How old should you be to shave your legs?

Brianna - posted on 10/06/2009 ( 261 moms have responded )

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I have a 9 yr old that thinks she needs to shave her legs but i think she is way to young still.

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AnaLiesa - posted on 10/08/2009

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I will say the same thing my sister-in-law said. "when you can take care of yourself, you can shave." i personally would say 13 or 14.

Mandy - posted on 10/08/2009

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Probably unless its really hairly lol and dark in color. My bf's daughter wanted to at that age and they are Italian so she actually decided to let her. My daughter is 10 and I have noticed that it will not be very long until she will need to but I am going to try to hold off until she is closer to 12. We will c how that goes! good luck

Jessica - posted on 10/08/2009

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Some kids are okay at 11/12 they understand it is dangerous. There are always other ways besides the standard razors though too.

Jessica - posted on 10/08/2009

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I have a 9 year old that thniks she needs to shave but I wont let her. I let my older one start when she was 11 or 12.

Stacey - posted on 10/08/2009

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Using razor is scary - My daughter is 10 and she had very hairy legs kids were starting to make fun of her so I decided she could use the Nair. She has only used it twice in a matter of 6 - 8 months and she seems fine with that.

Jameica - posted on 10/08/2009

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At least a teenager!!!! I feel like 9yr old is too young!!! I have 11yr old twins, and definitely no.

Nicole - posted on 10/08/2009

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do they have hairy legs cause kids at school are mean! I was 14 before I could shave my legs and they were hary and I was sooo imbaressed! and the kids at school teased me I dont think there should be an age just do it when they are ready!!!!!!

Katy - posted on 10/08/2009

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I agree, I think 9 is too young. When I was 10.5 my Grandparents gave me a Lady Remington Electric Shaving kit. I was in heaven as I had the hairiest legs ever! I will be making my daughters wait until just before going into middle school.

Evelyn - posted on 10/08/2009

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Mine are 14 and 12 1/2 and both of them started around age 12. Some girls are not old enough to use a razor, and I advised mine that it's a PITA, and if they could avoid it, to avoid it. I used Neet or Nair when I was a teen, but I have some issues with the idea of using a chemical strong enough to melt hair - I would avoid them now.

Darnell - posted on 10/08/2009

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Yes she is. You should explain to her that she young , she should wait till she's a teenager.

Nancy - posted on 10/08/2009

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My daughter started at 10 with the razorless blade and a product kind of like nair. Then, after I watched her do that a few times, I got her a one blade razor....then moved on up to the good ones and letting her do it on her own. After a year and half she does better with no nicks than I do, sometimes. :)

Coco - posted on 10/08/2009

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I think it depends on the need. I had noticeable hair and started shaving at 10. I did use an electric razor primarily for the first few years, so you might consider that. Remington makes a nice one for like $20.

Brianna - posted on 10/08/2009

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I just wanted to say thank you to everyone the respond to my question you all helped me alot. Come to find out she only wanted to do it cause her 9yr old cousin did it. So we are not going to shave her legs she can wait.

Nancy - posted on 10/08/2009

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Hi Brianna, I think 9 is too young too.
Just to share....I wanted to at 11 yrs old but I'm much older than that now and DON'T want to anymore....so go figure why I couldn't wait to start. Think my Mom made me wait until 13. ( I didn't like her for that...but I sure LOVE her!!!)

Virginia - posted on 10/08/2009

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Yes, you are correct. Usualyy a good rule of thumb is when they begin their menstrual cycle, usually around 12 years old.It does vary per individual, but this is a good indicator. It really should be based on whether or not it is needed. Do not let her peer pressure affect YOUR judgement.

Laura - posted on 10/08/2009

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well how about the as seen on tv thing they sell them at walmart they r cheap and there is no blade and no harsh chem! hope it helps good luck!

Pam - posted on 10/08/2009

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I have a 12 and 13 year old. I just let them begin shaving in the last year. I never made it an issue. I went by their feelings and they felt uncomfortable in gym class, so I felt it was time. I dont think their is a set time. You should go by their feelings, of course if you can tell they just want to do it because Mommy does than I wouldnt allow it.

Jana - posted on 10/08/2009

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I went through this last year with my then 10 year old. She did have hairy legs and kids teased. I finally gave in over the summer and purchased an electric razor (I didn't want her to scar her legs). She shaved for a couple of weeks, it lost the novelty and now I have to tell her to go shave her legs!

Jeannine - posted on 10/08/2009

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My daughters really didn't ask, they just started doing it. I felt that if they were embarrassed enough to risk that on their own, then it was obviously time to do it and I shouldn't interfere.



As another mom said, it's a self esteem issue and we don't want our daughters to look like Sasquatch!! If it bothers her, get rid of the hair!! Whether you let her shave, use Nair, Veet or wax, whatever you do, if she broached the subject she is embarrassed by it and you need to help her. She may be being picked on for it and doesn't want to tell you. Kids tend to hide that from us.



I just don't think that shaving your legs is an important enough issue to stress over. If you think she's old enough to handle doing this herself, then let her.

Sue - posted on 10/08/2009

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Definitely way too young. Of course, it depends on how hairy her legs are. the problem with shaving is that it has to be done VERY frequently, so try to get her to use a depilatory cream. I'm a great fan of waxing, but don't let her try that yet as she'll definitely find it too painful.

Good luck!

Mary - posted on 10/08/2009

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if she's got hairy legs and they bother her let her shave them! it's not a big deal.don't sweat thesmall stuff. 11 is not too young

Melissa - posted on 10/08/2009

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i have three girls and a son. my oldest will be 12 in december, i followed the traditon as of my mom letting me shave when i finished 5th grade, like a reward for moving to middle school, so i let her start at age 11, i have a almost 10 year old as well and im not letting her do it until she is done with 5th grade as well. once they hit 6th grade they are with older kids , well in florida, our school system is k-5, then 6th, 7th, 8th, then 9-12, so it was appropriate due to her being more mature and around older kids. hope this helps!!

Carolyn - posted on 10/08/2009

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I think it depends on the child. Does your daughter have a dark hair that grows in at a very young age? I say that because my youngest daughter was born with dark hair on her body and that never went away, never lightened up, and by the time she was 4 she had some "obviously" hairy legs, underarms, upper lip, and other places. She felt very self-conscious about it so I began shave her legs for her when she was 6. I waxed her upper lip for the first time last summer and she is 8 now. I'll probably let her do it herself when she gets to be the age that both her sisters started shaving - about 11 or 12.

Jessica - posted on 10/08/2009

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My daughter's ten and I've taught her to shave her armpits but not her legs. I'd hate for her to look like sasquach by the time she's in high-school. lol We have light hair though so the situation may be different. And let me say it's really nice to see a question on here about a child older than 3 HAHA I was beginning to think I was the only mom on here that didn't have a baby!

Tricia - posted on 10/08/2009

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Hey... I think it depends on the girl and how mature she is... I think waxing is better. My daughter wanted to start about 10-11... I said no....mainly beacuse she wasn;t ready mature wise.. and her dad didn't like the idea of his little girl growing up... but saying this she is very fair with blonde hair.... if they have dark hair it is a different story in my opinion.

I said to my daugghter when she was 11 if she was that keen I would agree on waxing but not shaving beacuse the early you start with shaving the better.... different story with shaving. She decided that waxing was too painful....(worked this out via her friends) she waited another years and started at about 12 years old..... at this time he had started to get body hair as well.....

Good luck... what ever decsion you make...stick to it.

Amber - posted on 10/07/2009

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I have a seventeen year old that started at 10 and she loved it and still does... I also have a 9 year old who is a tom boy and she asked about shaving last week but that was the only time she mentioned it... if she asks again I will prolly have to tell her that she needs to wait till the summer but by then she will be 10... I will prolly start her out on an electric razor... it just seems safer...

Ava - posted on 10/07/2009

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Sit and talk with your daughter. find out why she wishes to do it. If it is just because, then talk with her about the responsibility of keeping up with it and taking care of herself.
If she is having problems at school with boys taking the mick because they can see the hair - whether people think you are too young or not, use creams to remove the hair, let her do it. These are very important times in a girls life and it is about her self-esteem. Talk with her and let her know that you are always there for her. There are some things you can make your kids wait for but just because one child waits does not mean another should. It is about you, her and the circumstance and you should never feel that what you are doing for her is not right. If she feels strongly about this then follow your gut and think about if you were in her place and your mum was telling you the same thing.

Abby - posted on 10/07/2009

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thanks for the question I was kinda wondering the same thing too. My daughter is also 9 and was asking when? Im not sure if it's because we are darker skinned and our hair is darker or because there are other girls able to shave.
Either way I think she is too young to be thinking about this and I will prolong her trying to grow up too fast for her age. Our society nowadays promotes our lil girls to look, act, dress older and they are just not mentally ready for it.
Being a child is part of growing up why should we rush our kids through it I cherish those days of playing and being carefree no worries! I want my girls to have those memories too.
Their is always going to be someone talking we should be teaching our girls to stand up for themselves especially at this age so they will have more confidence for other issues that are going to come up and they will be more confident and build self esteem.

Dawn - posted on 10/07/2009

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I am a mom of two (one daughter & one son) & a grandma of two (both girls) . . . . .I have worked with public as well as private schools and alot of "pressure" begins at the 5 grade level to be "normal"!(A) Your daughter body will start to "change" and when she as well as you have some kind of control - you will be better off . . . . shaving in the summer between 4 - 5 grade is the ideal time to "ajust" - hope that helps (mom & grandma)

Mary - posted on 10/07/2009

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My daughter had really long dark hair and when she got her period in 5th grade, 10-11 we shaved them together, me doing the first time for her and them as she felt comfortable to continue on her own, again she was very hairy and it was easy to let her:)

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Oh God, they start early these days! I shaved my legs for the first time at 12 - cut the hell out of myself. I still have the scars. I'd go Nair. It's probably carcinogenic, but at least she won't bleed to death. And I do think she's too young, but it's a tough world out there for our little girls.

Jeannine - posted on 10/07/2009

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What happens if she doesn't start her period until later? My mom and I both started at 11. My sis started at 16. One of my daughters started hers at 12 and another was only 9! I don't think the period has anything to do with it. We've all shaved our legs since they became noticeable. If we're embarrassed by it, then it's time for it to go. My youngest is 9 and she just started shaving hers last night actually. For her, it is a necessity as she has black hairs like mine. As many other moms have said, it just depends on the child.

Veronica - posted on 10/07/2009

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I have an 11yr old daughter. she's only asked me about shaving legs once. Honestly she can't even remember to put on deodorant and wear a bra every day. I think once she is old enough to want to smell good and look nice she's ready for shaving. Every person is different.

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I have a ten year old and I let her start at about 9. She doesn't shave everyday so it won't grow back thick. She might shave once a week if that. I was about the same age when I started. I think if she is shown properly and its something she feels comfortable with then compromise with her. I only let my daughter use razors that have a shield on them to protect against nicks. Also she isn't allowed to shave past her the top of her knee. Neet and Nair is a good way to go too.l

Jennifer - posted on 10/07/2009

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Hi! I have a step daughter who has tons of hair, and her mother wouldn't let her shave her arms or legs btw 11-12. Her father decided it was ok for me to let her given that she was starting a new middle school. If your kiddo is hairy let her shave. Just suprvise the first few times and even start with her shaving on the side of the tub (just her lower limbs to help prevent mishaps). I think anything chemically based is a bad idea. It only takes a few extra seconds to get burns and they are no fun at all!!

Shanon - posted on 10/07/2009

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i have 3 daughters. my oldest just turned 12. shes been asking for over a year. we also did acomprmise. last year we tried the smooth away thing they sell at wallmart. no chemicals. it worked. i told her when she turned 12. we talk more seriously. she is now shaving. but says its a pain. because it grows back fast and she does get nicks sometimes. but she is now a less self consious. i showed her how to do it. hope this helps.

Stacy - posted on 10/07/2009

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Only 1 mention of an electric razor. I can't believe it. That was my first experience at the age of 12. I too remember the epilady it was horrible. Used it once and took it back, but an electric razor is a safe way that doesn't use chemicals or anything that will cut you and lead to possible infection. That is just my opinion.

Caddie - posted on 10/07/2009

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i have two teenage girls,i told they have to wait untill they were 13 they both did wait it was sort of a special thing the did when they became teenagers.

Sharon - posted on 10/07/2009

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I started shaving my daughters legs when she was 6, because we have dark hair and it grows very long, very fast. We really had no other choice. Otherwise people would think we were monkeys. LOL Its really more a matter of hygiene.

Evelyn - posted on 10/07/2009

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i'm a lil late, but i think 13 years...i mean girls shouldn't be worrying about their legs at a young age...i have a 9 year old myself and i dont want her to worry about shaving her legs...my 15 and a half year old daughter first shaved at 13...a good thing to experience when u first turn into a teen...it's ok...

Nancy - posted on 10/07/2009

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My daughter was 11 or 12 she asked before that but I would always reply don't start until you just have to because once you start you can never stop

Cristy - posted on 10/07/2009

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well I think 11 or 12 is perfect but here is a good compromise for ya......you know that NAIR stuff? Well you just put it on, leave it for about 15 min. then hop in the shower and rinse off..NO RAZORS NEEDED!! plus u have smooth ..hairless legs......she will be happy and u can rest easy. But have her buy it with her own money if she wants it that bad

Kathleen - posted on 10/07/2009

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unfortunately girls are maturing faster then we did. you have to look at that. I have 3 girls and they all started different times I look at when they were going though their change. My daughters who got the periods in 4th grade and some not until 9th. You have to look a when your daughter starts to develope and go on that, I do not think you can put a age on it.

Autumn - posted on 10/07/2009

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are her legs hairy? then it may just be time. whether your ready or not is really not the question. it is more about the need to do the deed than the deed its self. if she has hairy legs and wants to ...go for it.

Tracey - posted on 10/07/2009

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I guess it depends on how hairy they are and the colouring. I didn't shave until I was 15 or so but I have a fair complexion and my body hair is very fine and light in colouring. I noted however that when I did start shaving, the hair became darker each time. Now at the age of 46 I am lucky enough not to have to shave very often at all as they are so light and I most wear trousers or jeans so no-one notices.

Carolynne - posted on 10/07/2009

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I agree with you all that once you shave that you cant go back.... Lord knows it true, but what about those unfortunate young girls who are extra hair (more then normal)? While I agree once you start you cant stop and you should wait until they are older when possible. I do think there are certain circumstances that you can make exceptions and it depends on the situation. My daughter is already hairy and she is 3 years old..... She has dark black hair on her body--now I wouldnt let her shave at a early age but I would allow bleaching or nair.. For all I know maybe as she gets older it might not be as bad, but just saying each child is different and sometimes how you handle it might be different... =0) I do know they have stuff that helps retard the growth as well---dunno if it works but heard about it... hehehe my son has a nice unibrow going on and he has seen me wax my friend and myself.. He is like no way mommy never waxing my my brows. lol

Vanja - posted on 10/07/2009

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sorry for the question, i don't know where are you all from, but does any of you use cold wax? i mean, if young girls start with the shaving, it would only get worse....

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