how to tell my mom that dosent want me to have anymore kids that im pregnant

Krista - posted on 01/02/2012 ( 113 moms have responded )

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my judgemental mother thinks i should only have 2kids but im pregnant with #3. anyone got any creative ideas on how to tell her im pregnant again??

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Sharon - posted on 01/03/2012

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Just go see her in person and tell her. Don't do it over the phone because thats just a copout. She needs to see the happiness in your face and hear it in your voice. She is your mother and no matter what she will be happy. IT'S A BABY!!!! Another GRANDCHILD! How exciting!!!!!

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 01/03/2012

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Krista, when I told my mother I was pregnant with my first, she said "Why?" Like I needed to explain WHY I wanted to have children, or maybe WHY we had waited 4 years after getting married...I don't know why her response was that, but I just looked at her and said, "because I'm an adult that is capable of making my own choices". When I told her of my 2nd pregnancy, she didn't even comment. IMO, if your mother is as judgmental as mine, just give her the short version, and don't give her a chance to argue or put you down. You are in control of your life, not your mother...

My sympathies for having to deal with that...

Jessica - posted on 01/03/2012

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I took my ultrasound photo to Walmart & made photo reprints of it. I wrote my due date on the back & mailed it to my parents & grandparents...

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Who's life is it anyway?? Yours or hers? I say just tell her bluntly and if she starts to rant about it then tell her you don't want to hear it and simply walk away.

♥♪Megan♫♥ - posted on 01/02/2012

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Tell her 'guess what you're a grandma again!' It's your uterus not hers

Christy - posted on 01/02/2012

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Tell her and let her deal with it. You are the adult here and yeah she's your mom but still. Good luck!

Sherri - posted on 01/02/2012

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Yes you are an adult Krista which is why you need to behave as one and own it and just let her know. If you and your husband are happy about it, then that is what matters. She will stew about it for awhile I am sure but she will get over it and learn to love this one as she does her first two grandchildren I am sure.

Sherri - posted on 01/02/2012

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Jenny she is just 21 with 2 very young children already a daughter 1yr 9mo's and a son 11mo's. and now another on the way so she will have 3 children ranging from 2 1/2 and under.

Krista - posted on 01/02/2012

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i know im young but i am an adult. i got married and THEN decided to have kids. we have a nice house and we are financially stable. i am more grown up than some people with kids who take no responsibility. she knows this. i dont want to sit and have a long convo with her about this.. i just wanna let her know someway n be done with it. i really wish i could just send her the birth announcement wen the baby comes but she would be pissed

Sherri - posted on 01/02/2012

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Well I would bet it is something to do with the fact that you are so young and already have 2 children so very close in age.



However, it is what it is and I would just call and tell her.



I wish you all the best 3 kids 3 and under will certainly be a challenge although doable.

Nikki - posted on 01/02/2012

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Have a t-shirt printed that says "You're going to be a grandma again" wear it and see if she notices lol.

I wouldn't stress about what your mother wants, your body, your family, your life and your choice. Your mother's judgements are not constructive, just tell her to butt out. (In a nice way)

Congrats on the new baby :)

Jenny - posted on 01/02/2012

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Just tell her you're pregnant. You're an adult, there is no need for tricks.

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