how to break a 3 year old from pacifier?

Denice - posted on 04/23/2009 ( 20 moms have responded )

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I have a 3 year old daughter and she is hooked on her paci , mostly at bedtime but she tries to sneak it every now and then. i tried cutting them and she was so upset about what. should i keep trying to get rid of it or should i just let her get rid of it on her own?

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Kristen - posted on 08/27/2010

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I'm really hesitant to lie to my kids (although I gotta say, the binky fairy makes it tempting!) When I was three, my parents traded my pacy for a beautiful baby doll (still have her!) and we did the same with my daughter for her bottles (none of my kids took to pacifiers, so we didn't have this exact problem)

Louise - posted on 08/27/2010

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Two ways you either let her have it until she grows out of it or you go down the binky fairy line. Buy a nice gift bag and tell your daughter that you have just been speaking to the binky fairy and she has run out of binkys for all the little babies and if you give all your binkys to the fairy she will give you a special gift in the morning. Go on a treasure hunt with your daughter putting them all in the bag including the one in her mouth and then take it out in the garden and tie it to a tree or something high up. Tell her the fairy will come when she is asleep and take the binkys to all the little babies and leave her a big girl surprise for being so helpful. When she is in bed replace the dummies with a toy you know she will like and sprinkle it with glitter. In the morning watch her face as she looks out the window and gets her knew toy.

Chrissy - posted on 08/27/2010

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I just wanted to say I don't agree with blaming the dog for destroying the pacifier. If the child is really upset about not having his pacifier anymore he might take it out on the dog and depending on the temperament of the dog you could have a dangerous situation on your hands. I know my son loves his pacifier and his dogs and I wouldn't want to ruin their close relationship. I would just tell the child they are lost or that they got to old and fell apart, leave the dog out of it!

User - posted on 04/24/2009

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o-kay my little guy will be 3 on Wed. and he still has it at night. I think I am going to try the idea of "The dog ate it" I will let you know!

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Do you have a dog? Cut the end off, tell her the dog chewed on it and it is gone gone! lol Worked for ours...

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My doctor said that up until age four its ok to have a binky, but I coudn't put up with it. Ive heard of lots of ways to get rid of them. Like finding another baby for them to "give" it to, or a visit from the paci fairy. One I heard of recently was making the paci into a necklace. Usually by the age of three of more, the paci is just for securty and not to acutally soothe them. So by having it on a necklace they still feel like they have their security, but they aren't sucking on it and damaging their teeth. Of course it woudn't be safe to have them sleep with it on! Good Luck!

Ashley - posted on 04/23/2009

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Girl - I do NOT know! Let me know when you get her off of it - mine is almost FOUR!!! I was thinking about the cutting thing yesterday, but I am so scared that it won't work and I'll be at WalMart in the middle of the night.

Mrs_gp79 - posted on 04/23/2009

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just take it and cut a hole at the top and she will eventually throw it down. i had the same problem with my son and after a while he did not want it when i cut the hole in it.

User - posted on 04/23/2009

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Think of the ortho cost. If she is 3 and still on it you can almost count on $5500.00 on braces. That would be if she were in them now, In 9 years when she's ready imagine the cost!!! Prepare yourself for one bad week and throw it away!!

Elisa - posted on 04/23/2009

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When ever I wanted my kids to give up something I would ask them who would they like to give it to. Then we would wrap it up and make a big deal about giving it away. The other Mom would then hide it and give it back when no one was looking. Pacifier, bottles, etc. gone!! Hope this helps

Maria - posted on 04/23/2009

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My youngest son used to walk around the house with his pacifier when he was 3 and even slept with it, until one day when he wasn't looking my husband took it away and hid it up in the cupboards where he can't see it, replaced it with a small sip-a-cup and told him that our dog, Leilani, ate it, when he started looking for it. He fussed at first, but then he got used to not having it in the end. He slept with stuffed animal instead.

Lisa - posted on 04/23/2009

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When we took our oldest sons paci away. He did cry the first night for a long time. the next night is shorter. by the 4th night he would just fall asleep with out crying.. My 2nd son he chewed on his paci we told him when the last paci was chewed through there were no more..that was 3 nights ago and he goes to bed with a stuff animal instead.

Kirsteen - posted on 04/23/2009

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My son used his dummy at night time but Santa Claus took it away on Christmas Eve when he was 3 years old. We discussed this with him for a while before christmas and he was happy to leave his dummy alongside the goodies he left for Santa. Was so preoccupied with the gifts on christmas morning that we never looked back! Got to say, it was easier than I expected.

Jen - posted on 04/23/2009

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We are going through a similar problem with our 3 year old son. He only wants it at bedtime...we have talked about the binky fairy, and he knows that the binky fairy is going to visit soon, and if he leaves his binky under the pillow, then the fairy will leave him a surprise....We have tried everything else, if this doesn't work, I don't know what else to do!

Andrea - posted on 04/23/2009

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just get rid of it. the older she gets the harder it will be. we did it with my son at 2 1/2. he found a toy that he really wanted (a toy piano) & we took him to the toy store. he bought it with the pacis. it was hard that whole week, but then he was fine.

Myriah - posted on 04/23/2009

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My daughter is 8 now but leading up to her 3rd birthday we talked about how big girls don't use pacifiers. We talked about it a lot and she made the choice to give it up on her birthday. She never looked back. But then she is the kind of child you could reason with. Hope it helps.

Rachael - posted on 04/23/2009

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My boyfriends mother told me about how she got his brother to stop using the paci. She said he would scream bloody murder if he did not have it with him at all times so she finally poked a small hole in the end of it. She said he put it in his mouth tried to suck on it and got air so he took it out and threw it against the wall. Then he ran, picked it up and stuck it back in his mouth. She said it went on for a while with him tossing it and then running and grabbing and sticking it back in his mouth but he finally gave it up and never as for it again. My boyfriend remembers watching him doing it and said it was hilarious. They all laugh about it now-except poor Brandon who does not find the horrible horrible torture his mother put him through funny.

Jennifer - posted on 04/23/2009

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My daughter gave it to a new baby at daycare. We talked about how she was a big girl now and that the new baby needed a binkie. She willingly gave it to the new baby. I don't think she truly understood that the binkie was gone for good until bedtime. She cried the first night for an hour straight but I would go in and comfort her and tell her that baby Nora needed it. Each night it got better. She began to cry less and less. It took a week before she was able to go to sleep without crying. She asked for it for probably another month or so but didn't get upset when I told her that baby Nora needed it. You just have to know that she is going to cry and it is going to kill you to listen to her. It broke my heart that first night. I cried until she fell asleep, but it got better each night. Just stick to it. If you break down and give it back to her then she is going to learn that if she cries enough mommy will give it back.

Linda - posted on 04/23/2009

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If it is only a bedtime then I think it is not a huge issue. If she wants to take it to school or daycare...then it is time to have her give it up. Make sure your buy the pacifiers that are okay for her teeth. Explain to her that only babies use them and she is a big girl now. One day she will through it out by herself. At least that is what happened with my kids.

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