how to deal with teenage girls?
Nedra - posted on 04/07/2009
I have three girls, the oldest is now 22, the others are 19 and 14, and the best advice I can give is to be straight forward and honest, don't hold back. Praise them when they have done something good and let them know how much they have disappointed you when they have done something wrong, this is the best, my girls tell me everything about what's going on in their lives and sometimes what's even going on in their friends. Keep an open line of communication.
I must be one of the lucky ones, in that my 14 year old daughter gives me very little grief. With both my kids (I also have an 18 year old son) I found NEGOTIATION to be a vital key. When teens realise they can't get what they want, when they want it, but know they can talk to Mum/Dad openly and negotiate, things run smoothly. When they ask to go somewhere/do something you're not overly happy with, negotiate. Explain why you have doubts about their wish (their safety, possible exposure to drugs etc) and 9 times out of ten, the kids will seriously take on board what you've said and often THEY will come up with the compromise that leaves both parties pleased. If teens feel they'll be verbally shot down immediately without being heard, they'll buck & rebel. I have used the negotiation technique with my kids since they were littlies and have had very few problems with them. I remember what it was like to be a teenager and wish my own mother had've listened more. My kids have boundaries (yes, even the 18 year old still) and respect is a must for us & them. It works for us. My daughter still has her moods but I tell myself it's not HER acting this way, just her HORMONES. I leave the stress for the big things in life. Good luck!
Joanna - posted on 04/05/2009
MY TEENAGE DAUGHTER IS VERY MOODY AND SULLEN AT TIMES YET AT OTHER TIMES SHE IS SWEETNESS AND LIGHT.
YOU HAVE TO REMEMBER THAT IN YOUR TEENS YOUR BODY IS CHANGING AND IN LIFE THEY ARE EITHER TO OLD FOR THINGS( IN THEIR OWN MIND) AND TO YOUNG FOR THINGS ( THAT THEY WANT TO DO)
Wendy - posted on 04/05/2009
i have 3 teenage girls, my eldest and youngest daughters i just had what i call normal back chat, but they knew when to stop as i never let them go over the top with their behaviour my middle daughter however was a different story, she stole things, got done for assult and nearly ended up with an asbo, thankfully she is 16 now and is just about growing out of it now as she realizes it doesnt get her anywhere people respect hjer more when she good. so be ferm with her and set rules and dont let her get away with breaking them and she should grow out of it love wendy
Nancy - posted on 04/05/2009
The best thing you can do for a teenage girl is to build up her confidence. At this age, they LOVE their friends almost as much as their family. They have to be able to say NO to their friends - the ones they love - when their friends want them to do something wrong. They won't be able to say NO if they have no self-confidence. As far as discipline - I think you have to set rules and stick to them. They will respect you for them in the end.
Sonia - posted on 04/05/2009
lock em up and throw away the key..where you can find it lol HORMONES are every parents worse nightmare and depending on the age every year it might get worse, if you dont nip stuff in the butt. Its one thing to be understanding but do not make excuses for bad behavior children will always push to see how far they can get... Children are a product of thier enviroment and especially a product of thier family so be honest, be loving, and be stern with what you feel is right for you and your family
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