How old is your baby when she first sleeps through the night??

Zomora - posted on 02/14/2009 ( 74 moms have responded )

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Hey my daughter is 3 months and she still is having a hard time sleeping throughout the night.... I was wondering how much longer do i have to go before she starts sleeping through the whole night??

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Echoe - posted on 03/26/2012

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it all depends on her if shes ready then shes ready, although there are things that you can do to help her get used to sleeping through the night such as giving her a bottle of water when shes about nine months so that when she does wake up then u can start to help her put herself to bed. but u have at least untill shes 7 months before theres a hope im sry to say that but i have tow and my three year old still doesnt sleep through the night but my 9 month is doing it every onw and then and even still its only about 7 hours and he goes down early so sleep she sleeps and ulll be fine.

Jennifer - posted on 02/19/2009

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I always asked my friends this question with my oldest, and you probably don't want to hear this but he just turned two this week and he still doesn't sleep through the night! Now I am up with a two year old and a three week old!! Maybe by the time they are 10 I might get a good nights sleep again! Haha!

Kathryn - posted on 02/19/2009

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My daughter Keira is 2 months and a week old and she just started to do her  nights. But then again all babies are different. I wish you the best of luck with your daughter.. Remember the sleepless nights don't last forever..



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Manon Alexe - posted on 02/19/2009

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I have been very very very lucky when I read all the replies. My now 5 month old baby girl has been sleeping through since the day she was born. She eats on demand and that seems to work well for us. She goes to bed at 7 at night and only wakes again around 7 or 8 the next morning.

Catherine - posted on 02/19/2009

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My baby was 11 months and we HAD to let him cry. He would wake for a cuddle a couple of times a night and settle very quickly back to sleep, i think he just wanted ot make sure we were there .... however it took a toll on us. Finally we let him cry after making sure he was OK and it only took one night (for 1.5 hours at about 9pm). He is now nearly 19months old and sleeps from 7pm till 7am and is a delightful boy. I reckon that you have got to do what suits you and your baby.

Kylie - posted on 02/17/2009

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Lol, my baby is 8months now and is still waking every 4hours! my son before her slept though the night at 2months, it just depends on the baby and u just have to grin and bear it!

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The sleep problem is there on and off for quite some time. We had problems right off with our son. I looked at a ton of books, but ended up loving and worshipping the Baby Whisperer books --primarily: The Baby Whisperer Solves All Your Problems: Sleeping, Feeding, and Behavior--Beyond the Basics from Infancy Through Toddlerhood. We weren't into just letting him cry in a room by himself --and my husband and I are completely new to the whole process. The book taught us how to train our son to sleep --you literally have to teach them often. With us, it took two nights to train him when he was 6 months. It took one night when he was 12 months. They forget for various reason --like food sensitivities, or travel, or stress in the house. We learned how important schedules are, and soooo much more. I highly recommend it. It's really user friendly, and happily quick.

Myroslava - posted on 02/17/2009

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DD started to sleep about 6 hour stretch at night when she was around 5 months, now, at 6 months, she usually sleeps from 8 pm to 4-5 am, and she's been doing that for about 3 weeks now. She is EBF, until last week, when we started trying solids. She doesn't sleep alot during the day, though, may be 3 hours total. And also, i she doesn't go back to sleep that easy after the morning (4-5 am ) feeding, she wants to play. Often i have to take her to bed with me, and after about 2.3-3 hours, she will eventually fall asleep, nursing ( i guess, that would be her morning nap).



 Don't worry, your daughter is way to young to sleep through the night. It  will be at least another month....every baby is different, but that's what my daughter was like at that age, she did sleep through the night, until 7 am even, may be 3-4 times total, at different times.

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Hello, when you find out please let me know. My fourth child is now 14 months and still wakes 2 times a night.

Leah - posted on 02/17/2009

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My son's almost 7 YEARS old and has slept through the night maybe 20 times, tops. It's different for every kid. My son was a skinny hungry baby and kept me on my toes at night. Crying it out has a place and time, but 3 months is probably too early, in my opinion. I think that eventually "Sleeping through the night" really means the parents physical exhaustion and confidence as a parent grow and the parents sleep soundly. Eventually the crying for food will turn into sitting up playing toes, then talking to their toys, then eventually they are up shooting Jedi's at 3 am......

Joy - posted on 02/17/2009

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Mine didn't sleep 'straight' until he was 6mos old.  I wrote that in quotation marks because until now, and he's 22mos old, he would still somehow wake up because the binky fell off or cos of bad dreams.  But for the most part, he would be fine and would fall back asleep on his own.

Pam - posted on 02/17/2009

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Every baby is different. Mine is 10 months old and seems to go in phases. Sometimes he sleeps through (so I know he's capable) but most of the time he doesn't. However, he doesn't need to be fed - we just stick a pacifier in and he goes back to sleep. Most doctors don't recommend cereal in the bottle, but I know lots of people do it. Your daughter is still very young - just hang in there. If you're not sure if she's really hungry try giving her a pacifier (will she take one?) first. If that calms her down, then she's not really hungry. Babies have a very strong sucking reflex and it soothes them. If she's still screaming, then feed her. Remember this will pass eventually. :)

Ally - posted on 02/17/2009

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Babies are not designed to sleep through the night...frequent waking is a protective measure for their survival and to keep moms milk supply up. My 11 month old still nurse about 2 times a night..more if she's teething and that is perfectly normal. They are constantly growing and their growth hormone leves are highest at nightime which is why they wake to feed. Something you should not ever do esp at this young age is let her cry it out...babies cry FOR A REASON it is their only means of communication. This practice is not only cruel but can cause damage to a babies emotional and psychological development...the baby sleep book by dr.sears is a great resource it tells you all about the development and inner workings of your baby and why he is crying/waking. It also gives you great ways to cope that don't involve leaving your new baby in a dark room alone to scream??doesn't that go against every mothering instinct we have? the babies left to cry are not "good" they have just been taught that they can't communicate properly since their caregivers don't come to their aid ...they simply give up. Cereal in the bottle is also a huge choking hazard. I also don't understant why people try to "train" their babies to sleep ...the aap and the la leche league ahve all published reports on the dangers of schueling infant feeding and or skipping ones at night...it can lead to failure to thrive and dehydration check out some of these resources



http://www.askdrsears.com/html/7/T070200...



http://www.askdrsears.com/html/5/t051200...



http://www.kellymom.com/nutrition/solids...



http://www.ezzo.info/Aney/aneyaap.htm

Andrea - posted on 02/17/2009

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My son didn't sleep through the night until 9 months, but he had bad reflux & we got into some bad sleep habits as a result.

She's too young to let her cry it out & most research shows that cereal in the bottle doesn't help (I would talk to your ped. before doing that anyway...).

Just be consistent with her bedtime. Put her down drowsy but awake so she falls asleep in her crib.

Francis - posted on 02/17/2009

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my daughter first started sleeping through the night a couple of days after we brought her home. She wasn't even a month old yet. However ever since she got her 6 month old shots she is not sleeping through the night and wakes up at least twice a night, so i guess it depends on the baby.

Brenda - posted on 02/17/2009

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Hello! I am a mother of four and none of mine were the same on anything. My first child did not sleep through the night until he was 18 months old. My others were a lot sooner I believe it was more like 2 or 3 months old for them. Each child is different and different things work better for different children. I find it is a trial and error kinda of thing when it comes with children. My youngest is now 8 and my oldest is 18. Good look and hang in there.

Caroline - posted on 02/17/2009

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Usually with "through the night" and infants, most consider that to be a 5 hour stretch. I don't remember when my son first did that but his first 8-hour stretch was at 3 1/2 months. He didn't sleep a 10-12 hour stretch until much later.

It all depends on the child!

Zoe - posted on 02/17/2009

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hi my daughter was sleepin through the night at 3 months but now she is teething she not so i had a month of her sleepin through the night. so when your daughter does start sleepin through the night i would get as much sleep as you can.

Bonnie - posted on 02/17/2009

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well my son is ten and i was really lucky he slept through from 6 weeks old, i was amazed! my sister has 4 children and her youngest is nearly 3 and still doesnt sleep through every night so all children are different

Amy - posted on 02/17/2009

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Everyone must read the book: "On Becoming Baby Wise" by Gary Ezzo & Robert Bucknam MD. This book saved our life!! It helps you get your baby on a schedule so that he or she sleeps through the night. I started her on this schedule the day I begun reading the book and my baby has been sleeping through the night ever since. She was 7 weeks when we started and is now 9 weeks old. She sleeps from 7:30pm til 7am and the best part of it is I wake her up most of the time! :)



The problem I had before I read the book is that I would demand feed my baby (which could have been as often as every hour) and I felt like I couldn't do anything else because I never knew if she would need to eat.



The book recommends you follow these steps: feeding and diaper change, waketime, put baby down for nap 1.5 to 2 hours. My baby is breastfed and eats 5x/day, but depending on the age of your baby you may need to do it up to 8x/day.



The good thing is I know my baby is now getting enough to eat and is also getting adequate sleep and activity as well. :) She is also very happy during the day now!

Lolly_loulou - posted on 02/17/2009

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my daughter has given me about 6 hours a night since she was about a month old. im very lucky lol, then another 3 hours once she has been given morning feed

Amy - posted on 02/17/2009

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Hi Zomora! Don't feel bad, we've all been there. My son didn't sleep through the night until he was 11 1/2 months old! Every night from the time he was born, he was up every 2 hours on the hour like clock work, then suddenly he slept through the night. I had to run into his room because I thought something was wrong! lol
Relax and just take it with stride! Before long, they won't want to even come home to sleep at your house!

Kelly - posted on 02/16/2009

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It all has to do with how hungry the baby is and how often they I feel.  Both of my babies started sleeping through the night 8-10 hours when they were 4 weeks.  But neither of them woke up more than once or twice throughout prior to that.  If you are breast feeding try mixing 1 part breast milk and 1 part formula just before bedtime.  This will keep the baby's hunger sustained longer.  If you are already feeding with just formula, then mix it a little thicker, not much, but just a little more foemula powder will do the trick!  This s what my babies pediatrician advised when they were infants.  Good Luck, the first night your child sleeps through you'll wake up and think somethings wrong, go check and realize this was the first great night sleep you've had since the second trimester!

Ellen - posted on 02/16/2009

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I dont think there is an exact answer for ya! My son, whom is now 13, slept through the night at 6 months of age. Now, my 15 month old daughter still wakes up once during the night and i can hear her tummy growling, she is hungry...SOOOOOOOOO.....IM still battling the nightime blues! hahahahah Wish I could give an answer!



Every baby is different!

Misty - posted on 02/16/2009

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My baby is now 18months old and she still wakes up twice a night. Good Luck. The doctors say some kids just dont sleep through the night

Joy - posted on 02/16/2009

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ps- forgot to mention it also helps if your baby knows how to self settle to sleep as all babies wake in the night and only some are good self settlers and others will call out for mum....this is also explained in the book.

Joy - posted on 02/16/2009

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Hi my son slept thru the night from about 6 weeks with a "dreamfeed" of formula at 10.30pm and he slept from 7pm-7am. At 11 weeks he stopped wanting the dreamfeed and we just tried leaving him and he has slept thru from 7pm-7am eversince. He is currently teething at 5 months old BUT this interrupts his daysleeping more than his night. We owe this mainly to a book called Save our sleep by Tizzie Hall which is based on routine and making baby feel safe enough to sleep thru the night. Good luck.

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Hi there.



My son started sleeping right throught the night from age 8weeks. I was told by my midwife to feed every four hours (not on demand). I changed my son's routine at 8 weeks and now he sleeps right though the night. I'll never do that again or recommend that.



You could always try:



Give your baby a nice soothing bath with Johnson's and Johnson's bedtime bath. (the bath wash bottle comes in a lilac bottle, the lotion comes in a white bottle and the powder comes in a white botlle/container).



Rub them with the Johnson and Johnson's Bedtime lotion and powder.



Give them one last feed (I found using baby cereal helped-as other Mum's have recommended) with baby cereal.



They start to fall asleep when they drink as it dosen't usually take long.



My son does get up during the night sometimes (once every few months) for a feed, I find while giving him a bottle, I rub some of the lotion on him, it helps to get him back to sleep.



Hope this helps.

Ike - posted on 02/15/2009

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Don't expected too soon. My second son sleeping through the whole night when he's about 6 months. But my older son, has a longer time to be sleeping through the night. Maybe after he's 2 years old, then he never wake till the morning come. Try to make your baby full before he's sleeping. Don't teasing or play with him when he wake in the night. Turn off the light when he's sleeping to make him learn about the difference of night and day.

Louise - posted on 02/15/2009

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all 6 of my babies had slept right thru by the time they were 6 weeks. i really would suggest the extra feed that stacy suggested.

Amy - posted on 02/15/2009

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wow! Alot of you ladies are lucky to have children that have slept through the night from such a young age. Mine didn't sleep through the night until he was 3months old and he would sleep from 7 / 7:30pm-5 / 6am but that lasted for a month and now he is 8months old and wakes up at least twice a night for a feed :| I have him on solids, bath him & nothing seems to get him back into the routine of sleeping through the night!! It's exhausting. As I don't know why he went backwards but it's all good as I know each baby is different and I just prey that he will grow out of the morning feeds againnnnnnnnn.
So if you can get your child to sleep through the night at a very young age or sleep through the night full stop then I envy you haha.
Ive never missed my sleep so much in my life.

Jeny McKinsey- - posted on 02/15/2009

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Don't get discouraged. It is different for all babies. My 3 month old does sleep through the night, but sometimes she wakes up awefully early...My 4 year old just started sleeping through the night last summer. She had her tonsils out and that helped tremendously!!! It just takes time. Good Luck.

Joann - posted on 02/15/2009

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for the last bottle of the night before bed time, we used to put 1 spoonful of baby rice cereal in their bottles. It helps to fill their tummy. sometimes, we had to increase it to 2 spoonfuls. It worked like a charm for us.  Also you might have to change nap time and shorten the afternoon nap.

Alison - posted on 02/15/2009

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Every baby is different, but we trained our baby to sleep through the night at 5 months and it has worked so far. If she wakes up which is usually around 4 a/m we put the pacifier in her mouth and she sleeps. It is wonderful!!!! I also recommend getting the lamb that plays 'white noise' ocean sounds, rain sounds, etc....

Angela - posted on 02/15/2009

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My daughter is 10 months old and has only slept through the night a handful of times. I nurse her and she wakes up needing comfort most times. My first daughter slept through the night starting around 3 months, so this is new for me. But I know she'll get there.

Leah - posted on 02/15/2009

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My boy was 12 1/2 weeks - he only started sleeping through the night then because that's when I started a routine (previously demand feeding).  This may help you if you wish to give a "routine" a go.

Carolyn - posted on 02/15/2009

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my son was about 10 weeks old when he started sleeping through the night.  He is now 20 months and most night cries out in his sleep at least once.  he doesn't wake up, just a little cry.  It's really weird.

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My first son started sleeping his nights at 6 weeks old which was amazing. My newborn is 8 weeks old and unfortunately he is not sleeping through the night yet, so every child is different.

CHRISTINA - posted on 02/15/2009

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my girls are ten months and finally they are starting to sleep through the night. about two weeks ago i asked mothers for advice on how to help my daughters because i couldn't take it anymore. They recommend me to put a radio or music in their room, and it actually worked. I hope this works for you.

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Quoting Heather:



7- (And this was the best advice I ever heard) LET HER CRY!!!! If her crib is free from objects that she might choke on, suffocate on, be strangled by, and it's low enough for her not to fall out, then there is no reason for you to be alarmed when she cries.  When we let our first one cry it out, it took three nights of her screaming. The first night was an hour and  half, the second time was THREE HOURS, and the third and final night was 1 hour... she has slept through the night since. Our youngest, still gets up at night, but I never check on her, she just goes back to sleep. CRYING WON'T HURT HER!



 










Not a great idea to let a 3 month old cry it out.  Babies that young are learning how to securely attach to parents and caregivers.  By not responding to their cries (their ONLY source of communicating a need to you), you risk damaging their abiliity to securely attach to you.  Babies that young cry because something is bothering them, so even if you have fed and changed them and think they are cozy, they are still crying because they need something...even if it is to just be held a little longer.  For older babies (9 months and older), you can try letting them cry when you know all their needs are met.  By this time, they know that you're still there for them.  However, if the crying becomes hysterical, crying it out is probably not going to work for that child.





I agree, I would never and have never let my son cry it out, no way, they need to know you are there for them, and they have no way to communicate but to cry. I let him cry for a few mins for a nap once and when I went in there the poor little guy had snot running down into his mouth and poo in his diaper, I did change him before he went down, and was clean!  He was almost choking on his saliva from crying so much , every since then I never let him cry it out, and I will never let my next baby (due in May) cry it out! A friend of mine does that with her children and I don't agree but it is hard to tell another mother who has 3 kids what to do, they get affended and they think they know it all cuz they have more then you do! Doesn't make them right! I remember when they did it once when we were camping and I went over to the little guy and rubbed his back and went "shhh its ok" in a wisper and he stopped crying and fell asleep! How hard is that to show some love  and affection to the little guy, thats all he needed!

Heather - posted on 02/15/2009

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7- (And this was the best advice I ever heard) LET HER CRY!!!! If her crib is free from objects that she might choke on, suffocate on, be strangled by, and it's low enough for her not to fall out, then there is no reason for you to be alarmed when she cries.  When we let our first one cry it out, it took three nights of her screaming. The first night was an hour and  half, the second time was THREE HOURS, and the third and final night was 1 hour... she has slept through the night since. Our youngest, still gets up at night, but I never check on her, she just goes back to sleep. CRYING WON'T HURT HER!


 






Not a great idea to let a 3 month old cry it out.  Babies that young are learning how to securely attach to parents and caregivers.  By not responding to their cries (their ONLY source of communicating a need to you), you risk damaging their abiliity to securely attach to you.  Babies that young cry because something is bothering them, so even if you have fed and changed them and think they are cozy, they are still crying because they need something...even if it is to just be held a little longer.  For older babies (9 months and older), you can try letting them cry when you know all their needs are met.  By this time, they know that you're still there for them.  However, if the crying becomes hysterical, crying it out is probably not going to work for that child.

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7- (And this was the best advice I ever heard) LET HER CRY!!!! If her crib is free from objects that she might choke on, suffocate on, be strangled by, and it's low enough for her not to fall out, then there is no reason for you to be alarmed when she cries.  When we let our first one cry it out, it took three nights of her screaming. The first night was an hour and  half, the second time was THREE HOURS, and the third and final night was 1 hour... she has slept through the night since. Our youngest, still gets up at night, but I never check on her, she just goes back to sleep. CRYING WON'T HURT HER!


 






Not a great idea to let a 3 month old cry it out.  Babies that young are learning how to securely attach to parents and caregivers.  By not responding to their cries (their ONLY source of communicating a need to you), you risk damaging their abiliity to securely attach to you.  Babies that young cry because something is bothering them, so even if you have fed and changed them and think they are cozy, they are still crying because they need something...even if it is to just be held a little longer.  For older babies (9 months and older), you can try letting them cry when you know all their needs are met.  By this time, they know that you're still there for them.  However, if the crying becomes hysterical, crying it out is probably not going to work for that child.

Heather - posted on 02/15/2009

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Each baby is definitely different.  At 16 months, my daughter doesn't sleep through the night.  Rice cereal didn't help her that young either.  She was waking up because she was hungry.  She still wakes up at night because she is thirsty; after she gets a cup of water, she goes back to sleep pretty quickly.  I have a lot of friends whose babies have slept through the night from about 3 months on...I must say that I thought I was doing something wrong because I couldn't get her to sleep all night.  I recently realized that she just doesn't require as much sleep as some kids (she sometimes will only sleep 30 minutes during the day).  Don't try to force her to sleep through the night before she is ready...you can't force it -- she'll do it when she is ready, not when you are ready for her to.

Alison - posted on 02/15/2009

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My baby didn't sleep through the night until she was 10 months old. She is now 18 months old and sleeps 12 hours straight every night. I read something that really helped me deal with the sleepless nights...somtimes it is the way you react to sleepless nights that makes it feel so hard...accepting that this is part of motherhood and enjoying those moments in the night with your bubs can make it feel less of a problem.



I actually now miss holding my daughter all to myself in the night and feeding her.....maybe this can help. Your baby will sleep through the night when she is ready to.



Take care

Andrea - posted on 02/15/2009

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EVERY CHILD IS DIFFERENT!!!! I know that my best friend has been struggling with this problem for almost a year, with no relief... while my two girls slept through the night at 6 wks and 8 wks. I found a few pieces of advice were VERY helpful.



1- 12 lbs=12 hrs. When most babies hit 12 lbs, they have enough body mass to last throughout the night without extra feedings.



2-  Routine. AND BE CONSISTANT ABOUT IT! Read a book, take a bath, sing a lullaby, and put her down. Do the same thing for naps (minus the bath) so that she will always associate these things with the calming down time.



3- Warmth. Baby doesn't have a lot of mass, so she might be COLD!!! I keep my house fairly cool, but put socks and a onesie under her footed sleepers.



4- Swaddling. It works when they're younger, so it wouldn't hurt to try and go BACK to that and see if they need it now. I've heard of kids that liked it up to 8 and 9 months!!!



5- Check for fever or teeth. If she's ill, or has teeth coming in, give her Motrin for teething (it is an anti-inflammatory), or Tylenol for a fever.



6- Make sure she has been thoroughly burped. My youngest would burp like 45 minutes after her feedings, so we were constantly patting her little back to make sure we got ALL the bubbles, lest they disrupt our precious quiet time!



7- (And this was the best advice I ever heard) LET HER CRY!!!! If her crib is free from objects that she might choke on, suffocate on, be strangled by, and it's low enough for her not to fall out, then there is no reason for you to be alarmed when she cries.  When we let our first one cry it out, it took three nights of her screaming. The first night was an hour and  half, the second time was THREE HOURS, and the third and final night was 1 hour... she has slept through the night since. Our youngest, still gets up at night, but I never check on her, she just goes back to sleep. CRYING WON'T HURT HER!



Good luck!



 

Christin - posted on 02/15/2009

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my baby starting sleeping through the night at 3 weeks! but i noticed that when i use the johnson bedtime bath wash she slept alot better:) its worth a try

Jolene - posted on 02/15/2009

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At 6 weeks my daughter started sleeping through the night. If you are going to do rice cereal you need a variable flow nipple or a fast flow. I don't know why people say it doesn't work for helping your baby to sleep longer...obviously it does or else people wouldn't do it!

Angie - posted on 02/15/2009

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My older two slept through at 12 weeks my youngest at 4 weeks. I didn't use any method to get them to sleep, they just did it on their own. I breastfed and on the rare occassion that I pumped, I found that my milk was at least half cream so I think their little bellies were happy when I put them down at 10pm. I used to say that God knows that their mom requires lots of sleep so he took care of them at night for me - LOL.

Kelly - posted on 02/15/2009

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Both my kids are older now, but I had the same problem nobody wanted to sleep throuht the night, So I was told by an older aunt to give them baby rice cereal, or what ever kind you would like to try water it down so it's really runny to start so they don't choke. Give to the child at about 8pm just before final bottle and bed, this fills up their little tummy a bit more than the milk and stays with them longer thus allowing them to sleep through the night. Worked for me really nice! My daughter began sleeping through at 2 1/2 months and my son at 1 month. Hope this helps you.

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I have heard they are definitely not ready for any food in their bottles or otherwise until at least 4 months but more like 6 months. My doc also said that while many babes might sleep through the night earlier, they are physiological capable at 9 months. My first slept through on and off from 6 months on. Now I have an 8 month old who is still usually waking once a night. I also breast feed so I don't know if that makes a difference.

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