How much pocket money should I give my 13 year old girl?

Dove - posted on 08/19/2012

Then what the hell did you post for?! You don't want advice or opinions all you want is for someone to tell you it's ok to give your daughter tons of stuff that she doesn't need (no person on the planet NEEDS 14 pairs of shoes) and give her money at random just for the hell of it.

Which is WHY I said earlier that she's your kid and to do whatever you want. I could tell up there already that you don't REALLY want advice because you don't want anyone to disagree with you or we're being 'mean.'

Well... then don't post because to ME.... you AND your daughter are already spoiled. It looks like from what you post that you give her whatever she wants and if you think buying 14 pairs of shoes is just providing her necessities.... I can't even comprehend that type of world.

So.... do whatever you want, but stop looking for advice from people who you really don't want it from.

Your last question.... How much would you give your child? If I had just bought all that stuff for my kid (which would never in a million years happen)... I would GIVE her nothing. But that's not the answer you are looking for and now you're probably going to think I'm just being mean. @@

Anoymous - posted on 08/19/2012

My daughter DOES know the value of money.

Anoymous - posted on 08/19/2012

I only buy the necessites and the pocket money is for her wants. My daughter has 14 pairs of shoes. SO WHAT!! My children are not brats or princesses and they are very kind. It is a big statement to say that they are spoiled. No mum is perfect! I work hard and yet I still have money left over. I only work 9-5 shifts, so I spend lots of times with my family, so no one can say that I don't spend time with my family. Anyway how much would ou give your child?? Thanks.

Jodi - posted on 08/19/2012

You are a single mother of 2 children who works hard for your money and has a maid and a cleaner and purchases your daughter 14 pairs of shoes, and yet you want her to learn the value of money? You really aren't going about it in the right way. People aren't being mean, they are confused that in one breath you want her to do this list of chores for her allowance, and then suddenly you are spending a fortune on her, saying she can't do those chores and handing her money. Which is it you want for your daughter? To become an entitled princess, or learn what it is to have to work hard for the things she values?

Anoymous - posted on 08/19/2012

I am sorry that I work hard for my money. I am a single mother of two children. Please stop being mean, I am getting quite offended!

Jodi - posted on 08/19/2012

What do you mean "what do you mean". Lady, you are delusional. You are spoiling your child and you are here asking whether you should give her an allowance for doing jobs? No kid needs 14 pairs of shoes. Every kid needs to learn the value of money. Your kid is not learning that, not even close. Heaven forbid you distract the cleaner or the maid.

Dove - posted on 08/18/2012

What do you mean what do I mean? As a start... my entire family (4 people) put together doesn't own 14 pairs of shoes. ;)

Anoymous - posted on 08/18/2012

What do you mean

Dove - posted on 08/18/2012

FOURTEEN pairs of shoes?! And you have a maid? And you gave her $20 for nothing?

Yeah, sorry.... my reality can't even imagine any of that. Do whatever you want. It's your kid. Sounds to me like the makings of a spoiled, rich, and spoiled rich person.

Jodi - posted on 08/18/2012

Now I'm really confused, you just hand her money for doing nothing AFTER you spent a lot on her, but she can't do anything because you have a maid? Make her mow the lawns and wash the car or something.

Anoymous - posted on 08/18/2012

Well we wnt shoping yestreday and she got 8 new tops, 2 scarves, 2 beanies, 14 new pairs of shoes and after that I gave her $20. She can't really do that much housework because we have a cleaner and a maid and we can't really distract the cleaner by asking if my daughter can help. Also, because the cleaner does everything 10 times faster and better. Does anybody have any ideas on what she can do around the house of neighbourhood for some more money? Beause she can't do that much inside. Thanks.

Dove - posted on 08/18/2012

IMO... that would be way too much. Is that a total of $15/week or a total of $20/week? What needs does she have to pay for out of that? I know that some families would do that much 'just because' and others do that much because they expect their child to pay for school lunch and a few other things out of that money.

If you are covering all her NEEDS and this money is just for her 'wants'.... I, personally, would never go more than $10/week total. Well, 'I' would go less than that, but I feel that more than $10 (unless she has to pay things like I mentioned above) is ridiculous.

Anoymous - posted on 08/18/2012

Thankyou for your help, but I have thought of doing $5 a week, plus allowance which is $15. Does this sound good?

Dove - posted on 08/18/2012

Or are you asking how much she should be paid for those chores? That would depend on how much you can afford, how well she does the chores without reminders, how much money YOU spend on her needs and wants already, and how much she needs to spend of her own money.



I am broke, a cheapskate, and fairly 'strict'. My girls get $2 to wash, dry, fold, and put away the laundry (2 loads worth... or I help a bit for 'free' if there's more loads) all in the same day. If they don't do it all in the same day.... I pay nothing, but it still needs done. I randomly pay them for other stuff depending on what it is and how well it is done.

Dove - posted on 08/18/2012

Pocket money for what? The only one of my kids I give money to for no reason is my 4 year old.... and he gets my pennies or other small change (under a quarter) on occasion.

I will give my older ones a small amount for a specific purpose on occasion (like to buy lunch when they are on a church outing), but not regularly.... sometimes they have to use their own money.... which they get only by working for it... and never 'just because they want money'.

Jodi - posted on 08/18/2012

Looks like a big fat zero to me.....lots of zeros on that that chore chart if I am reading your post correctly?



In my house an allowance is only paid if chores are done and not complained about (complaining and moaning about it is not acceptable).