how many of you chose to bottle feed instead of breastfeed, and why?

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Carianne - posted on 08/02/2009

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Don't you think it's funny how the trends change? When I was born (25 years ago) formula feeding was the popular way to go. Now it's BF that has the limelight. :) What's popular and "better" changes all the time! And believe me someone will always have an opinion on what you should do with YOUR baby! (It doesn't stop with BF vs formula. ex. when to start solids, tummy time, milestones.... someone will always know EXACTLY what you SHOULD be doing). Just ignore those people! By the time you give birth you will have earned the right to make every decision for your child till he/she turns 18! That being said, I was not planning on BF my kids... I was going to try it, thinking that I wouldn't like it. However, it did/does work for us. And it saved me a ton of money. Good luck with whatever you decide!

Rhianna - posted on 08/02/2009

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I had to bottle feed. My daughter just wouldn't latch. I tried and tried for about two months, but I was always supplementing with formula because she wasn't eating, and eventually, we just gave up. I really wanted to breast feed. If I had it to do over again, I would have attended the lactation classes my doctors offices and wic offered.

User - posted on 08/02/2009

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I chose to breast feed my son, although occasionally giving him a bottle either when we were out and it was difficult or when he was with family. He's now 8 monhs old and still breast feeds. I would answer any womans questions with honesty about breast feeding but I would never suggest or try to push breast feeding onto any woman. It is totally your decision. Some mothers are sure they are going to bottle feed from the start and don't even consider breast and others the other way round. It's your baby and your body so you do what you want to and what feels right and whatever you choose it's the right decision.

Marie - posted on 08/02/2009

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There is also a Circle of Breastfeeding Moms. Why not browse through some of their posts?

Erin - posted on 08/02/2009

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I tried to breastfeed my son after my c-section but he never got the hang of it. He was born at 12:34pm and at about 8 pm he was so hungry that I gave in and gave him a bottle, after I had been trying and trying all day long, it was breaking my heart I wanted to breastfeed him bad.

so when we got home I would try before I would pump and he still never took to it, so I pumped for about a month then my breasts got really sore so I stopped. formula fed babies are just as healthy as breastfed. my son is 22 months old, he weighs 34 pounds and is in the 100+% percentile for his height ( people mistake him for a 3 year old!!!) so he is very healthy and he's been bottlefed since he was a day old.

I was reading your post that you wrote at 4:28am yesterday, don't let people tell you what to do, it's your body and baby, tell them to @#!& off!!!!LOL. good luck to you:)))

Tracy - posted on 08/02/2009

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Hi Hillary. I agree that it is a personal decision and I chose not to. When my son was born he was in the NICU for the first two weeks of his life, so that made it pretty difficult. (all good now). But even when I was pregant I talked it over with my Dr for I was never keen on the idea from the get to. He was great and also supported my choice in using formula and that he would still get the nutrients that was needed. He is 3 now, healthy, smarts and full of questions!!! They do push the breast feeding once the baby is born, stand by your choice. I told them straight out that I was not and didn't even want to try....it's amazing how much stronger you will be with all the hormones going crazy...LOL.

Stefani - posted on 08/02/2009

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I chose to bottle feed because the thought of breastfeeding grossed me out im aware its a very good thing for the baby and everything . But i figured its easier when im in public , my boyfriend can feed her anytime , people can take her for the night and i dont have to worry about her having enough bottles , to me the decision was easy .

Sharon - posted on 08/02/2009

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LOL we have the same nickname for the over-the-top-breatfeeders. Nazis.



I wound up bottle feeding. I used expressed breastmilk and formula.



I think that breastfeeding is great but it doesn't come easily to everyone. And if it takes that much work and pain why go through it? I belong to another mommy board. We all had babies born in 2002. Most tried to breastfeed & gave up when the going got tough. I never even really tried. I let two of the nazis visit me and belittle me and manhandle my breasts as if they were changing tires or trying to get the lid of a stuck jar. Before I came to my senses.



If you don't want to breastfeed - then don't. I think you should give it a try though - it may not be as hard for you as it is for your SIL.

Nicola - posted on 08/02/2009

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Hi Hilary, I chose boobie, for the first because of pressure and because he was colicky and for the second because I had finally got the hang of it and loved the closeness, but I made sure both boys would take a bottle so that I could get away sometimes. I think the biggest mistake anyone can make is trying to tell another mother what her choice should be, she can try any combination with any of her children and she will know what her baby likes or not.(2cents)

Tammy - posted on 08/02/2009

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I am the same, i never wanted to breast feed i knew it wasnt for me and after seeing what my friends and their babies went thro with brestfeeding just made my mind up even more. Thankfully my husband was very supportive and wanted to be just as much involved with the feeding of our baby as i was, that way it wasnt all down to me to make sure i had expressed enough etc. I also have never looked back and he will be one next month. He is a very contented and happy baby. Please just do what you feel is right for you, the milk these days is way better than it ever was with all added vitamins and minerals. I think if you know that breastfeeding is not for you but you feel pressured into doing it and then find it hard, you wont enjoy the first precious months of your babies life and that would be very sad and a huge burden on you. Good luck and congratulations xx

Amy - posted on 08/02/2009

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I felt the same way just wasn't comfortable with breastfeeding my daughter and she is now three and is in perfect health I have no regrets with bottle feeding her. The hospital didn't really push me to breastfeed so I say it's completely up to you and don't worry about other mothers its your choice.

Barbara - posted on 08/02/2009

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Hillary, I think that this is really a personal choice. When you deliver the nurses and your doctor will recommend nursing and say that is the best for your baby at least for the first few months due to helping your babies immune system. I think you need to way the pro's and con's of breast feeding versus bottle feeding and decide what is best for you and your child. I did nurse my first two children as long as I could; which was not very long due to hormones and a few other things going on. With my third child I did not breast feed. It was easier to do the bottle while I was running around after my other two. I think if you make sure you are cuddling and talking to your child and holding them close as if you were breast feeding the bond is still formed there. But they do say nothing is better than mother's milk, unless there are complications or the child not getting enough from mom.



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I didn't really have a choice when it came to breastfeeding or bottle feeding. During my pregnancy I asked my endocrinologist if I would be able to breast feed and he said he wouldn't recommend it but I could. I have a thyriod condition that could have affected her in the beginning stages of her development so we went straight to bottle feeding. When asked why I did it since I was told I could breast feed from one of the nurses I basically said: "for my own piece of mind and my daughter's health I'd rather not take the chance of affecting her development with my own health problems so she's getting the best start I can give her without worries."

Mel - posted on 08/02/2009

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i most definately agree with you Jodi and think it is a mother choice i have a friend who chose before the baby was born to bottle feed. im not too sure if i will try it with second i know i will be formula feeding but i was thinking of maybe offering it once a day to see how it goes i am guessing it will not go well though. im wondering what the mid wives are going to say when i formula feed my kids from birth though i have heard how they refuse to help and ignore formula feeding mother and lecture them

Jodi - posted on 08/02/2009

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Stina, I don't think all the mothers who tried breastfeeding were pressuring her to try at all!! Most did agree it is a choice Hillary, and Hillary alone, should make. Sure, a few people suggested she should give it a go. I think you have taken it totally the wrong way. Breastfeeding is not for everyone, and it is absolutely the mother's right to choose!! Is there a single person here who disagrees that it is the mother's right to choose?

User - posted on 08/02/2009

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Hi Hillary. Deciding to breast or bottle feed is a very personal choice. My first child was breastfed for 7 months and then switched to formula. I went back to work after I had him and slowly started producing less milk even though I would pump at work. my son also started to prefer the bottle because it would come out faster. With my second child i didn't go back to work so she was entirly breastfed. For me it would have been torture to have to get up several times during the night to make a bottle. I got more sleep breastfeeding because I could do it while laying down in bed. But as pro-breastfeeding as I am, I don't think anyone should feel they have to try it if they don't want to. It's demanding in the beginning and requires a big commitment. It can be overwhelming being the only one who can feed your child. But it's also such a wonderful, special feeling knowing you're the only who can feed your child. I don't think theres anything in the world I loved more than nursing my newborn. Good luck!

Katie - posted on 08/02/2009

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Hey Hillary

I bottle fed my son, was uncomfortable with the idea of breast feeding. My mum bottle fed us and we were all ok. And i knew he was getting the right amount of milk. I know what you mean, i had alot of people throw their opinions at me, "you should be breast feeding", even my mid wife jumped on the wagon. Like i explained to her, it was my choice. I respect people who breast feed, it just wasnt for me. Dont feel bad no matter what choice you make, its your body and your baby, end of story. Good luck

Lisa - posted on 08/01/2009

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I breastfed 3 of my 4 children. I found breastfeeding much easier than bottles. Don't need to clean bottles, worry about carrying formula around, etc. I breastfed my oldest for 6 months;and the 3rd and 4th for 2 years. It was so much easier when traveling, especially going on vacations. It also helped with weight loss for about the first 6-9 months - a great benefit for any extra pregnancy pounds. Nursing in public was only uncomfortable for a short while - the baby and mom get so good at it that people don't even notice even without a blanket covering - just wear shirts you can pull up versus button up. Now they even have great breast pumps - Medela is the best one - worth every cent. So if one isn't real comfortable breast feeding but wants to give baby the breastmilk benefits - pumping is another option. I used one with my last when I went back to work. Babysitter loved having a breastfed baby - less spitting up and minimal stink on the diapers! :0)

Nicole - posted on 08/01/2009

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I tried breastfeeding my baby the day she was born. it hurt to much and she wasnt latching on right so i gave up and she was a bottlefed baby since she was born. it is your choice and the doctors will ask you 50 million times if you want to breastfeed just go with what u feel comfortable doing. hope everything is goin well!

Vickie - posted on 08/01/2009

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I felt the same way as you do I chose to bottle feed from the beginning because I just wasn't comfortable with breastfeeding.After I had my son and I saw how much the lady in the next was going through to breastfeed I was very happy with my decision And he is a happy healthy almost 17 month old. It is a personal choice and you have to do what feels right for you.

Laura - posted on 08/01/2009

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Hi Hilary!! I did both breastfed and bottle fed. My daughter, who was born first, was harder to breast feed than my son. I really enjoyed breast feeding, but when I went back to work, due to my job it was impossible to keep it up. I liked Avent products though.

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My son was a 9 week preemie so I had to pump mild and freeze the extra. I dried up but had an extra month of frozen goods. I dried up because the electric pump was a torture device and I was giving him pumped milk in a bottle. Switched him over to formula after that. I think that the natural immunity available only in the breast milk is important in the first few months and then switch, but the hospitals pushed formula at the time sending home a case with us.

User - posted on 08/01/2009

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By the way, you appear to be a woman who takes care of herself. You WILL be doing tons for your child by setting the example of not overeating, eating healthy foods and helping them make good food choices as they grow older. I would be much more concerned about what you eat in front of your kids and what kind of example you set with exercise than whether you breast feed or not. So often we focus on breastfeeding and then forget the long term.

User - posted on 08/01/2009

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I was pretty sure that I wasn't going to breastfeed at first. I did end up trying it though and it was a little difficult. I will say the Medela double breast pump I got was rather efficient so a lot of times I cheated and pumped and put the bottles in the fridge and then my mom and husband could feed the baby. It was a lot faster I thought to pump and your insurance might actually cover the cost of one. It made for some good middle ground. Of course if you don't want to breast feed, don't. Be prepared to be judged but truthfully once you become a mom, you'll have plenty of mom police judging you anyway so you might as well get used to be comfortable following your husband's and your wishes despite what other people think.

Amber - posted on 08/01/2009

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Its ok to do whatever it is that makes you happy. I tried to do the breastfeeding but was unable to and my son is fine on formula. The choice is yours to make no can make you do anything you dont want to do. If you feel uncomfortable with breast feeding then don't. Plus the good thing about formula is that during the night your husband can get up and feed the baby while you sleep a little longer. Good luck with whatever you decide to do

Ashley - posted on 08/01/2009

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i have 2 sons...one is 14 months and the other is 4 weeks. for both babies i formula fed right from their first feedings. i didnt feel comfortable with breastfeeding and didnt even want to try it. i'm not sure about where you live but where i am (ottawa canada) when i told them i was bottlefeeding at the hospital they never gave me a hard time with it. they gave me the bottle and that was it. ya breast may be best but for me it's not. i know i wouldnt be happy breastfeeding and if i'm not happy then my babies arent happy. ya it may be a bit more of a pain in the ass. steralizing bottles, mixing up formula, heating up bottles but to me i enjoy making bottles plus everyone also enjoys feeding him just as much as i do!..:)

Stina - posted on 08/01/2009

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Reading through these, I am reminded of the feelings of selfconsciousness I felt when I finally got to nurse my son. (sick baby went from tube to bottle so we could bring him home ASAP and then we taught him how to nurse) As much as I was determined to nurse, I remember feeling a little strange at first as I put him to my breast b/c they HAD always been these sexual things in the past. I got over it though as they became multipurposed pretty quickly lol.



it actually makes me pretty angry when BFing moms attack bottle feeding moms... simply because a lot of them did try to BF and it didn't work out- that's what I see over and over again on this post. And the mom's who don't want to at all? It's their choice. Sure it would be nice if they might try it, but it's really nobody's buisness to pressure them to try. I remember at one point there was talk of putting a 'warning' on formula labels telling parents who bought the formula that BFing was better for their baby. Can you imagine? That would be awful. Everytime you go to get your kid legitimate food for his sustenance, to have printed on the canister something saying you've made a poor choice. I'm glad it hasn't happened yet.



It's funny how in my area, when you go in for your prenatal exams, they send you home with a diaper bag of magazines and literature and a free sample of formula. Of course- it's provided by the company that makes the formula... But with all the pressure to BF, it strikes me as ironic that they doctor then sends us home with a sample of formula. I always keep it just in case we should need it during that first year. And yes- two of my 3 have recieved bottles. Some even with formula if we didn't have milk in the freezer... #3 has been boycotting bottles for a few months lol.



Best of luck to you.

Sarah-Anne - posted on 08/01/2009

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while i was prego, i decided instead of breastfeeding my daughter i chose to bottle feed her pumped breast milk. It took almost four weeks for my milk to come in enough to sustain her, so she had formula also. I tried nursing a couple times (to make my very controlling mother and the old-fasioned nurse happy) but my daughter seemed to be freaked out by the boob. she had trouble staying latched on and would get sprayed in the face. the bottle was much easier and neater. I also wanted my husband to be able to help with feedings. It should be your decision, what will work best for your family, don't let moms or nurses tell you that you won't bond with your child if you bottle feed. being prego for 41.5 weeks was plenty bonding for me.

Toni - posted on 08/01/2009

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I think it's a decision which should be made once you're in hospital and the baby has been handed to you. Think about it, if you'd like to give it a try. If you don't like it or find it too hard you never need do it again. But if you think it might be for you, you do have the experts on hand to help you. Like someone else said earlier. Don't close your mind off to something which you might change your mind about later, when it's too late. you don't want to have any regrets. Just be open minded for now and try not to imagine or visualise the act of breastfeeding. Because your thoughts and feelings can change once your in labour and once the baby has arrived. Many mothers will tell you that once that baby is placed in your arms you will feel completely different about many decisions that you thought you had your mind set on.

I did breastfeed. I always planned on breastfeeding. There are allergies in my family ranging from Asthma, Eczema and hayfever and I knew that BF my baby was giving her the best defence to these allergies, she's 7 now and so far so good. I found it hard in the beginning. She wanted to eat constantly. I swear I hardly slept for the first 3 weeks, but it was explained to me that this is how baby stimulates our bodies into making more milk to satisfy it's needs. Once I knew that I knew I could persevere. It was uncomfortable for the first few seconds for the first few weeks, but after that it was so calming and relaxing. I would give anything to experience that feeling again. So again I would just say keep an open mind until the baby arrives. Don't make any decisions and don't try to envision the act of breastfeeding. Because trust me, it's nothing like what you expect....once you've got it right after the first few weeks. If you can get through the first few weeks, the rest is plain sailing.

Emma - posted on 08/01/2009

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I choice to bottle feed b/c I didn't like the idea of breatfeeding it public. Also b/c my daughter was early my milk hadn't even started coming out until I got her home a week later lol but with the one I'm carrying now I'm thinking of expressing my own milk b/c it is healthy for me and cheaper but I will probably change my mind once the due date is nearer.

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My sister used formula with both of her boys from the moment they were born. She personally never had any maternal urge or desire to nurse or pump. She said that it was a feeling she was very uncomfortable with and was not going to be bullied into forcing a baby at her breast. My nephews are healthy kids. I nursed and supplemented with formula. My son is healthy. To be honest, I didn't like the feeling of him nursing on my breast and sucking at my nipples for the first few weeks. To me, it wasn't that natural feeling that many women do feel from nursing. But I stuck through it and had support from my husband. As a mom-to-be, just do research and educate yourself on the options out there. All the best to you!

Cassi - posted on 08/01/2009

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ahhh... the breastfeeding in public controversy. we just actually had an issue with it in our small town. i know not everyone here is from the states, but i saw a thing on tv about how other countries don't have this controversy. too many people in the states view breasts as a sexual part of the body and not a source of nutrition for babies. i understand the sexual part, but that's not all they are. i don't worry about offending people. there is no law in any state that says you cannot breastfeed your child in public, some states have it set that private business owners can ask you to leave while you do it. i breastfeed anywhere if my child is hungry, i just always make sure i have a blanket to cover up. i've never had anyone say anything to me, and actually my husbands family was just like, just do it wherever because i usually went to a back room away from everyone. my mom owns a flea market and i do it behind the counter covered up. i've had many older women let me know that they are impressed and that they think what i'm doing is a wonderful thing. some people seem a little embarassed if they say something and i'm like "no he's eating".



Just like I don't judge people who choose to bottle feed because it is a personal choice, I'd like to not be judged because I chose to breastfeed. When my baby is hungry he's hungry!

Jerica - posted on 08/01/2009

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i'm not sure anyone said that it makes up for the antibodies but most that do bottle fed agree that if formula was so bad that wouldn't have it readily avaible..you just can't force anything on anybody whose made up their mind and those with strong opinons .. breast milk might be best but other options are avaible and you have to choose whats best for you and your baby.. and makes you comfortable!

Heather - posted on 08/01/2009

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With my fist I tried to breast feed but my milk was slow to come in and he had Jaundice so he needed fluids right then. After all that and with the stress of a first child my milk never came in despite my efforts. As for my daughter I was breastfeeding at first but with another child needing me breastfeeding was just too time consuming, also she got really gassy on breast milk so I switched to formula. Formula feeding really helped free me up and allowed their father to take some nights and allowed me to have more free time with my other child and even clean the house lol. I also found it less awkward to go places w/ my baby considering the whole breast feeding in public controversy (too many prudish people to worry about offending ) All in all I think breast is always worth a try and Formula is just a grocery store away. My kids turned out just fine on Formula my son is very smart and even rides his bike w/o training wheels at 3 so in the end do what fits with your life best!

Cassi - posted on 08/01/2009

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I'm not sure why I made the choice to breastfeed, but I feel like for me it was the best choice. With my first I only got to for 2 months and it was terribly hard on me to switch to formula. With working it just wasn't going to work out for me. I now have a 7 month old that I have breastfed thus far, but my milk supply has dramatically decreased and he's now switching to formula. For me I was very comfortable with breastfeeding anywhere, because I feel like it is very natural. But I do realize that it isn't for everyone and not everyone is comfortable with it, and I do not judge anyone who chooses to bottle feed their child.



It really sounds as though you have made up your mind to bottle feed and it's great that you know what you want to do. I am curious as to what kinds of things your sister in law is going through that has made you decide you don't want to. I know that after the first couple days with my 7 month old I almost wanted to switch because he was sucking so hard and my milk hadn't come in I got blisters. But when you know what you want then thats what you do. I didn't want to regret my decision again so I continued and after a couple weeks the soreness went away and it's been an amazing experience.

Nobody can force you to even try to breastfeed. I have never heard of the lactation consultants trying to force it and being so rude. I guess some of them have stronger beliefs than my lactation consultant did. LOL! With my first they did show me a few ways to hold my baby and let me choose how I felt most comfortable. With my second she came in and I was nursing my son and she just said he looked good. So I guess for me everything was pretty pleasant!



Also breastmilk is a great natural healer. It can be used for goopy eyes, in ears, and noses and for minor cuts and burns. I didn't know how many people knew this already, but I used it for the goopy eyes and it works great, and have used it a few times on my sons skinned knees and it soothes the burning pain.



With all that said, it is a personal choice and don't do anything you don't want to. Good luck.

Marie - posted on 08/01/2009

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My husband and I agreed that Breast is Best, so I started my first on the breast, but I was really stressed out and my milk never really came in. He was hosptalized at 2 weeks, for 10 days, for dehydration and to recover from an allergy to cow's milk, which I was drinking. He drank soy based formula, and then soy milk with calcium and mineral supplements until he was no longer sensitive, around 5.


With my 2nd child, my milk didn't come in until he was 10 days old; I would breastfeed him first, then supplement with a bottle afterward. I had avoided all milk products during pregnancy and while nursing, opting for the same Ca supplements my firstborn was still taking to avoid triggering any sensitivity. Around 6 weeks, we finally figured out the latch thing, and he nursed until I went back to work a year later. He went straight to a cup and wouldn't drink pumped milk at all (ouch!). He kept his night time 'nums' until he turned 3.


The lactation consultants at the hospital and home visits didn't help as much as the local La Leche League did. My group was OK with the bottle for my first, and helped me get the latch for my second. They also gave great advice for family bonding. I would snuggle up with pillows and stuffed animals on my 2 year-old's bed to nurse. My toddler would bring some books and stroke the baby's head and arm while I read. The group also taught me how to lay on my side and position the baby for nursing. I could relax and let the milk flow!!!


They now have very different personalities, but are each other's best friends anyway.

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I wanted more than anything to breastfeed my son. It was something I was looking forward to (the most?) about having a baby. I tried, and tried, and the lactation consultants at the hospital forced me to supplement him with formula. I resisted giving him a bottle and did the SNS the way they told me (have him latch on and then force the tube passed his lips and partially down his throat). It took about two weeks of feeding him this way before he started resisting latching on to me, and my milk really never came in.
I was devastated to have to switch over to a bottle. I know that was what was best for him, but I can tell you I'm approaching breastfeeding my next baby very, VERY differently. I feel like the lactation consultants set me up for failure (promoting the formula "sponsoring" my hospital) and when I realized there was a MUCH better (and far less traumatic) way of doing the SNS, it was way too late and my son had rejected my breast. :(

Candy - posted on 08/01/2009

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I THINK IT SOUNDS LIKE YOU HAVE MADE YOUR DECISION BUT AS WITH EVERYTHING ELSE WITH PARENTING YOU ALWAYS FEAR IT IS THE WRONG ONE. IF FORMULA WASN'T A SAFE ALT THEY WOULDN'T MAKE IT SO READILY AVAILABLE. I BREAST FED MY DAUGHTER FOR THE FIRST SIX WEEKS, SHE STARTED TO GET SICK A LOT AND I WAS AFRAID IT WAS DUE TO MY DIET OR SOMETHING I WAS DOING WRONG SO I QUIT, SHE DIDN'T CARE WHERE THE FOOD WAS COMING FROM AS LONG AS SHE GOT IT.
THE TRUTH IS IT HURTS, REALLY HURTS, AND YOU HAVE TO FOLLOW RULES FOR DIET AND CONSUMPTION OF EVERYTHING JUST LIKE YOU ARE STILL PREGNANT BECAUSE BABY TAKES IT ALL IN TOO. YOU HAVE TO FEED MORE OFTEN (AT 6WKS WHEN WE SWITCHED MY DAU STARTED SLEEPING ALMOST ALL NIGHT). IF YOU FEEL LIKE IT IS NOT RIGHT FOR YOU DON'T LET ANYONE MAKE YOU DO WHAT YOU DON'T WANT TO DO, YOU DON'T WANT THIS TIME TO BE STRESSFUL AND RESENTFUL. YOU ARE MOMMY! YOUR CHILD IS NEVER GOING TO LOOK AT YOU AND ASK WHY YOU DIDN'T BREAST FEED. BLESS YOU AND GOOD LUCK!

Lisa - posted on 08/01/2009

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When my son was first born, I tried to breast feed. It did not come easily to us, and he was hungry all the time. After two days, I decided to bottle feed and we have both been much happier since. He is now a growing healthy boy with no problems.

Jessica - posted on 08/01/2009

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I ended up having to bottle feed my son for 2 reasons. First reason is I couldn't physicall keep up with him (he was eating every 30 minutes) and we think he was having problems digesting breast milk b/c once we put him on formula we found out he was lactose intolerant and started to eat better once we got him on lactose free formula

Amy - posted on 08/01/2009

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It's all about your comfort, if you don't even want the lactation consultant to come in your room, let the hospital know when you check in.They can't force you to do anything, if they try, threaten them with harassment...lol! I did fine nursing my son, but the boob nazi came in and didn't like that I was feeding him in a cradle position instead of the football. She then tried to tell me he wasn't latched on, and then proceeded to rip him off my boob (without breaking the latch, i supposedly didn't have...hurt like hell!). I then told her to leave and told the nurse that if that woman even thought about coming back in there, I was going to press charges
Even after all that breast feeding ended up working out for us....Just go with what you want to do, that's usually what is best!

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My mom, mother of 6, told me to pump & bottle feed because it's easier that way. My sister was a slow feeder & mom would be stuck on the couch forever...Due to inverted nipples & a poor latcher I had to do this anyway. I will do this again with my son in Sept when he's born. Although it can be a little inconvienent at time...breastmilk fed babies spitup doesn't stain, or smell as gross, it generally settles in their bellies better. Some kids have gassy issues w/formula. You can store milk for a good while (exact times are escaping me as it was over 2 yrs ago...) you can also freeze it! I had enough milk in the fridge & freezer that I didn't have to pump for the entire last month of my sons first year, as that is how long i wanted to feed him BM. Another bene, my milk did not come in everytime I heard a baby cry, as mums do when BF. You do need to be quite reg. w/it. Although the longer you go the quicker you can pump & less often. A 1st it was 15mins or so every 3 hrs. & maybe once @ night? I think @ the end it would only take 10mins & every 4 hrs. I slept through the night as well... Some mums find it easy to lose weight BF? I maintained my weight, but never lost any past his initial birth...It was nice to know how much he ate, and all that good stuff...Oh, I also wasn't horribly comfortable w/the idea of BF but was willing to try because of all the benes you hear that the child gets from BM but it didn't much matter as I was unable to anyway...You do what you do and don't feel bad about it! Even though I fed my son breast milk through his bottle I STILL heard crap about it! cuz it was bottle & not breast *rolln eyes*

Christy - posted on 08/01/2009

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I chose to breastfeed my daughter. We joined the breastfeeding class at the hospital so we had the support and help of the lactation consultant. I nursed for about 4 months. During those 4 months I also pumped. I simply had to release the pressure of the milk I had comming in. I also enjoyed letting my husband bottle feed our daughter. It was important for Daddy to bond with our daughter. Anyways, after about 4 months of nursing I realized it was not for me. I continued to pump breastmilk for my daughter until she was 9 months old then my milk started drying up. Although nursing was not for me I'm happy that I decided to breastfeed my daughter for the health benefits of having mommys milk. I recommend breastfeeding as long as you are able to produce the milk supply and your little one is able to latch on like a champ. I was blessed not to have any complications when we started nursing. Also talk to the lactation consultant at your hospital, they will make you feel confident in teaching your baby to eat.

Hope - posted on 08/01/2009

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I choose to bottle feed after 3 grueling days of listening to my son scream because he was starving. I wanted to breast feed, but I was not producing enough milk. It was hard to accept at the time, but he is happy and healthy. I was worried most about the bonding element... I always held him close to feed him though and never proped the bottle with a pillow or blanket. It worked, he is now 5 and he is absolutely Mommy's Lil Monster! LOL Good luck!

Jerica - posted on 08/01/2009

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I never wanted to try it either and won't .. my son was bottle fed from day one and so will this one..i'm not comfortable with it either just something about it doesn't seem right to me.. yeah it might be best for your baby but they have some pretty great formula out there these days that make up for it.. just ignore those people they do drive you crazy.. just tell them your not interested and you've made up your mind and to respect your decision.. my son is perfectly healthy and i'm glad i made the choice to bottle feed .. !!

Christina - posted on 08/01/2009

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I started out breastfeeding and now i pump and bottle feed, she is still getting my milk but anyone can feed her (husband, family, & daycare) and pumping doesn't hurt and is actually easier so i would suggest that. the baby will still get your milk but you dont have to 'breastfeed'.

Cathie - posted on 08/01/2009

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I tried to breastfeed my oldest and it wasn't working. People think large breasted women should be able to feed the neighborhood, but the truth is that the poor kid has to suck and suck and they have trouble breathing because the boob covers their whole head. So I had two pediatricians and one told me to get yeast tablets and beer to help the milk come in better. So after a week of that, it still wasn't working and while I felt better because of the beer, my baby was still hungry. So I called and talked to the other Dr. who asked me if I liked breastfeeding and thru my sobs I said NO and he calmly said then honey give that boy a bottle. That boy just turned 20 and he's perfectly fine. The other boy was always bottle fed, I tried to breast feed him and he looked at me like I was nuts. He will be a senior in High school. The pressure to be a good Mom and all the advice that comes with it is tremendous. Here's the thing, God gives us pretty natural instincts on how to mother and we all have good friends that we admire their parenting, find what works best for you and communicate your feelings to your partner and it will all work out.

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I breast feed my third child for 3 months but she was so hungry and I had so little milk she was not really gaining weight so onto the bottle she went. The first 2 were breast feed until they were about a year old it was so easy and so convenient. Give the breast feeding a go and if it doesn't work for you then at least you gave it a go.

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