that will help you heal. One other thought - my midwife said it's 9 months in, 9 months out to get back to normal. So be patient and good luck!

Janet - posted on 06/06/2011

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Everyone's different. I would definatly talk with your doc. I had my youngest 11 years ago by C-Section and I am still numb in the lower abdomen.

Stephanie - posted on 06/06/2011

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Could you be trying to do to much? I mean I know we don't get enough sleep after baby is born and then trying to keep up with everything else. Ask your Dr. about certain exercises for those specific things, maybe that's all it'll take. Hope you feel better soon.

Kelly - posted on 06/06/2011

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When I delivered my first baby, I had phishers and ripped and a dramatic episiotomy. It took 2 months for the rip to heal and the phishers are still here, it took near 6 months for my hips to stop hurting and my joints have never been the same. I suggest you ask your dr to run some auto-immune tests on you, like arthritis or RA. That is what happened to my sister, but it took nearly a year for me to get all my feeling down below to come back. It has been different with my secong child easier, but all the same issues but my expeience was definitely better and my body has come back faster or just come back to where I was befor the 2nd baby. Everyone's body is different and pushing a football through your pinky is definitely difficult, give yourself time but follow up with a dr on testing for early auto immune disorders.

Rachel - posted on 06/06/2011

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My opinion is that the hips have nothing to do with the pregnancy but timing and that you may be suffering from auto immune or inflamation, which may or may not have been triggered by delivery. If you are not breast feeding you might consider massing some arnica and emu into your hips to see if that helps. Normal is different for everyone if something doesnt feel right it is isn't and any problems can be discussed with you family doctor.

Tracy - posted on 06/06/2011

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You need to go get yourself checked out hun, things that this may mean you have not healed or need some help to heal

Desiree - posted on 06/06/2011

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If you have talked with your doctor about it already and they do not seem concerned, I would continue to stretch and walk regularly and wait it out. If you honestly think something is wrong, then perhaps seek another opinion. Our bodies go through tremendous trauma during birthing and there are many things that can take years to go back to 'normal'. I have chronic pain in my right hip since my first child nearly 4 years ago. It gets better with time, but worsens again with pregnancy. I am about 5 mos pregnant with my third now and each pregnancy has been very different. I also get a strange tingling in my shoulder blades with pregnancy, and its really intense while nursing... doctors cannot really explain it, but the female body does odd things with child-baring sometimes. Trust your instinct about your own body, if you feel like something is wrong, then it does not hurt to get a second professional opinion, but remember, the body does not fully recuperate from childbirth for 7 years. I hope this was helpful :)

Denise - posted on 06/05/2011

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Have you talked to your Ob-Gyn about this? I had my baby by emergency c-sec but wasn't released from my doc for almost 7 weeks, and I am still also having the feeling like there is a boulder in the bottom of my tummy and it's been 3yrs already but nothing major...maybe you might want to talk to your ob-gyn about this feeling that you are having...

Mary - posted on 06/05/2011

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Christina- Yes definitely worse than giving labor to my son even though giving labor (I thought at the time) was the worst pain...ya I need to go to a dr. and have them looked at again. I was told to eat tons of fiber and drink tons of water, I have been doing that for 4 months so I think it's time to see the Doc. again! Thank you everyone for the advice!

Christina - posted on 06/05/2011

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Mary, my mom had anal fissures after having me. She said the pain from them was worse than being in labor! Eventually she had to have surgery to repair them. It really helped her. You may want to have a colonoscopy done to see if there are worse tears inside you than what the doctors are seeing. Hope this helps!

Natalie - posted on 06/05/2011

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go to a chiropractor to get an assessment as to the condition of your hip and other joints. Since giving birth is a whole body exercise its not uncommon for a mother like yourself to take some extra time to get back to normal.

Katy - posted on 06/05/2011

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I felt like to took longer to recover after my second, but I had a lot of bleeding afer her too. I would get a second opinion about this. I called my doctor lots during after my second one. She will be 10 months soon and I feel back to normal. I also had hip problems after my second, but they didn't last 4 months. Maybe only a couple of weeks. I was pushing for a long time with her.

Jane - posted on 06/05/2011

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My sister had something similar with her back. It is not normal, she had a hairline fracture! Go to the doctor!

Sriwanti - posted on 06/05/2011

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Ha! I thought i was the only one to experience this and i'd always kept it silence.. my son is 25months old now, I had that kind of 'paper cut pain' only when having sex probs up to 8months i could still feel it... but i was fine when doing other activities after a month of giving birth. :)

Jen - posted on 06/05/2011

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LOL my midwife actually calls fissures "skid marks" they are more like a deep stretch mark down below where things didn't completely tear but almost did. They take a while to heal. The heat in the joints, and pain in the hip joints is more worrysome to me more than the rest. The hormones released during labor loosten up ligaments and tussues so that delivery can happen, and it is possible you have done some damage to there somehow. I am not a doctor but you really should get an obgyn or such to check that out for you.

Mary - posted on 06/04/2011

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fissures are like paper cuts "down there" you get from giving birth...So it is where you would have tore...kinda gross to talk about but people are wondering what they are...haha i don't know why I spelled it with a "ph"

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Do you mean FISSURE? I wasn't sure what phishers were. But like some of the other mums have said a good specialist as opposed to a regular GP might have better answers. Good luck.

Tiffany - posted on 06/04/2011

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I agree with the other ladies something doesn't sound right I had a c-section with my last pregnancy and he is 3 months now and I am completly recovered...I I know with my first it took a little longer to recover but definitly not that long I would speak to my doctor if I were you, my other suggestion would be to continue to move around as much as you can...I found with the c-section that if I didn't move around a lot I was more stiff and it was harder and more painful to get around....Also I heard somewhere that it can take up to either 3 or 5 years for your body to go back to normal after having a baby so I think that you need to give yourself more time...do as much as you can without over-exerting yourself and good luck keep us updated as to how you are feeling...

Delinah - posted on 06/04/2011

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In all honesty, I'm not sure if we ever recover :) However, one thing that helped me was going to the chiropractor. Now, I'm not sure what a phisher is, but if they are still bothering you; I would absolutely go back in and get checked. Take the time you need for you and enjoy your baby. They grow super quick! Take care!

Revel - posted on 06/04/2011

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During your pregnancy the body produces relaxin hormone, which opens everything. It takes about 6 months to leave your body after delivery. During that time, you are more susceptible to overstretching injuries. Take a little easy on the workouts right now. Check out fit for 2 website, they have guidelines for postpartum fitness.

I'm sorry you are in discomfort. I will send healing thoughts your way.

Samantha - posted on 06/04/2011

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Hi, I was 26 when I had my son (19 now) and I remember that it took quite a while for things to settle down. Try swimming to help strengthen your body and also de-stress. After a while you'll find it will be better, if you are worried then speak to your health adviser/doctor. Well done so far!

Mishelle - posted on 06/04/2011

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i had a cesarean, couldn't get off the bed for like 8 months alone and couldn't walk proper for 2 years :/

Mary - posted on 06/03/2011

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Thank you everyone for the helpful advice:-) It all makes perfectly good sense to me to find a better Dr. and healing will take longer for some woman, thanks again!

Heather - posted on 06/03/2011

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Even though you can feel decent in 4-6 weeks, your body can still have longer term issues. I had pain during sex for at least a year, but then it went away. Sometimes I still feel like I could pee my pants!

As for your joints, they're probably still recovering from pregnancy and childbirth. They sound inflamed. Maybe you could take some supplements to help with this . . . do some reading on Omega 3 fatty acids, proteolytic enzymes, hyaluronic acid, etc. These all help with inflammation. Also, I see a chiropractor every few weeks.

Lil - posted on 06/03/2011

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First thing get to the doctor tell him he will know what to do . do not leave it to get worse
Now that is a new word for me phishers I have not a clue what that is
Maybe i am to old to learn new words Not having a baby for nearly 40years
Please don't let things slides you owe it to your baby to keep healthy
Lil

Alexandra - posted on 06/03/2011

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i would go to the doctor soon. i dont think you should take this long to be ok again.

Karen - posted on 06/03/2011

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they say it can take up to a whole yr. for you to heal. I would see your doctor though just in case.

Stifler's - posted on 06/03/2011

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Physio? Or a chiropractor. I went to a chiropractor after having my first.

Jeanette - posted on 06/03/2011

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I don't know about the phishers. I guess the GYN would repair that and tell you if they will be a problem in the future. It took me a year before I felt like I did before the pregnancy! Childbirth is a life changing experience in many ways! I suggest finding a really good GYN if your doctor is not taking care of the phishers. Young women in other countries have problems with them and can't have a vaginal birth afterward. I believe it is a tear between the vagina and the rectum. When I had my children, they cut me open there to make room for the baby and stitched it back (episiotomy). I do know it needs to be taken care of ASAP by a good MD.

Patricia - posted on 06/03/2011

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Have you talked to your doctor? He has encountered every kind of problems women have experienced after labor and then some and I am sure he can guide you to understand why you are having discomfort.

Anne Marie - posted on 06/03/2011

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if your doctor isn't giving you satisfactory responses, either get another doctor or see a chiropractor.

Krystle - posted on 06/03/2011

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Most people don't know that it actually takes your body a full year to recover from pregnancy and child-birth. I'm assuming your hips are just taking more time than usual to go back.

Sai - posted on 06/03/2011

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Fissures for 4 months is something to have checked out because if they are open, it can lead to infection. Talk to your doc ASAP. This should have been taken care of at your 6 week appt.

Janel - posted on 06/03/2011

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Recover...my oldest is 28 yrs... soon. :-) It was 3 months before I felt 'rested.' It was 6 months before I was even interested in sex. I nursed for 18 monts, I would say close to a year, before I felt normal. Then after I stopped nursing (2 monts). I was fine. However, I did go to a chiropractor - that really helped. (and helped my son). Your hips move, and mine stayed a bit wider than I was (never again an 8). My feet got bigger by a half size. Permanent changes. I'm assuming they are permanent - it's been a while. Make sure you are still resting.

Elizabeth - posted on 06/03/2011

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Get a second opinion. You might like your doctor but if his answer is not helping you need to try a different doctor. Don't ask him to recommend one find one you self. My niece was really messed up by doctors that kept acting they knew what they were talking about but didn't. She finally went to another doctor, but by then it was too late. She was told she would never have a child. And it was because the doctors she trusted didn't do what was best for her and just told her they didn't know what was wrong and helped her find a doctor that did. By the grace of God she did have a child. But after she got sick again and was told she had to make a decision. She either had another child now or never. She needed a hysterectomy. She got pregnant before she had time to make a decision. (I guess God made it for her.) She is due in November. What I'm trying to say is don't wait. If you are not comfortable with what you doctor said, go to another doctor. If that one doesn't help go to another one. Keep going till you get an answer. My other niece has a heart condition. Her first doctor couldn't figure out what was going on. Her blood pressure was all over the place, she didn't feel good, no energy. She passed out and stopped breathing when they were taking blood for some test! One heart doctor just gave up and kept juggling different meds. like he was hoping he would guess what would work. She finally found a heart doctor that refused to give up. He found the hole inside her heart. The wall in the middle of her heart and a hole about the size of a quarter letting the oxygenated blood get mixed with the unoxygenated blood. If he hadn't of found that and fixed it I'm not sure my niece would be here today. Please get another opinion.

Vicky - posted on 06/03/2011

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Hi I go to a bone setter here in England they are totally fantastic I had 3 slipped discs on one visit and he put them all back in one visit and I was fully recovered the next day. When I had my son it took me 18 months to recover I managed to get reactive arthritis straight after birth were I ended up screaming every time I moved. I was even unable to have both my children with me for 3 weeks while they got me sorted out in hospital. I can no longer have children because I was very ill with both births and now I am starting the change. All said I would definately check with dr, health visitor and anyone that you can see medical for a check up and rest or very light excerise don't run or stretch as this could be irritating it more. Good luck hope it gets better soon I know how hard it is with a small child and extreme pain. bless you.

Yisselle - posted on 06/03/2011

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I had the same problem with my hips, specially the left one. It began like 2 months before giving birth. I look for info and I read it may take up to a year for the ligaments to get back to normal. In my experience its been two years and my hip still hurts and feel loose. My doctor told me to do exercise in order to strengthen the muscles and ligaments.

Cynthia - posted on 06/03/2011

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I had problems after my last child #5 he was my longest child at 22 inches though not my heaviest at 8lb 2 oz he didn't drop until late in the labour and then decided to do a spiral roll taking a perfectly normal face down labour into a perfect back labour and while the total length of the labour was comparable to most of my other labours the hard part from when he dropped to delivery was less than four hours, the doc yanked on him before he had completely rotated after crowning because of poop in the fluids and he had to be aspirated very quickly after he was born, I didn't get him back for about half an hour! In fact I was completely abandoned in my room as I sent my husband out after them to make sure our youngest was going to be okay. On top of the internal battering, my son cracked my tail bone when he did his spiral roll after he dropped. It took months to recover from that birth and I ended up seeing a alternative therapist to pop the tail bone back in to place about two years later! If I remember what kind I'll let you know! I saw my chiroprator a few weeks later. to get my spine and hips back into shape but I had problems with my hips melting since the birth of my fourth child a son 8lbs 6 ozs. Boys have bigger heads than girls which accounts for the hip problems. I would go and see a physio therapist with experience with maternity patients. If your in Canada you don't need a doctors referral and can visit either one in private practise or one in your local hospital the government covers several visits, but after the minimum number your insurance coverage may cover more visits. Make sure you are taking post natal vitamin supplement. and DON'T do ANY high impact excercises until you have consulted with a physio therapist! If you need to lose wait, take a walk before breakfast and before 8:30 in the morning, pack your baby in a pack or push chair(helpful when those hips give way) this helps boost metabolism, and helps promote those grehlin(I think is grehlin)and controls leptin which makes you want to eat. In this way if you walk even three days a week you should be able to drop a pound a week. Once you get down to a comfortable weight you can think about bringing in excercises which strengthen ligaments, and then move on to excercises with higher impact depending on what your physical therapist suggests.
I also like the suggestion by some one else that you ask your family doctor to run some tests for arthritis because of your super hot joints, that is NOT a normal by product of delivery or pregnancy and should be checked out. Be assertive with the doctor on this arthritis can permanently damage joints if not looked after properly.
If you don't live in Canada make sure to ask the doctor for a physio therapist referral (physical therapist) as well ASAP! Good luck!

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I'm 43 and my youngest is just over 2y. I am just now beginning to feel "normal" again. I went to a chiropractor, my internist, and physical therapy. I don't know if any of it helped or if time was the solution. The older you get the harder it is to heal, but you're still young. If your doctor isn't giving you any help, find another. Hope you get some relief soon.

Kelly - posted on 06/03/2011

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Def talk to your doctor, wen i was pregnant, one side of my pelvis dropped, i had to do some light pyhsio, but nothing helped til i gave birth, took about 3 months for me to feel better, but honestly u should see your doc, sometime could be wrong, better to see whats up than leave it =)

Kasie - posted on 06/03/2011

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I was still sort of recovering at that point too, my little guy is my first of hopefully more to come and I was induced but I only had under 2 hours of pushing to get him out. I maybe tore just a teeny bit but even months after I would get this feeling in my pelvis if I stood a certain way or stood too long while holding my lo. I didn't have it as bad as you though, all I can say is, rest. Don't work your body too hard right now, it still needs to recover and you don't want to over do it or it'll make it worse. Good luck!

Mimi - posted on 06/03/2011

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It takes about a year in a half for many women to recover from the trauma of birthing~ I would suggest Arnica Montana to help in the healing process, you can buy it at your local health food store~ I used it while I was nursing as well. Blessings

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