Liz - posted on 05/17/2012 ( 155 moms have responded )
My husband is difficult. He is a glass half empty person and has very high standards for everyone. As a result, he is often criticizing and disappointed in me.
He also feels that I take advantage of him financially. I work part-time from home. We made this decision together so that I could be with our kids after school more. He mis-remembers this decision and tries to remind me that it was something I wanted to do and that I'm doing it so I can enjoy myself more, not for the good of our two children. I make a point to always say "thank you" when he buys us dinner or really, anything. He often has a victimized attitude. No matter how much I tell him how I appreciate him, it never seems to be enough.
Before you recommend therapy, he won't go. I've asked multiple times and he won't go.
Ideas, anyone? It's exhausting trying to keep up with his standards. I look forward to his business trips more and more. The kids and I are so much more relaxed when he's not around.
Divorce or separation is not an option. Talking to him about this directly also not an option. He gets defensive and angry. I'm looking for ways that I can be happy myself and set an example to him.