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Cherise - posted on 03/29/2010 ( 3 moms have responded )

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Ok so I feel like I have all the answers when it comes to giving advice on various subjects from dealing with men to dealing with awkward conversations with kids. HOWEVER the one convo I don't have all the answers to is how to break it to my daughter that there is no santa or any other fictional character for that matter. My daughter is 7 going on 8 years old this coming August. Even though I've made it clear as to what these different holidays and events (ie- Christmas, Easter etc) actually mean and what they were about, I've always pretty much told her that these mythical creatures associated with these holidays existed so that she would get the same enjoyment I got when I was little and for her to have something to look forward to just as I did when I believed santa would visit me! The only thing is now she's getting word that santa is not real from talking with her friends at school. And for some reason when she comes to me and asks me about it I freeze up and become speechless. Its not the same as the birds and the bees talk for me for some reason. Compared to this, that seems easy! I guess I freeze because I don't wanna break her heart because she really believes that these things exist! I know its time to tell her but how do I break it to her gently? Please help!

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Kathy - posted on 03/31/2010

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My son is the same age. Luckily I have been through this. I always ask, "What do you beleive?". I let my kids beleive as long as they want. My daughter figured out Santa the same way I did-Santa's handwriting is the same as Mom's. LOL Sadly the Tooth Fairy kept falling asleep before her and eventually I had to tell her the truth. Made it easier on me. That is when she figured out the Easter Bunny. Joey will eventually figure it out all on his own and I will let him. Of course-all of will still visit except the Tooth Fairy since he will eventually stop losing teeth. LOL

Angela - posted on 03/30/2010

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That is so sad that she is so young and people are telling her this. My older girls came to me close to that age and I asked them do you believe them and when they said no I said maybe they just do not believe because they did not get a gift they wanted. But if she says she believes her friends then say ok there is no such thing as a real Santa or Easter bunny but explain what it means to celebrate these things. But let her know it is wrong to ruin someone elses holiday by telling them. My girls know not to ruin it for my son who still believes.

Iridescent - posted on 03/29/2010

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We had to deal with this over the past year. We didn't want our older kids to "ruin" the same enjoyment for the younger ones because of it, either. We were honest with them. We told them that the spirit of them is real, but the actual character is not. The thoughts behind it are what counts, and for little kids having the character is important.

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