Janice - posted on 02/19/2013 ( 9 moms have responded )
I am overwhelmed with sadness and guilt over my 2 sons ages 27 and 29. I have done everything I can to encourage them to get a job and live independently but have failed miserably as have they. The older one is ADHD with mild aspergers. The younger one is ADHD with bipolar disorder. Nothing has ever been easy with these two. One has a hs diploma the other a GED. What few jobs they have ever had they never made it beyond a few months without getting fired. Neither one has had a girlfriend in years as there are few girls who would want to date guys like them. They have few friends too same reason. We have paid for them to live in apts rather than with us because my husband can't stand to have them around. I feel hopeless that they will ever have a normal life- steady job, significant other, friends. They are both very depressed as am I. I feel like a failure as a mother and that they are doomed to a miserable sad life of nothingness.