how should i dress my baby girl?

Grace - posted on 05/31/2012 ( 73 moms have responded )

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i already have a child who has a diffrent dad to my unborn baby and my first childs dad knew what clothes to put on her but i have no idea and my unborn babies dad has no idea etheir. please help. P.S i want to know for the future

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Kappy - posted on 06/02/2012

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I think our 19-yr-old second-time mother just didn't make it clear enough exactly what she meant by "dressing the baby." I think she may mean what kinds of clothes are safe (no hoodie strings or ties on clothing), which ones are easier to manage (snaps between the legs keep t-shirts from pulling up every time you pick up your baby - one piece items are easier to manage with the non-walking set)... not what kinds of things look cute.

When you choose shoes for your baby, only very lightweight ones when he/she is not walking. Even socks alone or barefoot, depending on the weather. When the baby begins to walk, look for a flexible sole that can bend easily. Those kinds are shoe are better for learning to walk. If you have a girl, it is darn hard to crawl in a dress, so maybe don't put her in dresses until she is walking around pretty well.

With my son, I liked having "pajamas" for him at night, even though when you have a baby less than 6 months old, everything they wear just about could be considered "jammies!" I used his nicer more expensive one-piece outfits as his "clothes for the day" and the thinner more close fitting items that I got in the Wal-Mart baby aisle in a package with 3 others as the jammies. Sometimes sleepers for night time instead if the house was cool.

I see more problems with babies being too hot than too cold. People bundle their baby up to take him/her out and go into the grocery store... but once inside, they leave the baby's hat/coat on, while taking their own off! Baby gets hot and starts to cry and just gets more hot and worked up, and mom seems oblivious to the little red-faced sweltering infant in the cart in front of her! I found it very hard to take a coat on and off my son, so I just had a big warm baby blanket that I bundled around him for the short walk from the car to the store & just pulled it off when we were inside. Was much easier to manage for me.

All of these things said, at 19, you are very VERY young to have two children. A parenting class would be such a great idea, not because you suck, but because every little bit you can learn about this whole parenting thing is helpful. Being younger than most, you have less general life experience, so you may find a class (and any books you might choose to pick up on parenting) more helpful than some moms who being having children later.

Best of luck!

Erin - posted on 06/02/2012

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I am not one to respond much to the post I read on here but however, I feel a need to this time. I thought this was a place to receive help from other moms and not to discourage others or poke fun at those who need help. I am finding some of the post to be very disrespectful. Grace seems to be in need of some advice from us who can provide it. If feel that if you have nothing helpful to say then just move on.

Grace, just remember to dress your baby like you are dressed for the weather. Make sure your baby is not to cold or hot and you will be ok. Also, remember to keep the baby well feed, clean and healthy and give lots of love and you should be fine. Good luck and God Bless

Liz - posted on 06/02/2012

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Honestly, I sympathise with the fact that you are 'only 19' and clearly in a situation that is both hard and overwhelming...but...

...if you cannot work out that you need to put weather appropriate clothes on a baby or do not understand how they are unable to regulate their body temperature in the same way that we do as adults, then you need _help_ and _education_.

Find yourself some parenting classes and complete a course. Please.

Did you also work out how to baby proof your house and make it safe? If not, get on the internet and do some research. I don't mean to be brutal, but being 19 is not an excuse: you're a mom now and you need to step up to the plate.

I hope things work out well for you.

Sarah - posted on 05/31/2012

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A good rule of thumb is 1 layer more than what you are wearing. When my babies were newborns, I generally would dress them in a diaper, onesie, and sleeper if we were in the house. When we went out, I'd add a hat and light coat (usually with a receiving blanket or light blanket over top). If they were dressed in an outfit, I'd just put a onesie on underneath, and that would be their extra layer. In essence, you want to avoid them getting too cool or too hot. Newborns really struggle to maintain their body temperature, so you just need to follow this rule of thumb and monitor for signs of being too cool/hot.

Susan (Jimmie's Aunt Susie) - posted on 06/02/2012

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To add a different possible angle. It sounds to me as if the father of Grace's first baby, and probably his family members (maybe his Mom?) took over the total care of her first child. That does happen sometimes when a mother is so young. At the agency I used to work for, I worked in the early childhood division. I saw more than one single father there, sometimes because the mom couldn't care for the baby and sometimes because they actually wanted to be the child's main caregiver. It sounds to me as if Grace didn't have a chance to do these things with her first one because the baby's father and/or his family members took over totally. Just a possible spin on things from someone whose seen a lot of different family situations.

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Audrey - posted on 08/17/2012

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I agree with Helen. Dress them like you are dressing yourself, an extra layer or blanket in the diaper bag never hurts. IF you are uncertain, just layer up and remove layers as needed. This is especially good for the changing weather of spring and fall.

I really think you could benefit from parenting classes to build your confidence. Not to mention you will be able to ask all sorts of questions without a lot of the nonsense around on the internet.

Helen - posted on 08/17/2012

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Well ignore the ugly replies, because that is pretty much what you got! You've got alot of great replies too tho remember, use them. Dress your baby weather appropriate, take an extra cardie/blanket out with you, dress her how you'd dress yourself. Dresses are useful in summer, no poppers to do undo and do up!! Don't put shoes on them until they need them, bare feet are better (remember, this is just all my opinion, everyone is different). On that note, don't concentrate too hard on what everyone else is dressing their babies in, because they may well feel just as you do and have insecurities as to what to do too. Loads of luck on the birth and going forward xx

Grace - posted on 08/17/2012

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Helen Tickle i almost did leave and stopped checking cause i thought the posts would be 'what a stupid question im not answering this' or 'are you a dumbo, did you come from nno brain or no babys land'

Grace - posted on 08/17/2012

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can everyone who is putting mean things on that are not answers just SHUT UP! im getting upset now im NOT STUPID! i have made my house safe and just leave me alone!

Grace - posted on 08/17/2012

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ok. i made this post but i had to make a new accoint cause i could not log in for some reason, and i need help because its a week untill she is due and i need help cause i look at other peoples newbrons and one is wearing shorts and t-shirt while another one is wrapped is a blanket and a babygro on the same day!

Grammie - posted on 06/16/2012

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you need to talk to your doctor or hospital or a nurse and get some help... you really do need it.

Carly - posted on 06/15/2012

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Sorry but this girl is taking the piss, shes done other stupid posts like this aswell

Carly - posted on 06/15/2012

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i was 16 when i had my first! i knew what to dress her in by looking at other kids/family ect. are you really that dumb or just bored????

Medic - posted on 06/13/2012

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I agree Karen....This is life....everything is not sunshine and roses.

Kkrjrpleggett - posted on 06/12/2012

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If anyone is being "nasty" it's Lisa. That statement of feeling bad for Our children because we do not believe this post is legit is more harmful than anyone expressing their doubts of legitimacy and expressing concern for this girl''s children.

Renee - posted on 06/12/2012

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Doc told ne when I was expecting my first, dress a baby one degree warmer than yourself. In other words, if I was comfortable in shorts and I dresses my baby in those cotton stretch pants. Bye if its really warm, shorts and a t-shirt would be fine. Same rule for cold weather. Babies have their own preferences too. You should do just fine. Trust yourself.

Alma - posted on 06/12/2012

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I tried to look up her other posts but was unable to, all I know is, some of these responses discourage me to post my questions.

Audrey - posted on 06/12/2012

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I still think responding with negativity at all accomplishes nothing. It just feeds into that type of personality that seeks attention if that is all she is doing. Kinda boring if all you get are helpful, well thought responses if you are trolling for drama and attention.

I would have made a terrible mother at 19 and been pretty clueless and lack confidence with a baby even if it was my second. Hell at 32 I still question if I am good enough to be the mom my kids need and I want to be.

Mamacat - posted on 06/12/2012

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You say you already have a child....at some point you MUST have dressed your own child! Use common sense...if you dont know how to dress a baby...how will you know how to feed hiim/her?? Please get some help....being 19 is not an excuse. Many people have babies even younger than 19, but know how to use common sense! This question confuses and worries me!

Sally - posted on 06/12/2012

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As Medic mum pointed out ! This same lady posted lots of different qustions on the same day i.e when do yo let your 1 year old choose her own clothes but she needs hekp with this one. Sorry but i have seen a few people on here just for the fun and games. How does that help people who really need it. Maybe you should look at her other posts and you may understand why its very hard to believe in this.

Audrey - posted on 06/12/2012

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What I don't understand is how a question some moms might consider silly be more damaging than being rude or negative to the person asking? Seriously.

Lisa - posted on 06/12/2012

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It's amazing to me that people this nasty are actually mothers themselves. Poor kids.

Medic - posted on 06/12/2012

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Last I checked the internet is free communication, we are free to express our feelings just as you are free to express yours. There were about 5 posts all made the same day and none of them add up together.

You can call my post whatever you want but I would say the same thing in person, I do not need to hide behind anything. I am a call it like it is person.

Being snarky in return makes a great post.....thanks mom.

Sally - posted on 06/11/2012

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I wasn't explaining on my behalf,i have no need to. I also assure you im not the troll here wasting peoples time. Posts like this are damaging . Oh thanks for the snarky post

Audrey - posted on 06/11/2012

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You can explain away all you like, it still doesn't excuse bad behavior.

I wouldn't bother responding to negativity, rudeness, mocking, etc after a certain point either. I did see some responses before more jumped on the 'attack her because it can't be real' bandwagon.

If you can't be helpful and only have something snarky to add...go troll somewhere else.

Sally - posted on 06/11/2012

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We have asked Grace to explain what the problem is ,why shes having problems with this one . You might note that shes replied to none.

Edit: for spelling

Audrey - posted on 06/11/2012

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so...you respond to a person you say is 'trolling' by being negative and rude....wow.

So assuming she was a troll that would be exactly what she was looking to get...congratulations.

I don't believe she is, and if you don't feel like helping or feel like being negative, rude, or being disrespectful, take it somewhere else. And yes I am being a bit rude myself here, but it just steams me that people feel the need to belittle others so much from behind the safety of their keyboards.

grace, i think the others had offered some helpful advice....also the nightgowns for babies are great for nighttime...those little flaps on the sleeves flip over and cover the fingernails so they can't scratch themselves while mommy is asleep. my oldest would gum her little gloves off and scratch herself up until a nurse told me what they were for. I had no clue!

I think parenting classes would be a great idea to help you build up your confidence and skills as a parent. I am considering some even though my kids are a bit older so I can be a better parent.

Medic - posted on 06/11/2012

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Regina- Grace states in another post that she has a one year old. Her question there was when do I let her pick out her own clothes.

Regina - posted on 06/11/2012

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Does anyone not realize that her first baby..she could have avoided taking care of all together...just because she is having a 2nd child, does not mean that she actually stopped to take care of the first one? The first baby could have been cared for entirely by the father...Why can't anyone see that is probably why she has no idea how to dress the second child? The Scenario : Grace has the first baby...she realizes that she is too young to take care of it....her ex's family takes the child and helps her ex raise it..completely taking her out of the picture of caring for the child....Yes Grace might 19 years old now with her second child...makes you wonder what age did she have her first child? For all you know, she could have given the first baby up for adoption the day that she was born..

Alma - posted on 06/10/2012

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Grace, my son was a December baby, and we lived in a cold, old, house! I fell in love with those gowns with the stretch bottom, very quick and easy to change diapers. My advice is avoid Gerber brand clothing, wash cloths and towels. In my opinion, they were very poor quality onesies in comparison to Carter's or Circo. Dont worry about getting too much cute clothes, you go through outfits all day with messy babies. Look into re-sale shops if you don't know anyone in your area, my son lived in hand me downs. Since you haven't responded in awhile, I hope some of these posts didn't scare you away. Best of luck to you, and your new family, and I encourage you and the father of your unborn baby to take as many classes and read as much stuff as you can. You learn so much that way, only through experience do you realize anything can happen, but at least allow yourself to go into this with CONFIDENCE by preparing!

Mary - posted on 06/10/2012

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It is humbling enough to ask for help from total strangers as a young mother; Grace does not need insults to top it off. Grace, I applaud you for your honesty and for doing your best to find answers when your family is not nearby to support you; that is extremely difficult for any new mother, regardless of her age. I understand you already have a baby, but if you were left out of some decisions you may feel like you're starting over again. Becoming a mother is a bewildering experience and there are a lot of questions to answer; I understand and I didn't become a mother until I was almost 30! All my friends who had babies were far away and I didn't have much reference for the simple things like how to dress a baby either, so I just did my best and read some books and tried to observe other moms. I had a summer baby and she practically lived in onesies for the first several months.

I think you need to trust your instincts as a mother - only you are her mother, and those instincts are powerful tools to help you grow in your confidence and your relationship to her. My best advice is to pay attention to your baby, get to know her, and you will begin to see the things that she needs for yourself.

Becky - posted on 06/10/2012

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Grace, did you not ever have to choose clothes or dress your first baby? And if that is the case, may I suggest birth control because if at age 19 you cannot figure some of the basics of caring for a newborn out, you need to consider waiting until you are older to have children. And if you have internet access, then you can find a lot of basic child care sites to assist you with this. Are you able to feed your child? Do you have programs in your area to help with parenting? What do you do when she is sick? You have been given a lot of good basic advice on here but I will still worry insanely about the safety and welfare of your children.

Pamela - posted on 06/10/2012

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I am not certain what you mean. You dress a child in appropriate clothes for the weather and conditions where you live.

Unlike when I was growing up, there are no "certain colors" assigned to one sex or the other. Choose clothing you like and as the child gets older they can choose the clothing they like, with your approval.

Patricia - posted on 06/06/2012

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sweetie dress your baby appropriately for the weather and buy some lovely pink things you like don't worry you will work it out buy some clothes and some slightly bigger ones because they grow fast for that time of the year but also have a few things just in case the weather is different be well prepared better to be safe than sorry

Helen - posted on 06/04/2012

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Please do not make this lady feel small with your replies. Many thanks.

Helen - posted on 06/04/2012

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I absolutely agree Erin, a lot of these posts back at you Grace are disrespectful. Ladies come on here for help, so please only be helpful or she may not come back again for help, and we've lost a mum from here, what a shame.
Grace, agree too on the advice, if you're hot and not wearing sleeves, dress your baby the same way, but bring a cardie and/or blanket just in case.
Lots of luck, and parenting classes for advice are a fabulous idea.
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Jen - posted on 06/04/2012

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My whole problem with this whole thing was I was 19 when I had BOTH of my children. You can't blame age. You're young. Ok, so what? This is not your first rodeo, whether your baby's father dressed your other child or not, you HAD to see what was being put on your baby. This can NOT be real. If it is, you need much more help than this board can give you.

Medic - posted on 06/03/2012

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Is this real? Can you dress yourself? Its not rocket science. Do you have your first child? Do you know what causes pregnancy? How to prevent it? You cannot have gone through life and NEVER have seen a baby or a child. My husband was 19 when we had our first and granted almost 6 years later his fashion sence blows but he can get the kids dressed. Maybe you need to get educated I know they talk about how babies are made...and the weather....and they teach appropriate social and weather permiting clothing choices. I am thinking troll.

Raylene - posted on 06/03/2012

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I believe that once you have the baby you will do everything you can to protect your baby. Your motherly instinct will kick in and you will do fine. Parenting classes will help too. Go to moms and tots groups and get advice from other moms too.

Nicola - posted on 06/03/2012

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My midwife said a good way to check if baby was dressed for the weather was to place my fingers down the back of their neck. It was a quick and easy way to conclusively check. Then I'd add or remove clothes accordingly. I still do it with my toddler sometimes.

Kkrjrpleggett - posted on 06/02/2012

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I'm with you Sally. I cannot believe this is a real question! At the very least, it's common sense. She HAS a child already! Even if she doesn't have custody of that child, she presumably did for at least a short time. She has eyes and could see what the baby was wearing. There are cases of Children (10years and younger) taking care of younger siblings because mom/dad are incapacitated (passed out, etc) who are able to dress, feed and even change the diapers of the younger children. Mind that is an extreme case, but the "I'm only 19" excuse doesn't float with me. I gave some advice earlier, but I highly doubt the legitimacy of this post.

Jennifer - posted on 06/02/2012

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I can totally empathize with this poster. I was also 19 when I hadd my first child. I had never had exposure/experience with babies. However, i did read and i did have family to guide me and teach me. I would definitely seek out a parenting class and also the "What to expect..." series as it addresses the first year and then there is a toddler book as well. I used them with my last two children since there was a huge age gap between my first. I found myself referencing them regularly. You may also want to check out Babies R Us as they also have some free parenting seminars and it can expose you to some products that may help you and the staff can make recommendations.

As the other posters have commented--dress the baby for the weather. When it gets cooler, dress in layers but not too much. Be sure to check the babies diaper regularly, keep them clean and bathed, fed well, brush their teeth adn give lots of love. Most importantly put their needs before your own.

Good luck and God Bless!!

Sally - posted on 06/02/2012

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Maybe your right about others taking over but she has eyes in her head and would have had to be around baby. Im sorry but that just doesn't wash . A very young person can pick up how to look after a baby from watching ,many of them have to be come carer if mum gets ilk. So until this young lady can give an account of herself, i think its a wind up . I also think that wind ups are unfair to people who do need help here.

Samantha - posted on 06/02/2012

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Dress her in girl clothes and put the same amout or one more lauer on her than you have on babies are usually comfortable if you are

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I'm with Sally. Look, I was 25 when I had my son and was as ignorant as they come when it came to babies. I was the youngest, I was never around infants. My son was the first baby I ever even held. At the hospital, I had his nappies on BACKWARDS. Ok, I was ignorant.

Which is why I'm not all that convinced here. She already HAS ONE CHILD! Unless she clarifies, I'm thinking this is a joke. Those who think I"m being mean and awful, please explain (as SAlly also asked) how she managed to forget how to dress a baby after the first one?

Sally - posted on 06/02/2012

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I am not being nasty. I do truely wonder if this is a real question. If this 19 year old has one child already , please all you wise people , who thinks the posts are not nice explain how she FORGOT to dress this one ,think this is a wind up.



ETA: yes this site is here to help and support but this sort of messing around doesn't help the people that need it. She said shes 19 she says she already has a baby. This sort of post really doesn't help anyone.

Leonie - posted on 06/02/2012

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Hi Grace! I don't know where you are from but dress bubs according to the weather. Light layers are better as babies don't regulate their body temps. Be careful not to overdress or overheat the baby as well, overheating is one of the linked causes of SIDS. I would also recommend you linking up with a Child Health Nurse. In Australia, they are a free community support service and are under the government department of Health. They are a wealth of support and information and can link you up to other services that are associated with parenting and Childcare. I would expect that whatever country you are in there should be some kind of similar service. All the best! :)

Kkrjrpleggett - posted on 06/02/2012

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How do you NOT know how to dress your baby? I'm at a loss on this one. Maybe if this was your First child, I could understand you asking, but you already have had a baby. How do you NOT know how to dress your baby? I'm so confused. Dress according to the weather. If you are comfortable in a t-shirt and shorts, your baby most likely would be comfortable that way too. If you are cold and put on a sweater, you should probably put one on your baby. Layers are good. In the summer usually just a onsie and diaper is okay, or a thin romper or dress. I'm just so confused how you Don't know this? It's common sense!

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