how old should my baby boy be until i let him cry himself to sleep?

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Julianna - posted on 01/22/2009

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Quoting Brenda:



I'm going to propose this because I am adament against cry it out at any age.  Just to let you know some things before you make this decision.  It is up to you of course, but I like to help people out with some facts they should look into first.  CIO at any age younger than four months is generally not recommended.  Long term crying causes a great deal of stress on an infant, usually increasing blood pressure and heart rate to alarming degrees.  In an adult, such things would not be allowed.  There is no evidence that cry it out does harm, but there is also no evidence that it does not.  There are no studies conducted with children under the age of four months, and few under six months on what exactly this method does toa child.  CIO DOES work.  There is no doubt about that, but the reason it works is very debateable.  As six different moms and you'll get six different reasons.  According to current thinking in the psychological community (and supported by several observational studies) has shown that children under the age of nine months will "give up" crying because of feeling abandoned by the parent.  If you make the choice to use CIO, please consider waiting until he his older, at least four months, and using a method called Ferberizing (look up Dr. Ferber who originated the cry it out "rage" of recent years."  Like I said you are the parent, so you make the choice for your child, I just encourage parents to look into some of these issues before they make this decision simply because we do not know what the effects are of CIO at very young ages.  Good luck!





Children do not cry for no reason. Crying is the only way they can express anything when they are young up to 3 years old. I believe that letting children cry them selves to sleep not only causes abandonment issues but causes them to learn that complaining and making themselves heard, which is why they cry, does no good an causes them to act out in worse ways throughout their lives

Cara - posted on 01/22/2009

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6 week of age or when baby has their first social smile according to the book Healthy Sleep Habits Happy Child.  It worked for us.  It was really hard to do the first 3 nights.  But after that my baby slept for 12 hours a night and still does!

Cara - posted on 01/22/2009

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6 week of age or when baby has their first social smile according to the book Healthy Sleep Habits Happy Child.  It worked for us.  It was really hard to do the first 3 nights.  But after that my baby slept for 12 hours a night and still does!

Cara - posted on 01/22/2009

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6 week of age or when baby has their first social smile according to the book Healthy Sleep Habits Happy Child.  It worked for us.  It was really hard to do the first 3 nights.  But after that my baby slept for 12 hours a night and still does!

Cara - posted on 01/22/2009

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6 week of age or when baby has their first social smile according to the book Healthy Sleep Habits Happy Child.  It worked for us.  It was really hard to do the first 3 nights.  But after that my baby slept for 12 hours a night and still does!

Kendyl - posted on 01/22/2009

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It's hard, but worth it!! I regret not doing it sooner with my baby girl. She kept waking up all night long, so finally I just let her cry. Only took her about 30 mins, then she fell asleep and doesn't wake up all night long like she was. I finally did it when she was about 9 months. Now she's a much better sleeper!!

Stephanie - posted on 01/22/2009

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i couldn't use this style!!! my son wouldn't stop crying. we tried for a week and he cried for over 2 hours. hes 3.5 now and has absolutely no issues with sleep. by the time he was 12 wks he was only up once a nite and by a year he was good for the nite. by 18months he was in a toddler bed and that started some issues but were quickly resolved with nurturing. its what you feel is best!

Paula - posted on 01/22/2009

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i would never let a baby of six weeks cry itself to sleep...theres something hes not happy about maybe hungry,not warm enough,just wants a hug remember babies have no other ways to express themselves.But i guess at the end of the day were all different.

Paula - posted on 01/22/2009

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Quoting Brenda:



I'm going to propose this because I am adament against cry it out at any age.  Just to let you know some things before you make this decision.  It is up to you of course, but I like to help people out with some facts they should look into first.  CIO at any age younger than four months is generally not recommended.  Long term crying causes a great deal of stress on an infant, usually increasing blood pressure and heart rate to alarming degrees.  In an adult, such things would not be allowed.  There is no evidence that cry it out does harm, but there is also no evidence that it does not.  There are no studies conducted with children under the age of four months, and few under six months on what exactly this method does toa child.  CIO DOES work.  There is no doubt about that, but the reason it works is very debateable.  As six different moms and you'll get six different reasons.  According to current thinking in the psychological community (and supported by several observational studies) has shown that children under the age of nine months will "give up" crying because of feeling abandoned by the parent.  If you make the choice to use CIO, please consider waiting until he his older, at least four months, and using a method called Ferberizing (look up Dr. Ferber who originated the cry it out "rage" of recent years."  Like I said you are the parent, so you make the choice for your child, I just encourage parents to look into some of these issues before they make this decision simply because we do not know what the effects are of CIO at very young ages.  Good luck





 

Brenda - posted on 01/22/2009

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I'm going to propose this because I am adament against cry it out at any age.  Just to let you know some things before you make this decision.  It is up to you of course, but I like to help people out with some facts they should look into first.  CIO at any age younger than four months is generally not recommended.  Long term crying causes a great deal of stress on an infant, usually increasing blood pressure and heart rate to alarming degrees.  In an adult, such things would not be allowed.  There is no evidence that cry it out does harm, but there is also no evidence that it does not.  There are no studies conducted with children under the age of four months, and few under six months on what exactly this method does toa child.  CIO DOES work.  There is no doubt about that, but the reason it works is very debateable.  As six different moms and you'll get six different reasons.  According to current thinking in the psychological community (and supported by several observational studies) has shown that children under the age of nine months will "give up" crying because of feeling abandoned by the parent.  If you make the choice to use CIO, please consider waiting until he his older, at least four months, and using a method called Ferberizing (look up Dr. Ferber who originated the cry it out "rage" of recent years."  Like I said you are the parent, so you make the choice for your child, I just encourage parents to look into some of these issues before they make this decision simply because we do not know what the effects are of CIO at very young ages.  Good luck!

Jessica - posted on 01/22/2009

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my son was 7 months and 2 weeks old before he could put himself / cry himself to sleep. Which was today. He did it for 15-20 minutes.  It also i think depends on their cry. But it will happen you just have to be consistent. 

Denise - posted on 01/22/2009

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I feel like this....if your baby is crying a normal, healthy baby cry (you as the mom can sense the difference in some of the cries your baby lets out), and you do in fact HAVE a healthy baby, there is nothing wrong with letting them cry themselves to sleep after 6-8weeks. Should after the first 5-10 minutes, the cry does not die down, I would check in, make sure its not a normal "Where are you mommy" cry. It is actually good for babies to cry, it exercises their lungs!

Angela - posted on 01/22/2009

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First of all congrats on the birth of your baby, he is adorabe! I'd say if he's got a clean dry diaper, and a full belly you can let him cry himself to sleep whenever your confortable with doing that : )

Sarah - posted on 01/22/2009

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i never let either of mine do that....... settled them down with a cd of baby songs ..... my daughter used to cry till she was sick when i tried it ..... the cd and calming her down worked

Julie-anne - posted on 01/22/2009

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Hi Stacy,, i dont think he is old enough to be left to cry till falls asleep,, i got twin boys an they were 4 last week. an i still dont let them cry their self to sleep, sorry hun but i think personally you shouldnt let him cry. must be hungry or bit ov wind x

Jessica - posted on 01/22/2009

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I recently took my 3 month old son to the dr. for his check-up and my doctor said around 2-3 months, it is ok to let them cry themselves back to sleep. If they're crying but fed and changed then it's ok . . . I would let my son cry for about 10 minutes (and literally set a timer) and if he was still crying after that, then I'd check on him, but ususally he would fall asleep within those 10. Hope this helped!

Fran - posted on 01/22/2009

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It is hard no matter what age you do it at.  If he is dry, fed and burped then you can let him cry.  It ain't easy.  Fran Kraft.

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