How to deal with a child who screams, kicks and throw himself down both at home & daycare

Cindy - posted on 07/26/2012 ( 8 moms have responded )

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My 30months old son goes to home day care and he is the only child that does not talk clear compare to other kids who are older than him by months..lately, we have being receiving letters from the daycare provider regarding his behavior such as screaming, kicking and refusing to remove his shoes.. is it too late or any advise will help

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Dove - posted on 07/28/2012

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At 2.5 if his verbal skills are holding him back... speak to the doctor about getting a hearing test and evaluation for speech services. He might not qualify, but if he does.... they will help a LOT.

A lot of it could just be normal for his age (I had a super stubborn one with a BAD temper), but perhaps looking into the speech is a good place to start.

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Mary - posted on 07/28/2012

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don't know if this will help my son who's 5 has disablities and has been getting speech therapy/ OT since he was a baby even with having down syndrome he his a lot further behind than most children with his condition. It took 2 years and a lot of persistance to get a diagnoses of cerebal palsy and global developmental delay, even though the C.P is slight. You can qualify for these services of therapies speak to your GP to get a referal

Dove - posted on 07/28/2012

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My son was speaking in paragraphs by 2.5, but his pronunciation was lacking. He qualified for services when he turned 3 and in 6 months he was discharged from the program because of his progress. Don't delay. The earlier the better.

Cherish - posted on 07/28/2012

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Hi,
He may not want to remove his shoes because he does not like how her floor feels on his feet.And obviously a speech delay would cause frustration.
Is he in speech therapy?In the US there is a program called child find/early intervention and they will evaluate and provide speech/OT services for free.When he does turn 3,if there is still a delay,they provide pre-school at no charge.
Here is a link to the CDC web site and you can call them and get the number for the people you need to call to set up a free eval in your area:

http://www.cdc.gov/ncbddd/actearly/miles...

Also here is a link to symptoms of sensory processing issues:
http://www.sensory-processing-disorder.c...

You can also call your local children's hospital and make a appointment with a developmental pediatrician.
It is hard to handle a behavior unless you know what is "causing it".It could be something out of his control,and if it is,then you need to address that issue first,so you can learn how to teach him how to handle his frustration.

Honestly if the day care lady has such a big problem with it,maybe you need to find a provider that is better trained to handle speech/sensory/behavior issues.
The book "The explosive child" is helpful,for kids that are typical,as well as for kids with delays(tho not really for kids with significant delays)

Cindy - posted on 07/28/2012

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Thank you Dove..I was thinking of that but when i see him repeat the ABC and counting, I delay

Cindy - posted on 07/28/2012

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Thank you for your advise and i have being monitoring his behavior closely and i can see that his speech is the reason for tantrums. so we are working on that...

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Sounds like terrible twos to me. It is never too late for help. I would suggest getting a book about dealing with toddlers, finding a method of dealing with toddler tantrums that you like the sound of and are able to implement and then use it consistently. Make sure your day care provider also uses it. Tantrums usually come from frustration so try to teach your little one simple words he can use to convey the frustration he feels. Aknowledge his frustration so he knows he is being heard, often if they feel like no one is listening to their feelings they will act out even more violently out of desperation. I wish you luck.

Liz - posted on 07/26/2012

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I think you mean that he is older than the other kids? But even if you did mean that they are older, every child grows at his own pace. I know, that statement is overused, but it's true. My nephew just turned 4 and he is very difficult to understand. Only in about the last 9 months has he really started to make sense. It is definitely not too late for help, but remember that kids go through phases where they misbehave and act out. There could also be environmental factors playing into your child's behavior (a divorce or separation, new sibling, a move, etc.). I would monitor his behavior closely, perhaps keep a journal and you might find a trend or a pattern to his outbursts. If you are really concerned, call your pedi and talk to him/her about it. They can steer you in the right direction for help if it is actually needed. Good luck!

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