Sharon - posted on 11/28/2008 ( 22 moms have responded )
Sharon - posted on 11/28/2008 ( 22 moms have responded )
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Tarilyn - posted on 12/02/2008
Money is a BIG issue for my family. My husband was laid off from his very well paying job a week before we found out we were expecting a baby. That was now over 2 years ago, and we are still struggling financially. This year he got his vacation pay and their wasn't much to it, but we got out daughter about $40 worth of things that she NEEDED. She will be 18 months in a couple days. However, thanks to our PHN and FV we were signed up for help for an adopt a family program in our city. They will take care of her needs like clothes and shoes and such and they will also include a couple toys. Last year we did a similar thing through our FB. If it weren't for the charitable donations made by other people around this time of year, we would not be able to do ANYTHING for our daughter! I don't believe that Christmas should be a huge deal...honestly I believe in the get what they NEED (clothes, shoes, socks, diapers, etc) and something they WANT (their choice)....I just wish we could do that for our child. I am forever thankful though, that we have the help of charities in our area. If it weren't for them we'd have nothing! I would LOVE to give my child a dream Christmas with everything she wants, because I can never give her anything she wants. But I know we can't and I've learned to deal with that!
Also, can I ask...What's Black Friday? (Sorry I am Canadian, and haven't heard of it before!)
Jamie - posted on 11/29/2008
I read about that trampling too. That is why I don't wait in line for 2 days to go shopping. I go to the black friday specials between 5-11am but I go at 5:15 or so and the store is already open, I get my merchandise and then wait in line for the checkout. No big deal. I have never had to fight anyone for a parking space, a product or anything. The worst is if they our out of something (that is a bummer) and waiting in line for the check out, but what can you do. It is to be expected so I deal with the lines and make the best of it. Maybe start up a conversation with a fellow mom out shopping, meet new people, if they are willing to chat, etc. Things like that Walmart tragedy, give black friday a bad name. It is not that bad everywhere you go! Kmart didn't even have a line! In fact it seemed emptier than a normal shopping day.
Jamie - posted on 11/29/2008
This year my husband worked a bunch of overtime helping to clean up after Huricaine Ike down in Houston area so I spent a little more than I usually would. I went with one big gift from the big guy each (about $50 each) and a few little gifts with that. It all comes to about $200-$250 total on both kids. I usually don't have that much to spend most years. The kids don't care how much you spend, they will love their gifts no matter what it cost. As for nieces and friends kids I was trying to keep it between $15-$25 per child. Now because one of the gifts I was planning on getting for my friend's kids to share for ~$30 (and one smaller gift each to go with it) was only $10 at Toys R Us during the black friday deal yesterday morning, I could just spend less and get them what I originally planned or get more to spend the same. They would never know the difference.
Barbara - posted on 11/29/2008
I just heard about a man being trampled to death at a Wal Mart during black Friday. Parents so eager to get the latest thing for their kids killed him. Yikes! What is the world coming to!
Gretchen - posted on 11/29/2008
I think the other moms are right - I went shopping yesterday on Black Friday, (YIKES!!!), with a small budget, and there were some people with just one or two bags, other people had shopping carts FULL, (I saw one woman at the checkout with three shopping carts, lmao!!!). Christmas spirit has nothing to do with money, and it's no one's business except "Santa's". Good luck!!!
Amanda - posted on 11/29/2008
Hi just wanted to queiry if most of you are talking in US$ cause I was talking in AUS$ which I think is about 1/2 as much
Theresa - posted on 11/28/2008
As my children have gotten older, they are now 14 & 17, their wants have become much more expensive, so we have cut back quite a bit. They get a gift from Santa (so little cousins and close neighbors don't wonder why Santa didn't give them anything), a gift from mom, dad, and each other. We also get a family present, usually something big we can all use or want for the house such as a basketball hoop, Wii, etc. I also give each of them a stocking filled with a book, a movie, and a cd, plus other needed items; new make up, body spray, etc. They also get presents from other family members. Christmas is now much more relaxed and I think they appreciate what they receive a bit more.No more rushing to open a bunch of presents before we go to Grandma's house for brunch. Now I have trouble getting them out of bed on Christmas morning.Gotta love those teenagers!
Kristy - posted on 11/28/2008
When my children were younger we didn't spend a lot because they played with the boxes more than the toys. As they have gotten older we have tried to teach them to think & ask for somthing they can use all year long and not things to play with for a few days and then put on the shelf. At 11 & 13 now they are more into bigger things. This year they have asked for Wii (11 yr. boy) and Ipod 13 yr. girl). They know the "Big" gift is it...we buy needs (such as clothes - socks, underwear, coats, etc) but they don't get a lot of unncessary items. If there is a smaller item they want they will ask there grandparents to get that or a gift card so they can get them after Christmas. I think you need to look at your budget and only get what you can afford- set that limit adn stick to it. Your kids won't enjoy it anymore or any less if you are struggling to pay for those things long after Christmas - so go with what is more affordable for your family. Good luck & Happy Holidays!
Jennifer - posted on 11/28/2008
This is my little one's first Christmas and she won't be getting much (she will be 4 months old so she won't know it) but I do plan on following this guideline:
*Something they want
*Something they need
*Something to wear
*Something to read
This works for any budget and keeps Christmas simple.
Salli-Ann Spencer-Cribbin - posted on 11/28/2008
This a very good question well I always spend more than I ever intend. My kids only really get gifts at Christmas and Birthdays so I like to get them what they really want.
I have spent about $350 on the older 2 and about $280 on my nearly 4 year old it seems like heeps even to me when you put a dollar value on it. But they are getting a Wii and games and a scooter each so it really doesn't go far does it. I love seeing there faces but they know they can't just get things when they want it they have waited nearly a year for the Wii so I'm sure they will be happy.
Donna - posted on 11/28/2008
when my kids were little, the grandparents and relatives bought them so much, we didn't have to get much of anything and they were still thrilled. Decide on a Dollar amount, and spend the same amount on all children, not necessarily the same amount of gifts. that is the only fair way.
Janine - posted on 11/28/2008
My husband and I agreed before we had kids that we would not go crazy at Christmas like one of his sisters. She buys everything on their Christmas lists. And I meen evrything!! We get them two things from us. one to each other and two maybe three form the big red guy and one to share from the big red guy. plus their socks. Oh I forgot, I started this three years ago ( stupid me) I had a bit extra so I gave each one of the kids a gift from the cat. Now it's expected ...sigh.. We spend about $200.00 on the kids all together
Sabina - posted on 11/28/2008
It gives me so much joy to see my little one so happy opening all the gifts that we always go way overboard! I honestly think I buy him all the toys for my own sake - I think he would be just as happy with just a few gifts! :-) His birthday is in January so we always try to divide the gifts between the two. He is almost 3 and into Thomas the Tank Engine which is not cheap so some of the amount other moms were mentioning would not get us far. My husband has been buying Thomas stuff at yard sales this summer and we are planing to give them to our son at Christmas.
Beth - posted on 11/28/2008
My husband and I tend to disagree on this subject. However, he has made me better about really evaluating purchasing decisions--making sure it is good quality over quantity.
Barbara - posted on 11/28/2008
I really don't want to teach our son that Christmas is about buying stuff. He's only 10 months old so I'm not sure what the final policy will be, but I know we won't set a dollar amount per kid in our house. We try to be creative and think about gifts that don't come from the store at the moment, like homemade items. We're also looking into trading toys he's bored with for toys our friend's kids are bored with. I just don't want him to think that the holidays are about having a lot of crap to open up on Christmas morning. (Crap that is frequently made by other kids in sweatshops far away. That isn't a very Christmassy thought.)
Elizabeth - posted on 11/28/2008
This is my daughters first Christmas. I am finding it very hard to stick to a budget. I got her a few toys and a lot of clothing for the spring and summer. I know she will also get a lot from friends and family. I kust love to shop and babies are so fun to buy for. My daughter will be 10 months by christmas and she really likes playing with toys. I would say my husband and I have spent about $500.00 this year. I am sure as my daughter gets older we will spend more. I like the idea of getting a big gift that can be used all year and a few smaller toys to open.
Rebecca - posted on 11/28/2008
Right around $200.00. I'm really hoping to stick to that amount and not buy a bunch of crap right before Christmas day because I'm worried she won't have enough stuff to open. I hate it when I do that!
Vala - posted on 11/28/2008
I agree with Barbara, one big gift, then get a few smaller.....that's are plan for the both of them.....at least with the smaller there is no understanding that how is spent on them they won't really understand, but were looking at $200 a child, big gift, stocking included that's it....so the younger will benefit cause with an older child there things will be more expensive so means less but we have explained to her that we are spending equal amounts
Amanda - posted on 11/28/2008
I think it depends on their age also. For my almost 1 year old I spent about $50, because he honestly will not be worried about what he was given, and will probably play more with the paper then his actual presents!! For my 3 year old we spent a bit more maybe $100. But Santa also got them a trampoline which was $250. I like to get one big present that they will use for a long time rather than alot of silly little things that they will only play with for a bit. I more about finding things they will like than worrying about spending to little, if I could find something cheap that they would love I would buy it!!!
Barbara - posted on 11/28/2008
we are spending around one hundred on her because were getting her a bike and lots of smaller stuff.think its best to stick with one big present then work around that.
Melissa - posted on 11/28/2008
Around $1000. But that includes a family gift of a Wii and games for it.
Amie - posted on 11/28/2008
I think it depends on the person's budget. There isn't any real standard to it. =) We have friends who only spend about $50 per child whereas we spend between $100-$200 per child. We can afford it though so that's why we do it.